True Friendship vs. Toxic Friendship
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Taylor Tripode discusses the heart of friendship, focusing on the importance of vulnerability. She explores Aristotle's three types of friendship and emphasizes the value of true friendship that sees flaws but supports growth. Taylor also references scripture to highlight the call to love and serve one another, cautioning against toxic relationships. She encourages viewers to surround themselves with people who inspire holiness.
Takeaways
- 🎬 The movie 'Mean Girls' is used as a backdrop to discuss the nature of friendships, highlighting the negative aspects of toxic relationships.
- 🌍 Katie, a character in the movie, moves from Africa to a new school and experiences the betrayal of her friends who exploit her vulnerabilities.
- 🔥 The 'burn book' in the movie symbolizes the destructive power of secrets and the harm they can cause when exposed.
- 🧩 The concept of friendship is broken down into three types by Aristotle: utility, pleasure, and true friendship, with the latter being the most profound and rare.
- 💔 Toxic friendships are compared to the biblical story of Adam and Eve, where sin disrupts the initial perfect vulnerability and leads to hiding and shame.
- 🌟 True friendship is described as one where you can be your authentic self, with flaws exposed, yet still cherished and supported by the friend.
- 📜 Scripture from Galatians 6 is used to emphasize the importance of love and service in relationships, warning against using freedom as an opportunity for selfishness.
- 💔 C.S. Lewis is quoted to illustrate that love inherently involves vulnerability, which can be a source of both strength and potential harm.
- 🚫 The speaker advises against tolerating toxic relationships, emphasizing the need for boundaries and the importance of mutual respect and support.
- 🙏 The video encourages viewers to seek out friendships that promote holiness and personal growth, suggesting involvement in church and community events as a way to find such relationships.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script presented by Taylor Tripode from Ascension Presents?
-The main theme of the video script is the heart of friendship, focusing on the concept of vulnerability within relationships and the different types of friendships as described by Aristotle.
What are the three types of friendships that Aristotle recognizes according to the script?
-Aristotle recognizes three types of friendships: friendship of utility, friendship of pleasure, and true friendship.
What is the lowest type of friendship according to Aristotle, as mentioned in the script?
-The lowest type of friendship according to Aristotle is the friendship of utility, which is based on mutual benefits and circumstances.
What is the difference between a friendship of pleasure and a true friendship as per the script?
-A friendship of pleasure is about enjoying someone's company and having a good time together, while a true friendship involves being able to be oneself, being seen with all flaws, and having someone who stays by your side and encourages you to be the best version of yourself.
How does the script relate the concept of vulnerability to the story of Adam and Eve in Genesis?
-The script relates vulnerability to the story of Adam and Eve by highlighting their initial state of being naked without shame, representing perfect vulnerability, and how sin introduced a change, leading them to cover themselves and hide from God.
What verse from the Scripture does Taylor Tripode mention in the script, and what is its significance to the topic of friendship?
-Taylor Tripode mentions Galatians 6, which emphasizes the importance of freedom, love, and serving one another, and warns against being consumed by toxic relationships.
According to the script, what does C.S. Lewis say about love and vulnerability?
-C.S. Lewis is quoted in the script as saying, 'To love at all is to be vulnerable,' implying that vulnerability is an inherent part of loving relationships.
What advice does the script offer for those who may be in a toxic relationship?
-The script advises that one is not called to be in toxic relationships and should seek good friends who encourage holiness and the best in each other.
What does the script suggest as a way to find good Catholic friends?
-The script suggests attending parish events, bible studies, and other gatherings where one can meet Catholic people who can become good friends.
How does the script conclude its message about friendships?
-The script concludes by encouraging viewers to surround themselves with people who will call them to be saints, as everyone is called to be holy, and to find friends who challenge and remind them of their identity and worth.
What additional resource is recommended in the script for those interested in learning more about setting boundaries in relationships?
-The script recommends a video by Father Mike Schmitz on boundaries for those who want to learn more about this topic.
Outlines
🎥 Introduction to 'Mean Girls' and Friendship Dynamics
Taylor Tripode introduces herself and the video series 'Ascension Presents.' She briefly summarizes the movie 'Mean Girls,' focusing on the main character, Katie, who experiences toxic friendships that exploit her vulnerabilities. The video will explore the essence of true friendship, emphasizing vulnerability, and referencing Aristotle's three types of friendship: utility, pleasure, and true friendship. Taylor discusses how true friends see and accept each other's flaws, encouraging each other to become the best versions of themselves.
📜 Biblical Perspective on Vulnerability and Friendship
Taylor delves into the biblical foundation of friendship, starting with the story of Adam and Eve. She explains how their initial perfect vulnerability was marred by sin, leading to a loss of openness with each other and with God. She connects this to how toxic relationships cause individuals to turn inward and isolate themselves. Taylor highlights Galatians 6, which calls for love and service to one another, and quotes C.S. Lewis on the necessity of vulnerability in love. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and fostering the good in each other while avoiding toxic relationships.
🙏 Finding and Nurturing Holy Friendships
Taylor encourages viewers to seek out and surround themselves with good, holy friends who challenge and inspire them toward sainthood. She suggests participating in parish events, Bible studies, and other activities where one can meet like-minded Catholic individuals. Taylor concludes by inviting viewers to share feedback and topic suggestions in the comments, expressing gratitude for their viewership, and wishing them a beautiful day.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Friendship
💡Vulnerability
💡Mean Girls
💡Burn Book
💡Aristotle
💡Utility
💡Pleasure
💡Toxic Relationships
💡Scripture
💡C.S. Lewis
💡Holiness
Highlights
Taylor Tripode introduces herself and the topic of the video on Ascension Presents.
Taylor discusses the movie 'Mean Girls,' highlighting the plot and the concept of the 'burn book.'
She draws a parallel between the movie's portrayal of toxic friendships and real-life experiences of vulnerability and betrayal.
Taylor emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in friendships.
She explains Aristotle's three types of friendships: utility, pleasure, and true friendship.
True friendship is described as a relationship where both individuals can be their true selves and support each other's growth.
Taylor references the creation story in Genesis, noting that God said it was not good for man to be alone, emphasizing the need for companionship.
She discusses how sin introduced shame and hiding, damaging vulnerability and relationships.
Taylor shares a verse from Galatians 6 about using freedom to serve one another through love.
C.S. Lewis is quoted saying, 'To love at all is to be vulnerable.'
The video stresses the importance of seeing and calling out the good in each other.
Taylor warns against toxic relationships and emphasizes the importance of healthy, reciprocal friendships.
She advises viewers to find friends who challenge them to be better and to seek out community in places like parishes and Bible studies.
The video encourages viewers to engage with the content by commenting with feedback and suggestions for future topics.
Taylor concludes with a positive message, encouraging viewers to surround themselves with holy, supportive friends and to participate in community events.
Transcripts
because a friend's friend forever
if the lord's the lord of them
do you guys know that one no okay
hi my name is taylor tripode and this is
ascension presents
mean girls let me just tell you a little
bit about this movie
so there's this girl in the movie katie
who comes to this new scroll
school from africa and she's trying to
be herself
and she finds these horrible girlfriends
that take all of the most vulnerable
secrets of everyone in the school and
they put them
in this burn book and by the end of the
movie
every one of those secrets comes out and
everyone is just
so upset at each other they're like
you're toxic you're the worst person
feeling like oh man i've had some of
those friendships and we've all been in
places where
we've been vulnerable and people have
taken advantage of us but we've also
been in positions where we've had
amazing friendships that probably have
lasted years
and i think that what i want to talk
about today is the heart of friendship
which is vulnerability i think that the
most beautiful part of a friendship is
that it teaches us
how to open our hearts to be intimate
and to be vulnerable and i love how
aristotle
he recognizes that there's three types
of friendship the lowest type of
friendship
is really just friendship of utility
which basically
just ends up being a friendship of
circumstance so like it just makes sense
at that time for both of your benefits
to be friends
then you look at a friendship of
pleasure friendship of pleasure is just
like someone that you enjoy spending
time
with they're a good time and a good hang
but then you've got
that true friendship that he talks about
which is probably one of the
the rarest forms but the most beautiful
when you find it
and he talks about how a true friend is
someone that you can really be yourself
with
someone that sees all of the flaws in
you but chooses
to stay by your side to get to know you
but to also call you on to be the best
version of yourself
so we look at the beginning of scripture
and we see in genesis how god
does not want us to be alone and he
creates adam by himself and he says it's
not good for man to be alone i'm going
to create someone for him and so he
creates eve and there's this beautiful
perfect vulnerability without shame you
know they're naked without shame
and then we see how something toxic
enters the scene you know sin
enters the world enters that
relationship
and then that dynamic changes so in the
adam and eve's vulnerability
they decided to cover themselves from
each other
but also you look how they hide from god
himself because they're afraid to be
vulnerable in general and a lot of times
in toxic relationships when we're
turning inward
you know we separate ourselves from each
other and from community but also from
god
there's this beautiful verse from
scripture that i would love to read to
you guys and i think it's perfect for
this topic
it's from galatians 6 it says for you
were called to freedom
brethren only do not use your freedom as
an opportunity for the flesh
but through love be servants of one
another for the whole law is fulfilled
in one word
you should love your neighbor as
yourself it's just so beautiful to see
how
we were called to this love and i think
it's c.s lewis that says to love at all
is to be vulnerable
like in this vulnerability we have an
opportunity to
serve one another to see yes the flaws
but also to see the good
in each other and to call that good out
in another person to say like i see the
good in you i see your flaws
but i want you to become the person that
you were created to be
but then it's so interesting that this
verse continues on and it says
but if you bite and devour one another
take heed that you are not consumed by
one another
so we also were not called to be in
these toxic relationships and to exist
in that place of despair and those
places of of vulnerability where people
take advantage of us and and use that
against us so if you are in a toxic
relationship
any type of relationship romantic
relationship
friendship you are not called to be
friends with everyone
you don't have to give what you don't
have um you should be
receiving and giving just as much as the
other person
in that relationship we were not made to
be in friendships that
are toxic to us like the lord wants to
us to find
good friends that call us on to holiness
that call the best
out in each of us if you'd like to hear
more about this topic i know father mike
schmitz has an amazing
video on boundaries that could just be
helpful for anybody who's watching this
that would like to learn more
but overall just to summarize everything
go
and surround yourself with people that
will call you on to be a saint
because we're all called to be holy and
the lord wants to
give you those people in your life that
are going to challenge you
that are going to call you on and are
going to remind you of your identity and
your worth
and so go to your you know parish and
and find different events that are
coming up that
have amazing good catholic holy people
that were going to be there
go to a bible study go to places that
you can find
catholic people that would be that would
make really good friends and i'm sure
that down the line your future self will
thank you just make sure you comment
below with any
feedback any suggestions for future
topics and i would love to hear from you
guys
thank you so much for watching this and
from all of us at ascension presents my
name is taylor
have a beautiful day
you
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