13 Years Of Life Changing Sex Advice

Summary

This video provides practical sex advice accumulated over a decade, focusing on strategies to enhance sexual experiences. The key points include viewing sex as a reward for women, embracing failure to reduce performance anxiety, and adopting a selfish yet playful mindset in the bedroom. Other tips emphasize the importance of enthusiasm, unpredictability, and dominance. The video covers topics such as physical endurance, sexual techniques, and psychological factors like jealousy and control, aiming to help men improve their intimacy and relationships by better understanding and meeting their partner's desires.

Takeaways

• 😀 Sex should be viewed as a reward for her, not for you, leading to more rewarding interactions and better behaviors from both partners.
• 😀 Giving yourself permission to fail in the bedroom reduces anxiety and enhances performance, making sex more enjoyable for both partners.
• 😀 The 'selfish pervert' mindset, where the focus is on your own pleasure, helps reduce performance anxiety and improves sexual connection.
• 😀 Needing to please her too much can put pressure on her, hindering her ability to orgasm; letting her relax and focusing on your own pleasure can lead to better experiences.
• 😀 Enthusiasm in the bedroom is key for both partners to feel sexy, secure, and excited, and it enhances overall sexual performance.
• 😀 Jealousy can amplify a woman’s arousal, with the idea that she knows other women find you attractive boosting her sexual excitement.
• 😀 Making noise during sex helps reassure her that she's pleasing you, boosting her confidence and making the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
• 😀 Take control in the bedroom and lead her through the experience, as women often prefer a dominant partner who guides the sexual encounter.
• 😀 Foreplay begins long before physical contact, and involves flirtation, eye contact, and verbal cues that build sexual tension and anticipation.
• 😀 The mind is a powerful sexual organ, so using dirty talk and directing her thoughts during sex can intensify arousal and help her focus on pleasure.

Q & A

Why is it important to view sex as a reward for a woman, rather than for the man?

Viewing sex as a reward for the woman changes the dynamic in the relationship, as it encourages men to have higher standards and not tolerate poor behavior. This mindset shifts the interaction from being about 'getting' something to 'giving' something, increasing enjoyment and fostering respect in the relationship.

How can giving yourself permission to fail improve performance in the bedroom?

By letting go of performance anxiety and the need to achieve a perfect score, men can focus on being present and enjoying the moment. This reduces stress and pressure, ultimately improving their performance and making the experience more enjoyable for both partners.

What is the 'selfish pervert' frame of mind, and why does it work in the bedroom?

The 'selfish pervert' mindset is about focusing on your own desires and sexual pleasure while using your partner as a source of inspiration. This removes the pressure from the woman to perform or meet expectations, making her more relaxed and likely to enjoy the experience. The key is balance: it's about enjoying her without being selfish in a harmful way.

How can overemphasizing the need to please a woman affect her sexual experience?

Focusing too much on pleasing her creates pressure that can make her anxious and less likely to orgasm. Women prefer to relax and switch off mentally in the bedroom, and when men are too focused on pleasing them, it often leads to self-consciousness and disrupts their ability to be fully in the moment.

Why is enthusiasm considered one of the most powerful tools in the bedroom?

Enthusiasm shows genuine interest and excitement, which can be contagious. For men, it alleviates any insecurities and makes the experience feel more passionate, leading to better overall performance and a more fulfilling experience for both partners.

How does jealousy impact a woman's arousal?

Jealousy can amplify a woman's arousal, as it may make her feel more desired and competitive. The perception that a man is attractive to other women can heighten her desire for him and result in stronger, more intense orgasms. However, this is more about the psychological effect of jealousy, not a recommendation to cheat.

What role does noise play in sexual experiences, and why is it important?

Making noise during sex, such as groaning or vocalizing pleasure, reassures a woman that she is performing well. It helps her feel confident and sexy, which can enhance her own enjoyment and lead to a better sexual experience for both partners.

Why is it important for a man to lead in the bedroom?

Taking the lead in sexual encounters helps a woman relax and switch off mentally. Women often prefer to surrender control and allow their partner to guide them through the experience, leading to a more passionate and enjoyable time for both.

What are some ways to build sexual tension outside of the bedroom?

Foreplay can start before physical interaction, such as through texting, flirtatious behavior, or making suggestive comments. These small actions build anticipation and sexual tension, which can enhance the overall experience once you're actually together.

What is meant by sexual geometry, and how does it affect performance?

Sexual geometry refers to the angles and positioning during sex that maximize pleasure for both partners. Small changes in body angles, such as adjusting the tilt of hips, can target different spots for better stimulation, enhancing the sexual experience.