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Summary

In this candid and raw video, the speaker opens up about their struggles with mental health, feelings of isolation, and frustration with fake friendships. They reflect on their time in psychiatric care, their disappointment with others, and the importance of genuine relationships. Despite the hardships, they express gratitude for the support of close friends, family, and their partner. The speaker decides to stop pretending to be happy and focus on building meaningful connections, emphasizing the need for authenticity and self-care in the upcoming year.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker has been struggling with mental health issues and feels the need to express their emotions.
• 😀 They used to be the 'funny one' in their friend groups but are now tired of being only seen for their jokes.
• 😀 The speaker sought help at the ER but ended up being hospitalized in a psychiatric unit for six days.
• 😀 During their psychiatric stay, they found solace in creating a model clay dinosaur named Asain.
• 😀 The speaker was transferred to another facility, which they found even worse due to the environment and people they interacted with.
• 😀 They realized that people often only reach out when they need something or when they are no longer in their life, leaving the speaker feeling neglected.
• 😀 The speaker expresses frustration with fake people and is choosing to no longer respond to those who don't genuinely care.
• 😀 They express gratitude towards their best friend, boyfriend, mom, and doctor for their consistent support.
• 😀 Despite feeling down, the speaker finds happiness in moments like decorating the Christmas tree with their boyfriend and their strong friendship with their best friend.
• 😀 The speaker plans to focus on their own well-being in 2024, starting to prioritize what truly matters and leaving behind relationships that don’t serve them.
• 😀 The speaker emphasizes the need for genuine friendship, where both sides show effort, and announces they will no longer engage with people who don’t prioritize them.

Q & A

What does the speaker mean by feeling tired of being the 'goofy one' in their friend group?

The speaker is expressing frustration with always being perceived as the funny, lighthearted person in their social circles. They feel like this persona has become a label that overshadows their true self, and they desire to be appreciated for who they are beyond just being the 'goofy' one.

Why did the speaker end up in a psychiatric unit after visiting the ER?

The speaker went to the ER seeking medication for mental health concerns. However, instead of just receiving medication, they were unexpectedly transferred to a psychiatric unit for six days, likely due to their condition being assessed as requiring further care.

How did the speaker feel about their stay in the psychiatric unit?

While the situation was unexpected, the speaker found aspects of their stay in the psychiatric unit somewhat positive, describing it as a bit like staying in a hotel. They had their own room and appreciated certain amenities, though they did mention some inconveniences, like the flooding shower.

What was the speaker's experience at the second facility they visited after the psychiatric unit?

The speaker had a negative experience at the second facility, which they found to be uncomfortable and unpleasant. They were frustrated with the people there, particularly a disruptive young child and the behavior of other patients, which led them to eventually stop attending.

What does the speaker say about the people they encountered at the second facility?

The speaker criticizes the people at the second facility for their behavior and attitudes, particularly mentioning that many of them were younger teens and a child who were not compatible with their personality. They felt out of place and unable to connect with the group.

How does the speaker feel about the way people treat them outside of the psychiatric facilities?

The speaker feels disrespected and hurt by people who only reach out when they need something, or when they are in a crisis. They express frustration with people who pretend to be friends but talk behind their back when they are not around, showing a desire for more genuine connections.

Why does the speaker mention their best friend and what role do they play in the speaker’s life?

The speaker praises their best friend for always making time for them despite being far away and busy. They highlight this relationship as one of true friendship, where effort and care are consistently shown, contrasting it with the more superficial interactions with others.

What does the speaker mean when they say they are 'done pretending'?

The speaker is expressing a decision to stop pretending they are always happy or fine when they are not. They want to be honest about their feelings and are no longer willing to uphold a facade of being the always-positive person when they are struggling.

How does the speaker describe the most recent moments of happiness they've experienced?

The speaker describes two recent moments where they felt true happiness: decorating the Christmas tree with their boyfriend, feeling like they belonged, and the consistent support of their best friend. These moments contrasted with their usual feelings of loneliness and isolation.

What decision does the speaker make about friendships moving forward?

The speaker resolves to stop responding to people who do not show genuine care or effort in the relationship. They emphasize that if someone wants to be friends, they must demonstrate a real commitment to the friendship, not just when it's convenient for them.