STOP BUANG WAKTU !!! | #AdaApa eps.63

Summary

In this video, Sherly discusses three crucial habits to stop in your 20s to maximize productivity and focus. First, avoid wasting time on activities that don’t align with your goals. Second, stop trying to please everyone and prioritize those who truly support your growth. Lastly, stop explaining yourself to others—let your work and actions speak for you. By eliminating distractions, setting clear boundaries, and focusing on meaningful work, young people can make the most of their time and achieve greater success.

Takeaways

• 😀 Embrace the importance of having clear goals or targets in your life. These help prioritize actions and decisions effectively.
• 😀 Stop wasting time on things that do not align with your goals or target, as they will distract and hinder your progress.
• 😀 Avoid trying to please everyone. Not everyone will agree with your choices, and that's okay. Focus on the right people who support your growth.
• 😀 Building and maintaining a strong support system is crucial. Surround yourself with people who are genuinely there for you, even in tough times.
• 😀 Understand the importance of setting boundaries and saying no to distractions or unimportant tasks that drain your energy.
• 😀 Time management is critical for young people. Avoid letting unproductive habits take over and ensure that you’re managing your time wisely.
• 😀 Self-management is a broad concept, but time management is a key component. Focus on eliminating things that derail your productivity.
• 😀 Understand that overdoing anything (overthinking, overacting, etc.) is harmful. Balance is key to maintaining a healthy work-life dynamic.
• 😀 Know that the younger years of your life are precious. Don't waste time; use it to build and grow towards something meaningful.
• 😀 It's not necessary to explain who you are to everyone. Your actions and work will speak louder than words ever could, and that's what truly defines you.

Q & A

Why is it important to stop wasting time on activities that don't align with your goals?

It’s essential to stop wasting time on non-goal-related activities because they become distractions. When we focus on activities that don't contribute to our main objectives, we risk losing valuable time and lowering the quality of our work. Staying focused on our goals helps us prioritize effectively and maintain high productivity.

How can saying 'no' help with time management?

Saying 'no' is crucial for managing your time effectively. It allows you to avoid distractions and prioritize activities that truly matter. When we say 'yes' to everything, we spread ourselves too thin, which leads to decreased focus and reduced efficiency in the tasks that align with our goals.

What does it mean to stop trying to please everyone?

Stopping the attempt to please everyone means focusing on what’s truly important to your own growth and well-being, rather than conforming to others’ expectations. Not everyone will agree with or support your decisions, and it’s impossible to make everyone happy. Learning to prioritize your own values and goals over the desire for approval is key.

How can we identify the right people to include in our inner circle?

The right people for your inner circle are those who genuinely care about your growth and are there for you during tough times. They offer constructive criticism, help you grow, and support you even when things aren't going well. It’s essential to differentiate these people from those who are only present during happy or successful times.

Why is it necessary to have different social circles in life?

Different social circles are necessary because not everyone plays the same role in your life. The inner circle consists of those who support your growth, the second circle includes friends who are there for you but may not always offer deep support, and the outer circle consists of acquaintances or people who will cheer for you when you succeed but may not help you in difficult times.

What is the significance of Ali Bin Abi Thalib's quote about explaining yourself?

Ali Bin Abi Thalib’s quote reminds us that we don’t need to justify ourselves to everyone. If people like and respect us, they don’t need an explanation. Conversely, those who dislike us will never believe our explanations. This reinforces the idea that our actions and work should speak for themselves, not our words.

Why should we focus on creating meaningful work instead of explaining ourselves?

Focusing on creating meaningful work is more impactful than explaining who we are because our actions and achievements speak louder than words. By dedicating our time and energy to producing work of value, we demonstrate our abilities, character, and worth without needing to verbally defend ourselves.

What does it mean to ‘celebrate yourself’ through your work?

To 'celebrate yourself' through your work means putting your energy into creating something that reflects your values, skills, and character. Instead of explaining or defending who you are, let your work show your capabilities and impact, allowing it to speak volumes about your potential and contribution.

What is the relationship between time management and productivity in the 20s?

Time management in the 20s is crucial for productivity because this phase of life is filled with opportunities for growth and learning. Proper time management helps prioritize meaningful activities, eliminate distractions, and ensures that the precious time of youth is used wisely to build skills, relationships, and accomplishments.

How does the concept of 'work-life balance' relate to managing time in the 20s?

Work-life balance in the 20s is about finding a healthy equilibrium between personal, professional, and social life. Managing time well involves knowing when to focus on work and when to rest or spend time with loved ones. By avoiding overcommitment and maintaining balance, we can ensure long-term productivity without burnout.