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Summary
TLDRIn this reflective video, the creator shares his experience of becoming infatuated with a girl on social media who embodies his ideal partner's traits. He discusses their shared interest in self-improvement content creation and how he handled his feelings upon learning she had a boyfriend. The video serves as a reminder that such attachments are normal, especially for young men, and emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and letting go of the need for a romantic partner to fill a void.
Takeaways
- 😀 The speaker became infatuated with a girl on Instagram who embodied his ideal qualities and was a content creator focused on self-improvement.
- 📷 She asked about the camera he used for his videos, which led to a conversation and mutual admiration for each other's content creation.
- 🔍 The speaker discovered they had similar goals and interests, which deepened his infatuation despite her having a boyfriend.
- 📚 They both found inspiration from 'The Way of the Superior Man', a book that resonated with their personal development journeys.
- 💪 The speaker aspires to inspire a generation and help younger men, similar to his own background, through his content creation.
- 🧘♂️ He acknowledges the temporary nature of infatuation and the importance of letting go and focusing on personal growth.
- 🤔 The speaker reflects on his past attachments to fictional characters and understands it's a common experience for young men.
- 🚫 He advises against acting on infatuation inappropriately and emphasizes the need for self-improvement and maturity.
- 💡 The video serves as a reminder to the speaker and his audience to use feelings of loneliness and infatuation as fuel for self-improvement.
- 🌟 The speaker concludes by normalizing the desire for a partner and encourages viewers to channel their energy positively.
Q & A
What platform did the narrator start chatting with the girl on?
-The narrator started chatting with the girl on igdm (Instagram Direct Message).
What initially attracted the narrator to the girl?
-The girl's looks, how she spoke both in text and vocally, and her content creation focus on self-improvement attracted the narrator.
What camera did the narrator mention using for his videos?
-The narrator uses a Canon 700d for his videos.
How did the girl respond when the narrator told her about his camera?
-The girl thanked the narrator and encouraged him to keep changing young men's lives.
What book did the girl mention that influenced her content creation?
-The girl mentioned 'The Way of the Superior Man' as the book that influenced her content creation.
What was the narrator's reaction when he found out the girl had a boyfriend?
-The narrator was surprised and his masculine side wanted the girl, but he calmed himself down knowing it wasn't the right approach.
How did the narrator handle his attachment to the girl?
-The narrator handled his attachment by letting go, realizing it's normal, and understanding that it's a temporary feeling.
What advice does the narrator give to young men who are attached to a girl?
-The narrator advises young men to accept their feelings as normal, let go, and use the energy to become the best version of themselves.
What does the narrator suggest about the desire for a girlfriend?
-The narrator suggests that wanting a girlfriend is completely normal and it's okay to feel that way.
How does the narrator view the energy of wanting a girlfriend?
-The narrator views the energy of wanting a girlfriend as fuel that can be used to improve oneself and attract the right partner.
What is the main message the narrator wants to convey to his younger and future self?
-The main message is to remind himself that it's normal to feel attracted to someone and to handle those feelings in a healthy way by focusing on self-improvement.
Outlines
💬 Discovering a Like-Minded Dream Girl on Social Media
The speaker recounts an encounter with a girl on Instagram whose traits align with his ideal partner. She is a content creator focusing on self-improvement, particularly targeting young women with insecurities. They connected over a shared interest in videography, and he was impressed by her content and her boyfriend's influence from 'The Way of the Superior Man.' Despite his growing infatuation, he acknowledges the importance of not pursuing someone in a relationship and the need to focus on self-improvement instead.
🧘♂️ Overcoming Attachment and Embracing Personal Growth
The speaker reflects on past instances of becoming attached to fictional characters or people on social media, recognizing it as a common experience for young men. He emphasizes the importance of letting go and understanding these feelings as temporary and normal. He advises using this energy productively to improve oneself, rather than suppressing it or indulging in unhealthy behaviors. The speaker encourages embracing the desire for a relationship as a natural part of human nature and using it as motivation for personal growth.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Dream Life
💡Self-Improvement
💡Feminine Energy
💡Content Creator
💡Insecurities
💡The Way of the Superior Man
💡Attachment
💡Letting Go
💡Energy and Emotion
💡Survival and Offspring
Highlights
The speaker describes being captivated by a girl on social media who embodies his ideal life partner traits, including her looks and her focus on self-improvement content creation.
The girl's inquiry about the camera used for the speaker's videos initiates their interaction, leading to a deeper connection over shared interests.
The speaker's admiration for the girl's content on self-improvement and her positive impact on young women is expressed.
A mutual appreciation for the book 'The Way of the Superior Man' is discovered, surprising the speaker and deepening their connection.
The speaker shares his journey into self-improvement and content creation, aiming to inspire and help younger men.
The girl's own reasons for creating content, stemming from her personal struggles and desire to empower women, resonates with the speaker.
The speaker grapples with feelings of attraction towards the girl, acknowledging the natural human desire for companionship.
Despite his attraction, the speaker recognizes the importance of respecting the girl's relationship and maintaining his own self-improvement path.
The speaker discusses his past experiences of being attached to fictional characters, highlighting the commonality of such feelings among young men.
He emphasizes the importance of letting go and understanding that such attachments are a normal part of personal growth.
The speaker offers advice to other young men experiencing similar feelings, suggesting they channel their energy into self-improvement.
A reminder that wanting a girlfriend or feeling lonely is normal and should be accepted as part of the human experience.
The speaker encourages using the desire for a relationship as fuel for personal growth and self-improvement.
The video serves as a reminder to the speaker and his audience to embrace normal human feelings and use them constructively.
The speaker concludes with a message of acceptance and self-improvement, aiming to inspire his younger and future self.
Transcripts
near the beginning of December last year
I was chatting up a girl on igdm now
this girl had every trait that I se in
my dream life on social media her looks
and how she spoke not just on text but
also vocally because she was another
fellow content creator about
self-improvement which was also another
uh big thing for me as soon as I
realized that bro I was so hooked and I
could not get my mind off her this
happened around about 2 months ago now
let me explain to you how this happened
um you know how we how we got to know
each other so she asked me what camera I
use for my videos right she said it was
high quality what camera do you use so I
gave her the camera I use um Canan
700d and she said thank you keep
changing young men's
lives like okay who is this girl because
she must if she's saying that she must
be on a similar path to me and you so I
check out her profile and she's
basically like me CU I I Target my
audience the young men because I'm a
young man myself she's basically making
the same content she's a little bit
older than me I think she's like 20 or
something around women specifically
young women who you know might be
growing up with insecurities they're not
they're not tapped into their feminine
energy I'll admit I scrolled through a
videos I binge watch her videos a bit
because she has a very good message I'm
like okay I can probably learn something
from this girl so I'm scrolling through
her videos they're really good so I
check out her follow no I think nothing
about it I just followed you know a
fellow Creator on the same path as me
all good she just ask me what camera I
use it's all good and then a week goes
past and I see one of their videos pop
up I listen to the message because I had
more likes than usual in the words of
her not in the words of me it's about
how women when they're in a mood when
they're in a certain mood it's very hard
to get out of it of course moods are
temporary but once you're stuck in a
mood it's very hard to get out of it for
men yes it can be similar but it's much
less likely so I'm like okay I've
learned something like this
before I've learned this from the way of
the superior man the book so I send her
the video of herself and I said where
did you learn this from it's a very
valuable piece of advice and she says
the way of the superior
man and I'm very surprised by that
because I only thought Men read that
book so I asked her oh you've read that
and she's like yeah my boyfriend read it
and then I started reading it but I
wasn't even focusing on that I was just
focusing on how she said her boyfriend
rdit because at the back of my mind
after scrolling through this girl's
content a bit after after following her
after seeing her face a little bit after
realizing that she had literally every
single
trait that I believe my dream wife
should have I got hooked bro I'm not
going to lie to you I got hooked
and I'm not going to say this girl's
name because of privacy reasons but but
if she's watching this video which I
don't know if she is she's probably not
watching it but if she is she knows I'm
talking about her like she knows and
it'd be very awkward if she is watching
this video but it I don't give a
I don't care so after I Senter that
video when she you know explained to me
how she read it from the way the
superior man she asked me after that how
I got started in my self-improvement
journey you know why I started making
content so I explained my reason because
I want to inspire a generation I want to
do something for myself so I know that
I'm providing value I want to help
younger men just like my younger self
and I also want to do it to document my
journey I explain all my reasons this is
also for me I create videos for myself
as well this is this is advice for me
bro not just to you that's one of the
reasons why I've been consistent a lot
over the years but back to the main
topic of the video so I ask her as well
and she basically says the same reason
she used to be you know she used to have
a lot of insecurity she didn't have you
know I'm not going to go deep into
things but she didn't have the best like
up bringing whatever and how that
inspired her to make a change and also
create content for fellow women and I
was genuinely inspired by that message
because you know it's very rare in my
scenario anyway because I don't really
interact with women that much like other
than that it's just at school that's
really it other than that I'm just doing
my own thing uh to see a woman with that
story I'm like this girl genuinely
has every single trait I look for in a
dream W every single one I'm like
she has a boyfriend and at the back of
my mind
my ego my like my masculine side if you
want to call it that my real intense
masculine side's like this guy I
want this girl but I know that's I know
that's not the right way to go about it
I calm myself down I'm like okay this
girl's 20 years old she's probably
turning 21 next year or this year I need
to calm the down bro I'm not ready
for this she's on again if I said
she's on the other side of the world I
need to let
go and I've had a pretty full packed
past of time have been attached to women
not necessarily that I knew
personally but I saw from social media
or I saw from movies I've told this
story in one of my older videos how I
watched Batman The Dark Knight
Rises and Catwoman I don't remember her
name like the actor's name but you can
just help about Batman The Dark Knight
RIS Catwoman I on Google whatever I was
attached to that Catwoman for
months bro I thought she was my dream
wife I could have nothing but Catwoman
athletic yeah she was confident in
herself but she was also faminine in her
way every single time I was meditating I
had some free time with my thoughts all
I was thinking about is hero that's it
and it roamed rent free in my mind and
I've had instances that are minor when I
was like more little like with the
Spider-Man series you know I think it
was like what's her name Gwen like I
think it's Gwen Stacy in the amazing
Spider-Man can't remember the actress's
name again but the one Andrew garford is
in I was attack when I was like 10 or 11
years old I think I was attached to her
bro like I couldn't get my mind off her
and I was like 10 11 years old but I
knew from that time with like the
Catwoman scene and a few other minor
scenes where I've attached myself to a
girl other on social media or like in a
movie or a TV show or whatever I realize
that this is normal for men especially
young men because women portrayed on TV
shows movies social media betray is like
perfect most of them anyway I know this
feeling is temporary I know it will go
away do you want to know why I've been
able to like kind of detach myself to
the girls I've been attached
to it's just by letting go and realizing
that it's normal and so many young men
go through this it's not a good thing or
it's not a bad thing it's just a thing
that's happening it is just an
experience you need to go through the
grow bro that's it and I tell myself
this cuz it happens sometimes I see a
girl on social media she looks like my
dream wife well I don't have an exact
picture but you get what I mean and the
loneliness starts to you know kick in
this is all temporary it's completely
normal as soon as I let go of the idea
that I shouldn't be feeling this
way I'm fine first step to just let go
if you are single and you want a
girlfriend but you kind of know that
you're you want a girlfriend for the
wrong reason maybe it's to feel a void
inside yourself right you don't really
want a genuine connection yet maybe you
have some more progress to do which most
men are in that
situation just let go it's okay to feel
this way bro it's okay to want a
girlfriend it is completely fine and
when you accept that and instead of you
know denying the fact that you want a
girlfriend and instead using it as fuel
to become the best man you possibly can
be then you're set because energy
emotion is energy and energy is fuel and
so many men waste this energy because
they can't handle it that's why so many
men are addicted to watching porn and
they can't handle the energy
bro but if you can handle
it then you're sweet I can almost
guarantee you if you I can almost
guarantee you if you're attached to a
girl right now me just saying it's
completely normal to be attached to a
girl has just felt like a
backpack has been lifted off your
shoulders I'm not going to tell you to
date a girl or to not date a girl to
date that girl you've been crashing over
you know at the back of your mind
whether you're ready or not I'm not one
of those guys who tells you to
sleep with everybody but I'm not one of
those guys who tells you to sit
in his room all day and never
talk to girls because they're the worst
enemy I don't around with girls and
sleep with them I I'm 18 but I wouldn't
do that if I was 25 they're
humans we talk to them just like we talk
to men but of course in a different tone
right if you are a single man and you
want a girlfriend yeah specifically want
a girlfriend you feel lonely because you
don't have one first of all realize it's
completely normal bro completely normal
You Are Not Alone there are so many men
who want a girlfriend it is completely
normal girls out there want boyfriends
too it's human nature it's
biological psychological that's
normal right it's part of it's part of
survival we want to have sex to survive
Offspring you also realize this this is
energy right and if you put your energy
in the right places you will attract
your dream off you will all right this
is a this this video is a reminder to
myself
yeah I hope you got value from it but if
you didn't I'm sorry but this is just a
Val a message to my younger self all
right and My Future Self if he ever
finds himself in the same situation as
he was when he was 15 years old um and
he can't recall how to get out of it and
I will catch you in the next
video peace
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