Feeling Lonely? Watch This | Buddhism In English
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the speaker explores the difference between loneliness and solitude, emphasizing the importance of finding happiness within oneself rather than relying on others. They discuss how solitude can be a positive state for self-reflection, meditation, and personal development. Drawing from Buddha's teachings, the speaker encourages viewers to use moments of loneliness as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
Takeaways
- 😔 Loneliness is often felt when we are separated from people we are close to and it can lead to feelings of sadness and depression.
- 🔑 The key to happiness should not be given to others; it's essential to find joy within ourselves.
- 🧘♂️ Solitude is a state of being alone but content, where one finds happiness from within rather than depending on external sources.
- 🌟 Buddha encouraged practicing solitude to achieve inner peace and happiness.
- 🏞️ When alone, one has the opportunity for self-reflection, meditation, and self-improvement, which can be seen as positive.
- ⏰ Use the time spent alone wisely by engaging in activities that promote personal growth and well-being.
- 📚 The story of Buddha's enlightenment illustrates how solitude can be a powerful tool for self-development.
- 🍽️ Buddha's decision to abandon self-mortification and seek a middle path highlights the importance of balance in life.
- 🚶♂️ The departure of the five monks from Buddha during his journey to enlightenment symbolizes the need to face solitude at times.
- 💪 Embrace loneliness as an opportunity to strengthen your inner self and work towards personal betterment.
- 🌱 Cultivate the habit of solitude to enhance your life by focusing on self-care and personal development.
Q & A
What is the main difference between loneliness and solitude as discussed in the video?
-Loneliness is a feeling of sadness or depression when one is not around people, while solitude is a state of being alone where one finds happiness within oneself without depending on others.
According to the video, why do we feel unhappy when people leave us?
-We feel unhappy because we have given the key to our happiness to other people, and when they leave, we lose that source of happiness.
What advice does the video give for dealing with loneliness?
-The video suggests practicing solitude, which involves finding happiness within oneself instead of depending on others.
How does the video relate Buddha's teachings to the concept of solitude?
-Buddha advised monks to practice solitude, which is about finding happiness within oneself and not depending on external sources for happiness.
What is the significance of the story about Buddha feeling lonely before his enlightenment?
-The story illustrates how Buddha used his loneliness to his advantage by focusing on self-development and meditation, which eventually led to his enlightenment.
What did Buddha conclude after practicing self-mortification for six years?
-Buddha concluded that enlightenment could not be achieved through self-mortification or extreme hardship to the body.
Why did the five monks leave Buddha during his journey to enlightenment?
-The five monks left because they believed that enlightenment could only be achieved through self-mortification, and they were confused when Buddha started eating food to gain physical energy.
What is the middle way that Buddha decided to find after leaving self-mortification?
-The middle way refers to a balanced approach to spiritual practice, avoiding extremes of self-indulgence and self-mortification.
How does the video suggest using the time when one is alone?
-The video suggests using the time for self-improvement activities such as meditation, self-development techniques, exercise, reading, and learning new things.
What is the final message of the video regarding dealing with loneliness?
-The final message is to embrace solitude and use the time alone for self-improvement, rather than feeling depressed or negative about the situation.
Outlines
😔 Loneliness vs. Solitude
The video begins by addressing the concept of loneliness, explaining how people often rely on others for happiness, which can lead to feelings of sadness and loneliness when those people are absent. The speaker then contrasts this with solitude, a state where one finds happiness within oneself without depending on others. The advice of Supreme Buddha is introduced, encouraging the practice of solitude to achieve inner happiness and contentment.
🧘♂️ Embracing Solitude for Self-Development
The second paragraph narrates the story of Buddha before his enlightenment, known as Bodhisatwa, who practiced self-mortification for six years. He realized that extreme hardship was not the path to enlightenment and decided to seek a middle way. When he started to eat again to regain his strength, the monks who were with him left, thinking he had abandoned his path. Despite being alone, Buddha did not view his solitude negatively. Instead, he used this time to meditate and focus on self-development, which the speaker suggests is a positive way to deal with loneliness. The speaker encourages viewers to use their alone time for activities like meditation, exercise, reading, and learning, transforming solitude into a period of growth and self-improvement.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Loneliness
💡Solitude
💡Happiness
💡Self-Development
💡Meditation
💡Self-Mortification
💡Enlightenment
💡Bodhisattva
💡Middle Way
💡Self-Reliance
💡Contentment
Highlights
Loneliness is the feeling of sadness or depression when people we are close to are not around.
Happiness derived from others can lead to loneliness when they are absent.
Loneliness occurs when we give others the 'key' to our happiness.
Solitude is a reframed version of being alone, focusing on finding happiness within oneself.
In solitude, happiness is independent of others and comes from within.
Supreme Buddha advised practicing solitude for self-contentment.
Loneliness can be reframed as an opportunity for self-improvement and reflection.
When alone, one has more time for self-reflection and meditation.
Loneliness can be used to develop a healthier lifestyle and personal growth.
Buddha's story illustrates how he used loneliness as a path to enlightenment.
Buddha practiced self-mortification for six years before seeking a middle way.
Five monks left Buddha when he decided to eat and gain physical energy for meditation.
Buddha saw his loneliness as an opportunity for meditation and self-development.
Loneliness can be a positive force for creating a better life.
Use loneliness to practice meditation, self-development, and other beneficial activities.
Maintain a positive attitude towards loneliness and focus on self-improvement.
Embrace solitude and use it to make your life better.
Transcripts
Nam buddhaya welcome everyone to another
video so today let's talk about
loneliness and how we can face this
situation so in this video I'm going to
be talking about two things and the
first one is the loneliness and the
second one is the Solitude which is more
reframed version of being alone okay so
first of all let's talk about
loneliness when we are around people
when we are living with people and when
we are in relationships with people
normally we feel happy we feel that we
are content right and we feel this
joyfulness within
ourself but when they are not around us
oh when they leave us sometimes when
they when we have to depart from them
normally we feel depressed sad or lonely
or uh we feel like no one cares about us
so this is the feeling of
loneliness if we Analyze This emotion of
loneliness we can find that uh we have
become happy because of the people
around us because of their reaction
because of their way of
behavior that is that was the reason
that we became
happy simply it means that we have given
the key of our own happiness to other
people so when they leave our life
sometimes when they depart from ourself
sometimes when they fade away from our
life what happens to us is we become H
we become unhappy we become sad we
become depressed and we feel like no one
is care for caring for us there is no
one to help for me that is what we are
thinking
so how we can deal with
this well that is where we come to the
topic of
solitude Supreme Buddha advised us
Supreme Buddha advised the monks to
practice this uh practice of being
Solitude so what do you mean by Solitude
so first of all let's compare the
loneliness to the Solitude then you can
take some idea about that in loneliness
when you're lonely you're thinking for
someone to come to your life and make
you happy that means you're depending on
others you your happiness depends on
others but in
solitude you you try to find the
happiness within
yourself when you find the happiness
inside yourself you don't want to depend
on another person you don't want to
depend on second person you can find
your happiness within yourself and that
is what the practice of solitude gives
us so when you are being Solitude or
simply when you are being
alone now there are the people talk
about this like the loneliness and being
alone is two different things right so
when you're being alone or when you're
being in solitude
you're happy you're not finding the
happiness from these outer sources you
find the happiness within yourself so
Buddha teaches us to look at this
loneliness not as something to be sad
not as something negative but it teaches
us to look at this loneliness something
that is beneficial for you something
that is positive so how we can use this
loneliness or how we can reframe this
loneliness to be positive well if you
think about whenever you are being
alone you have more time for
yourself right you have a bigger freedom
for yourself you can think about
yourself you can you can reflect more
about yourself and you can practice
meditations or you can think about your
health and do some practices about that
that you can do some self-development
techniques so you can improve yourself
so when you use that time when you use
that uh loneliness for good things then
you become more positive about that then
you will never feel these sad or
depressing States so let me tell you a
little story how Buddha felt lonely at
one time actually this incident happened
to the there before he became
enlightened we call him him the bodh
satwa when he was bodh satwa he was
practicing this self mortification for
six years he gave lots of hardships to
this body he did some extreme
meditations in the jungle so there were
five monks who were helping the bodh
SATA so he practiced this uh self
mortification meditations for 6 years
and he mastered that fin finally he came
to the conclusion of that I cannot
achieve this
Enlightenment by self motivating or by
giving this extreme hardship to this
body so he decided to find this middle
way so what he did was first of all he
took his bowl and he went to the village
and he he got some foods to
eat because he he thought that to do the
meditations I I need to to have this
physical
energy but those five monkss who were
helping to the to bodh satwa who were
expecting the Enlightenment from the
bodh satwa through this self
modification was so confused because he
they saw that the bodhisatwa is having
these
Foods then does five months thought like
now he's not going to achieve this
Enlightenment the enlight tment can only
be achieved by the self
modification so he they never believed
on the bodhisatwa so what they did was
they left the bodhisatwa now our mahab
bodhisatwa was all alone in the middle
of the
Jungle there was no one to help him
there was no one to care about him no
one knew about him he was all
alone but he didn't think about that
loneliness as something depressed or
something
negative so he he he thought ah now I
have more time for myself I can do my
meditations
freely there was no one to think about
me so I must use this time for my
self-development that is what mahab
other thought so that is the way that we
also should think about this loneliness
if you are feeling lonely if you are
having some kind of loneliness
situations in your
life use that time use that valuable
time to create a better life for
yourself because you have more time you
can do meditations you can stick into a
daily
routine of uh the self development you
can do meditations you can do workouts
you can walk for some time and you can
be with this nature read a book or learn
something new practice meditations do
exercises these things can be done when
you are all alone so rather than feeling
depressed about the situation that that
situations that you are
in why can't we become more happy about
the time that we are spending a lot
right so practice this okay so if people
come to your life let them come if if
people walks away from your life let
them walk away but you have to be by
yourself you have to think about
yourself that is what you have to uh
think and that is what you have to do in
this valuable time so I think you have
some you got some idea about the
loneliness and being in the Solitude so
practice the Solitude and make your life
more better Nam
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