3 SECRETS to AVOID DRY Text Conversations
Summary
TLDRThe video script delves into the art of texting to maintain and enhance attraction in dating scenarios. It criticizes common but ineffective approaches like asking mundane questions and emphasizes the need for playfulness, flirtation, and sparking emotional investment. The speaker outlines three secrets to avoid dull conversations, including ignoring uninteresting questions and focusing on emotional engagement across a spectrum of feelings. The script promises to transform viewers' texting game, aiming to make them stand out like 'Adonis' rather than blending in as a 'Jeffrey'.
Takeaways
- 😀 Responding immediately to a text after a long wait might not be the best strategy to build attraction.
- 😅 Avoid stalking social media profiles of potential partners as it can lead to negative assumptions and jealousy.
- 🤔 Recognize that being overly interested in someone's daily activities can come off as dry and unattractive.
- 🚫 Stop asking boring questions like 'what are you up to?' as they can kill the conversation and show lack of creativity.
- 💬 Be playful, flirty, and a bit sexual in your text messages to keep the conversation engaging and interesting.
- 🤩 Show confidence by not always answering every question directly, especially if it leads to a boring conversation.
- 🔥 Ignoring a boring question and moving on to something more exciting can demonstrate high value and keep the conversation lively.
- 💭 Make her think about you constantly by evoking a range of emotions, not just positive ones.
- 😎 Being emotionally invested in someone is more important than just being attracted to them; it's about occupying their thoughts.
- 🏋️♂️ Improve physical appearance with workout routines to enhance attractiveness, as suggested in the video description.
- 🛌 Learn from common bedroom mistakes by watching the private video linked in the description to avoid ruining relationships.
Q & A
What is the main issue that the speaker addresses in the video?
-The speaker addresses the issue of ineffective texting strategies that men often use when communicating with women, which can lead to dry conversations and a lack of attraction.
What does the speaker suggest is a common mistake men make when texting women?
-The speaker suggests that men often make the mistake of asking boring questions such as 'What are you up to?' which leads to uninteresting and dry conversations.
What is the first secret to avoiding dry conversations according to the speaker?
-The first secret is to stop asking boring questions and instead be playful, flirty, and sexual in the conversation to keep it engaging and attractive.
What is the second secret the speaker mentions for texting women?
-The second secret is to make the woman emotionally invested in the conversation by making her think about the man more, even if it involves evoking a range of emotions, not just positive ones.
What is the third secret the speaker reveals for effective texting?
-The third secret is to not let the conversation be led by the woman's boring questions, but to ignore them and move on to more exciting topics to maintain attraction.
Why does the speaker say that most guys are 'Jeffries' in the context of dating?
-The term 'Jeffries' is used to describe men who are not successful in dating and relationships because they lack the confidence and the right approach to texting and attracting women.
What is the analogy used by the speaker to describe a 'beta male' version of himself?
-The speaker uses the analogy of a 'beta male' who looks like him but is less attractive and less confident, having a long Snapchat streak with a girl but not being able to maintain her interest.
What is the character 'Adonis' in the script supposed to represent?
-Adonis represents the ultimate male archetype who is confident, not overly eager, and prioritizes his work, which paradoxically makes him more attractive to women like Anastasia.
What does the speaker imply about the effectiveness of traditional dating advice?
-The speaker implies that traditional dating advice, which often includes taking an interest in a woman's life, is not effective for attracting women and can actually be counterproductive.
What is the speaker's opinion on taking advice from women regarding dating?
-The speaker believes that taking advice from women on dating is not helpful because most women cannot pinpoint what they are actually attracted to and often give advice that is not effective.
What are the 'three bedroom mistakes' the speaker mentions in the video?
-While the specific mistakes are not detailed in the script, the speaker mentions that there is a private video discussing the three worst mistakes men make in the bedroom when their relationship becomes serious.
Outlines
📱 Over-Texting and the Attraction Dilemma
The first paragraph discusses the pitfalls of over-texting and the negative impression it can create. It describes a scenario where a man named Jeffrey obsessively texts a girl and checks her social media, leading to a realization that she's spending time with another man. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of not being overly eager in text conversations and introduces the concept of 'Jeffries' as men who fail to attract women due to their lack of confidence and poor texting skills. It also introduces 'Adonis' as the archetype of a man who commands attention and attraction through his confidence and work ethic, contrasting him with 'Jeffries.' The speaker encourages self-awareness and the willingness to improve one's social and texting skills.
😜 Playful Texting to Avoid Dry Conversations
This paragraph focuses on the second secret of effective texting: being playful, flirty, and slightly sexual. It argues against the common advice of showing interest in a woman's life through mundane questions, which the speaker deems unattractive. Instead, the speaker suggests adopting a fun and teasing approach to messaging, which can lead to a more engaging and emotionally stimulating interaction. The importance of not being one-dimensional and not just trying to make the woman like you, but rather making her think about you, is highlighted. The speaker also warns against letting the conversation become boring by answering questions that don't add value or excitement to the interaction.
🚫 Ignoring Questions to Maintain Attraction
The third paragraph delves into the unconventional strategy of ignoring questions that could lead to uninteresting conversations. It suggests that instead of responding to every question, one should move on to more exciting topics to keep the interaction lively. This tactic is portrayed as a sign of confidence and can make a woman more intrigued and emotionally invested. The speaker acknowledges that this approach might seem socially abnormal but asserts its effectiveness in maintaining and growing attraction. The paragraph also introduces a bonus secret: making a woman emotionally invested by evoking a wide range of emotions, not just positive ones, which can lead to a deeper connection and attraction.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Beta Male
💡Jeffrey
💡Adonis
💡Attraction
💡Playful
💡Flirty
💡Sexual
💡Emotional Investment
💡Ghosting
💡Confidence
💡One-Dimensional
Highlights
The importance of not responding immediately to texts to create intrigue.
Avoiding the temptation to stalk someone's social media can prevent negative impressions.
Recognizing the difference between being just a friend and being a romantic interest.
The concept of being the 'ultimate male' by prioritizing work over chasing after attention.
The power of a singular, well-crafted text message in commanding attraction.
Admitting personal shortcomings in social interactions is the first step to improvement.
The ineffectiveness of generic and boring questions in text conversations.
The mistake of taking an interest in a girl's life through text can come off as self-centered.
Being playful, flirty, and sexual in text conversations can spark attraction.
The strategy of making a woman emotionally invested in you rather than just liked.
Ignoring boring questions and moving on to more engaging topics can maintain attraction.
The bold approach of not answering questions directly can intrigue and attract.
The idea that evoking a range of emotions, not just positive ones, can deepen attraction.
The paradox that being 'impossible' or challenging can make a man more attractive.
Free resources offered for improving physical attractiveness and understanding bedroom mistakes.
The encouragement to do the hard work, especially when it's challenging.
Transcripts
he's finally texted me after four days
yes I'm gonna respond straight away
that'll get her I'll do it Jeffrey don't
do it no response yet and so Jeffrey
starts to stalk her Instagram story
she's with another guy oh yeah he he's
just they're just friends yeah they're
just friends
oh [ __ ] that just that just gave me a
[ __ ] redfill bro I'm gonna stop the
[ __ ] intro right here there was a
girl like I sound horrible by saying
this but she had like more of a beta
male version of me like he looked like
me but less attractive and less
confident and he and her had a 48 day
Snapchat streak like story thing like so
they had texted each other every single
day for 48 days which is like what two
months almost and every single time she
would put me on her story at night time
in the back of her car he would start
blown up if I was there and every single
time I would see her even be repulsed by
this guy's messages and send him the
same messages back what tanza he's just
my friend I was just her friend and she
was naked when she sent that message to
him Adonis
Adonis notices Anastasia walking past
him he gives her a confident smile even
a little wing and then he goes right
back to his work Anastasia is left
wondering why he isn't running up to her
like all of the Jeffries but it makes
sense he is the ultimate male after all
and work is his priority she's waiting
and waiting and waiting for his text
message and when it finally comes my God
what a text that is instantly she is so
excited to see him how did Adonis
command this much attraction from
Anastasia just from his singular text
message that's what Adonis is going to
teach us today before we begin you need
to admit that you are someone who
probably needs this advice in this video
you need to hold your hand up right now
because most guys can't do this most
guys are Jeffries and they can't even
admit that they're not like excellent in
a certain area you need to hold your
hand up and say you know what I often do
get into dry conversations through text
I often do text the girl and the
attraction that we may have had just
diminishes because I'm not amazing at
texting before I've never really
actively improved my texting game I just
text however my default Jeffrey brain
tells me to do and it's not been that
effective so far if you can relate to
that experience you need to hold your
hand up and just kind of say like yeah
you know what I kind of need this video
most guys will never do this they've got
this arrogant sense of like yeah I'm so
sick a girl should like me and they're
lonely they stay like that forever when
I was 17 18 19 21 22 I totally admitted
to myself that I wasn't good with girls
and that I need to constantly keep
improving so that I could get what I
want which was love and relationships I
had that humility to hold my hand up and
say I need to improve this area of my
life and that's why I made progress the
three secrets that we're gonna cover and
one of these is my best one my personal
one that no one has ever told you about
because it's gonna seem so silly that
every other YouTuber every other person
you've ever asked for dating advice
they'll think that it's weird you try it
once and you'll be like oh [ __ ] okay
this is how I'm gonna text for the rest
of my life my friend Sam has done this
and every single time he uses this
certain like tactic that I taught him he
always comes to me like we always laugh
about how stupid it is but how it just
has worked to actually get what we want
most guys will never have the confidence
to do it because it seems a bit weird
but first of all the first secret to
avoiding dry conversations and this was
something that I did so many times stop
asking boring ass questions never ever
will you ever ask a girl trust me never
ask a girl ever again what are you up to
haha that used to be my first message
that I would send to girls on Tinder I
remember that I finally got two matches
on Cinder bro I made my account it took
me like three days this was you know 16
17 years old I got two matches of girls
that weren't even attractive and I sent
them both what you up to haha both of
them disappeared the next time I opened
the app and I was like no no you know if
one disappeared she could have unmatched
me but there's no way that both of them
would match me broke I went on to the
other little Cog icon I clicked on that
went on to the help I sent their tech
support a ticket saying that I've
mysteriously lost my matches I'm gonna
say that again my texting was so dry
that I lost both of my matches in an
event that felt like there was a tech
issue never ever will you ever ask the
girl hey what you doing haha there was
another girl that I met from Tinder I
told this story just recently and my
friend helped me to get her phone number
like I asked them what to say I got a
phone number and our conversation like
it actually like you know was very for a
long period of time because she kept she
never rejected me she just you know gave
me dry conversation and every single day
I would message her hey what are you
doing and she would literally reply TV
space you the letter U question mark
XXX
do you think I ever even met her in
person never mind even dating her or
sleeping with her obviously not the guy
that these girls are sleeping with are
not asking them these boring ass
questions like taking an interest in
their lives I know that seems silly
because I know that every other piece of
advice that you've probably seen online
what's like that the blue pill good boy
feeling that all these other people have
told you on how to attract girls
no absolutely not I'm telling you right
now that's not the way to attract a girl
at all think about it what is the usual
common experience of a girl who's kind
of annoyed at the guy who keeps [ __ ]
her and won't commit that kind of guy is
he there like taking an interest oh my
God okay so you've got science class and
then Matt's class and then you've got to
watch Steve no he's literally just
taking an interest in himself that kind
of guy is quite selfish and the thing is
women will ever be able to openly admit
these things this is why we don't ever
take advice from women in terms of
dating because most women I say about 99
can't really pinpoint what they're
actually attracted to women will say oh
you know I really want the guy who cares
about me every guy that they're [ __ ]
is quite selfish and self-interested so
asking these questions to take an
interest in their life it's not what the
guys are doing that she's actually
falling for so what are they doing well
they're using secret number two which is
to be playful flirty and sexual these
guys are not asking her these dry
questions like oh wait what are you
gonna do after science club the kind of
guys that are actually sleeping with
these girls actually dating these girls
these girls are obsessed with these
girls are like crying because this guy's
not replying guess what these guys
actually are like they don't care about
what she's doing they're just having
like a fun time messaging her and like
playing around with her so so far we've
covered that you're not gonna act like
the guys who get left on red which are
taking an interest in life because
that's not attractive even though every
girl will tell you it is it's so weird
because it's like I'm telling you to do
something which girls will tell you
doesn't work and yeah it will work
you'll never find a girl who's totally
obsessed with the guy who takes an
interest in their lives just as simple
as that if there is anyone like that if
there is any relationships like that
it's usually that the guy's really
feminine the girl's really masculine and
the guy's just obsessed with her and
while she wants to go and do her career
and [ __ ] which probably isn't the kind
of relationship that you want if you're
a masculine guy when a feminine woman if
you want a woman who's more taking an
interest in you whilst you take an
interest in your work so the way to then
text the girl is to always hold this
kind of like funny flirty playful
attitude when you text that there's no
dry oh what are you gonna do it's more
like I bet you're stepping on snails
right now that's a [ __ ] random one I
bet like that's let's just just try that
bro instead of ever asking to go oh what
are you doing right now literally just
send another message I bet you're
stepping on snails right now I'm gonna
send that as your first Tinder message I
guarantee you'll get more responses then
hey how are you doing to attract a woman
it isn't even about making her like you
every guy who's actually successful with
women knows this and every guy who's not
good with women maybe you doesn't know
this every [ __ ] boy every player the
guys who have been Ultra successful with
women know what it is you don't have to
make a woman like you you just have to
make a woman emotionally invested into
you you have to Simply make her think
more about you and she will fall for you
it's as simple as that you have to take
up more brain space for her the little
chump who's one dimensional and takes an
interest in her and just asks her how
she's doing well he doesn't take up that
space because she's just thinking oh
yeah it's boring Chomp he's not
mysterious is yep that's what I expected
him to say I expected him to send me a
chumpy message he did okay sweet so
you're not confirmed no need to think
about him anymore but Chad why won't he
reply back and why did he just reply
back with like a seemingly insult now
she's thinking about this Chad guy and
she's taking a screenshot sending it to
her friends like what does this mean did
she say he said that I'm stepping on
snails what does he mean you make her
think about something you act playful
and flirty and a little bit sexual I bet
you're watching step brother porn right
now now obviously you've got to kind of
know your audience and you don't want to
do this with some girls offended or
something but the thing is the guy who's
actually getting this girl doesn't even
give a [ __ ] if she's offended you don't
need to like steal my lines but you need
to just come up with something that
actually makes you laugh the whole point
of this is that you're this like
authentic high value guy who's literally
just doing whatever you want so don't
just completely copy my sentences but
find something that literally makes you
laugh like you can't stop laughing as
you're about to send it to her like
you're just playing with it you're just
teasing her and when you've done that I
guarantee that if this girl is actually
attracted to your normal natural
masculine energy she's gonna be totally
into you she's gonna text you back
something great and she's gonna take an
interest in you and this is actually
where most guys [ __ ] up so you may have
done this before you may have actually
been quite attractive to a girl she's
actually texting you she's interested in
you it seems all great you might even go
meet up and then she just kind of
disappears she stops replying she starts
ghosting you so many guys have been
through this and they don't realize the
most important secret that we need to
cover which is my special one which will
save you from this experience of you
know actually doing well with a girl and
then falling off the guys who know what
to do at this point usually won't tell
you because you know if I tell you this
you're gonna start like taking more
girls and I don't want you to do that
but you know what I'm gonna tell you and
it's gonna seem weird and you're not
going to implement it but maybe one
percent of people who watch this video
are gonna implemented actually think
okay [ __ ] I'm gonna use this tactic for
the rest of my life and are you ready
secret number three and the most
important most weird that you're
probably not going to implement because
you're too soft for this do not let her
burn the conversation to the ground
quite frankly a lot of girls are boring
as [ __ ] most guys will let a woman take
the lead a girl will take interest in
them you know the guy said something
nice so the guys look attractive and the
girl will send them a message like also
what are you up to right now hey how you
doing the girl will ask these questions
and guys will get they oh my God guys
she's asking me a question well she's
taking it inside yeah I'm good how are
you no reply she sent you a message
asking how you are you reply because you
know she's just taking an interest in
you and then she doesn't reply to you
what most guys don't understand what the
[ __ ] just happened because some girls
when they start to lead the text message
conversation and they start to ask you
the question and it's natural for you to
answer and then ask them oh what are you
what do you think about the same topic
it is boring guess what most guys would
do and it's the worst thing possible to
do to maintain or even grow her
attraction it's something that you do
all the time even though it seems Common
Sense she asks a question guess what
most guys do they answer the question
most guys by answering her shitty boring
question will make the conversation just
die out because now you're in this
boring conversation about oh how are you
do you want to know what secret number
three actually looks like in a practical
sense and you might not even have the
confidence to do this because it seems
quite socially abnormal she will ask you
a boring ass question this will come up
it's almost a trap and you move on as if
she hasn't even said that you just move
on to the next thing that you wanted to
say what are you doing tonight are you
free at 6pm it's gonna seem a little bit
like you're autistic this is why most
guys don't have the confidence for this
she's going to ask you a question and
the normal social thing to do is to
respond to the question and move on no
no she's going to ask this boring ass
question and you're going to reply with
something that's just instantly more
exciting and attractive even though it
seems like it's so weird like you've not
answered this question girls are so
attracted to a guy who does this that
they don't even usually pick up on this
sometimes a girl will play oh you didn't
ask my question secret number three
which I'm sure that most guys are never
going to use because you need a level of
confidence for this most guys are
[ __ ] honestly it's probably you I'm
not gonna lie it probably is you right
just probably this but if you weren't a
[ __ ] and if you really wanted to get
this girl you wouldn't allow her to burn
the conversation to the ground and she
doesn't really mean to do this when a
girl takes an interest in you and asks
you questions that's a good sign but
most guys take that good sign and they
ruin it by answering her question and
then the conversation just stands out
the best thing you can do when she asks
you a question that's gonna lead to a
boring part of the conversation just
ignore it completely ignore it
completely send a message as if you've
not even seen that straight away when
she sent you some boring ass [ __ ] a
question you reply with the secret
number two like a quick statement
accusation like a little playful thing
like hey how are you I bet you're
watching Step Brothers porn right now
just because it's literally she's gonna
remember you so much more than the
[ __ ] Dewey who replies yeah I'm good
how are you honestly you want the best
secrets for getting girls secret number
four bonus secret just make her
emotionally invested in you do whatever
it takes to make her think about you the
most most guys most girls will never be
able to tell you this even the guys who
do this themselves don't even know what
they're doing I'm telling you right now
there is one secret way one absolute way
to make a girl obsessed with you just
make her think about you all the time
most guys are too impossy for this and
they'll only want her to think about
them in the positive sense the real
Chads the real [ __ ] boys the real
players the guy who gets so many girls
because they're just [ __ ] good at
navigating women they know for a fact
it's not just about her thinking
positive things in her mind it's about
making her angry making her upset making
her emotional making her excited every
spectrum of the emotion for guys for us
to like a girl it's only one Spectrum
it's just like attraction it's just
liking them for a girl to like us it's
this whole spectrum of like the more
emotions excitement horror anxiety
stress happiness all these ones
literally there's hundreds of motions
the more that you can tap into the more
that she's gonna be be into most guys
are going to be too afraid to do this
they're going to struggle with girls for
the rest of their lives but if you can
just somewhat agree with this message
and just try it next time obviously
don't get put in jail or anything but
just remember this concept of okay you
want to hit the spectrum of emotions
you'll realize the truth behind
attracting girls is so simple it's just
that we as men have been trying to
attract girls in the way that we would
be attracted to a girl which is okay
like we've got to like him for a girl to
be attracted to you and actually want to
[ __ ] you it's not even about just
attraction it's just about emotional
Investments this is why the guy like the
Chads Drive women insane crazy this is
why you often see girls complaining and
get angry about the guy that they're
[ __ ] they're [ __ ] them and they're
not even thinking positively about them
and so here's you the one-dimensional
jump just trying to make her happy you
hit one one little part of the emotional
Circle that's the one overpowered
absolutely overpowered like something
I've just told you there most guys are
not going to use it but maybe if you do
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