The Effects of Social Media on Relationships | Mayurakshi Ghosal | TEDxYouth@DAA
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the superficiality of social media-driven friendships, using the example of Snapchat streaks and Instagram posts. It highlights the loss of a close friendship due to reliance on digital interactions over genuine connection. The speaker shares insights from research indicating that overuse of social media can undermine meaningful relationships. They propose practical tips to foster deeper connections, such as spending quality time without phones and engaging in shared activities, emphasizing the importance of face-to-face interactions for building true friendships.
Takeaways
- 📚 The speaker spent a summer in India without internet access, which led to the loss of contact with friends and Snapchat streaks.
- 📱 Snapchat streaks are a measure of daily communication between users, and losing them can signify the end of a friendship for some.
- 👥 The speaker's best friend had developed a new group of friends during the time they were apart, which affected their relationship.
- 💬 The speaker and their best friend's conversations were superficial, consisting mostly of sending black screens to maintain a streak.
- 📷 The realization that past hangouts were focused on taking pictures for social media rather than building a deeper connection.
- 🔍 Research indicates that many teenagers face similar issues with social media affecting the depth of their friendships.
- 📊 An article by Business Insider suggests that losing a Snapchat streak can equate to losing a friendship for some individuals.
- 🧐 A Virginia Tech University study highlights how the mere presence of mobile technology can detract from face-to-face interactions.
- 🤔 The speaker questions the value of texting and social media, suggesting that over-reliance can lead to superficial relationships.
- 💡 The script encourages reflection on what constitutes a meaningful relationship and the impact of social media on friendship quality.
- 🛑 The speaker offers practical advice on how to build more meaningful relationships, including spending time together without phones and engaging in shared activities.
Q & A
What was the main activity the narrator did during their summer in India?
-The narrator spent the summer in India without internet access and had a great time with their cousins and grandparents.
What did the narrator lose contact with during their time in India?
-The narrator lost contact with all their friends and lost all their Snapchat streaks.
What is a Snapchat streak and how does it work?
-A Snapchat streak is a number that appears next to a person's name with whom you share a snap or image every 24 hours. The number increases with the days of continuous sharing, but if either party fails to send a snap within 24 hours, the streak is lost.
Why did the narrator's best friend seem to distance themselves after the summer?
-The best friend distanced herself because they hadn't texted each other in two months, and she had developed closer relationships with others who she texted more frequently.
What did the narrator realize about their friendship with their best friend?
-The narrator realized that their friendship was superficial, mainly consisting of sending black screens to maintain a streak, rather than having meaningful conversations.
What is the narrator's view on the role of social media in building friendships?
-The narrator believes that social media can be a great way to keep in touch but over-dependence on it can lead to the building of superficial relationships rather than meaningful ones.
What research did the narrator find about the impact of social media on friendships?
-The narrator found an article by Business Insider stating that streaks are seen as proof of friendship, and research from Virginia Tech University suggesting that the presence of mobile technologies can undermine the depth of face-to-face connections.
What chemical is released in our bodies when we text, and why is it addictive?
-Dopamine, the pleasure chemical, is released when we text, which is the same chemical released when we fall in love, making texting addictive.
What are some examples of superficial relationships mentioned in the script?
-Examples include valuing a 100-day streak over conversation, crying over lost streaks, and wanting to be friends with someone only because of their aesthetic Instagram photos.
What are some tips the narrator suggests to make friendships more meaningful?
-Tips include forgetting the phone during hangouts, setting limited phone times, engaging in activities without phones, losing streaks for the sake of friendship, and getting to know friends beyond social media.
How can one determine if they have a meaningful bond with a friend according to the script?
-One can determine a meaningful bond by asking if they spend time doing worthwhile activities, feel comfortable asking for help, talk frequently, have a higher level of closeness, and if face-to-face interaction is the main form of communication.
Outlines
📱 The Impact of Social Media on Friendships
The video script discusses the narrator's experience with social media, particularly Snapchat, and how it affected their friendship during a summer in India without internet access. The narrator explains Snapchat streaks and their importance to users, sharing their disappointment when a 100-day streak with a best friend ended due to lack of communication. The script also touches on the superficiality of friendships formed through social media, where the focus is more on maintaining streaks and posting pictures on Instagram for likes rather than genuine connection. The narrator cites research indicating that the presence of mobile technology can undermine the depth of relationships and calls for a reevaluation of how social media influences the quality of friendships.
🤳 Superficial Relationships in the Age of Social Media
This paragraph delves into the concept of superficial relationships fostered by social media platforms like Snapchat and Instagram. The narrator describes how the loss of a Snapchat streak can lead to the perceived end of a friendship and how some people form friendships based on aesthetic Instagram photos rather than genuine personality traits. The script explores the addictive nature of texting due to the release of dopamine, a chemical associated with pleasure and love. It contrasts this with the perceived outdated nature of face-to-face communication among teens. The narrator suggests ways to cultivate more meaningful relationships, such as spending quality time without phones, engaging in activities together, and focusing on getting to know friends on a deeper level beyond social media interactions.
🙌 Cultivating Meaningful Connections Beyond Social Media
The final paragraph of the script emphasizes the importance of moving away from social media dependence to build meaningful relationships. It provides a list of questions from Elite Daily to assess the depth of friendships and offers practical tips for strengthening bonds, such as leaving phones behind during hangouts, setting phone usage limits, engaging in shared activities, and focusing on personal connections beyond social media. The narrator encourages viewers to take action to prevent social media from dominating their lives and to prioritize real, face-to-face interactions to foster deeper and more meaningful relationships.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Snapchat
💡Internet
💡Streak
💡Friendship
💡Superficial Relationships
💡Meaningful Relationships
💡Dopamine
💡Social Media
💡Face-to-Face Interaction
💡Polaroid Camera
Highlights
The narrator spent the summer in India without internet access, leading to a disconnection from friends and loss of Snapchat streaks.
Snapchat streaks are a way to measure the duration of daily communication between users, which can be lost if communication stops for 24 hours.
The narrator's best friend developed a new group of friends during the narrator's absence, highlighting the impact of communication gaps on friendships.
The realization that the narrator's friendship with the best friend was superficial, based on maintaining a Snapchat streak rather than genuine connection.
The superficial nature of some friendships, where the main interaction is sending black screens to maintain streaks.
The narrator's observation that past hangouts with the best friend were more about taking pictures for Instagram than getting to know each other.
Research findings showing that social media streaks can be a false indicator of the depth of friendships.
The potential for mobile technology to undermine the depth of face-to-face interactions, as suggested by research from Virginia Tech University.
The narrator's motivation to share thoughts on the impact of social media on meaningful versus superficial relationships.
Examples of superficial relationships, such as valuing streaks over genuine friendship or basing friendships on Instagram aesthetics.
The addictive nature of texting due to the release of dopamine, the pleasure chemical in the brain.
The preference of texting over face-to-face communication among teens, as highlighted by the Huffington Post.
Strategies to make relationships more meaningful, such as spending quality time without phones and engaging in shared activities.
The importance of knowing friends beyond their social media presence, including understanding their family, likes, and dislikes.
Questions from Elite Daily to assess the depth of friendships, focusing on the quality of interaction and communication.
Advice on building meaningful relationships by reducing reliance on social media and focusing on face-to-face interactions.
The narrator's call to action for listeners to reassess their friendships and social media habits to foster deeper connections.
Transcripts
hey guys can you just all help me out of
here I'll help me out here a little I
wanted to post something on my snapchat
story so could you all just smile there
let me just put a cute filter okay and
it's posted okay
so let me tell you all the story I spent
all of last summer in India where I
didn't have access to the Internet at
all without internet I had a great time
with my cousins and my grandparents but
I lost contact with all my friends and I
lost all my snapchats cheeks as well so
for those of you who don't use snapchat
it's basically an app where people chat
through pictures a snapchat streak is a
number that appears next to the name of
a person with whom you share a snap or
an image every 24 hours and this number
increases with the amount of days that
you have sent a snap to one another but
if one of you forgets to send a snap or
just doesn't send a snap at all within
24 hours the new and your friend lose
the streak and you guys have to start
over because a lot of snapchat users
maintain so many streaks it's become
easier for many of them to do this
faster for every single day by just
sending a plain black screen to all of
the people they maintain streaks with
now back to my story so on the first day
of school I was very excited to meet
everyone especially my best friend whom
I hadn't texted or seen in two months
but a few days into school I started to
realize that my best friend had another
group of friends and I felt like she
didn't really want to talk to me anymore
and why did this happen it was because
we had in texted each other in two
months and she texted other people more
than me so they became her best friends
she was also kind of annoyed that I lost
a hundred day snap streak that we had at
this point I started to realize that our
friendship was nothing but sending black
screens to each other for a hundred days
just to keep a streak going let me give
you an example of what our conversation
looked like so let's say on Sunday I
woke up and
around 10:00 a.m. I sent her this and
then a few hours went by and she opened
my snap and she replied with this and
then the next day morning I woke up and
the first thing I did was check my phone
and I decided to reply with this and
then she probably got bored of our
conversation so she decided to change it
up a little and she replied with this
and this was basically the only
conversation that we had for a hundred
days I also started to realize that our
past hangouts were only of us taking
tons of pictures to post on Instagram
and texting our other friends about just
how much fun we were having Instagram is
another social media platform where
people share photos and videos with
their followers the followers are the
people who are able to view and like the
photos of the people who post so when I
realized that my best friend and I spent
so much time just clicking pictures and
then choosing which one to post and then
looking at how much how many likes each
photo got I was really shocked because
even though we were together all this
time we really didn't know each other
very well so I did some research on this
and I found out that I wasn't the only
one that there were other teens in a
similar situation an article by Business
Insider said that streaks were a proof
of friendship Peter Santa Anna an 18
year old living in Honolulu said if you
lose your streak you lose your
friendship Katie Clark another teenager
told Business Insider on snapchat
streaks develop a level of friendship
between people the longer your snap
streak is the better friends you are and
a fellow sophomore at DAA told me I have
21 streaks but I only chat with a few of
them on an everyday basis after some
more research I came across an article
by Virginia Tech University wherein
Shalini Mishra the leader of the tech
team the leader of the research team
said even without active use the
presence of mobile technologies has the
potential to divert individuals from
face-to-face
actions thereby undermining the depth
and character of these connections so
I'm sure I was able to make sense of
this completely I was motivated to share
my thoughts on meaningful and
superficial relationships and how social
media can really have a huge impact on
friendships apps such as social media
apps such as snapchat and Instagram
could be a great way to keep in touch
with friends and friends and family but
over dependence on these could lead many
people especially teenagers to
unknowingly build relationships that are
meaningless let me give you a few
examples of superficial relationships we
have a hundred day streak together we're
best friends we don't have a streak
we're not really that close I've even
heard stories where teens cry because a
high number streak was lost or all of
their streaks were lost sometimes moving
on from snapchat people want to be
friends with a person only because the
photos they post on Instagram are
aesthetic and not because of their
overall personality not because they're
funny sweet kind or smart and I find
this to be a very big problem so why do
people value texting so much why is it
so addictive and why is it considered
better than talking texting releases a
chemical in our body called dopamine
this is the pleasure chemical that makes
us happier there's the same chemical
that is released in our body when we
fall in love according to Fisher @al and
this is why texting is so addictive and
it gives us so much pleasure
also as Huffington Post writes talking
is considered an old-folks thing by many
teens and texting is considered to be
quicker and more efficient and for these
reasons we tend to get addicted to
texting and social media which ruins our
relationships and causes us to build
superficial friendships and stead of
meaningful ones now what do I mean when
I say a meaningful relationship it's
basically a kind of bond that is very
special it's a kind of bond that you can
share with only a few people like your
best friend or your really close friends
now I'll ask you some questions that I
got from an online newspaper called
elite daily and if your answer is
definitely a yes for all of these then
you and your friends definitely share a
meaningful bond with one another
here goes the questions when you hang
out do you spend most of your time
together doing something worthwhile or
talking about something worthwhile do
you feel comfortable asking them for
help and will they actually help you
talk to them frequently not just a few
times a year do you consider yourself to
have a higher level of closeness with
this person then you have with all of
the other people you interact with and
lastly is face-to-face interaction your
main form of communication if your
answer was an O or even a maybe then
here are some ways to make your
relationship more meaningful way number
one forget your phone - a hangout
eliminate any excuses to bring your
phone along for example meet at
someone's house so communication doesn't
become a problem
bring a Polaroid camera with you with
which you could take pictures so you
don't have to use your phone use a
landline at your friend's whorehouse to
call your driver your parents while
picking you up in this way you'll
actually be able to spend some quality
time with your friends instead of your
smartphone way number two if completely
being off the phone is too hard then
take baby steps set a limited time for
your phone when you're hanging out with
your friends and help each other out in
this way number three engage yourselves
in other activities like cooking or
baking or going for a walk or jog
together anything that doesn't involve
your phone or any other social media
apps this will also help you and your
friends make some memories together
because imagine if the only memory of
you and your friend being together was
when both of you were on your phones
we're number four lose all of the
streaks that you keep just for the sake
of having a streak rather than for the
sake of friendship or conversation ask
yourself if you really know the person
with whom you have
highest cheeks and if you would like to
know someone with whom you don't share a
streak
and lastly way number five get to know
your friends better and by knowing I
don't mean who stalk them on social
media or which angle they look best in
while taking a photo or at which time of
the day they send streaks I mean that's
good to know but go beyond get to know
their family better get to know their
likes and dislikes their favorite
pastimes remember that these tips are
the building blocks of a relationship
and they can't be done overnight
they take time to implement and if you
and your friends really commit to
following them for at least a month or
two then you'll definitely be able to
get into a habit of following them
thereafter and hopefully be able to
bring some depth to your relationship
overall it's completely ok to use apps
such as snapchat and Instagram but if
you get too attached to these it could
ruin your relationships especially your
friendships by changing your habits now
you can stop social media from taking
control over your life before it's too
late
thank you
関連動画をさらに表示
CYBERBULLYING PSA "953K - Inspiring Action Against Cyberbullying" - MusEffect & Azure Antoinette
The Art of Healthy Communication in the Digital Age | Ayesha Shakil | TEDxWinchesterSchoolJebelAli
قبل ما السنة تخلص والوقت يضيع! Darth Vader version
Dating In The Modern World: 7 Essential Actions | Naftali Moses
A ânsia de ter, e o tédio de possuir
Como "Seduzir" Pela Internet? (Linguagem Corporal - Metaforando)
5.0 / 5 (0 votes)