3 Tricks to Get the "Power" Back with a Woman (even if you already acted "needy")

Summary

In this video, Bobby Rio and Rob Judge discuss how men can regain control in relationships where they feel powerless. They share three key strategies: 1) Ask her to do small favors, which increases her investment in the relationship. 2) Avoid justifying or explaining yourself to maintain authority. 3) Control your time by creating scarcity, such as limiting availability for calls or meetings. These subtle shifts in behavior help restore a balanced dynamic, making your time and effort more valuable, ultimately improving attraction and respect in the relationship.

Takeaways

• 😀 Asking her to do you a favor, even something small, helps shift the power dynamic by encouraging her investment in the relationship.
• 😀 People are more committed to things they’ve put effort into, so by getting her to help you, you subtly increase her emotional investment in you.
• 😀 Avoid the trap of being a 'nice guy' who always does favors without asking for anything in return. Balance the effort in the relationship.
• 😀 Don't justify yourself when questioned or criticized. Avoid defending your actions, as this can signal insecurity and lower your status.
• 😀 Confidence without explanation boosts your authority. Whether in dating or other areas of life, owning your decisions without over-explaining commands respect.
• 😀 Time control is crucial. If you seem too available, your time loses value. Limit the time you spend with her to maintain a sense of scarcity and importance.
• 😀 Always set time constraints for meetings or calls, even if they're not strictly necessary. This subtly communicates that your time is valuable and limited.
• 😀 If she calls or texts, don’t always respond immediately. Delay your response by a few minutes to subtly show that you’re in control of your own schedule.
• 😀 Power dynamics in relationships are often subtle and build up over time. A series of small behaviors can drastically shift the balance of power.
• 😀 Even in the early stages of dating, consciously apply these strategies (like asking her to do a small favor) to maintain healthy power dynamics from the beginning.

Q & A

Why is it important to ask a woman to do you a favor in a relationship?

Asking a woman to do you a favor creates a power shift by making her invest more in the relationship. People tend to get more invested in things they put effort into, and this small change can balance the dynamics of the relationship.

What is the psychology behind asking someone to do a favor?

The psychology is based on the principle that the more effort someone puts into something, the more invested they become in it. This is why asking her to do something for you can subtly increase her emotional investment.

What should you avoid doing when explaining yourself to your partner?

You should avoid justifying your actions or defending yourself when challenged. Doing so lowers your status in the relationship and diminishes your authority. Confidence and certainty in your actions are key.

Can you provide an example of how justifying yourself can lower your status?

When someone challenges your actions and you begin to explain or justify them, you are effectively giving up your authority. For example, if a partner questions your behavior and you explain it excessively, it may make you appear less confident and assertive.

How does the principle of authority apply in relationships?

In relationships, authority refers to maintaining confidence in your decisions without needing to explain them constantly. When you show certainty and avoid justifications, you demonstrate leadership, which can strengthen your position.

What does Michael Jordan's approach to challenges teach about handling disputes in relationships?

Michael Jordan's approach—never justifying his greatness—teaches us that confidence and action speak louder than words. In relationships, this means that instead of explaining yourself, you should simply be confident in your actions and let them speak for themselves.

How can controlling your time help regain power in a relationship?

Controlling your time is about demonstrating that your time is valuable. By imposing time constraints (e.g., stating you're only available for a certain amount of time), you subtly increase your perceived worth and make your partner value your time more.

What are some examples of how to impose time constraints in a relationship?

You can set time constraints by letting your partner know in advance that you only have limited time to meet or talk. For instance, saying 'I only have an hour' or 'I can only stay until 7 PM' helps communicate that your time is valuable.

Why should you avoid always being available to your partner?

Always being available can make your time seem less valuable and put you in a lower status position. By being less available and imposing time constraints, you increase the value of your time and create a healthier dynamic.

What does it mean to 'control the timing' in a relationship?

Controlling the timing means dictating when you will engage with your partner, such as when you respond to texts or calls. For example, not immediately responding to a call or text and setting expectations for when you’ll reply shows that your time is under your control.