5 Mistakes Men Make When a Girl "Pulls Away" | Do NOT do THIS if She's Losing Interest

Summary

In this video, Bobby Rio addresses the common issue of women pulling away in relationships and the mistakes men often make in response. He outlines five key errors: confessing feelings too soon, apologizing excessively, giving gifts to win favor, reciprocating coldness, and issuing ultimatums. Rio emphasizes that these actions can push women further away, and instead, suggests using the 'scrambler' technique to encourage women to chase, fostering attraction through uncertainty and intrigue.

Takeaways

• 🚫 **Avoid Confessing Feelings Early**: When a woman starts pulling away, men often mistakenly confess their feelings, thinking it will make her stay. However, this can backfire by creating too much pressure and reducing attraction.
• 🙅‍♂️ **Don't Over-Apologize**: Apologizing excessively or explaining yourself too much can come off as weak and unconfident, which can push her further away.
• 💔 **Resist the Urge to Buy Gifts**: Buying gifts in an attempt to win her back can be perceived as pressuring and may increase the distance instead of bridging it.
• ❄️ **Don't Mirror Coldness**: Matching a woman's cold behavior with your own can seem like a game and not a genuine loss of interest, which can make her feel you're not serious about the relationship.
• 🚨 **Avoid Ultimatums**: Giving ultimatums puts undue pressure on the relationship and can make her feel forced into decisions, rather than feeling attracted to you.
• 🤔 **Understand Her Testing**: Sometimes, a woman's pulling away is a test to see how you react, not a sign of lost interest. Your response can either reassure her or push her away.
• 🧩 **Uncertainty is Attractive**: Maintaining an air of mystery and uncertainty can be more attractive to women than being overly forthcoming or predictable.
• 💬 **Be Careful with Texting**: The way you communicate through texts can significantly impact the relationship. Less frequent but meaningful communication can be more effective than constant, less impactful exchanges.
• 🏃‍♂️ **Don't Chase, Attract**: Instead of chasing after a woman, focus on creating attraction by being confident and self-assured, which can make her want to pursue you.
• 🔄 **Reverse the Chase**: The video suggests a technique called 'the scrambler' to elicit a chase from the woman, reversing traditional roles and dynamics.

Q & A

What is the primary reason why women pull away according to the video?

Women often pull away as a subconscious test to see if the man they're dating is confident and secure. It’s not necessarily a sign that they’ve lost interest but a way to evaluate if the relationship is worth pursuing.

Why is confessing feelings considered a mistake when a woman starts pulling away?

Confessing feelings adds pressure to the woman, making her feel suffocated. Uncertainty is attractive to women, and by confessing feelings, a man removes that uncertainty, leading the woman to pull further away.

What happens when a man apologizes or explains his actions excessively?

When a man apologizes or explains his actions excessively, he comes across as weak and insecure. This diminishes a woman's attraction to him because it makes him appear needy and less confident.

Why is giving gifts a bad strategy when a woman pulls away?

Giving gifts, especially when a woman pulls away, is perceived as added pressure. This gesture, though meant to win her back, can make her feel uncomfortable and increase the distance because she feels obligated or pressured.

What does it mean to 'match coldness,' and why is it often ineffective?

'Matching coldness' refers to mirroring a woman's distant behavior by not texting or communicating as frequently. It’s ineffective because when the man immediately invites her to hang out after a period of coldness, it shows that he was only playing a game, rather than genuinely losing interest.

What are the consequences of issuing an ultimatum in a relationship?

Issuing an ultimatum adds pressure to the woman, making her more likely to walk away. It’s also ineffective because if the man isn't willing to truly walk away, she senses this, causing her to lose even more interest.

What is the 'scrambler' technique mentioned in the video?

The 'scrambler' is a technique designed to reverse the dynamic of a relationship, making the woman chase the man instead of the other way around. It is based on the idea that women are more attracted when they feel uncertainty and a desire to win over the man.

Why does pressure negatively impact a woman’s attraction?

Pressure makes a woman feel overwhelmed and stifled. When she senses that a man is too eager or desperate for commitment, it reduces her attraction because it removes the excitement and challenge of the relationship.

What is a key indicator that a man doesn’t understand how to maintain attraction in a relationship?

A key indicator is if the man makes the mistakes outlined in the video, such as confessing feelings too early, apologizing unnecessarily, or trying to win her over with gifts. These behaviors show a lack of understanding of what keeps women attracted.

Can a man recover from making these mistakes, and how?

Yes, a man can recover from these mistakes by stopping the behaviors that cause women to pull away and learning techniques like the 'scrambler,' which create uncertainty and encourage the woman to chase him instead.