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Summary

At 31, the speaker’s life took a dramatic turn when a failed business venture left them with overwhelming debt, triggering family conflicts and deep emotional turmoil. Their financial struggles strained relationships, particularly with their siblings, who turned away despite past support. As the speaker’s marriage faltered, a new business venture in another city offered brief hope before tensions with their wife’s family escalated. The speaker’s extramarital affair led to a painful confrontation with their wife, ultimately causing guilt and regret, especially for the emotional impact on their daughter. The speaker reflects on the consequences of their actions and the personal cost of their choices.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker experienced significant financial loss at the age of 31, incurring a debt of nearly 5 billion VND from a failed bar business.
• 😀 The failure was compounded by betrayal from a business partner, leading to legal troubles and the loss of the bar's operating license.
• 😀 Initially, the speaker did not share the financial difficulties with their parents, choosing to shoulder the debt alone.
• 😀 The family faced significant conflict when the speaker’s parents had to sell their house to cover part of the debt, causing a rift with siblings.
• 😀 The speaker’s siblings, especially the youngest, were unsupportive and even blamed the speaker for the family’s financial problems.
• 😀 Despite past sacrifices, where the speaker supported their siblings financially, they felt abandoned during times of need.
• 😀 The speaker’s wife became increasingly frustrated with the family’s lack of support, which led to tension between them and her family.
• 😀 The speaker chose their wife over their family, believing that the family had already distanced themselves due to the business failure.
• 😀 After relocating to Hanoi for a new business venture, the speaker faced further complications when their father-in-law passed away unexpectedly.
• 😀 The speaker’s strained relationship with their wife deteriorated further when infidelity was discovered, leading to a separation after 8 years of marriage.
• 😀 The speaker acknowledges the emotional pain caused to their child and feels guilty for the impact on their family, despite believing that the marital relationship had already broken down.

Q & A

What was the narrator’s main financial setback, and how did it affect him?

The narrator's main financial setback occurred when he opened a bar, invested all his savings, and took a loan from the bank. He faced betrayal by a business partner, the bar was shut down by the authorities, and he ended up with a debt of about 5 billion VND, which led to personal and family struggles.

How did the narrator's family react to his financial troubles?

The narrator’s family initially tried to support him, but tensions rose when they had to sell their house to pay off part of the debt. His siblings, especially, disagreed with the decision, leading to significant family conflict. The family also resented the narrator for what they saw as his poor financial choices.

What was the impact of the narrator’s financial loss on his relationship with his wife?

The financial loss exacerbated existing tensions in the narrator’s marriage. As he struggled with the fallout from the failed business, his wife became increasingly disillusioned. Eventually, their relationship deteriorated further, leading to a separation.

How did the narrator’s siblings respond after his financial collapse?

The narrator’s siblings, who were previously supported by him, distanced themselves after his failure. They became wealthy through their own successful careers but showed no support for him when he needed it most, which caused further rifts in the family.

What role did the narrator's affair play in his marital problems?

The narrator’s affair compounded the problems in his marriage. His wife discovered the affair, which escalated their conflict. Despite his belief that both sides had already emotionally detached, the discovery of the affair led to further anger and betrayal, and ultimately, the end of their relationship.

Why did the narrator feel conflicted about his role in the breakdown of his family?

The narrator felt conflicted because he recognized that his financial decisions had impacted his family, but he also believed that his siblings and wife had already abandoned him emotionally before his affair. This internal conflict left him torn between his guilt and his justification for his actions.

What was the narrator’s perspective on his relationship with his children after the family’s collapse?

The narrator expressed deep guilt and regret over the impact of his actions on his children. He felt especially bad about how his daughter reacted after learning about the affair, and he struggled with the feeling that he had failed as a father.

How did the narrator’s relationship with his in-laws contribute to the breakdown of his marriage?

The narrator’s relationship with his in-laws was strained after he took his wife and children to Hanoi for a new business venture. His mother-in-law resented him, especially after the death of her husband, and the conflict between them further strained his marriage, leading to increased tension and eventual separation.

What was the narrator’s decision regarding his family after his business failure?

After his business failure and the escalating family conflict, the narrator chose to separate from his wife and live independently. He moved into a separate house, deciding to focus on rebuilding his life while leaving the emotional baggage of the family behind.

How did the narrator reconcile his actions with his own sense of morality?

The narrator struggled with moral conflict, particularly regarding his affair. He justified it by saying that both he and his wife had already emotionally separated, but he felt guilty about how his actions affected his children. He believed that while he may have been legally at fault, emotionally, both sides had already checked out of the relationship.