What Causes Premature Ejaculation? - (10 Things to Avoid)

Summary

In this informative video, sex educator Taylor discusses 10 potential causes of premature ejaculation and offers practical advice for overcoming this issue. He emphasizes the importance of changing poor masturbation habits, managing tension, and addressing psychological factors like fear of intimacy. Taylor also provides a free comprehensive training on ejaculation control for those seeking to improve their sexual experiences.

Takeaways

• 🛠️ Premature ejaculation can be cured with the right habits and practices.
• 🤲 Poor masturbation habits, such as short sessions, can condition the body for quick ejaculation.
• 💆‍♂️ Tension, especially in the pelvic region, can lead to premature ejaculation, and deep breathing can help reduce it.
• 🚫 Overdoing kegels without rest can lead to pelvic floor hypertension, which may contribute to early ejaculation.
• 🔞 Bad porn habits, such as focusing on cum shots, can condition the brain to associate pleasure with quick ejaculation.
• 🔍 Hyper focus on the penis's sensations can lead to a quicker rush to orgasm.
• 🌡️ Associating ejaculation with high levels of pleasure can train the body to reach climax too soon.
• 🧠 Developing mental resolve can help in controlling the urge to ejaculate prematurely.
• 🧘‍♂️ Mental tension, such as worrying about performance, can exacerbate premature ejaculation.
• 💔 Fear of intimacy might cause some individuals to ejaculate early as a means of avoiding deeper connection.
• 🤖 Sometimes premature ejaculation might be a 'fake' issue, serving as a distraction from other relationship or personal problems.

Q & A

What is the primary focus of the video by Taylor, the sex educator and coach?

The primary focus of the video is to discuss and explain 10 causes of premature ejaculation and to offer insights on how to address and potentially cure this issue.

Why does Taylor emphasize the importance of changing masturbation habits to combat premature ejaculation?

Taylor emphasizes changing masturbation habits because they act as a training ground for sexual experiences, and by practicing to last longer during masturbation, one can reprogram their sexual response system to last longer during sexual intercourse.

What role does tension play in causing premature ejaculation, according to Taylor?

Tension, particularly in the pelvic region and lower belly, can lead to premature ejaculation. Taylor suggests that reducing tension in the body during sexual activities and practicing deep breathing can help in managing this issue.

What is the misconception about kegels that Taylor addresses in the video?

The misconception is that doing a lot of kegels daily will strengthen the pelvic floor and help control ejaculation. Taylor points out that overdoing kegels without rest can lead to hypertension in the pelvic floor, which may actually contribute to premature ejaculation.

How does Taylor suggest that bad porn habits can contribute to premature ejaculation?

Taylor suggests that bad porn habits, such as focusing on cum shots and close-up body parts, can create a link in the brain between ejaculation and pleasure, leading to a rush to climax and contributing to premature ejaculation.

What is the fifth cause of premature ejaculation mentioned by Taylor, and how can it be addressed?

The fifth cause is a hyper focus on the sensations of the penis during sex. To address this, Taylor advises to pay attention to the entire body's sensations, the interaction with the partner, and to breathe deeply to avoid rushing to ejaculation.

How does Taylor redefine the association between pleasure and ejaculation in the context of premature ejaculation?

Taylor suggests that many people associate pleasure with being close to ejaculation, which can lead to premature ejaculation. He recommends shifting the focus to experience pleasure in the 25 to 75% range of arousal to increase awareness of pleasure as a spectrum and not just ejaculation.

What is the significance of mental resolve in managing premature ejaculation, as discussed by Taylor?

Mental resolve is significant because it involves making a conscious decision and commitment to last longer in bed. Taylor shares his personal experiment showing the power of the mind in controlling ejaculation.

How does mental tension during sex contribute to premature ejaculation, and what is Taylor's advice to overcome it?

Mental tension, such as worrying about ejaculating too soon, can lead to a hyper focus on not ejaculating, which paradoxically can cause it to happen. Taylor advises to relax, not to worry, and to understand that it's not as significant as one might think.

What is the potential underlying issue that Taylor suggests could be mistaken for premature ejaculation?

Taylor suggests that a fear of intimacy could be an underlying issue that manifests as premature ejaculation. In such cases, a person might ejaculate to avoid deeper emotional connection during sex.

What does Taylor mean by 'fake' premature ejaculation, and what is his advice for addressing it?

By 'fake' premature ejaculation, Taylor means that it might be a scapegoat for other issues in one's life or relationship. His advice is to introspect and possibly seek help through journaling, talking to friends, therapists, or connecting with others who have similar experiences.

What additional resources does Taylor offer to those who want to improve their ejaculation control?

Taylor offers a comprehensive, free training that includes a video lesson, an audio version, and a written outline with steps to take for better ejaculation control. He provides a link to this training under the video.