WOMEN DON'T HAVE HIGH STANDARDS! They SLEEP WITH MEN WHO ARE NOT SOCIALLY PROGRAMMED!!! (COLD TRUTH)

Casey Zander
19 Aug 202413:23

Summary

TLDRThe speaker challenges the notion that women have high standards in dating, arguing that they are attracted to men who defy social programming and exhibit authentic confidence. Using a personal story, the speaker illustrates how a man who was socially awkward in school later excelled with women due to his genuine non-conformity. The video promises an in-depth exploration of how to embrace one's authentic self to attract women, emphasizing that internal high value, such as confidence and charisma, is more compelling than external markers of success.

Takeaways

  • πŸ˜€ Women often sleep with men who are not socially programmed and do not conform to societal expectations.
  • πŸŽ“ The speaker shares a personal story about a man who was not focused on materialistic success but was successful with women due to his authentic behavior.
  • πŸ’¬ The speaker emphasizes that social skills are often overrated and that being genuine and true to oneself can be more attractive to women.
  • πŸš€ Success in dating is not about materialistic status or external high value but rather about internal high value such as confidence and charisma.
  • πŸ’‘ The speaker suggests that men should let go of societal norms and expectations to connect with women on a deeper, more authentic level.
  • πŸ€” The speaker points out that what is considered socially normal or acceptable is often arbitrary and that men should create their own social rules.
  • πŸ”‘ Internal high value, such as confidence and self-assuredness, is what truly attracts women and makes a man stand out.
  • 🌟 Success in the real world and in dating life require different approaches; the former needs logical thinking and ambition, while the latter requires emotional connection and authenticity.
  • πŸ’ͺ The speaker encourages men to practice and improve their ability to connect with others on an emotional level, just as one would practice physical fitness.
  • πŸ›‘ The speaker argues that women are attracted to men who are 'unaware' of their flaws and confident in their own skin, as it provides a sense of security and comfort.
  • πŸšΆβ€β™‚οΈ Men should take risks in social situations and be willing to be themselves, even if it means stepping outside of their comfort zone.

Q & A

  • What is the main message of the video script regarding women's standards for men?

    -The main message is that women do not have high standards in the traditional sense; instead, they are attracted to men who are not socially programmed and act authentically.

  • Can you explain the story of the guy from elementary school and how it relates to the video's message?

    -The story illustrates that the guy, who was not focused on materialistic success or social norms, was successful with women because of his authentic and unfiltered behavior, which is the essence of the video's message.

  • What does the speaker mean by 'socially programmed' men?

    -Socially programmed men are those who conform to societal expectations and norms, which may include materialistic success, popularity, and adherence to traditional social skills.

  • How does the speaker define 'internal high value' in contrast to 'external high value'?

    -Internal high value refers to personal qualities such as confidence, charisma, and authenticity, while external high value pertains to materialistic status metrics like money, social media followers, and corporate status.

  • Why does the speaker argue that focusing on external high value is not effective for attracting women?

    -The speaker argues that focusing on external high value is not effective because it is a recent societal construct and does not tap into the deeper emotional and personality traits that women respond to.

  • What is the speaker's view on the importance of social skills in dating?

    -The speaker believes that while social skills are important, they are often overemphasized. What truly matters is the authenticity and confidence with which a man carries himself.

  • What is the role of confidence in the dating advice given by the speaker?

    -Confidence is central to the speaker's dating advice, as it represents an internal high value that women are attracted to and is more important than conforming to external social expectations.

  • How does the speaker describe the difference between success in the real world and success in dating life?

    -Success in the real world often requires logical thinking, ambition, and perseverance, while success in dating life comes from letting go, being authentic, and connecting on an emotional level.

  • What does the speaker suggest is the key to navigating dating life effectively?

    -The key to effective dating life is understanding and embodying internal high value, being authentic, and not being overly concerned with social norms or external validation.

  • What is the speaker's advice for men who want to improve their dating life?

    -The speaker advises men to focus on developing internal high value traits such as confidence, charisma, and authenticity, and to not be overly concerned with external high value metrics.

  • How does the speaker describe the type of men that women are attracted to in social settings?

    -The speaker describes women as being attracted to men who are in their own world, acting authentically, and not conforming to social norms, which is often the opposite of what is typically advised.

Outlines

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πŸš€ Breaking Stereotypes: Women's Preferences in Men

The speaker challenges the notion that women have high standards and are attracted to men who are socially programmed or conform to societal expectations. Instead, they argue that women are drawn to men who are authentic, confident, and unapologetically themselves. The speaker shares a personal anecdote about a man who, despite being socially unconventional and not focused on materialistic success, was successful with women due to his genuine personality and lack of concern for social norms. The speaker promises to provide an in-depth breakdown on embracing one's authentic self to attract women and mentions a community that helps men understand the language of women.

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πŸ’‘ The Illusion of External High Value

This paragraph delves into the concept of 'external high value' which includes materialistic success, social media followers, and corporate status, and contrasts it with 'internal high value' such as confidence, charisma, and swagger. The speaker posits that focusing on external high value is a losing game for most men, as it is a recent societal construct and not a timeless measure of attractiveness. They argue that internal high value, which emanates from personality and authenticity, is what truly attracts women. The speaker emphasizes the importance of letting go of societal expectations and embracing one's own way of being to succeed in dating and life.

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🌟 Authenticity Over Conformity: The Key to Attraction

The final paragraph reinforces the idea that authenticity and a lack of concern for social norms are attractive traits in men. The speaker discusses the importance of being comfortable in one's own skin and not being swayed by external opinions or societal standards. They suggest that women are drawn to men who are confident and seemingly unaware of their flaws, as it provides a sense of safety and security. The speaker encourages viewers to take risks socially, to be themselves without fear of judgment, and to understand that success in dating comes from emotional connection and letting go, rather than from logical decision-making or materialistic achievements.

Mindmap

Keywords

πŸ’‘Socially Programmed

The term 'socially programmed' refers to individuals who conform to societal norms and expectations, particularly in terms of behavior and social interactions. In the context of the video, it is used to contrast those who follow these norms with those who do not, suggesting that women are attracted to men who defy these programmings. An example from the script is the story of a man who did not conform to social expectations during his school years but was successful with women later in life.

πŸ’‘High Standards

The concept of 'high standards' typically implies that someone has stringent criteria for what they will accept or consider desirable. The video challenges this notion, suggesting that women do not have high standards in the traditional sense but are instead attracted to authenticity and non-conformity. The script argues that women 'sleep with men who are not socially programmed,' indicating a preference for genuine personality over superficial measures of success.

πŸ’‘Authenticity

Authenticity is the quality of being genuine and true to oneself, rather than conforming to external expectations. The video emphasizes the importance of authenticity in attracting women, as it is seen as a form of 'internal high value' that surpasses materialistic or status-driven 'external high value.' The man in the script who was not focused on material success but rather on being true to himself exemplifies this concept.

πŸ’‘Internal High Value

Internal high value, as opposed to external high value, refers to personal qualities such as confidence, charisma, and swagger that come from within an individual. The video suggests that these internal qualities are more important in attracting women than external markers of success like money or social media followers. The script uses the phrase 'internal high value will always trump external high value' to emphasize this point.

πŸ’‘External High Value

External high value pertains to the societal measures of success, such as wealth, status, and social media following. The video argues that focusing solely on these external markers is a losing game for men seeking to attract women, as they are recent societal constructs and do not hold the same weight as personal qualities or internal values.

πŸ’‘Confidence

Confidence is a key personal quality that the video identifies as attractive to women. It is associated with internal high value and is exemplified by the man in the script who, despite not conforming to social norms, was able to attract women due to his self-assuredness. The video suggests that women are drawn to men who carry themselves in a way that reflects their true selves.

πŸ’‘Conformity

Conformity is the act of complying with the norms or standards of society, often at the expense of individuality. The video uses the concept of conformity to highlight the importance of non-conformity in attracting women. Men who do not conform to societal expectations are portrayed as more attractive because they embody authenticity and self-assurance.

πŸ’‘Social Skills

While the video acknowledges the importance of social skills, it argues that they are often overemphasized and that being overly concerned with them can be counterproductive. It suggests that 'good social skills often don't mean [anything]' in the context of attracting women, and that being genuine and authentic is more valuable.

πŸ’‘Emotional Connection

Emotional connection is the ability to relate to others on a deeper, more personal level. The video suggests that success in dating life comes from being able to connect with women on an emotional level, rather than through logical decisions or material success. This is contrasted with success in the 'real world,' which requires a logical mind.

πŸ’‘Non-Conformity

Non-conformity is the refusal to adhere to established customs, norms, or values. The video praises non-conformity as a trait that can be attractive to women, as it demonstrates a man's confidence and individuality. The man in the script who 'would say whatever he wants and act however he wanted' is an example of non-conformity.

πŸ’‘Personality

Personality, in the context of the video, refers to the unique set of characteristics that define an individual. It is suggested that women are attracted to men with strong personalities, particularly when these personalities are expressed through non-conformity and authenticity. The video contrasts personality with external measures of success, arguing that the former holds more weight in attraction.

Highlights

The speaker emphasizes that women do not have high standards and are attracted to men who are not socially programmed.

Shares a personal story about a classmate who was not socially adept but surprisingly successful with women.

Contrasts the socially programmed behavior with the authentic, unfiltered behavior that attracts women.

Argues that women are attracted to men who do not conform to societal expectations and act on their own terms.

Discusses the importance of letting go of the need for external validation and focusing on internal high value.

Explains that internal high value, such as confidence and charisma, is more attractive than materialistic success.

Points out that external high value, like money and status, is a recent societal construct and not a true measure of attractiveness.

Advises that true success in dating comes from authenticity and not caring about social norms.

Suggests that men who are successful with women often assume that the woman is interested and act accordingly.

Encourages viewers to let go of societal programming and embrace their authentic selves.

Describes the 'caveman' attitude of not caring what others think as attractive to women.

States that women are drawn to men who are confident and seemingly unaware of their flaws.

Talks about the importance of creating one's own social norms rather than following what is expected.

Mentions that it's okay to take social risks and that growth comes from making mistakes.

Says that women appreciate men who can make them feel safe and secure by being themselves.

Invites viewers to join a community for further learning and support in understanding the language of women.

Ends with a call to action for viewers to like, comment, subscribe, and join the community for more insights.

Transcripts

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okay I don't really care how this sounds

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but you have to actually understand this

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women do not have high standards women

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bang men who are not socially programmed

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women sleep with and women bang men who

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are not socially programmed and just

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don't give a [Β __Β ] I'm going to tell you

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a story so there was a guy who I went to

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elementary school and middle school with

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I believe and he was even on my football

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team

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for those growing up years okay and this

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guy

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growing up this was the type of guy

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where the teachers would constantly have

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to tell him to be quiet this is the last

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guy on planet Earth you would have ever

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expected to do great with women he would

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constantly have to have like a tutor or

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I even remember like constantly even

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like uh the coaches constantly coming

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over and telling him like Hey you need

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to focus or hey focus on that play

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during football or you need to be quiet

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hey you need to focus the teachers would

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constantly say hey stop talking stop

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talking stop talking hey you need to be

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quiet hey you need to focus hey you need

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to focus he couldn't sit still he

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couldn't stop

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talking I think from even time to time

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he maybe even like needed to have like a

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teacher assist him with a lot of

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different things the guy could not focus

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and the guy could not shut up he would

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talk and talk and talk and talk and talk

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and talk and talk and talk he did not

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act how the other guys did socially and

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it's almost like he was unaware that he

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was different he had no clue he was

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completely in his own world spaced out

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and he just just lived life okay and a

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lot of times we would all think this is

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hilarious tons of kids in the class

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would constantly laugh and we all

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thought it was [Β __Β ] awesome there's a

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story and I've heard this story this kid

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as he got older he turned you know 21

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and in his early 20s you know he got

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older he went to Vegas there's a story

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where he flew into Vegas he landed by

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the time he landed within 30 minutes to

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an hour after he checked into his hotel

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room he already had a woman he was

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talking to back up to his hotel room

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with him turns out that weekend he slept

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with three different girls okay this guy

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would say whatever he wants do whatever

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he wants act however he wanted to this

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guy was not focused on materialistic

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success popularity any of the [Β __Β ] that

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everybody tells you you have to have um

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I call it like external high value or

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materialistic status driven

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success he wasn't focused on any of that

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because I'm here to tell you that women

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don't care all of the stuff that you

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think about social media followers and

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all of this this stuff has only been

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around for not that many years okay

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today I'm going to be showing you an

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in-depth breakdown how you can let go

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and step into the confident authentic

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you because here's what I can tell you

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anybody who's watching this video stick

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with me anybody who's watching this

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video if you have come from a background

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like me meaning you've seen House

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Parties you've been to the bars before

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you've been to the clubs you see the

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type of men that women gravitate towards

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it is never who you think so I don't

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care what all these other content

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creators are all telling you that you

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have to have this level of success and

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all of this it's [Β __Β ] it's not true

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and you know it's not true because you

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see it play out in the real world so I'm

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going to be breaking this down for you

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and this is how we have brought over

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740 guys together we are growing a

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community where I am helping men Master

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learn and understand the language of

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women so be sure to check out what I

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have for you in the description there's

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tons of testimonial you're going to see

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of other guys having success this has

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been truly lifechanging to helping other

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guys understand how to navigate their

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dating life at a far better level so

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with that said let's dive into today's

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video this is going to be amazing okay

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stick with me because this is very

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important women do not have high

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standards women sleep with men who are

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not socially programmed okay say this

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with me one more time women do not have

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high standards they sleep with men who

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are not socially programmed okay the

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guys that they're banging on weekends

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are dudes that are completely in their

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own world doing life differently than

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how you are perceiving it so I'm going

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to explain what I mean in a variety of

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different ways and you have to

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understand this okay good social skills

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often don't mean [Β __Β ] this is what

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everybody's been told have good social

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skills do this do that okay you've been

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talking to people your whole life your

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social skills are probably fine the

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issue is how you go about it so good

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social skills often don't mean [Β __Β ] but

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being a [Β __Β ] gets you very far okay so

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when a woman sees a guy who acts however

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he wants and he almost seems like a

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[Β __Β ] from time to time the woman will

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look at him and she goes oh my God this

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is so hot he doesn't conform he doesn't

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conform to how every other guy acts so

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this is what you have to understand

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right this is a lot of times why Like

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Rappers artists musicians are completely

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zoned out in their own world even

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partying okay living life however and a

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few things happen number one these guys

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a lot of times can hardly form coherent

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sentences number two they say whatever

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they want and number three they act

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spaced out with zero care so they're not

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worried about their social skills okay

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keep this in mind and these guys a lot

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of times end up with more women than

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they can even handle so you have to

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understand this you have been talking to

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people your whole life and the truth is

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most of these guys are so focused on

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game and saying the right thing and oh

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my God now I have to do this and I have

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to say this and make sure she laughs and

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makes sure that I tease her and all this

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[Β __Β ] okay and it's completely backwards

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so this is what I call front-end game

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being able to Captivate attention and be

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in your own world not conforming to how

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all of the other men act I teach this

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very deep inside of our community so

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keep that in mind now shift your

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attention to this column internal high

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value always trumps external high value

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say this with me again internal high

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value will always Trump external high

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value so most men today only focus on

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external high value attraction metrics

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or external attraction okay so here's

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the biggest problem with this when you

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focus on external materialistic status

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metrics that you call high value the

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problem is this the problem is that you

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are playing a game that's impossible for

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men to win literally impossible

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okay so here's the thing is things like

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money corporate status social media

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followers all of this stuff was created

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in the present day meaning it hasn't

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been around for that long so what this

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means is this means okay if you think

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about this right it's new right how long

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has this stuff been around let's say

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social media or anything like this less

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than 100 years right so the thing is is

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that all of this is recent okay these

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external attraction me

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Chase your corporate status uh make sure

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you have this amount of followers act

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this way be sure that you have this type

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of car or this type of house and now

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you're qualified to being an attractive

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man it just doesn't work that way so

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here's what I can tell you internal high

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value means that you're confident so

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what women look for is a guy who carries

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himself the way he would like which

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means you don't conform to how everybody

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else acts so internal high value means

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you take every every dollar and Status

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away from that guy you can take every

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dollar and all the status away from him

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okay and he will still walk into that

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bar and start talking to the hottest

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girl if he wants to and she'll end up

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liking him why because it's internal

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it's personality those of you who want

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to talk about a man who like has it this

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is what it is it's internal and she

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feels that energy she feels that

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masculine presence you can't buy this

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you can't have a bunch of followers and

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now you obtained it this comes from

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within so things like confidence things

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like Charisma and things like Swagger

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this is what women respond to so women

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will a lot of times sleep with men who

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just don't give a [Β __Β ] they say what

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they want they act however they want and

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they live life on their own terms nobody

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else's okay here's what I want you to do

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shift your attention to this column

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right here okay what's socially normal

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or what is socially acceptable with

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things like manners and being polite

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okay is halfways [Β __Β ] because

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someone made it up which means someone

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just had the confidence to make it up

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and say hey this is the way this is the

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way that you're supposed to act but all

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that happened was they just decided away

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you have to do this but for yourself you

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have to let go of the things that you've

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been told okay and you have to create

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your own way for you you have to do that

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but for yourself so what I can tell you

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is Success comes when you're able to

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dial in both of these things success in

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the real world as well as success in

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your dating life so success in the real

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world with things like making money

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having a place to live doing good in

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business these things require your

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logical mind which means it's going to

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take a lot of grit and perseverance a

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lot of Drive in life and a lot of

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ambition okay but those things make it

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very hard to connect with women because

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women only connect with men on a

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personality level or on an emotional

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level so success in your dating life is

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polar opposite to

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success in the real world when it comes

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to business and making money and doing

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well in your career success in your

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dating life comes from Letting Go it

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comes from having no care and it comes

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from saying the things that you would

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like so these guys assume naturally that

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she wants to talk this is the other

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thing that I've noticed with guys who do

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great with women and guys who are able

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to take these Concepts that I teach and

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apply it is the men will always

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naturally just assume that she wants to

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talk and don't mind going up to her and

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maybe interrupting for a couple seconds

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or saying something to the group or just

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doing life and having fun they don't

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mind doing it so you want to dial in

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both you have to understand how to turn

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on your logical mind in order to make

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good decisions that help you get ahead

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but on top of that you also have to

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understand how to connect with people on

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an emotional level so you can have

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success in your dating life and it takes

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practice just like going to the gym and

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lifting weights takes practice

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everything in life takes practice so

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here's what I can tell you when she sees

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this attitude of like this caveman I

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don't give a [Β __Β ] kind of attitude like

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you just eat sleep say what you want

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kind of do what you want you don't

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really care what people think about you

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you don't care what people say about you

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it's like you act how you would like she

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looks at you and she goes wow I actually

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found a man or wow I actually found

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myself a guy who doesn't necessarily

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think he has to act like everybody else

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he must be more confident than everybody

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because he doesn't conform to how all of

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the other men act so when she sees this

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she's like oh my God it's so hot he

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doesn't know how he's acting or he can't

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even tell that it's different this is

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what women really like is they like it

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when you can't tell she's like oh my God

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he's oblivious that he's even acting

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this way so she wants to see that you

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are 100% confident and almost unaware of

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your flaws or clueless to them she wants

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to see that you have no idea you just

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are existing and this is very powerful

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she may feel insecure from time to time

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when going on dates sometimes she'll

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wake up and she doesn't necessarily feel

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the best maybe she's tired from a long

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day of work or whatever or maybe she's

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sitting there wondering you know what

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the right thing to say to that guy on a

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date is or any of those things right

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people have different thoughts

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throughout their life and this is going

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to include the women that you date but

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here is what women like to see in a man

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that Comforts those types of thoughts

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that they have she wants to see that you

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are blind to almost all of this and you

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just just don't care so now she feels

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taking that frame with you and it's like

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together a lot of times your social

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to let go and step into who you are and

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socially and say things that you

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typically wouldn't just to see what

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happens and sometimes you might say

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something that doesn't stick the right

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