Coping Skills for Anxiety or Depression 13/30 How to Process Emotions
Summary
TLDRThis video script delves into the impact of emotions on rational thinking, explaining how the brain's survival mode can impair decision-making during intense emotional states. It offers 25 coping skills to transition from an emotional to a rational mindset, emphasizing the importance of clear thinking in handling crises. The script also discusses the role of Blinkist in providing condensed book insights for personal development. It concludes with advice on creating a crisis plan and highlights the necessity of addressing emotional issues for long-term mental health.
Takeaways
- 🧠 Emotional reactions can impair rational thinking, as the brain prioritizes survival over complex thought when perceiving a threat.
- 🏃♂️ Our ancestors' survival instincts, such as fleeing from predators or seeking high-calorie food, still influence our emotional responses today.
- 🤯 Modern triggers for these instincts can be less life-threatening but still provoke a strong emotional reaction, like receiving feedback at work or social rejection.
- 🛑 The HALT acronym (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, On substances) is a tool to remember when to pause and avoid making hasty decisions based on immediate emotions.
- 📚 The Blinkist app is highlighted as a resource for concise summaries of books, aiding in learning coping skills and other insights.
- 📈 Coping skills are temporary measures to regain calm and clarity, not permanent solutions to underlying problems.
- 🎶 Sensory coping skills, such as fresh air or music, engage different parts of the brain and can soothe emotional responses.
- 🤔 Cognitive coping skills involve processing thoughts related to emotions, including writing, meditating, or practicing mindfulness.
- 🏋️ Active coping skills, like playing an instrument or engaging in humor, can provide a sense of safety and support during challenges.
- 🤝 Connection coping skills involve reaching out to others, either through physical touch, pets, or communication, to alleviate emotional distress.
- ⚠️ Dependency on coping skills can lead to unhealthy habits or addictions, so it's important to use them as a bridge to problem resolution, not a permanent escape.
Q & A
Why does the rational part of the brain shut down when perceiving a threat?
-The rational part of the brain shuts down during a perceived threat because it prioritizes survival over complex thinking. This mechanism is designed to ensure quick, instinctual responses to dangerous situations, as seen in our ancestors when facing predators or the need to reproduce.
What are some modern examples of situations where the brain might enter survival mode?
-In modern times, the brain might enter survival mode during situations such as receiving feedback from a boss, speaking in front of a large group, receiving a bad grade, or facing rejection in a romantic context.
What is the purpose of coping skills in managing emotions?
-Coping skills are techniques used to transition from an emotional state back to a rational one, allowing individuals to think clearly and make better choices. They help manage intense emotions and provide temporary relief from discomfort.
Why is Blinkist mentioned in the script, and what does it offer?
-Blinkist is mentioned because the video is sponsored by it. Blinkist offers summaries of key insights from a wide range of nonfiction books, allowing users to read or listen to the most important points in about 15 minutes.
What is the acronym 'HALT' stand for, and how can it be used as a coping skill?
-HALT stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. It serves as a reminder to pause and assess one's state before making decisions, especially when experiencing intense emotions or being in a vulnerable state.
How can sensory coping skills help in managing intense emotions?
-Sensory coping skills engage various parts of the brain and body, soothing the limbic system where the fight-or-flight response originates. Examples include stepping outside for fresh air, listening to music, or engaging in physical activities like exercise or knitting.
What are cognitive coping skills, and how do they assist in processing emotions?
-Cognitive coping skills involve mental activities that help process thoughts related to emotions. They include techniques such as journaling, meditation, prayer, and progressive muscle relaxation, which can provide clarity and help manage emotional responses.
What is the potential downside of using active coping skills like watching TV or playing video games?
-While active coping skills can provide short-term relief, over-reliance on them can lead to avoidance of the underlying issue and may result in unhealthy dependencies, such as addiction to TV or video games.
How can connection coping skills be beneficial in times of emotional distress?
-Connection coping skills involve reaching out to others, such as hugging someone, petting an animal, or talking with a friend. These activities can provide emotional support and help alleviate feelings of loneliness or distress.
What is the importance of developing a crisis plan with coping skills and support contacts?
-A crisis plan helps individuals identify coping strategies and support contacts that can be utilized during times of emotional crisis. It ensures that there are resources available to help manage intense emotions and prevent impulsive actions that could worsen the situation.
Outlines
🧠 Emotional Impact on Rational Thinking
This paragraph discusses how emotions can impair rational thinking, causing the brain to enter survival mode and shut down complex thought processes. It explains that this response is an evolutionary trait, designed to help our ancestors escape threats or secure resources for survival. The speaker uses examples of modern-day triggers for this response, such as work stress or social rejection, which are far removed from the life-or-death situations of the past. The paragraph introduces the concept of coping skills, which are techniques to help individuals transition from an emotional to a rational state of mind, enabling clearer thinking and better decision-making. The speaker also mentions the Blinkist app as a tool for learning and personal development, highlighting its ability to provide concise summaries of books, which can be beneficial in managing time and enhancing knowledge.
🛠️ Utilizing Coping Skills for Emotional Resilience
The second paragraph delves into the importance of coping skills in managing intense emotions and preventing poor decision-making. It emphasizes that while coping skills can provide temporary relief and calm, they do not address the root causes of problems and should not be the sole focus of therapy. The speaker advocates for the development of emotional resilience, which involves the ability to pause and reflect before reacting to a situation. The paragraph outlines various types of coping skills, including sensory, cognitive, and active coping strategies, which can help individuals process their emotions and feel supported. It also warns against the potential for developing unhealthy dependencies on coping mechanisms and stresses the importance of using these skills to return to and resolve underlying issues.
🌟 Developing a Crisis Plan with Coping Skills
The final paragraph focuses on the practical application of coping skills, particularly in the context of a crisis. It introduces the 'HALT' acronym as a reminder to pause when experiencing hunger, anger, loneliness, or tiredness, which can impair judgment. The speaker suggests creating a personal crisis plan that includes a list of calming activities and trusted contacts for support during a mental health crisis. The paragraph also touches on the potential for addiction to certain coping skills and the importance of finding healthy, long-term solutions. The speaker encourages viewers to explore additional resources for learning about coping skills and self-care, offering a course as a comprehensive guide to improving emotional health.
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Keywords
💡Emotional Brain
💡Survival Mode
💡Coping Skills
💡Rational Brain
💡Blinkist
💡Crisis Plan
💡Emotionally Resilient
💡Trauma
💡Addiction
💡Self-Care
Highlights
Emotional responses can override rational thinking, leading to poor decision-making in stressful situations.
The rational part of the brain often shuts down during perceived threats, a survival mechanism from our ancestors.
Modern-day 'threats' can trigger survival mode, such as getting feedback at work or talking to a large group.
Coping skills are essential for managing anxiety, depression, and intense emotions, helping shift from emotional to rational thinking.
Using the HALT acronym (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired) can remind individuals to pause and assess their emotional state before reacting.
Coping skills include sensory activities like taking a walk, listening to music, or getting a massage to soothe the limbic brain.
Cognitive coping skills, such as journaling, meditation, and mindfulness, help process thoughts related to emotions.
Active coping skills like playing an instrument, humor, and watching TV can provide a temporary distraction but should be used cautiously.
Connection coping skills, such as hugging someone or talking with a friend, can provide emotional support during tough times.
It’s important to identify coping skills that work in different environments, like home, work, or school.
Coping skills should be used to calm down temporarily but followed by actions to resolve the underlying problem.
Relying solely on coping skills without addressing the core issue can lead to dependencies, such as addictions to TV, food, or social media.
Healthy coping skills should make you feel better in the long run, not just provide immediate relief.
In case of a mental health crisis, it’s crucial to know local resources, such as hotlines or crisis counselors.
The ability to pause before reacting is a key skill in developing emotional resilience and processing emotions effectively.
Transcripts
Do you ever feel like your brain falls out when you're emotional? Do you act stupid when you're
infatuated? or you make bad decisions when you're scared or angry? Well, most people do. And there's
a good reason for that - the rational part of your brain shuts down when it perceives a threat.
It doesn't want complex thinking to get in the way of survival. So examples of this for our ancestor
could have been needing to run away from a tiger or needing to eat something high in calories so
they didn't starve to death or falling in love so that they could reproduce. Today we experience
all these same emotions when things get intense, but the circumstances are quite different.
Our brain may enter survival mode when getting feedback from our boss at work or when we have
to talk to a big group of people. We may shut down when getting a bad grade on a school assignment
or when we get rejected by a crush. In these circumstances, allowing the brain to
regress into survival mode, into our emotionally reactive limbic system is not the best strategy.
We all need a way to slow things down and think clearly so that we can make better choices, help
us move through these uncomfortable situations instead of just reacting to them. Our brain and
our emotions are incredible, powerful, wonderful things, but sometimes emotions make us act kind
of stupid. In this video you're going to learn 25 coping skills to help with anxiety, depression,
and intense emotions. Coping skills are techniques you can use to get out of your emotional brain
back into your rational brain so that you can think clearly again. The other day I had a client
who was 20 minutes late, and do you know what I did? I read key insights from Extreme Productivity
and half of The Worry-Free mind on the Blinkist app. I seriously love Blinkist because I seriously
love reading, but I also don't have time to read all the books I want to. Now today's video
is sponsored by Blinkist. With Blinkist you can read or listen to really clear, crisp summaries
of the most important points of books, and you can do it in about 15 minutes. You can get the best
insights from over 3 000 nonfiction books. With this app, you could read a book a day for a year,
but in just 15 minutes. Now I've already learned a bunch from the books that I've read, so here's
some books I would recommend: anything by Brene Brown, like her books The Gift of Imperfection,
Daring Greatly, and Dare to Lead. Atomic Habits by James Clear. 13 Things Mentally Strong People
Don't Do by Amy Marin. So check it out. The first 100 people to click the link in the description
will get seven days of unlimited access to Blinkist completely free. So you could read a
Blink a day or more, and you could cancel anytime you want. Or you can get the full membership for
25% off. So seriously, check it out; you're gonna love it. When I was volunteering in Argentina for
a year and a half, we had a situation where we had been working really hard to help people,
really pouring our souls out to try to help people improve their lives, and we were like physically,
emotionally, spiritually giving everything we had. One day during a meeting, one of our local
leaders, the man who was supposed to be supporting the work we were doing, he basically told us that
all the people we were working with were losers and that there was no hope and that we were doing
a terrible job. We finished that meeting late at night. We were exhausted, we were angry, we were
discouraged. And my coworker called the president in tears. We were ready to just quit in that area,
and our leader listened carefully and he said Hey Hermanas, go to bed. Things will look better
in the morning. And and he was right. After we took a break, we came back to the problem
refreshed after a night's sleep. We were able to go back to that leader with clarity to, you know,
confront the issue. And we were able to do a lot of good in that town.
So in this video you're going to learn all about coping skills. If you're feeling like you're in
crisis, if you feel like you're going to make bad choices, if you're afraid you might self-harm,
or if you're just so emotional that you can't think clearly, halt. Okay, this is an acronym
to help you remember that if you're hungry, angry, lonely, tired. Or if you're on substances or if
you're severely depressed or severely anxious or whatever, pause. Slow yourself down and reach out
to the resources. So in the rest of this video, we're going to talk about
some of the coping skills you can use, and we're going to develop a little bit of a crisis plan for
the people you can connect with in case, you know, something comes up that feels a little too big for
you to handle in the moment. Coping skills are activities that we can do that help us calm down.
Many of the best ones incorporate brain and body and don't have negative side effects like
emotional eating or drugs do, right. Now this is just a short list; there are hundreds of things
that people can do to calm themselves down. And as you may know from my previous video
Why I Hate Coping Skills, I'm obviously not a huge fan of relying only on coping skills,
but coping skills really do serve an important function in the short term. They often soothe or
comfort us and help us calm down and make better choices. But coping skills do nothing to solve our
problems in the long term, and some of them if used exclusively can be harmful. Coping skills
help us take a break from our discomfort but also from our life purpose. So that's why I get
a little bugged when I hear that the only skill someone is learning in therapy is how to cope.
Use coping skills to get through a crisis, to get calm, and then come back and resolve the problem.
This ability to pause before choosing an action is an essential skill of emotionally resilient
people. As we develop emotional muscles, we develop greater capacity to accept and resolve
issues that come up for us. However, there will be times when we can't process the whole issue
all at once. One definition of trauma is something that happens to us faster than we can process it.
If we react immediately when we haven't had a chance to work through our thoughts, feelings,
and physical reactions, then our actions often make things worse. On the other hand,
if we just avoid the problem, we also suffer. So when an issue is just really big, or perhaps the
time or place isn't right or safe for processing, we can use coping skills to keep ourselves
calm or safe until we can go back to the problem and resolve it. As you go through this list,
it's important to find a few coping skills that work for you in various settings. So find some
that you can use at home, some for work, and others for when you're in a group of people.
So let's jump in. First, there are sensory coping skills. These are helpful because they incorporate
various parts of the brain and body and they can soothe the core brain, that limbic brain where the
fight flight freeze response stems from. These include stepping outside for a breath of fresh
air, taking a walk, listening to music, feeling a comfortable texture - like a child holding a
blanket or an adult holding a rosary - smelling an enjoyable smell, getting a massage, exercise,
taking a hot shower or a cold face wash, knitting or sewing or building something.
Now let's talk about cognitive coping skills. These can help us process through the thoughts
related to the emotion. So these can include writing everything down like with a brain dump,
journaling, meditation, mindfulness, prayer, coloring, guided imagery, and progressive
muscle relaxation. Let's talk about active coping skills. These can help us feel safe and supported
while facing challenges, right. So there's playing an instrument, making some music, humor, watching
a funny clip on YouTube, watching TV. So be really careful - TV and most things with screens
are powerful distractions that take up and turn off much of the brain and essentially prevent
the brain from resolving issues. So if you find yourself getting trapped watching too much TV,
then I would say don't use this one as a coping skill. It's fine in the short term or even in a
crisis, but in the long run it's not going to help you out. Some other coping skills include reading
a book, doing a crossword, getting out in nature, planting some seeds, give yourself a facial,
or expressing your emotions through art or music. Okay, let's talk about some connection
coping skills. Hug someone, pet an animal, talk it out with a friend, write a letter to someone,
or write out your difficulty in an email before talking with them. Now, using coping skills to
avoid our problems can create a dependency on that activity. I've actually worked with
people who have addictions to many of these coping skills. So I've seen addictions to TV,
to shopping, to food, drugs, alcohol. I've seen addictions to Scrabble, video games, social media,
eating, exercise, and other coping skills. So again, the way to tell if a coping skill
is helpful is not only if it makes you feel good, but if it helps you return to resolve the problem.
Healthy coping skills leave you feeling better the more you do it. But I mean better in the long
run. So write down three activities that you can use to calm down when you're feeling overwhelmed
with emotions, and try to think of at least one that will work in a different environment. So
work home or school etc., and then write down three people who you could contact in case of
a mental health crisis who are your three go-to people that you could call if you're in crisis.
Now if you're experiencing a severe mental health crisis right now, please go to your
local hospital or call 9-1-1. And I'd like you to research for your crisis plan, you know, what are
some of the mental health resources in your area, so what hotlines could you use. Now for example,
in my country and state there are a few resources. There's the national suicide prevention lifeline
and there's Safe Utah. Both of these allow you to chat with a crisis counselor live either on the
phone or through text messaging. And if you'd like to learn more about coping skills and self-care,
you can check out my course on on that topic. The link is in the description. As you work to develop
your coping skills, you'll develop a greater ability to slow yourself down, make better
choices, and get through those crises that do come up. Thank you for watching, and please take care.
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