7 Actionable Ways to Achieve More in Life
Summary
TLDR本视频介绍了Matthew Dicks的书籍《总有一天就是今天》,分享了作者通过三次濒死经历后的人生转变和实用建议。视频总结了书中的七个行动指南,包括适应不完美的工作环境、利用碎片时间、以跳跃式方法处理大项目、设定宽泛的远景目标、避免过于详细的五年计划、从百岁老人的角度做决策以及追求有意义的软目标,旨在帮助观众实现生活中更多的愿望。
Takeaways
- 📚 书籍《总有一天是今天》由Matthew Dicks撰写,提供了实用的建议帮助人们实现生活目标。
- 🚀 作者Matthew Dicks经历了三次濒死经历,从而改变了他的生活轨迹,从破产到成为畅销书作家。
- 🅿️ “停车场练习”鼓励在任何环境中都能进行创造性工作,而不是等待完美的条件。
- 🕒 “分钟心态”强调利用碎片时间,而不是按小时计划,以提高效率。
- 🌿 “荷叶方法”提倡在多个项目之间跳跃,根据心情和动力选择不同的任务。
- 🌅 “地平线习惯”建议设定一个大致方向的目标,而不是过于具体的压力重重的目标。
- 🎹 “钢琴先例”警告过于详细的五年计划可能会因不可预见的事件而失败。
- 👴 “100岁计划”建议在面临选择时,想象自己100岁时会给出的建议。
- 🎯 “有目的的方法”强调生产力不仅仅是工作,还包括那些对我们有意义的“软目标”。
- 💡 通过提高工作效率,我们可以释放更多时间去做生活中真正重要的事情。
Q & A
《总有一天是今天》这本书的核心主题是什么?
-这本书的核心主题是如何通过实际可行的建议来实现生活中我们想要达成的目标。
Matthew Dicks是如何从困境中崛起,最终成为畅销书作家的?
-Matthew Dicks经历了三次濒死经历,包括一场严重的车祸和22岁时被持枪威胁,这些经历迫使他重新审视自己的生活和成就。他从一贫如洗、住在车里、在麦当劳工作的状态,通过不懈努力,最终成为了畅销书作家、世界故事冠军和获奖记者。
在《总有一天是今天》中提到的“停车场练习”是什么?
-“停车场练习”是指在任何环境中都能进行创造性工作的能力,而不是等待完美的环境。Matthew Dicks通过自己在牙医诊所外的停车场写作的经历,强调了真正的生产力并不需要完美的条件。
Matthew Dicks在书中提到的“分钟心态”是什么?
-“分钟心态”是指将时间规划和利用细化到每一分钟,而不是以小时为单位。这种思维方式鼓励人们珍惜时间,利用日常生活中的零碎时间进行有意义的工作。
“荷叶方法”是如何帮助人们克服大型项目的难题?
-“荷叶方法”鼓励人们在面对大型项目时,不必按部就班地从开始到结束,而是可以根据自己的心情和感觉跳跃性地进行工作,像青蛙在荷叶上跳跃一样,这样可以减轻压力,提高工作效率。
什么是“地平线习惯”?
-“地平线习惯”是指设定一个大致方向性的目标,而不是具体、可衡量的目标。这种方法减轻了目标设定的压力,允许人们灵活地追求自己的激情和兴趣。
为什么Matthew Dicks建议避免制定过于详细的五年计划?
-因为过于详细的五年计划可能会因为生活中不可预测的变化而变得不切实际。他建议人们应该有一个大致的方向,但同时保持灵活性,以应对生活中的变化。
如何运用“100岁计划”来做出生活中的决策?
-“100岁计划”是指在面临生活抉择时,想象自己100岁时会给现在的自己什么建议。这种方法可以帮助人们从长远的角度考虑问题,做出更有意义和价值的决策。
Matthew Dicks如何定义“软目标”?
-“软目标”是指那些可能看起来不具有传统生产力意义,但对于个人来说却非常有意义和满足感的目标。这些目标是个人刻意追求的,能带来目标感和成就感。
如何将生产力提升应用到个人生活中?
-通过提高工作效率和生产力,减少不必要的时间浪费,人们可以为自己真正关心的事情腾出更多的时间和精力。这包括优化工作时间、家务时间等,以便有更多时间投入到对自己来说真正重要的事情上。
Outlines
📚 书籍介绍与作者背景
本段介绍了一本名为《总有一天是今天》的书籍,作者是Matthew Dicks,他通过三次濒死经历,包括严重的车祸和被持枪威胁,重新审视了自己的生活。书中提供了实用的建议,帮助人们实现生活中想要达成的目标。作者从无家可归、在麦当劳工作的困境,成长为畅销书作家、世界级故事讲述者和获奖记者。
🚗 停车场练习:适应任何环境
这一部分讲述了作者在创作时对环境的依赖,以及Matthew Dicks如何改变这一观念。Matthew认为真正的生产力并不需要完美的环境,他通过在停车场写作的例子,强调即使在不完美的环境下也能保持生产力。他提醒我们,等待完美的时机或环境来实现目标是不现实的,成功的人是在不完美的环境下采取行动的人。
⏰ 分钟心态:珍惜每一分钟
在这一段中,作者强调了珍惜每一分钟的重要性。Matthew通过一个关于他与一位想要写书的女士的早餐会面的故事,说明了即使只有几分钟,也可以用于创作。他提倡利用零碎时间进行小步骤的工作,而不是等待完美的几个小时来完成任务。这种方法可以帮助我们在日常生活中更有效地利用时间。
🍀 荷叶方法:灵活的创作路径
这一部分介绍了Matthew的荷叶方法,这是一种非线性的创作方式。他鼓励人们不要从项目的开始就着手,而是可以根据自己的心情和感觉跳跃性地进行创作。这种方法可以帮助人们在面对庞大项目时,避免感到压力和不知所措,而是通过灵活的方式逐步实现目标。
🌅 地平线习惯:设定宽泛的目标
在这一段中,作者讨论了设定目标的问题,特别是SMART目标可能带来的限制。Matthew提出了地平线目标的概念,这是一种更宽泛、更灵活的目标设定方式。地平线目标允许我们在追求目标的过程中保持灵活性,而不是被具体的数字或时间限制束缚。
🎹 钢琴前瞻:避免过度规划
这一部分讲述了过度规划的风险,Matthew用“5年计划是邀请宇宙在你头上掉下钢琴”的比喻,来说明过度规划可能导致无法适应生活中不可预见的变化。他提倡制定一个大致的计划,但同时要为命运的不确定性留出空间。
👴 百岁计划:长远的视角
在这一段中,作者介绍了Matthew的百岁计划,这是一种从长远角度考虑问题的方法。通过想象自己100岁时会给现在的自己什么建议,可以帮助我们做出更有意义和价值的决策。这种方法鼓励我们考虑长期的影响,而不是仅仅基于短期的紧迫性。
🎯 有目的的方法:生产力的真正意义
最后一段讨论了生产力的真正含义,强调生产力不仅仅是工作或经济产出,而是关于如何有效地利用时间来做对自己真正重要的事情。Matthew提倡设定软目标,这些目标可能在传统的生产力定义中看起来不那么“生产力”,但对个人来说却是有意义和满足感的。
📖 生产力书籍总结
作者提到自己对阅读生产力书籍的热爱,并推荐了一个视频,该视频总结了他阅读的107本生产力书籍,提炼出一个九步框架,帮助观众提升生产力,做更多对自己重要的事情。
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Keywords
💡生产力
💡停车场练习
💡分钟心态
💡荷叶方法
💡地平线习惯
💡钢琴先例
💡100岁计划
💡有目的的方法
💡软目标
Highlights
本书《总有一天是今天》由经历过三次濒死经历的Matthew Dicks撰写,提供了实用的建议帮助人们实现生活中想要达成的目标。
作者Matthew Dicks从破产、无家可归到成为畅销书作家、世界级讲故事者和获奖记者的转变,展示了他生活观念的重大改变。
Matthew在22岁时被持枪威胁的经历让他深刻反思生活,意识到自己对未能实现梦想的遗憾。
书中提出的“停车场练习”鼓励人们在任何环境下都能进行创造性工作,而不是等待完美的条件。
Matthew强调真正的生产力并不需要看起来漂亮,而是要实际产出。
“分钟心态”教导我们珍惜每一分钟,而不是仅仅按小时计划生活。
通过利用碎片时间,即使是几分钟,也可以有效地推进创造性工作。
“荷叶方法”鼓励创作者在项目中跳跃式前进,而不是按部就班。
Matthew建议通过设定“地平线目标”来减轻目标设定的压力,允许灵活性。
“钢琴先例”提醒我们不要过于详细地规划生活,因为不可预见的事件可能会破坏计划。
想象自己的“100岁计划”可以帮助在生活十字路口做出更有意义的决策。
生产力不仅仅是关于工作,还包括我们想要投入时间的有意义的活动。
书中提倡的“软目标”是指那些可能看起来不生产性,但对个人来说却非常有意义和满足的目标。
通过最大化工作效率,我们可以释放更多时间来专注于对我们真正重要的事情。
作者分享了他如何在全职医生工作的同时,通过利用零碎时间增长YouTube频道的经验。
书中的故事和建议都是基于作者个人经历和对时间价值的深刻理解。
Matthew Dicks的书提供了七个实用的建议,帮助人们在生活中实现更多的愿望。
Transcripts
hey friends welcome back to the channel
so this is one of my favorite books it's
called someday is today and it's filled
with incredibly actionable helpful
practical advice for achieving more of
the things we want in life it's written
by an incredible guy called Matthew
dicks who has survived three near-death
experiences including a ridiculously bad
car crash and also being held at
gunpoint at the age of 22 and these
experiences forced him to reconsider
what he was doing with his life and what
he achieved and he went from being
someone who was completely broke living
in his car and working at McDonald's to
becoming a best-selling author world
champion Storyteller and award-winning
journalist I was sure that I was going
to die that day and I will tell you that
I did not feel fear or sadness or anger
the only feeling I was consumed with was
regret I was 22 years old and I had
failed to do anything with my life that
I had wanted to do that was a quote from
a podcast that I did with Matthew a few
months ago incredible episode but in
this episode of book club which is the
ongoing series will be distill and
discuss highlights and summaries from
some of my favorite books I'm going to
talk through seven actionable tips that
I took from his latest book Sunday is
today these are seven tips that will
help you achieve more of what you want
in life let's get into it tip number one
the parking lot practice so when I first
started writing my book feel good
productivity uh I felt like I had to do
it in the right environment I felt like
I had to go into a coffee shop and have
my little latte next to me and my
headphones on and I wanted the
environment to be perfect otherwise you
know for some reason I felt this
writer's block and I felt like I
couldn't do the thing but Matthew's
approach to this is completely different
and his approach is actually change the
way that I approach my creative work and
I think you can get a lot of value from
this as well and one of my favorite
quotes from the book is that product ity
is not pretty now we've all seen those
examples of like you know the students
that are like doing the notes in like
the most elaborate colorful method
possible we've seen those sketch notes
we've seen all these people with their
like incredibly pretty desks and
everything and it just looks like such a
productive Vibe and it looks very pretty
but the point that Matthew is making is
that true productivity does not have to
look pretty and the example that he
talks about in the book is where he was
early for a dentist appointment and so
instead of just sort of waiting in the
car or like scrolling Tik Tok or
whatever the thing was instead of doing
that he decided to just sit on the side
of the road in the parking lot lot get
out his laptop and continue writing some
more of the novel that he was working on
during World War I there were men in
trenches wearing gas masks artillery
exploding over their heads and they were
scribbling in little books in journals
hoping that if they survive this battle
and the many battles that were to come
someday they might publish something so
thank goodness that the writers of the
1910s did not require Starbucks smooth
jazz and 2hour quiet blocks of time for
them to get their work done his point is
that there's never going to be a perfect
place or a perfect setting to get things
done especially when your life is
chaotic especially when you have kids I
don't have kids but he does and so he
would know and if you're always waiting
for the right time or the right
environment to be able to do a thing
that propels your creative life forward
or to do a thing that you really want to
do you're going to be waiting for a very
very very long time it's the same with
eating healthily it's the same with
going to the gym it's the same with
building a business the timing is never
going to be right the time is now the
time is never and the people who can
take action on the things that they want
to do despite the imperfect environment
are the ones who ultimately succeed and
timately move forward with what they
want in life tip number two the minut
mindset so the point here is that when
we plan out our day we tend to think in
blocks of hours but thinking in hours
can actually cause us to waste quite a
lot of time now in the book he talks
about this and this is one of my
favorite stories in any book that I've
ever read he talks about how he was
meeting up with a person who wanted to
write a book and he was meeting up with
her for breakfast she met me at the
McDonald's and she was late and so when
she sat down I said tell me what you're
planned what you're doing and she
started describing this book and then
eventually I said as I always say to
writers I say so how much have you
written and so often almost always the
answer is oh well I haven't started
writing anything yet and I then I said
to her I said well you were 7 minutes
late today and she said I'm sorry you
know she I'm so sorry I'm like no no no
my point was not that you were 7 minutes
late and I was upset my point was I used
the 7 minutes that you were late to
write some sentences you know I turned
my computer I said this is what I wrote
in the 7 minutes that you were late and
I just absolutely love this approach
like after Matthew's near-death
experiences he says that he realized the
profound value of time and he didn't
want to come to the end of his life with
regret for failing to achieve the things
that he actually wanted to do and so
what he tries to do now is he tries to
get the most out of every single minute
rather than every single hour I I tell
all of the creative people of the world
10 minutes is precious to you it doesn't
mean in 10 minutes I can write a chapter
in 10 minutes I can reread the last
three paragraphs I wrote earlier today
and see if they're okay and clean them
up a little bit or I can write five good
new sentences and this is actually how I
was able to grow this YouTube Channel
while I was working for 2 years
full-time as a doctor this book hadn't
come out yet but at that time I had a
similar attitude in that in between
patients or in my lunch break or in a
random break here and there when I had a
few minutes of time I would get out my
phone or I would go on notion on the
Windows computers at work and I would
just make a few more notes on a video
that I was working on and so what that
meant is that in these little blocks of
time here and there throughout the day
where other people around me were
scrolling Tik Tok on their phones or
whatever in those moments I was writing
more bullet points for a video or
fleshing out some title ideas or
figuring out a thumbnail and in this
context me and Matthew are absolutely
not saying that there is no time for a
break and that you should never ever
recharge and relax in fact my whole the
whole final three chapters of my book
Feelgood productivity are all about the
power of rest and relaxation to make
things sustainable over time but the way
to think about this is that what do you
find yourself doing in those pockets of
time do you wait until it hits like 5:00
to be able to do something because you
have to start on the hour what if you
just had 3 minutes or 5 or seven or 9
minutes left could you do something
intentional and effective and enjoyable
with that time rather than wasting that
time on scrolling whatever thing that
you tend to default to oh and by the way
one of the productiv tools that I use
every single day that really helps me
make the most of my time is what I call
the year at a glance spreadsheet it's
basically a Google sheet that has the
entire year laid out and it's a way of
visualizing the calendar that you just
don't really get within calendar apps
and there's going to be a link in the
video description where you can download
this completely for free if you want a
better way for planning your year as
well all right tip number three is the
lily pad method now in the book Matthew
writes that the only real failure for
any Creator is to stop making stuff now
by making stuff it could be writing it
could be YouTube videos it could be
studying for your exam it could be
learning to code it could be starting
that business or working on your sales
scripts so you know this all of this
stuff is what I would call Creative in
some ways but sometimes doing this stuff
can feel really overwhelming especially
with everything else going on in our
lives and especially if you have a big
project that you're working on like
trying to study for a massive exam or
like trying to write a novel or trying
to start a business and get it off the
ground there's often a lot of little
steps involved in that thing but if you
look at the whole thing it can seem like
a mountain that feels very daunting to
climb now normally the conventional path
towards working towards our goals is to
do things in sequence in order one at a
time but the lily method is kind of
Matthew's approach to this which is to
recognize that you don't actually need
to start at the beginning and you don't
need to finish at the end you can in
fact jump around I think sometimes
people see a goal or a dream as a linear
process Like A to B to C and I think
that's always a mistake too so I was
working with someone yesterday who said
I want to write a memoir and I said
we'll start writing a memoir and she
said I don't know where to start and I
said do you have some good moments that
you know you want to include she said oh
yeah I said well write those she said
don't you have to start a book at the
beginning I said no you write something
just write chapter 15 if that's what you
can write today so seeing your dream as
stepping stones but you get to touch
whichever one you want at any point cuz
you're going to have to touch all of
them eventually that's really helpful so
if you figure out what is the goal that
you're trying to go for and then you
break it down into these tasks but
instead of seeing these tasks as things
that that have to happen in sequence if
you can think of them as almost like
lily pads where you can sort of Leap
Frog around these different lily pads
depending on your mood and depending on
how you're feeling then in those moments
where you feel overwhelmed by a
particular task or you feel like you
don't have the motivation or the
discipline or whatever you want to call
it you can then just Leap Frog to
another lily pad and you can make
progress in that direction I also did an
interview with writer Mo Gat who's
written a bunch of books he's amazing
he's like an World expert in happiness
happiness research stuff like that but I
asked him about his writing habit and
how he managed to write so many books
and what he said was that he always
works on like five or six different
books in parallel and so every day he
spends a few hours writing I wake up
sometimes in the morning and I write for
3 4 5 hours but every morning he asks
himself which is the project that I feel
most pulled right now to be working on
and he just works on that one I loved
the Journey of writing it I loved the
Journey of exploration I loved the
analysis the research I love the
conversation I had with a friend to say
does this make sense to you I love all
of that and it's you know what it's it's
hours of my life that are filled with a
joy he's not forcing himself to stick to
one particular project or one particular
task in a way he Leap Frogs around
depending on how his energy is going on
a particular day and so the question to
ask yourself to take something away from
this point is when it comes to the goals
that I'm pursuing how might I be able to
start in the Middle with some of them
rather than necessarily starting at the
beginning and in moments where I feel
overwhelmed with a particular task is
there a way I can leap frog that
particular task and do something else
that takes me towards my goals okay tip
number four is the Horizon habit now
you've probably heard of smart goals
which is goals that are specific
measurable attainable or assignable
realistic or relevant and te for time
bound but the problem with setting these
sorts of goals is that often we can set
them towards things that are actually
outside of our control like if you want
to start a YouTube channel but you set a
specific goal of hitting a million
subscribers which is specific and
measurable and time bound and all that
kind of stuff it's a goal that's kind of
out of your control and so it can be
very demotivating trying to get there
and so the way Matthew thinks about this
is setting Horizon goals instead and I
really like this way of thinking about
it because the way I think about goals
is that goals are ultimately just a
destination they don't actually help us
get there they're just the destination
and so Horizon goals are just a way of
taking the pressure off of the idea of
goal setting and explicitly allowing us
to set a General vague directional goal
that's like over there on the horizon
but it's not really that specific I like
to identify that IDE of I'm going to be
a Storyteller but that I'm going to be a
Storyteller also allows cuz it's on the
horizon to be maybe I'll teach
storytelling someday maybe I'll be a
consultant about storytelling maybe
maybe an advertising company will allow
me to inject storytelling into their car
commercials which is what I've done
right all of those things are sort of on
the storytelling Horizon but it affords
me the opportunity to be flexible in
terms of what ultimately is going to
happen so if your goal is to be a
musician you might think about all the
other ways you can incorporate that
dream into your career you could become
a band member but you could also try
songwriting or DJing or radio presenting
you could learn how to produce music and
become a technician or a background
singer who picks up an event management
job or a teacher or an online Creator
sharing insights into the music world
all of these jobs are crucially on the
music Horizon but this flexibility gives
you both freedom and also resilience
which brings us to the next point in the
book which is tip number five the piano
precedent and there's a great quote from
the book which is that 5-year plans are
inviting the universe to drop a piano on
you basically if you try and
meticulously plan out your life then
it's inevitable that something is going
to happen that will completely ruin your
plans now that's not to say that
planning is not important because making
a plan is generally quite helpful and
we've talked about setting a horizon
goal as your destination so you can
start working towards it and generally
you know when I find people come to me
for Life advice and I ask them well what
do you actually want they don't really
have a vision of where they actually
want to go and it's like that quote from
Louis Carol's Alice in Wonderland if you
don't know where you're going then any
road will get you there but I just
wanted to ask you which way I ought to
go well that depends on where you want
to get to oh it really doesn't matter as
long as I then it really doesn't matter
which way you go and there's a graph
that I really like I think I think it's
from Darren Brown's book happy which is
basically all about stoicism which is
where you've got your plans on one axis
and then you've got Fate on the other
axis and the path that your life takes
is sort of somewhere in between these
two things you're very unlikely to
always be going in the same direction as
your plans but equally having some sort
of plan will allow you to not just be
completely buffeted by The Winds of fate
and you'll be able to sort of chart your
ship in those in those Waters of Fate
tip number six the 100-year old plan now
in Matthew Dix's thingy I think it's one
of the early chapters in his book which
I really liked which is that when you're
at a Crossroads in life try to imagine
your 100-year-old self and think to
yourself what advice would my
100-year-old self give to me right now
now the example that he uses is where
he's sitting at his desk and he's
writing and he's got deadlines and he's
got work and he's got stuff to do but
then his son comes up to him and asks
him to play tag now one option in that
path is to continue with work because
you got to be disciplined and you can't
be distracted and you've got to focus
but then thinks what would his
100-year-old self want him to do and his
100-year-old self is always going to say
look man go play with the kid because
there's going to come a day where the
kid no longer wants to play with you and
you want to take advantage of the
moments when the kid is actually Keen to
play tag with you now similarly Alex
homo's approach to this he calls it the
Solomon project is when he does
journaling but he imagines the
journaling session as a conversation
between him and his 86-year-old self a
practice that I started doing which is I
have a coaching session with myself
weird I have a conversation with my
future self who's 85 and I ask him for
advice on what I should do now and he
knows that the 86-year-old has context
on where where he is at right now and
what his goals are and what he needs and
he knows that the advice that the 86y
old gives him is going to be well the
right advice and again there's so much
value in this kind of thinking right
because the more shortterm we think of
our life trajectory and the more
short-term our decision- making the more
we tend to make decisions based on
what's urgent rather than what's
actually important honestly this is
still something I really struggle with
far too often when it's a choice between
friends and work I'll think oh but works
really fun and I've got this deadline
I've got you know I've I've got all this
stuff and so I'll choose work when
actually I know that my older self would
have wanted me to choose friends or
family or relationships or health in
that moment and tip number seven is the
purposeful approach now often when we
talk about productivity and this is
fundamentally a productivity book it's
easy to default to thinking that
productivity means work or hustling or
business or money you know that kind of
stuff but sometimes we need to take a
step back and really think about why we
want to get things done efficiently so
when people say productivity sort of
grinds you down I think of productivity
is it's the thing that you want to be
doing that you should be doing more of
so let's Max imiz our life the things we
have to do in order to sustain life in
order to get to the things we want to do
so we don't have to think of
productivity in terms of work so the way
I think of it is that I want to be
making the most of my time not for its
own sake or not because I want to
maximize economic output but actually by
making the most of my time it frees me
up to be able to spend my time doing the
things that truly matter to me and this
is why Matthew is a big fan of what he
calls soft goals which are things that
aren't necessarily productive if you
look at like the standard definitions of
productivity but that are intentional
and that are meaningful to us anyway so
the action point here is figure out what
are the soft goals that you want to aim
for in life what are the things that
like someone else looking at it might
not think it's particularly productive
but for you it's very intentional it's
very satisfying and it brings you the
sense of meaning and fulfillment I was
talking to a client the other day and I
said well what's your horizon goal and
she said I want to see the 50 greatest
movies of all time there's a list in the
world I have the list and I want to sit
on my couch and watch the 50 greatest
movies she said but that doesn't feel
super productive and I said that sounds
incredibly productive to me
because it's your dream let's make sure
we maximize your work time your chore
time let's take away all of those little
black holes of your life that you're
wasting and make sure that we use all
that so you can get your ass on the
couch more often with your husband
watching black and white movies and so
now if you can be really productive in
the areas of your life like your work or
like your studies or whatever the thing
might be you free yourself up you unlock
a lot more time and energy to be able to
give to the things that truly matter to
you now as you might know I am
completely obsessed with reading
productivity books which is why I ended
up actually writing one link down below
but if you're interested in my top
insights from most of the productivity
books I read check out this video over
here which summarizes 107 productivity
books that I've read into a nine-step
framework that you can use to level up
your productivity and do more of the
things that matter to you so thank you
so much for watching and I'll see you
hopefully in the next video bye-bye
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