How To Get a Girl Interested Over Text - Guide To Building Investment

Summary

In this video, the host demonstrates strategies for engaging a girl in conversation, emphasizing the importance of investment through value and relevance. He illustrates how to escalate a conversation by discussing topics of interest to her, using humor, and maintaining a high perceived value. The host shares examples of text conversations, highlighting the progression from low to high investment levels, and offers insights on adapting approaches based on the girl's responses and personality. The video aims to help viewers improve their communication skills and successfully build rapport.

Takeaways

• 😀 Investment in a conversation is primarily about value and relevance to the person you're talking to.
• 🔑 High value individuals, like celebrities, can easily gain investment in a conversation even on less interesting topics due to their perceived value.
• 🛤️ The investment level can vary greatly depending on the relevance of the conversation topic to the individual's interests or passions.
• 🧩 It's crucial to maintain high perceived value, which can change based on behavior and what the other person learns about you.
• 🔄 Value perception isn't static; it can increase or decrease based on interactions and information shared.
• 💡 Keep the conversation relevant to the other person to maintain and increase their investment.
• 📉 Be aware that investment levels can fluctuate and may decrease over time if the conversation becomes less relevant or engaging.
• 🤝 Use 'we' framing to create a sense of shared experience and to increase investment in the interaction.
• 🚀 Use humor and shared interests to build rapport and investment, especially when using inside jokes from mutual interests.
• 📲 Transitioning communication to different platforms can be a sign of increasing investment, but it's important to manage expectations and compliance.
• 🌟 Show empathy and interest in the other person by asking about their experiences and preferences to foster a deeper connection and investment.

Q & A

What is the primary focus of the video script?

The video script focuses on teaching strategies to get a girl to invest in a conversation, even when she's not initially engaging much, by emphasizing the importance of value and relevance in the interaction.

What are the two main factors that influence a girl's level of investment in a conversation according to the script?

The two main factors are the perceived value of the person engaging with her and the relevance of the conversation topic to her interests or personal situation.

How can a person's perceived value change during an interaction?

A person's perceived value can change based on their behavior and what the girl learns about them. It can increase or decrease, and it's generally easier for it to go down than to go up.

What is the significance of keeping the conversation relevant to the girl?

Keeping the conversation relevant to the girl helps maintain and increase her level of investment. It ensures that the topics discussed are of interest to her, which can lead to a more engaging and meaningful interaction.

What is an example of a relevant topic discussed in the script?

One example is discussing tattoos with a girl who has many tattoos, as it is something she is passionate about and likely to invest in the conversation about.

How does the script suggest using sexual innuendos in a conversation?

The script suggests using sexual innuendos as a way to increase investment, but only when it's clear that the girl responds positively to them and only if they are relevant to the ongoing conversation.

What is the purpose of painting a fantasy in the girl's mind about the future hangout?

Painting a fantasy in the girl's mind helps to build anticipation and investment for the upcoming meet-up, making her more likely to look forward to and commit to the date.

How does the script describe the process of getting a girl's phone number or arranging a meet-up?

The script describes it as a process of building investment through relevant conversation and then using compliance techniques, such as telling the girl to text you, to get her contact information or to arrange a meet-up.

What is the importance of the 'we' frame mentioned in the script?

The 'we' frame is important because it includes the girl in the plans and creates a sense of shared experience. It makes the conversation more engaging and relevant to her by discussing activities that involve both parties.

How does the script handle a situation where the girl is not responding positively to the conversation?

The script suggests re-engaging with the girl after some time has passed and trying to find new topics or approaches that might be more relevant or interesting to her to increase her level of investment.

What is the strategy for dealing with a girl who is not initially invested in the conversation according to the script?

The strategy involves gathering more information about the girl's interests, using humor, and gradually introducing topics that are relevant to her to increase her investment in the conversation.

Outlines

00:00

💬 Building Conversation Investment

The paragraph discusses the concept of 'investment' in conversations with girls, emphasizing the importance of two key factors: value and relevance. It uses examples like Leonardo DiCaprio and a homeless person to illustrate how value affects investment levels. The speaker explains that maintaining high perceived value and keeping conversations relevant to the girl's interests are crucial. The speaker also shares a personal example of a conversation with 'Sexy Carla' from Tinder, demonstrating how to increase investment by discussing relevant topics like tattoos and using humor to build rapport.

05:00

📅 Scheduling and Investment Techniques

This paragraph continues the conversation with Carla, focusing on the strategy of scheduling a meet-up while maintaining a high level of investment. The speaker uses humor and sexual innuendos to keep Carla engaged and interested. The conversation progresses to discussing personal preferences and common interests, like wine and TV shows, to further build investment. The speaker also highlights the importance of painting a fantasy in the girl's mind about their future hangout, which helps in securing her commitment to the plan.

10:01

🔞 Leveraging Humor and Sexual Innuendo

The speaker shares another interaction, this time focusing on using humor and sexual innuendo to build investment. The conversation starts with a low investment response, but the speaker quickly identifies the girl's interest in the TV show 'It's Always Sunny' and uses inside jokes to connect with her. The speaker then transitions into discussing their intentions for the interaction, using humor to suggest a potential threesome. The paragraph illustrates how the speaker uses the girl's openness to sexual topics to increase investment and eventually secure a commitment for a meet-up.

15:02

🗣️ Frame Control and Overcoming Objections

In this paragraph, the speaker discusses a more conservative interaction where direct sexual approaches were not suitable. The speaker uses the 'we' frame to suggest a future plan involving a bottle of wine, which elicits a positive response. The conversation includes handling objections about distance and location, showcasing the speaker's ability to control the frame and negotiate a meeting place. The speaker also uses humor and light teasing to navigate the girl's attempts to use 'takeaway frames,' ultimately securing a commitment to meet halfway at a coffee shop.

Keywords

💡Investment

In the context of the video, 'investment' refers to the level of emotional or psychological engagement a person has in a conversation or interaction. It is a key concept as the video aims to demonstrate how to increase a girl's investment in a conversation, even when she initially shows low engagement. The script uses examples of conversations to illustrate how to escalate investment through relevance and perceived value.

💡Value

'Value' in the script pertains to the perceived worth or attractiveness of an individual in the eyes of another person, particularly in a dating context. The video discusses how maintaining a high perceived value can lead to greater investment from the other person. It is used to explain why certain individuals, like celebrities, might receive more engagement in a conversation due to their high value status.

💡Relevance

Relevance in the script is about making a conversation matter to the person you're talking to. It's about discussing topics that are important or interesting to them, which can increase their investment in the conversation. The video provides examples of how to steer the conversation towards topics that are relevant to the girl, such as her interests or shared experiences.

💡Perceived Value

Perceived value is the value that one person assigns to another based on their behavior, appearance, or what they learn about them. The video emphasizes the importance of maintaining a high perceived value to increase investment in a conversation. It gives examples of how certain behaviors can either increase or decrease one's perceived value.

💡Conversation Frame

The 'conversation frame' refers to the context or setting that is established within a conversation. The video uses the term to describe how to create a shared experience or future plan within the conversation, which can increase investment. For example, discussing a potential date or meeting up in a specific way can set a frame that involves both parties.

💡Sexual Innuendo

Sexual innuendo is the use of words or phrases to suggest or imply something sexual. The script mentions using sexual innuendos as a way to increase investment in the conversation, particularly when the other person responds positively to them. It's a tactic to create a more engaging and personal connection.

💡Compliance

Compliance in the video refers to the willingness of one person to follow the requests or suggestions of another. It is seen as a sign of investment when a person complies with a request, such as texting first or agreeing to meet up. The video discusses how to build compliance to strengthen the connection and investment in the interaction.

💡Takeaway

A 'takeaway' in the context of the video is a tactic used in a conversation where one person implies they are not interested or available, often to test the other person's investment or to create a challenge. The video provides examples of how to respond to takeaways and how to use them strategically to increase investment.

💡Frame Battle

A 'frame battle' occurs when two people in a conversation are trying to establish dominance or control over the direction of the interaction. The video describes how to navigate frame battles, particularly in terms of setting the location for a meet-up, to ensure that one's own investment and value are maintained.

💡Re-engagement

Re-engagement is the act of resuming a conversation after a period of no contact. The script discusses the importance of re-engaging with someone to maintain or increase investment. It provides examples of how to re-engage after a period of silence, using tactics like humor or shared interests to rekindle the conversation.

Highlights

Investment in a conversation is primarily about value and relevance.

High value individuals can increase investment even with less relevant topics.

Relevance to the individual's passions can increase conversation investment.

Maintaining high perceived value is crucial and can change based on behavior.

Conversations should be kept relevant to the girl to increase her investment.

Talking about oneself too much can lead to decreased investment.

Using 'we' frame can increase investment by creating a sense of shared experience.

Sexual innuendos can be used to increase investment if the girl responds positively.

Sharing personal interests can help in building investment if they align with the girl's interests.

Using humor and inside jokes can increase investment if they are relevant to the girl.

Asking about the girl's interests shows empathy and can increase investment.

Building a fantasy scenario of the future hangout can increase investment.

Transitioning from one platform to another, like texting to WhatsApp, can increase compliance.

Investment levels can fluctuate and may require re-engagement to maintain.

Using takeaways in a conversation can be a technique to increase investment.

Meeting halfway can be a compromise to increase investment and commitment.

Frame battles can be used to test and increase investment levels.

Conservative approaches may require different strategies to build investment.

Transcripts

what's up guys in this video i'm going

to show how to get a girl to invest and

get a conversation going

even when she's not giving you much to

work with

so investment is actually more

straightforward than a lot of people

make it out to be it comes down

primarily to two things

value and relevance for example if a

high value guy like leonardo dicaprio is

talking to a girl about something that

she's really passionate about and her

level investments can be through the

roof

on the end of the spectrum if a low

value guy like someone who's homeless

is talking to her about something that

she doesn't give a [ __ ] about and her

level investment is gonna be

non-existent

and of course there's a lot of

in-betweens here for example someone she

finds really attractive someone who's

high value in her mind

could be talking to her about the most

boring [ __ ] and she'll invest in the

conversation a little bit because she

likes the guy but not nearly as much as

she would have invested

if it was something that was relevant to

her and of course a low value guy or

someone who she thinks is low value

could be talking to her about something

that's super relevant and she'll also

invest in the conversation

but not as much as she would have

invested if she found that guy

attractive

so this means primarily two things first

off you want to keep your perceived

value

as high as possible now it's important

to keep in mind that

value is not set in stone it can

actually drastically change

based on your behavior and just what the

girl learns about you for example

you could start off being an adhermant

and then you start doing some needy [ __ ]

you know

saying dumb [ __ ] and then you go from a

to like a [ __ ] two it can happen over

time

similarly you know you could start off

being a six and you know keeping the

conversation very

relevant to her and you some throw in

some soul dhv's

you know she learned some cool [ __ ]

about you and you go from being a six to

being a 7.5

so your value can definitely change it's

much easier for her to go down than for

it to go up

but you know it can't happen either

direction the other end of the equation

is keeping the conversation very

relevant to her so the mistake a lot of

guys will make is they'll go on a date

and they'll just talk about themselves

they'll talk about cars or something the

girl just doesn't give a [ __ ] about

and eventually you know her level

investment keeps dropping off and

dropping off what you want to do

again is keep the conversation very

relevant to her talk about her talk

about [ __ ] that she's into

or talk about [ __ ] that's going on

around you or [ __ ] that involves the

both of you

basically anything that is relevant to

our current state and if you do that

you'll get investment and you'll get a

lot of it all right next let's take a

look at a few examples where i was able

to get a girl who wasn't giving me much

invested over text so first up we got

sexy carla this was the girl who was in

my last video

and we actually met on tinder i opened

her with the classic olayinda

and she says hey so you know fairly low

investment text

i say sexy tattoos you know obviously

because she has a lot of tattoos

and she says thank you so so far this

conversation is pretty basic you know

she's really not investing that much

energy into it

so i know that you know because she has

a lot of tattoos that's something that's

very relevant to her something that

she's probably passionate about

and i know that people who have a lot of

tattoos typically stop counting at a

point

so i use that information to ask this

are you at the point where you don't

count anymore

and she says i'll count if someone asks

me but i always forget the answer

the more the merrier she says i

definitely want more so

this tattoo topic is very relevant to

her but it wouldn't have been relevant

at all to a girl who doesn't have any

tattoos and doesn't give a [ __ ] about

them

so it's all you know what's relevant is

not universal depends on the audience

i say yeah i feel that just got one two

weeks ago she says what'd you get

i say a dragon with a crown in his mouth

she says does it mean anything

i say yeah something dear to my heart so

you know i'm kind of beating her here

you know we got conversation going

it's still not that invested but i'm

kind of baiting her into getting more

investment

she says do you want to share i say game

of thrones i'm secretly a nerd that's

true

and she says ooh that's hot now you

might think oh you said you're a nerd

that's kind of a low value thing

but if you're saying that you're a nerd

it's actually sounds high value because

you're following it

and like you're like yeah i'm like a

cool nerd so in this situation it's

actually more of high value

just because it's the way i said it i

say haha is that one of your turnouts

now again what i do here is i take a

conversation that's pretty

innocent and turn into something sexual

by doing a smooth progressive way

and also keep in mind i'm talking about

her is that one of your turnouts

i'm not talking about my turns i'm

talking about her so she says not

necessarily i just can be nerdy too i

never watch game of thrones though i

want to is

so this is the most investment that

she's given me so far and this is good

information because i know that she

responds positively

to sexual innuendos so i say i do like

me a sexy nerd so i just use this

information to qualify her

i'm not going to talk about [ __ ] hulu

and [ __ ] now that we got you know the

sexual topic going

to build on that she says i like harry

potter and marvel so she's qualifying

herself a little bit more we're on the

right track

i say cool i read all the harry potter

books when i was younger and it doesn't

work you know she probably doesn't give

a [ __ ] about harry potter anymore

and so she doesn't respond probably no

longer relevant to her was at one point

so i say do you like wine and she says i

love wine

i said good we should split a ball

sometime soon she says super down

where do you live i tell her my area and

she says i'm free today

so this was one of those situations

where the girl was just dtf that moment

unfortunately i couldn't meet up with

her that day it would have been probably

a lot easier if i could have

so i said i can't today going to a

birthday party how about monday or

tuesday evening

she says unfortunately i don't know when

i'll be free again probably not soon uh

oh

i said that's going to make her love a

bit harder she says i know me being a

mom and all yeah she was a milf so i say

you're [ __ ] sexy for a mom

again relevant to her you're so here i

carry on with the whole milf thing

again because she's a mom you know milf

jokes are going to be relevant to her

if this was a girl who has no kids then

probably wouldn't make any sense

so i say even moms need to have fun she

says especially moms

again talking about her i'm not talking

about myself she says

yes i'll get i'll have the wine and

massage oil already

she says and cuddle so what i'm doing

here is i'm painting the fantasy in her

mind

of what our hangout is going to look

like i say of course

she says food what's your favorite i'm

going to lay in bed all day and order

the type of food so again what i'm doing

here is the we frame you know planning

our future

date which is very relevant to the girl

i say whipped cream

and strawberries should fit nicely with

our evening so i

keep him going painting the image she

says oh i was thinking like wings but

that's fine too

such a mom answer i say yes now we just

need to find a night that works for both

of us

she says i could be free this weekend

maybe perhaps like saturday

i say yeah that would work and she says

what side are you on

so this is actually a pretty good

question because she's asking me

questions

so now she's screening me she's

interested enough she's like okay this

guy

has potential i just want to make sure

that you know all the gears fit

i say south side of brickell i purposely

misinterpret her question

and she says no i mean politics and i

say oh i don't really give a [ __ ] about

politics

but generally i'm team bernie also

because i saw that she was you know

like was a bernie supporter in her bio

in case you're wondering i do kind of

like bernie so

that's that she says okay good i do give

a [ __ ] so

it's important to me what's your

instagram so i give her my instagram

and then um after that she doesn't

respond so i double texture following

each other on instagram

guess things are getting pretty serious

again following each other so it's not

just

you know i'm doing this it's we are

doing she says i can't tell if you're

being serious or not if i send you dm on

there it's just easier always look over

tinder messages

i get a million now i'm not a big fan of

trying to do things over instagram dms

i prefer to just do it over text so when

she says that i'm like okay

i'm gonna transition this to text uh so

i say i'm not but i don't use

instagram that much you have whatsapp

says oh i do not and i say just text me

now there's a lot of power in sit

telling girl to text you versus

asking for their number because when the

girl texts you you're building more

compliance

and i find that telling a girl to text

you it's going to have

almost the same success rate as asking

for a girl's number if it's done

over text you know on tinder now in real

life completely different story

so she texted me hey it's carla i say ah

the hot mom with the tats

and then i accidentally sent her a uh i

was trying to send this to another girl

my uh

real-time location and then she says the

next day hey sorry i fell asleep

i say it's cool how's your monday going

she says it's going okay kind of busy

yours so yeah the conversation you know

it was a little bit higher investment

now you know a few days have gone by the

investment has dropped a little bit

and you'll find that you know investment

isn't always going to be at one level

you know it'll just drop off over time

not necessarily anything that you did

it's just you know the girl you know

forgets about you and she starts

investing a little less because you're a

little less relevant in her mind

so i say good at the gym getting nice

and fit for our date

again always using the wii frame it's

our date it's all

this it's all that i'm not talking about

just myself so always keeping things

relevant

to her and she says nice i took the

stairs today so same

damn girl booty must be popping yeah her

booty

she says hell yeah it was three fours i

say imagine it now

so i remember that you know because she

responded positively to the sexual

innuendos and i'm just going to keep

hammering on that

she says how shape i am i'm actually

pretty hot not to suck my own to it

and this gives me a perfect chance to

throw in more sexual innuendos

i say i don't doubt that if you want to

suck your own tit go forward

i don't mind she says they're pretty

non-existent so they'll have to stay a

metaphor

i say i can teach you some yoga again

teach you some yoga

she says is it possible to bend that

away i can't even touch my toes

my legs are kind of long so now she's

definitely engaging a lot more in the

conversation

i say we can find out together and she

says that's the best answer to that

question

and i just sent her a winky face and she

says do you smoke and it just kind of

continues from there she's

now asking me actively questions she's

the one that's trying to get to know me

which is the frame you want to have and

then from there it's really just a

matter of coordinating logistics

and keeping the interaction warm until

our schedules could line up

if you want to see the rest of those

screenshots i post the full report with

everything from start to finish

in the forums i'll link in description

below if you guys want to check it out

but the main takeaway here really is

that i was able to build investment

progressively over time

by keeping the conversation very

relevant talking about her talking about

the [ __ ] that she's into

or talking about us you know using the

reframe can be very powerful

and can solicit a lot of investment

especially if you do it right all right

next let's take a look at another tinder

interaction that had all the same

underlying principles but was pretty

different on the surface

so this was also a girl on tinder open

her with the infamous hate trouble

and she says what up so pretty low

invested answer you know

not much i can do with that so i'm just

going to gather more information i say

making dinner how about you

i'm hoping that she gives me something i

can build on she says watching it's

always sunny

fortunately i'm a big fan of that show

and i'm going to use a little bit of

inside humor here

so i say day man fighter of the and if

you don't watch it's always sunny this

is going to make no sense but if you're

a fan of the show that's like a big

inside joke

she says night man so basically having

her fill in my sentences here

i say champion of the sun you are dot

dot and she says master of karate and

friendship for everyone

so this kind of humor is good in small

doses but if i do this too much

it's gonna lose its appeal fast and get

very boring so i'm not gonna keep going

with this i'm gonna

change gears now and i say can you

seductively whisper that in my ear

she says i'll sing it so i say so what

are you looking for on here

i used to use this question a lot and i

still think it's a pretty solid one

it's a good way of just getting the girl

to kind of open up and be like oh i'm

looking for this and this and this so

you know like if you were doing sales

you'd ask you know what made you

interested in this product basically you

want to get the customer's

motivations it's the same principle here

she say hook up slow this is a [ __ ] up

i can't complain too much about that

answer so i say perfect same here

we should get together sometime soon and

you can make the argument this is a

premature close

just because she wasn't giving me much

to invest with my thought at the time

was

okay you know she gave me a very she

seems very dtf so i'm just gonna kind of

see if i can get you know a quick meet

up that night and she doesn't respond

surprisingly not i say oi and then she

says yeah let's hook up soon

i say you're going to take my virginity

again talking about you

my like we frame here she says sorry i

left my strap on home she's a good sense

of humor

i say you're good feeling naughty

tonight says aha i have plans

i say what's your schedule like this

week she says you down next weekend like

friday or something

i say friday could work text me and you

know obviously she doesn't text me

so then i say uh i say i re-engage

uh five days later with oi she says yo

i'm sorry

i totally spaced because i have a friend

crashing this weekend i said

text me anyway so why she you know

really kind of

dropping off well it's because she's not

that invested in the conversation yeah

she has hundreds of conversations going

just like this with other guys you know

i haven't gotten her invested yet so a

result you know my chance of getting the

meet up or going to be you know

a lot lower you know she's going to be

much more like a ghost much more likely

to flake much more likely just to drop

off so i need to find a way to get her

invested and having her text me is a

good start

because again i'm asking her for

compliance if she's not going to do that

then the interaction's a waste of time

anyway so she says yo this is your

cinderella i say hey what's up

kind of mirroring her earlier answer

says well i was in a minor coxswain

thanks to l.a reign

and also trying to quickly address

there's just a misconception that you

know asking about the girl is like

bad you know it's boring it's try hard

it's absolutely not true

you want to ask about her again you

don't want to do too much but doing that

a little bit shows first off empathy and

second of all people love talking about

themselves

you know people don't really generally

give a [ __ ] about you but they do want

to chat about themselves

so that's a good way to get investments

just asking them about themselves

as long as it's done in a non-tri-hard

way i say damn should be crazy out there

she says yeah scary as [ __ ] out there

again so far everything is low

investment i say need a hug

she says with the girl from the moment

but otherwise i'd be down and this gives

me a good chance to throw in a sexual

innuendo

i say three-way hugs are the best she

says i like three ways

now this is really good information i

know she's not adverse to talking about

anything sexual

and that she's kinky and i can use this

information to finally get some

investment

i say i have a girl who would be down

and she says yes

and then i sent her a picture of a hot

girl that was hooking up with at the

time

and she says hot definitely down so she

[ __ ] double text me here

a lot of investment i say perfect send

me one of yourself again i'm gonna use

this opportunity to get even more

investment

she's not gonna lie i kind of want her

number lol and she sends me a picture of

her masturbating

so basically what i did here is i was

able to use the information that you

gave me

and also to dhv myself by saying oh i

have a girl who's down

i'm not just generally saying oh i have

a hot girl i'm [ __ ]

you know no i'm actually answering her

question and which allows me to show off

you know this chick which raises my

perceived value and there's also

something very relevant to her

because she's into threesomes if a girl

was not into threesomes then this would

not be relevant to her at all so again

the audience here very much applies

if you want to see the rest of the

screenshots i'll also link the uh link

to the full lauren description below

but basically you know it's a little bit

more sexting ultimately we've made plans

for a threesome

unfortunately the other girl dropped off

so it's just me and this girl

but yeah still pretty fun we had a night

of pretty kinky sex

all right next we're gonna take a look

at one last interaction this was a night

game number i wanted to throw this in

for diversity sakes and with this girl i

also had to take a different approach

she was a lot more conservative so going

sexual over text would have definitely

backfired but you can kind of see what i

did here

we also got into a pretty crazy frame

battle so got her number we chilled for

like 20-30 minutes at a bar

and i text her alex gringo guapo which

is like handsome white guy

and she just sends me like a laughing

emoji not the answer i was hoping for

you know

not much i can do with that so i say how

was your big night out in my hood

because i'm using information she told

me during her interaction that she

usually doesn't go out here

and she says it was fun again very low

invested answer you know not much i can

do with that

so i'm just going to try to build on

that and use the wii frame i say almost

as fun as what i have planned for us

you know us we she says lo and what's

that i'm beating her now

and i say i'll tell you all about it

over that bottle of wine

she says haha you live far away from me

so the objections begin

i say 30 minute drive i think our love

can survive that

she just gives me two laughing emojis so

kind of moving up you know in terms of

investment

i say am i wrong she says about what

she's subtly trolling me here

i say about us getting past this short

drive says you tell me

and i say our love can uh we can do with

my love

and she says how do you know spanish so

i was hoping to get that from her

and the quick side text is that she's

from peru so you know spanish is

relevant to her you know if i was

talking if i said to her in french

it just wouldn't really make sense she

wouldn't give a [ __ ] about that and i

was hoping that she would ask me that

question

because this gives me a chance to subtly

dhv myself

and raise my perceived value i say lots

of travel plus my last girlfriend was

venezuelan

so one i get laid two i travel a lot

three i did other latino girls

she says oh you must have been with her

for a long time spanish is a hard

language to learn

not really true and but this is the most

invested text that she sent me

i said maybe i'm just a genius again i'm

slowly defeating myself i'm saying oh

i'm just really smart but i'm not

actually saying that

i'm just kind of joking at it which is a

much better way to get the point across

in the first place

she says you could be i said i guess

you'll have to find out with a bottle of

wine

she says i guess we'll see i think you i

already know the answer though she's

investing a little bit more

not nearly as much as i would like i say

oh question mark she just sends me one

of these emojis so i was trying to beat

her into

more investment but she didn't bite i

say i'm curious to hear you free monday

or tuesday evening

she says what do you want to do i say

split up i want my romantic balcony

and she says haha i think you should

come to her area first and then i don't

respond right away and she double text

me

i yes you didn't like that idea huh

which is a good sign because if a girl

is double texting it means that she's

interested

she's investing so we're on the right

track here i say i was cooking some

steak

but here but come here this time and

i'll go away next time so right now

we're getting into a frame bell

some of you guys might be wondering why

don't you just go to her well that's

because i don't want to

drive to her and then i'll have no

chance of pulling i'd much rather you

know

use the investment i have to get her to

come to me or the very least meet

halfway

so i say i don't know you can't go to

your place yet but if you don't want to

come hang out admire that's okay

so here she's using a takeaway at me so

i say i understand we don't have to go

to my place if you don't feel

comfortable can meet at a coffee shop

first

so i meet her take her over the takeaway

now we're getting into a frame battle

over where we're going to meet she says

i'm down for a coffee shop over here

i send her one of these emojis she says

well don't be stressed you don't have to

do anything

you don't want to do again so she's

using another takeaway on me it's like

some

hot girl manipulation [ __ ] so i say zero

stress i did think you were acute and

potentially intriguing so i want to get

to know you better but if you're nice

it's okay

so now i'm mirroring her takeover with

an even better takeaway of my own

so again more of this frame battle and

ultimately i know that i'm going to win

if i just keep at it says well so we can

only get to know each other

in brickell i say low all right let's

meet halfway

now notice though that even though we

have a frame bow the frame belt is about

where we're gonna be it's not about if

we're gonna meet it's already

established that we're gonna meet

it's just about where so either way it's

gonna be a win so then i

she says what's halfway i say coral

gables lots of cool coffee shops there

says haha you're a cheater i say oh stop

we're going to have a great time

we have a great time says fine i say

don't get too excited now again

her she says i'm excited as you are i

say that's good what's your schedule

like

she says when do you want to see me so

this is a good response because now

she's like

when do you want to see me like i want

to hang out with you i say monday

evening

says want to have your weekend to party

huh so at this point she's like oh like

why can't you hang out with me this

weekend

so we're on the right track now this

laura actually never wrote up but we did

ultimately wind up meeting up uh she was

pretty conservative so it took me a few

days

and ultimately we hooked up but

basically you can see the frame here is

that i build investment you know

using the wii frame a lot you know i

used what was relevant to her going

sexual over text i know would have

backfired with this girl so i didn't do

that you know i didn't talk about it's

always sunny because she doesn't watch

that show

i talked about you know spanish and [ __ ]

you know that's relevant to her

as a result was able to build investment

get the date and ultimately hook up with

her

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