SECRET Questions That Make Younger Women CHASE Older Men | Stoicism
Summary
TLDRThis video reveals how older men can attract younger women through strategic conversation. It emphasizes using specific questions to establish standards, validate qualities, and demonstrate authority. By setting standards subtly, validating women's achievements meaningfully, and showcasing knowledge discreetly, men can create a dynamic where women pursue them. The key is to make interactions feel like a game of chess, not checkers, keeping the woman engaged and interested. The video encourages practice and refinement of these techniques to build genuine and attractive connections.
Takeaways
- 😊 Chasing a girl often results in losing her, but making her chase you can be more effective.
- 🧠 Strategic conversation is key to making younger women chase you; it's more about how you interact than what you say.
- 🔍 Asking the right questions can make her do most of the talking, relieving pressure from you.
- ♟️ Use 'Chase trigger questions' to change the power dynamics and make her chase you.
- 🏆 Establish standards by asking questions that subtly communicate what you're looking for in a woman.
- 📚 Validate her by acknowledging achievements she has worked for, not just complimenting her appearance.
- 👑 Demonstrate authority through subtle questions that showcase your knowledge without bragging.
- 🎯 Keep the incentive just out of reach to maintain her curiosity and interest.
- 🕵️♂️ Pay close attention to what she values most about herself and validate those qualities.
- 💡 The goal is to create genuine and attractive connections through strategic interactions.
Q & A
What is the main premise of the video?
-The main premise of the video is that by asking strategic questions, men can change the power dynamic in conversations with women, making the women chase them instead of the other way around.
Why is it important to ask the right questions in conversations with women?
-Asking the right questions is important because it takes the pressure off the man, allows the woman to do most of the talking, and helps establish a connection. It also subtly communicates the man's standards and expectations, which can make the woman more interested in him.
What are the three types of questions that can make a woman chase you?
-The three types of questions are: questions that establish a standard, questions that validate her efforts and achievements, and questions that demonstrate the man's authority and knowledge.
How do questions that establish a standard work?
-Questions that establish a standard subtly communicate what the man values in a woman. For example, instead of stating his preferences directly, he can ask about her interests or experiences that align with his standards. This makes her feel the need to meet his standards, prompting her to chase him.
Can you provide an example of a standard-setting question?
-An example of a standard-setting question is: 'What was the last good book you read?' This question subtly communicates that the man values intelligence and reading without directly stating it.
What makes validation questions effective?
-Validation questions are effective because they acknowledge and appreciate the woman's efforts and achievements rather than just her appearance. This creates a deeper connection and makes her feel understood and valued.
Can you give an example of a validation question?
-An example of a validation question is: 'What's the most challenging dish you've ever cooked, and how was the experience?' This question validates her passion for cooking and shows genuine interest in her skills and efforts.
How do authority-demonstrating questions differ from simply stating one's expertise?
-Authority-demonstrating questions subtly show the man's knowledge and expertise without coming across as bragging. By asking questions that use specific jargon or insider knowledge, the man can demonstrate his authority in a way that piques the woman's curiosity and respect.
What is an example of an authority-demonstrating question?
-An example of an authority-demonstrating question is: 'Are you a full editor or an assistant editor?' This question shows that the man understands the nuances of the editorial field, impressing the woman without explicitly stating his own role.
What is the overall goal of using these strategic questions in conversations?
-The overall goal of using these strategic questions is to shift the power dynamic, making the woman more interested in and motivated to pursue the man. This approach creates a more engaging and attractive interaction, laying the foundation for a lasting connection.
Outlines
🤔 Strategic Conversation for Attraction
This paragraph discusses the concept of strategic conversation to attract women, particularly younger ones, by asking the right questions instead of simply chasing them. It emphasizes the importance of setting standards, validating qualities, and demonstrating authority subtly. The speaker introduces the idea of 'Chase trigger' questions that prompt a woman to pursue a man, and outlines three types of questions to achieve this: those that establish a standard, validate, and demonstrate authority. The goal is to create a gradual change in the power dynamic by using these questions to build interest and attraction.
📚 Establishing Standards Through Questions
The speaker explains the importance of establishing personal standards when interacting with women and how to communicate these standards subtly through questions. It suggests that by asking about a woman's interests or experiences, such as the last good book she read or her travel adventures, a man can show what he values without being blunt. This approach not only demonstrates the man's standards but also encourages the woman to meet them, thereby initiating a chase dynamic. The paragraph also touches on playful teasing as a method to create tension and curiosity, further engaging the woman in the interaction.
🔍 Validating Interests for Deeper Connections
This paragraph focuses on the technique of validation as a means to communicate genuine interest in a woman beyond mere physical appearance. It argues that acknowledging a woman's achievements or skills can create a deeper and more meaningful connection. The speaker illustrates this with a story about John and Anna, where John validates Anna's passion for travel and cooking through specific questions, which keeps Anna engaged and curious. The story demonstrates the effectiveness of listening attentively, identifying key qualities, and validating them through questions to establish a unique and attractive connection.
👑 Demonstrating Authority to Spark Curiosity
The final paragraph discusses the power of demonstrating authority or expertise in a field of interest to a woman as an attraction trigger. It suggests using well-placed questions that show inside knowledge or specific jargon to subtly establish authority, as illustrated in a story about John and Maria. By asking Maria about her role in the editorial field, John impresses her with his understanding of the industry. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of not bragging but sparking curiosity and making the woman want to know more about the man's expertise, thereby creating an attractive and engaging interaction.
👋 Conclusion: Mastering the Art of Strategic Questions
In conclusion, the speaker summarizes the importance of using strategic questions to shift power dynamics in interactions with women, especially for older men wishing to attract younger women. The techniques involve setting standards, validating qualities, and demonstrating authority in a way that is subtle and effective. The speaker encourages practice and refinement of these skills to create genuine and attractive connections, and thanks the audience for watching, inviting them to like, subscribe, and share the video, as well as to leave comments.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Chase Trigger Questions
💡Standards
💡Validation
💡Authority
💡Incentive
💡Healthy Tension
💡Golden Mirror Principle
💡Strategic Conversation
💡Deeper Connection
💡Engagement
Highlights
Chasing a girl means losing her, but if you can get her to chase you, then she is yours.
The most effective way to get younger women to chase you is through strategic conversation.
It's not so much about what you say but how you conduct the interaction.
Ask the right questions to make her do most of the talking, taking the pressure off you.
Three types of questions can make a woman chase you: questions that establish a standard, validate, and demonstrate authority.
Standard-establishing questions provide an incentive for her to chase you by communicating your standards subtly.
Validation questions tap into the principle of the golden mirror, making her desire your approval.
Authority-demonstrating questions subtly showcase your dominance and knowledge, establishing your value.
Establishing a standard subtly shows what you're looking for and gives her something to chase.
Validation is more gratifying than meaningless compliments because it speaks to her achievements.
Listen attentively and recognize qualities she values in herself to validate her effectively.
Demonstrating authority involves using specific jargon and inside knowledge subtly.
Standard-setting questions communicate your expectations without disrupting the flow of conversation.
Validating her interests creates a more meaningful bond and makes her feel understood.
Using strategic questions can change traditional power dynamics in interactions.
Transcripts
chasing a girl means losing her if
chasing a girl means losing her then the
opposite is also true if you can get a
girl to chase you then she is yours and
if you are an older man the most
effective way to get younger women to
chase you is through strategic
conversation it's not so much about what
you say but how you conduct the
interaction the key is in asking the
right questions when you know which
questions to ask she will do most of the
talking which takes the pressure off you
to today in this video we're going to
change the power Dynamic by asking the
right questions most men ask questions
just to keep the conversation going
which is like playing checkers right but
I'm about to show you how to play chess
where every question you ask is a
strategic move to make her chase you but
before we get to the questions let's
quickly review why specific questions
what I like to call Chase trigger
questions can make a woman chase you
especially a younger woman because
typically men chase women which almost
always fails to make a woman chase you
she needs a reason to do so and today we
will cover three types of questions that
make a woman chase you for three
different reasons first we have
questions that establish a standard
these questions provide an incentive
that prompts her to chase you next we
will cover questions that validate these
tap into the principle of the golden
mirror making her desire your approval
finally we will cover questions that
demonstrate Authority these allow you to
subtly showcase your dominance and
knowledge establishing your value we
will use these three triggers incentives
validation and value to turn the tables
and make her chase you but keep in mind
that this will be a gradual achievement
not an immediate change the goal is to
introduce a Chase trigger and then build
on it with follow-up questions that fuel
her interest now that we have
established the foundation let's dive
into the
questions number one questions establish
a standard if you want a woman to chase
you you need to give her something to
chase which means you need to establish
a standard and to establish a standard
you need to know what your standards are
as an older man this shouldn't be too
difficult you should already know what
you're looking for in a woman and you
probably do however what you probably
don't do or at least don't do
effectively is communicate these
standards to the women you're
interacting with most men don't
establish standards and this usually
means the woman sets the standard which
makes him chase her leading to her
losing interest even if you are one of
the few men who feel comfortable
expressing your standards to a woman you
are likely doing it somewhat
bluntly because simply listing your
standards and expectations almost always
comes off as a cold shower right while
it's good that you are setting a
standard you are doing it at the cost of
disrupting the vibe a much better way to
communicate your standards is to
incorporate them into a question so so
instead of saying I like intelligent
women you can ask what was the last good
book you read or let's say you like
well-traveled or adventurous women you
can ask about the craziest place she has
ever visited or the last country she
stamped on her passport by establishing
a standard this way you do a few
essential things right first you show
her that you have standards but you do
it subtly because you would only ask
about the last good book she read
because it matters to you which
communicates what you're looking for and
gives her something to Chase
even if she hasn't read a good book in
years if she tries to answer the
question it sets the stage that she is
trying to meet your standards which gets
her in the habit of chasing you now if a
woman doesn't respond to the question
for instance if she says something like
oh I don't read it's not the worst thing
actually because it opens the door for
playful teasing whenever this happens I
usually challenge playfully so going
back to the reading example I might say
something like you don't read really how
come this puts her a bit on the
defensive and creates a healthy
attractive tension what I have found is
that women often come back from this
maybe she says something like oh well
the last good book I read was in high
school or the last good book I read was
in college to respond to this I usually
say something like oh that makes sense
because you stopped reading since no one
showed you the good books this gives her
an out right it allows her to agree with
me and get on my side while maintaining
her Pride but even better it positions
me as someone who knows these good good
books again this is a great way to
trigger a Chase because most women at
least will become curious and ask
something like all right so what are
these good books what should I be
reading and by saying that even if she
is a bit skeptical she is confirming
that you have knowledge she wants to
know in other words you have an
incentive that you can use to make her
chase you think of it as an itch that
she is asking you to scratch at first it
might be just a light itch right but the
more you drag it out without scratching
it the more it
intensifies whenever I meet a woman and
sense that she is curious about
something I said about my lifestyle or
something that came up in the
conversation I use it as a Chase trigger
so if a woman asks about books she
should be reading I would probably
respond with something like oh yeah I'll
tell you when I get to know you a bit
better or sure I'll give you a reading
list in a second but first I want to
know about and then I would change the
subject right because I am keeping the
incentive Out Of Reach
I'm not essentially saying no but I am
saying not yet now if you understand how
to keep an incentive Out Of Reach you
know the secret to making a woman chase
you number two validating questions
communicating your interest in a woman
is essential because no one will pursue
someone they think they have no chance
with however you need to communicate the
right kind of interest and you need to
do it in the right way if all you do is
shower a woman with compliments and
flattery you'll come across as desperate
and pathetic
and will certainly kill any attraction
or even respect she might have for you a
better way to communicate interest is by
validating and acknowledging her for
something she has had to work to achieve
this is very different from a flattering
compliment that Praises her for
something she was simply born with like
her appearance when you validate her you
speak to her on a deeper and more
intimate level and almost all women find
validation more gratifying and more
attractive than a meaningless compliment
they've probably heard a thousand times
before now to validate in the right way
pay close attention when she's talking
because she'll tell you exactly how she
wants to be validated that's so crucial
the secret to standing out among all the
other men vying for a woman's attention
is to recognize her in the way she wants
to be seen to illustrate this imagine
the following story John was at a party
when he spotted Anna a very attractive
woman he had seen a few times before but
never had the chance to talk to she was
chatting animatedly with some friends
and he decided it would be a good
opportunity to approach her he
introduced himself and started a casual
conversation about the party and the
people present after a few minutes of
conversation he noticed Anna mentioned
that she loved traveling JN saw an
opportunity to create an incentive that
would Peak her curiosity he asked what
was the most memorable trip you've taken
and why excitedly Anna began talking
about a trip to Italy and how much she
loved the culture food and people John
realizing he had sparked her interest
strategically replied I also love
traveling and know some places you would
probably love but I think it would be
better to tell you after we get to know
each other a bit more but tell me what
else do you enjoy besides
traveling Anna now more engaged in the
conversation continued sharing her other
passions and hobbies John continued
validating her responses paying close
attention and asking specific questions
about her experiences and interest
he knew he was establishing a deeper
connection and showing genuine interest
in getting to know her for example when
Anna mentioned she enjoyed cooking John
asked what's the most challenging dish
you've ever cooked and how was the
experience excitedly Anna began talking
about learning to make authentic Italian
risotto and how satisfying it was to get
the recipe right John continued the
validation by saying you seem to have a
real passion for cooking and an
incredible dedication to learning new
recipes that's really impressive by the
end of the night Anna was clearly
interested in Jon he had managed to keep
her engaged and curious always keeping
the incentive just out of immediate
reach and validating her interests in a
way that made her feel special and
understood this approach made Anna feel
that Jon saw her uniquely and
appreciated her qualities Beyond her
appearance creating a genuine and
Lasting
connection understanding this can set
you apart from all the other men she's
talking talking to in fact if I had to
choose five dating skills to master the
golden mirror asking validating
questions would absolutely be on that
list so it's a skill you should work on
mastering and what that means is you
need to become a keen listener listen
attentively when a woman is talking
almost imagine yourself as a detective
listen to the words she uses the phrases
the expressions and really ask yourself
what seems to be most important to her
which qualities seem most important to
her once you've identified a
characteristic quality or skill that you
think is a central component of her
identity the next step is to figure out
how to show her that you see her this
way rather than just saying it as I
mentioned earlier asking her something
is often an easy way to do just that
whether asking for a recommendation
advice or even her opinion validating
through a question is a very effective
way to communicate attractively with
women number three questions that
demonstrate Authority whenever you're an
authority or Master something especially
if it's something of interest to a woman
that's an attraction trigger even having
a basic understanding can be attractive
but you have to establish your knowledge
in a subtle way that doesn't seem like
you're showing off or bragging to do
this once again we can use a well-placed
question to illustrate this imagine the
following story in an elegant bar in New
York John met Maria an attractive woman
woman who worked as an editor for a
fashion magazine curious he struck up a
conversation and during the exchange of
words Maria mentioned her job John also
worked in the editorial field but
instead of simply stating oh I'm an
editor too he decided to show his
knowledge and Authority in a more subtle
way so he asked are you a full editor or
an assistant
editor the question made Maria laugh she
explained that she had actually been
promoted to full editor just 3 weeks ago
John smiled and replied well done so
your name is on the M head that's
impressive this response was significant
because John knew that the M head of a
publication is the section listing the
editorial team it's something most
people don't pay attention to but those
who work in the industry recognize its
importance Maria was impressed with
Jon's knowledge and how discreetly he
demonstrated his
authority this example perfectly
illustrates how well-placed questions
using inside knowledge and specific
jargon can establish someone as an
authority by using this approach John
managed to stand out without seeming
overbearing or boastful creating a
genuine and attractive connection with
Maria if you tell a woman oh I do that
in conversation it'll lead down a very
predictable path right it becomes an
interview style because we can all
imagine what comes next when you say
something like that she'll ask oh which
magazine do you work for what's it like
working there do you know so and so
that's why you should always show your
Authority or Insider status to a woman
instead of just saying it you can also
display it in a way that attracts the
woman sparking her curiosity and making
her want to know more I'd like to make a
quick observation here some of the best
techniques and tactics you can learn are
things that women do with you because
you can deconstruct them and add them to
your repertoire in summary we've seen
that the key to making a woman pursue
you is to change the traditional power
dynamics in interactions using strategic
questions this method is especially
effective for older men who wish to
attract younger women the approach
involves asking questions that set
standards validate qualities and
demonstrate Authority without seeming
exaggerated or
vain firstly standard setting questions
are crucial they give the woman
something to pursue and show that you
have clear expectations instead of
merely stating your standards you can
incorporate them into subtle questions
for example asking what was the last
good book you read communicates that you
value intelligence and reading without
interrupting the flow of
conversation this makes the woman feel
the need to meet your standards
beginning to pursue you
subconsciously secondly validation
questions are essential for establishing
a deeper connection validating a woman
for something she has worked to achieve
rather than just complimenting her
appearance creates a more meaningful
Bond it's crucial to pay attention to
what she says and recognize the
qualities and skills she values most in
herself for instance if she mentions a
passion for cooking asking what was the
most challenging dish you've ever cooked
not only validates her interest but also
shows that you see her in a unique and
special way this genuine validation
makes her feel understood and
appreciated increasing her attraction to
you finally Authority demonstrating
questions are powerful for establishing
your worth without appearing arrogant
when you demonstrate inside a knowledge
of a subject that interests her you
stand out as competent and interesting
instead of stating I'm also an editor
you could ask a question that
demonstrates your knowledge of the
publishing World such as are you a real
editor or an editorial assistant this
type of question not only shows that you
understand the industry jargon and
nuances but also creates a connection
through mutual recognition of expertise
it can Peak her curiosity and make her
want to know more about you these three
approaches setting standards validating
qualities and demonstrating Authority
are effective because they play on
natural attraction triggers each
well-placed question serves as a
strategic move in a chess game where
each interaction is planned to generate
curiosity validation and desire instead
of seeming like a dull interview the
conversation becomes an intriguing game
where she feels motivated to get to know
you better therefore by implementing
these techniques you not only shift the
power dynamics but also create create a
richer and more engaging interaction the
key is to make her see you as someone
worth pursuing someone who challenges
and validates her in ways other men
cannot this not only increases
attraction but also lays a solid
foundation for a lasting connection so
next time you converse with an
attractive woman especially if there's a
significant age difference remember to
use these strategic questions to turn
the tables in your favor I would like to
thank everyone for watching and
following along so far I hope the
techniques and strategies shared in this
video have been helpful and that you
feel more confident in your
interactions remember the key is to ask
strategic questions that establish
standards validate qualities and
demonstrate Authority subtly and
effectively keep practicing and refining
these skills to create genuine and
attractive connections if you enjoyed
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