Weird Mannerisms of People Abused By Narcissists
Summary
TLDRThis video script delves into the peculiar habits often exhibited by victims of narcissistic abuse. These behaviors, such as second-guessing others' sincerity, wearing 'poker faces' in social settings, overcleanliness, and excessive door-checking, stem from a need to regain control and protect themselves from further emotional harm. The script also touches on how victims may prefer solitude, stutter when recounting their experiences, over-apologize, avoid eye contact, hyperventilate when proving a point, and deflect compliments. Recognizing these habits is crucial for understanding the lasting effects of such abuse and can aid in the healing process.
Takeaways
- 🤔 Narcissistic abuse victims often second-guess what others say due to past manipulation and criticism.
- 🃏 They may display 'poker faces' in social settings to hide their true emotions as a defense against further emotional harm.
- 🧹 Over-cleaning can be a coping mechanism for victims to regain a sense of control lost during the abusive relationship.
- 🔐 Double-checking locked doors is a habit stemming from feeling invaded or unsafe, seeking reassurance and control.
- 🍽️ They might prefer eating or traveling alone to reclaim independence and autonomy after being controlled.
- 🗣️ Stuttering when sharing life stories could be a mental roadblock caused by the difficulty of processing past trauma.
- 🙇♂️ Over-apologizing is a reflex from being constantly blamed and made to feel at fault by the abuser.
- 👀 Avoiding eye contact during conversations might be a protective measure against perceived criticism.
- 😮 Hyperventilating when proving a point can be a stress response from past dismissals and a fight for understanding.
- 🙅♀️ Brushing off compliments is a defense mechanism against feeling vulnerable, stemming from internalized beliefs of unworthiness.
Q & A
What is a common habit of narcissistic abuse victims when interpreting others' statements?
-Narcissistic abuse victims tend to second-guess what others say, doubting their sincerity or intentions due to past manipulation and criticism.
Why do narcissistic abuse victims often display a 'poker face' in social gatherings?
-They put on a poker face to hide their true emotions as a survival mechanism to protect themselves from further emotional harm.
How does overcleaning serve as a coping mechanism for those who have experienced narcissistic abuse?
-Overcleaning provides a sense of control and order, helping to manage the chaos and regain a sense of control lost during the abusive relationship.
Why might narcissistic abuse victims develop the habit of double-checking locked doors?
-Double-checking locked doors is a way to feel safe and in control, stemming from the trauma of feeling invaded or unsafe during the abuse.
What does preferring to eat or travel alone indicate about a person who has been through narcissistic abuse?
-It indicates a desire to reclaim independence and autonomy, as well as finding comfort and peace in their own company after being in a controlling relationship.
Why might narcissistic abuse victims stutter when sharing their life stories?
-Stuttering could be the brain's way of handling difficult emotions and experiences, acting as a defense mechanism to protect from feeling overwhelmed.
What is the psychological impact of constantly apologizing on narcissistic abuse victims?
-It reflects an automatic reflex from being made to feel at fault for everything, leading to a constant sense of responsibility and fear of causing trouble.
Why do narcissistic abuse victims often avoid eye contact during conversations?
-Avoiding eye contact is a protective move to shield against potential criticism and emotional harm, stemming from past experiences of being put down.
How does the experience of narcissistic abuse affect a person's ability to prove a point?
-It can lead to hyperventilation and anxiety when trying to prove a point, as a result of past dismissals and a struggle for understanding and validation.
Why might narcissistic abuse victims brush off compliments?
-They may internalize the belief that they are not worthy of praise, leading to a defensive response that protects them from feeling vulnerable or exposed.
What is the significance of recognizing these habits in individuals abused by narcissists?
-Recognizing these habits can be a step toward healing and reclaiming one's sense of self, highlighting the lasting impact of such relationships and the need for support and understanding.
Outlines
🤔 Narcissistic Abuse and Its Impact on Behavior
This paragraph discusses the peculiar habits often observed in individuals who have been victims of narcissistic abuse. The narrative begins by explaining that such abuse leaves deep psychological scars that manifest in their daily routines. It lists 10 habits, starting with victims second-guessing others' sincerity due to past manipulation, adopting a 'poker face' in social settings to hide their true feelings as a defense mechanism against further emotional harm, and developing an obsession with cleanliness as a way to regain control over their lives. It also mentions the tendency to double-check locked doors for a sense of security, preferring solitary activities like eating or traveling to reclaim independence, and stuttering when sharing their life stories as a result of mental roadblocks formed during the abuse.
🙏 Coping Mechanisms of Narcissistic Abuse Survivors
The second paragraph delves into additional coping mechanisms of those who have suffered from narcissistic abuse. It describes how victims often over-apologize due to a constant sense of fault instilled by their abusers, leading to an automatic reflex to apologize even for minor issues. It also touches on the avoidance of eye contact during conversations as a protective measure against perceived criticism. Furthermore, it explains the hyperventilation that can occur when victims attempt to assert themselves, stemming from a history of being dismissed. Lastly, it addresses how narcissistic abuse can make receiving compliments feel uncomfortable, as victims internalize a belief of unworthiness. The paragraph concludes by emphasizing the importance of recognizing these behaviors as part of the healing process and the value of seeking help and support for recovery.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Narcissistic Abuse
💡Defense Mechanism
💡Poker Face
💡Overcleaning
💡Double-Checking
💡Traveling Alone
💡Stuttering
💡Over-Apologizing
💡Avoiding Eye Contact
💡Hyperventilating
💡Brushing Off Compliments
Highlights
Narcissistic abuse victims tend to second guess what others say.
They develop a defense mechanism to protect from manipulation.
Victims often display poker faces in social settings to hide their emotions.
Overcleaning is a coping mechanism for those abused by narcissists.
Double-checking locked doors is a security measure for victims.
Eating or traveling alone is a way to reclaim independence.
Stuttering when sharing life stories can be a sign of mental roadblocks.
Victims often over-apologize due to a sense of constant fault.
Avoiding eye contact is a protective move against potential criticism.
Hyperventilating when proving a point stems from a lack of confidence.
Brushing off compliments is a shield against feeling vulnerable.
These habits often stem from a history of manipulation and emotional trauma.
Recognizing these behaviors is a step toward healing and self-reclamation.
Seeking help and a supportive community can aid in recovery from narcissistic abuse.
Transcripts
have you ever noticed those odd habits
some people abused by narcissists have
let's peek into the lives of these
narcissistic abuse victims abuse leaves
marks not just on the surface but also
in their daily routines at first these
habits might seem strange but they have
underlying stories behind them here are
10 weird habits you might spot in these
individuals one narcissistic abuse
victims second guess what other people
say when someone's gone through
narcissistic abuse they tend to doubt
what others say for instance if they're
in a relationship and their partner says
something sweet instead of taking it at
face value they might wonder are they
serious or trying to trick me this habit
forms because they've been manipulated
or criticized a lot before psychologists
say it's like a defense mechanism
kicking in to protect them from getting
hurt again victims of narcissistic abuse
get super sensitive to possible
manipulation of what people say so even
simple stuff gets questioned it makes it
hard for them to believe others without
doubting their
motives two narcissistic abuse victims
display their poker faces at Social
Gatherings when people go through
narcissistic abuse they often put on
these poker faces in Social settings
it's like wearing a mask to hide what
they're feeling inside it happens
because they've been through emotional
manipulation and criticism from the
narciss IST so they might need to hide
their emotions around others they do not
want to show vulnerability or hint at
what's happening inside psychologists
suggest that this behavior is a survival
mechanism to protect oneself from
further emotional harm they mention how
victims of narcissistic abuse learn to
guard their emotions as a defense
mechanism to avoid being hurt
again three narcissistic abuse victims
overclean their surroundings people
who've been been through narcissistic
abuse might develop this habit of over
cleaning as a coping mechanism when
someone deals with a narcissist's
constant criticism and need for control
they might feel a lack of control in
their lives so cleaning becomes a way to
manage that chaos imagine someone who's
been in a relationship with a narcissist
they might have faced daily criticism or
felt like walking on eggshells so to
regain a sense of order they clean
excessively it's like finding peace in a
chaotic world even if it means scrubbing
the kitchen for hours or organizing
things meticulously this Behavior might
not just be about cleanliness but about
regaining a sense of control that was
lost during the abusive
relationship four narcissistic abuse
victims always double check locked doors
at home when someone goes through
narcissistic abuse they might develop
this habit of double-checking locked
doors at home it's like a security
blanket for them it's not just about
ensuring the door is closed closed it's
about feeling safe and in control
psychologists say that this Behavior
often stems from the trauma of feeling
invaded or unsafe during the abuse this
habit might give them a sense of
reassurance or a feeling of regaining
control after feeling powerless it's
like a mental strategy to ease their
anxiety or fear almost like a little
ritual they perform to calm their mind
experts often work with these
individuals to help them find healthier
ways to feel secure without relying
solely on checking
locks five narcissistic abuse victims
prefer to eat or travel alone when
someone has been through narcissistic
abuse they might find comfort in doing
things solo like eating or traveling
it's like their way of taking back
control and finding peace in their own
company psychologists say that after
being in a relationship with a
controlling narcissist victims might
crave that alone time as a way to
reclaim their independence
suppose you're in a relationship with
someone your partner constantly
criticizes your choices even simple
things like where to eat or how to plan
a trip now that you're out of that toxic
situation you feel more at ease going to
restaurants or exploring new places
alone experts think this Behavior helps
victims ReDiscover their preferences and
regain a sense of autonomy it's like
hitting the reset button on their
freedom six narcissistic abuse AB
victims stutter when sharing their life
stories when narcissistic abuse victims
share their stories it's like hitting a
mental roadblock imagine trying to tell
a story but the words don't flow right
words get stuck and you stutter or
stumble through the sentences experts
reckon this stuttering might be the
brain's way of handling the tough stuff
it's like a defense mechanism trying to
slow things down sort through the
emotions and protect us from feeling
overwhelmed psychologists think the Mind
attempts to cope with all the hurt and
confusion tangled up in those
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we seven narcissistic abuse victims say
I'm sorry all the time victims of
narcissistic abuse tend to over
apologize for little things it's like an
automatic reflex left over from being
made to feel at fault for everything by
their abusers imagine someone
accidentally steps on their shoe yet
they're the ones saying sorry that
constant criticism messes with their
sense of responsibility it leaves them
always on edge they fear getting into
big trouble even over tiny mistakes at
work psychologists explain how this
constant blame sticks it makes them
apologize for things they didn't do
therapy and support can help them break
this this cycle and rewire that
automatic response these victims must
realize they no longer have to carry
that weight
around eight narcissistic abuse victims
avoid eye contact during conversations
avoiding eye contact in conversations
can be a thing for people who've been
through narcissistic abuse imagine
whenever you speak up you get shot down
or criticized that might make you uneasy
about locking eyes with someone while
talking psychologists think this comes
from feeling constantly put down by a
narciss nist it's like a reflex your
brain worries eye contact might mean
more hurt so when you try to chat
looking someone in the eye might feel
like opening yourself up to criticism
experts say it's a shield against
potential harm it is a protective move
that sticks around even after escaping
the
abuse nine narcissistic abuse victims
hyperventilate when proving a point
proving a point can be a stress trigger
for people who've dealt with
narcissistic abuse suppose you're at
work presenting an idea in front of
everybody suddenly you're all jittery
and can't catch your breath your body
has gone into overdrive to back up your
words psychologists say this
hyperventilating thing often comes from
how their abusers constantly dismissed
them before imagine feeling like what
you said never mattered for ages it
messes with your confidence right so
when they're trying to make a point the
anxiety hits hard they're fighting to be
understood they're dealing with all that
history in the middle of a
discussion 10 narcissistic abuse victims
brush off compliments narcissistic abuse
can make taking compliments feel like
navigating a tricky maze Dr Romani
durvasula clinical psychologist puts it
this way narcissistic abuse can leave
victims feeling like they're wearing a
t-shirt that says Don't compliment me
I'm not good enough so when someone says
you look great today or you did a Fant
fantastic job they might respond with a
quick oh this old thing or it was
nothing they avoid basking in the
positivity their mind has this Shield
that protects them from feeling
vulnerable or exposed by the compliments
psychologists explain that victims of
narcissistic abuse often internalize the
belief that they're not worthy of
Praise understanding the weird habits of
those abused by narcissists sheds light
on the lasting impact of such
relationships from excessive of
apologizing to seeking constant
validation these habits often stem from
a history of manipulation and emotional
trauma recognizing these behaviors can
be a step toward healing and reclaiming
one's sense of self if you identify with
these habits seeking help and
surrounding yourself with a supportive
Community can make a big difference in
your recovery
Journey
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