How to Deal With Loneliness
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Dwayne from Dry Creek Wrangler School addresses the loneliness and isolation felt by many young men, particularly in the United States. He discusses the alarming statistics regarding male suicides, homelessness, and imprisonment, expressing concern over societal attitudes that celebrate men's struggles. Dwayne emphasizes the importance of self-comfort and self-encouragement, urging men to become their own companions and to avoid seeking validation from those who contribute to their distress. He also criticizes the 'feminazi' movement for its detrimental impact on men's mental health, advocating for strength, self-reliance, and maintaining a balanced perspective in the face of societal challenges.
Takeaways
- 🌞 The speaker, Dwayne, from Dry Creek Wrangler School, is addressing the issue of loneliness and isolation, particularly among young men in the country.
- 😔 There is a significant concern about the high rates of suicide, homelessness, and imprisonment among men compared to women, and a societal lack of empathy for these issues.
- 🔥 Dwayne criticizes a certain attitude among some feminists, suggesting that they are not genuinely interested in equality but rather in tearing men down to elevate themselves.
- 👤 He emphasizes the importance of self-companionship and being comfortable with oneself, suggesting that this is a foundational step in dealing with loneliness.
- 🚫 Dwayne advises against seeking less-than-ideal companionship out of fear of being alone, advocating for self-respect and self-worth.
- 💪 He encourages men to become self-reliant and to make hard decisions, even if they are unpopular or require sacrifice.
- 🚶♂️ Dwayne shares his personal experience of overcoming difficult circumstances and the importance of having the courage to change one's situation.
- 🤔 The speaker suggests that men should reflect on what they would want in a friend and then strive to become that kind of person to themselves.
- 🙅♂️ Dwayne rejects the idea of being at war with women, advocating for strength and goodness in men without resorting to hateful reactions.
- 🌱 He plants a seed of encouragement for men who are struggling, offering his support and the hope that his words might provide some guidance.
- 📚 The script concludes with a reminder to be strong and to not let societal movements define one's self-worth or actions.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is the feeling of isolation and loneliness among young men, particularly in the context of the United States, and the societal issues that contribute to these feelings.
What issues are highlighted in relation to men in the video?
-The video highlights issues such as higher rates of suicide, homelessness, and prison populations among men compared to women.
What is the speaker's view on the reaction of some women to the issues faced by men?
-The speaker expresses disappointment and disapproval of some women celebrating the fact that men are more likely to commit suicide, suggesting a lack of empathy and understanding.
What does the speaker suggest is the role of feminism in the current situation?
-The speaker criticizes certain aspects of feminism, referring to it as a 'feminazi movement,' and suggests that it contributes to the alienation of men and the breakdown of traditional gender roles.
What advice does the speaker give to men feeling isolated and alone?
-The speaker advises men to become comfortable with themselves as companions, to be honest with themselves, and to encourage themselves to move forward and improve their lives.
How does the speaker address the issue of finding a good partner?
-The speaker acknowledges that good women still exist but are harder to find. He encourages men to focus on self-improvement and not to settle for less than ideal companions.
What does the speaker suggest about the importance of self-reflection and honesty?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of being honest with oneself, facing one's own faults, and forgiving oneself as part of personal growth and self-acceptance.
What is the speaker's opinion on the physical aspects of relationships?
-The speaker acknowledges the importance of physical aspects in relationships but warns that the pursuit of these aspects should not come at the expense of one's soul, spirit, or life.
How does the speaker view the concept of equality in the context of relationships?
-The speaker argues that true equality in relationships involves mutual respect and understanding, rather than one party needing to 'tear down' the other to achieve a perceived level of equality.
What is the speaker's stance on the pendulum effect in societal reactions?
-The speaker warns against reacting to societal issues by swinging the pendulum too far in the opposite direction, advocating instead for a balanced and thoughtful approach.
What is the speaker's final message to the viewers?
-The speaker encourages viewers to be strong, to stand up for themselves, and to not let external influences destroy their sense of self-worth and dignity.
Outlines
🚨 Societal Challenges and Male Isolation
Dwayne from Dry Creek Wrangler School addresses the issue of isolation and loneliness, particularly among young men, which he perceives as a global pandemic. He discusses the alarming statistics regarding male suicides, homelessness, and prison populations compared to women. He criticizes the apparent celebration of these issues by some women and challenges the feminist movement's claim to equality, suggesting that it often undermines men. Dwayne emphasizes the importance of finding good women who value themselves and others, and he offers a personal anecdote about his disappointment with a Perdomo Menso 70 cigar, using it as a metaphor for not settling for less than what one deserves in life.
🤔 Overcoming Loneliness and Self-Acceptance
In this paragraph, Dwayne explores the concept of loneliness and the importance of self-companionship. He suggests that individuals should strive to be comfortable alone and not rely solely on external relationships for happiness. Drawing from biblical references, he notes that while it's not ideal to be alone, it is possible. He advises that people should be honest with themselves, face their truths, and learn to forgive themselves for past mistakes. Dwayne encourages viewers to become their own source of encouragement and to develop a positive self-image to combat loneliness.
💪 Becoming Self-Reliant and Encouraging
Dwayne emphasizes the importance of self-reliance and the ability to encourage oneself. He argues that if one is not content with their own company, they should work on becoming someone who can provide the necessary support and motivation. He shares his personal experience of overcoming adversity and encourages others to take control of their lives, even in the face of societal challenges. Dwayne stresses the need for courage and determination to make tough decisions and to not let external circumstances define one's life.
🛡 Standing Up Against Destructive Movements
In this section, Dwayne criticizes what he calls the 'feminazi' movement, which he believes is detrimental to young men. He encourages men to stand up for themselves and not be swayed by movements that may undermine their self-worth. Dwayne advises men to become comfortable in their own skin and to make decisions that are best for them, regardless of societal pressures. He also warns against reacting to negative influences with equal hostility, advocating for a balanced and respectful approach to relationships and societal interactions.
🌟 Final Thoughts on Strength and Encouragement
Dwayne concludes the video script with a message of strength and resilience. He offers his support to those who may be struggling and encourages them to remain strong amidst societal challenges. He reiterates the importance of not allowing external factors to dictate one's self-worth and to stand firm in the face of adversity. Dwayne's final words serve as a reminder to be a good and strong man, regardless of the chaos that may surround them.
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Keywords
💡Isolation
💡Equality
💡Feminism
💡Suicide
💡Homelessness
💡Self-companionship
💡Encouragement
💡Truthfulness
💡Courage
💡Self-improvement
💡Feminazi
Highlights
Dwayne addresses the issue of young men feeling isolated and alone, emphasizing it's a widespread problem.
He notes the higher rates of suicide, homelessness, and imprisonment among men compared to women.
Dwayne criticizes the negative feedback from women celebrating men's higher suicide rates, calling it a serious issue.
He discusses the importance of good men backing away from toxic situations and relationships.
Dwayne shares his perspective on feminism, arguing that true equality doesn't mean tearing men down.
He emphasizes the importance of being comfortable with oneself as a companion.
Dwayne highlights the need for self-honesty and facing one's own truths.
He advises men to encourage themselves and push forward to improve their lives.
Dwayne recounts his own experiences of overcoming challenges and encourages men to take courageous steps.
He argues that the physical aspects of a relationship are not worth the destruction caused by toxic relationships.
Dwayne urges men to become their own men and not rely on toxic relationships for validation.
He stresses the importance of making hard decisions and sacrifices to improve one's life.
Dwayne highlights the need to be comfortable with oneself and to make positive changes.
He advises against reacting to negative movements with extreme actions in the opposite direction.
Dwayne emphasizes that men should not be at war with women and should strive to be strong, good men.
Transcripts
good morning
Dwayne here Dry Creek Wrangler School
we got a morning here we got a new class
coming in next to the last class for
this year being this afternoon so Mom
and I are taking the chance and taking
the opportunity to make another video
this morning
I've been chewing on this we didn't make
a video for a couple of weeks and then I
just posted two videos
they were both horse related and this
topic I've been chewing on for a little
while but I've been hesitant to put it
up because I didn't really have things
clear in my mind
um but I'm going to take a chance this
morning and see what we come up with the
for the last many weeks I've gotten a
lot of
contacts comments on the channel
um emails different things
about young men especially I mean it's
it's pandemic around the world I think
but young men especially in this country
who are just feeling isolated and alone
uh it's it's a really bad situation in
this country
Mama sent me a
a video link of a guy
and he was talking about in this country
the numbers of uh when it comes to
suicides
when it comes to uh homelessness when it
comes to prisons the numbers of men in
these situations
are astronomically higher uh than women
and then this same guy read a lot of the
feedback
from women and it was
it was horrible they were celebrating
the fact
that men are three times three times
more likely to commit suicide
um
I just can't and it's no wonder good men
in this world are backing away from
women and saying look this is just this
is not
this is not right
and uh and when this attitude pervades
when this attitude pervades
feminists cannot sit there and say we're
only about equality
let me let me give you a thought ladies
I'm going to get a lot of I'm going to
get a lot of grief for this and I don't
care I don't know you
and I ain't scared of you
okay
if a man is here
and you want to be equal
and the only way you can get equal
is to band together and tear him down so
that you can be at this level you're not
equal
you're not equal
okay you're a parasite
I'm not gonna go any further into that
all right because I'll get I will get
wound up and get scratchy men
you're feeling isolating alone and
lonely
what do you do
you can't find a good woman these days
it seems like and they're out there let
me tell you right now there's there's
good women are still out there they come
through here we meet them around and
there are still really good solid women
of values who value themselves who value
the men around them
um they're just harder to find
so what's a guy to do
look I'm not a I'm not a psychologist
I'm not trained I don't okay I'm just I
don't know Uncle Dwayne you go sit down
and have a cup of coffee and a cigar and
say hey man I don't know what to do all
I can do is give you my view maybe to
help maybe it won't
speaking of cigar Perdomo in menso 70.
it's the only prodomal cigar
um
I've ever purchased that disappointed me
um I bought a box of them
I really like the 70 gauge
um sitting around in the evening
it gives me a lot of time but this cigar
has been the least
pleasing of any predominal cigar I've
ever had
it's not that I don't like it if I
didn't like it I wouldn't be wouldn't be
having one this morning but it just to
me it doesn't measure up it's a Maduro
made in Nicaragua everything should be
uh and it's from a great company
everything should be but this is like
I'm down to three out of the box and I
have not yet had what I call a mustache
burner one that's so good I don't want
to let it go and it gets all the way
down to the point I'm afraid it's going
to burn my mustache and great cigar is a
mustache but but it's you know it's
pretty decent and I do like the size but
I mean I'm getting a hot spot right here
back away from my burn and they're just
I don't know uh but it's still a
it's better than some other cigars but I
wanted one this morning just because of
the size
um
so let's look at it guys loneliness
loneliness and what is the answer to
loneliness well if you're lonely
I mean it stands the reason that you're
not finding people
outside people that you can connect with
on a physical level an emotional level
oh
a mental level
a spiritual level whatever wherever
you're at
now it's harder for some people
and I understand personalities I I
understand there's difficulty in this
like for me
I'm very comfortable in my own head
I'm very comfortable alone for hours at
a time for days at a time
um I uh it doesn't mean I haven't felt
loneliness it doesn't mean that I don't
feel lonely at times but it's not acute
it's not something I can't I can't deal
with
um and to me from what I see
is
the one companion
let's let's think this through the one
companion outside of of God if you're
follow God if you believe in God and you
have him then there's always a friend
that sticketh closer to a brother
but this we're talking about the human
issue the one companion that's always
going to be with you
is yourself
and I think the first thing you have to
do I think the first thing we have to do
is we have to get ourselves to the point
where we don't necessarily need a
companion
now
um it you know in when God created in
the Bible when God created Adam and then
he looked down he looked it at him he
said it's not good that man be alone
that's why he created Eve it's not ideal
it's not ideal
but it's doable and sometimes it beats
the alternative
uh and ladies the exact same thing uh
it's better to be by yourself than it is
to be with a bad man
uh and but sometimes we choose we choose
less than ideal companions
because to us that beats the alternative
of not having any companion and the
reason why we
um
cannot gr we cannot face the concept of
not having any companion is because
we're not comfortable with ourself as a
companion
um
we don't want to be left alone by
ourselves with ourself
so we come in and we sit down and we get
on our phone or we turn on the TV or or
we go wherever we do whatever because we
don't want to face the reality of being
by ourself with ourself
and so fellas I would say one of the
things I would recommend that you think
about chew on look into is start making
yourself
a companion that you're comfortable with
now that sounds kind of
maybe not real mainstream but
if you had a if you had a friend if you
had a person you're gonna sit down spend
all the time with what would you want
from that person
what would you want well
I would want to spend time with somebody
who's honest
makes sense I don't want to spend time
with somebody who's going to be lying to
me all the time someone who's going to
gently
tell me the truth
about myself
one of the hardest things sometimes for
the human to do is get to the point
where they stop lying to themselves
where they tell themselves the truth
they speak the truth to themselves now
you got to face the reality of Who You
Are
you got to face the reality of what you
are
all right and and nobody's going to tell
you that
like you yourself will tell you that
um you want to tell yourself the truth
but you want to tell yourself the truth
in understanding and forgiveness
I look back at things in my life
and I can't say
it was somebody else's fault
I can't say I didn't do that
I can't say this is why I did that so
that made it all right I mean all the
way back you know human our entire lives
so I got to tell myself the truth
yeah that was that was not okay
but then I at the same time I have to
tell myself
that uh you're a human
and
you made it right
and you're making it right
and it's okay
it's okay
wherever you've been in the past that's
bad
if you're not still there
your companion which is yourself needs
to feel free to tell you it's okay that
was a bad place to be that was a bad
person to be but you're not that person
anymore and you're not in that place
anymore
but if you're with yourself and yourself
is always beating you up you're not
going to want to be with yourself
if I'm sitting out here by myself in the
evening buy a fire a cup of coffee and a
cigar and I'm constantly beating myself
up over my failures in the past I'm not
someone that I want to be alone with
does it make sense all right
you got to make yourself and then the
next thing I want I would want from a
companion is I would want someone who is
encouraging who sees the possibility in
the future who gently pushes me and
encourages me to get out of the rut to
get out of the hole to get out of the
Sheepfold
to get out of the swamp that I'm in
and to move on and do better you want
someone who's going to encourage you
well if you don't have somebody who's
going to do that become that somebody
and again now I'm fellas I'm I'm blessed
I mean I've got mama okay I'm not
speaking
um
I've got something a lot of you guys
don't I have mama
but at the same time I have a
a very comfortable relationship with
myself
all right and sometimes if you don't
have someone like Mama
yourself is what you have
and you need to encourage yourself you
need to look around and you need to be
able to encourage yourself and say look
I'm not stuck here unless I choose to
stay here
I get people get on the Channel all the
time and they're like Dwayne you're out
of touch you don't know what you're
talking about you're out in the country
those of us in the city we don't have
that opportunity well now I've been in a
lot of cities
and I've never been in a city that had a
big wall around it that wouldn't let you
out
if you actually want to leave
you actually want to get away
from the crime
from the
the homelessness
from the situations that are being bred
in the cities today
leave
now sometimes you can't I'm not totally
stupid sometimes you can't
um and but a lot of you a lot more of
you can than can't
now it takes courage
it takes courage
it takes sacrifice
I mean I read if I was single and in
some of these cities and I read what's
going on in these cities and I read
about the politics and and the crime and
the homelessness and the the
um cost of living and and the cost of
rent and the cost of groceries and and
the inability to do all this stuff
I'd sell everything I could sell
put enough in the backpack and I'd walk
out I'd sell my car I'd sell everything
don't tell me it can't be done watch the
video on there I hitchhiked and took a
bus
from Tennessee
to Cody Wyoming and picked up cigarette
butts in the campground for soup and a
sandwich and a place to stay until I
finally got a job now that job was 350 a
month but it included a room in a bunk
house
and it got me started don't tell me it
can't be done
it takes guts and you need to have a
companion you need to be a companion
that's going to gently encourage you and
give you the courage to take that next
step and to do better
and to be better
I know
guys I know that the
how do I
the physical aspects
of a relationship
I know that they're positive I know that
they are are things that is hardwired in
us to search for
but it's not something we gotta have
it's not something we have to have
and the hell
that you go through
with these relationships
just in order to have someone to sleep
with from time to time is not worth a
destruction that is doing to your soul
and your spirit to your life it's not
worth it
become your own man
become your own man if these feminazis
want to burn their own world down around
them let them do it you don't have to be
in it
you don't need their world and you don't
need them
you don't need them
I was asking Deanna this morning I was
reading this stuff and I'm like if these
women have their way
are they going to get out and asphalt
these highways
are they going to get up on these high
lines and do this is I'm not saying they
can't but I'm saying the dang sure won't
are they going to do sewer lines
are they going to go into burning
buildings and haul people over their
shoulder down off the ladders here and
there scattered here and there there's
one but women as a whole are not going
to do this
and that's fine that's their business
they can live their life as they want
I'm not here bashing women but I am I am
totally fed up with this whole feminazi
movement that is destroying the young
men in this country and nobody can
destroy you if you won't let them
all right
don't let them you're a man you are a
man
stand up and be a man make the hard
decisions
make the sacrifices
make the unpopular decisions and become
comfortable in your own skin
and if you are not a person that you are
comfortable being alone with
that is the one person in this universe
that you have full power full right and
full responsibility to change
okay I don't have the right
I don't have the desire to and I do not
have the right to try to change my
wife's personality and who she is I
don't have the right to change anybody
except myself
now there's people out there I don't
like and if I don't like them I just
walk away I'm 55 years old I've done
without that person my whole dang life I
don't need them now
and I don't have the right or the desire
to try to change them
but if I don't like me
if I don't like me if I'm not
comfortable being with me well that's a
different story
all right so
it doesn't provide all the answers
probably doesn't provide any answers I
don't know but mailers a little bit of
encouragement there maybe somebody
there's a little seed a little step a
little something that you can say hey
you know what
I think that helped me
and listen just be strong
stay strong and ladies I'm not bashing
women but I am bashing this this this
Godless hateful movement that is
destroying this country and destroying
the men in this country
okay
um it's it's not
and fellas just don't
let me add one more thing here all right
I'm choosing my words give me a moment
it is human nature
it is human nature when a pendulum
swings too far one way
when the pendulum swings too far one
weight we react and swing that pendulum
too far the other way
all right for every action there is an
equal and opposite reaction all right
don't do that
do not
do not react to this
with opposite all the way over here
don't be hateful and mean and derogatory
to women
all right
I I am referring
obliquely
to a
former
um
kickboxer who now resides in Europe
somewhere who has been all the all the
rage there are some things he says that
he's writing he's spot on but his
pendulum has swung too far the other way
okay and and some impressionable young
men have taken it that way we're not at
War fellas
regardless of how this side wants to
frame this picture we are not at war
with women
all right we're not
you be that warrior in that Garden
all right and you stand strong
you'll be a strong man
you be a good man
and you just let the world rage around
you
all right I hope this helps and uh
and my heart's with you guys
anything I can do to help I'll be happy
to do
and so
we'll catch you all next time
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