5 HORRIBLE Mistakes Men Make When Texting Women!
Summary
TLDRIn this dating advice video, Apollonia Pontia, a relationship coach, outlines five common texting mistakes men make when communicating with women. These include excessive texting, overusing emojis, consistent spelling errors, sending unsolicited sexual content, and incorrectly playing hard to get. She emphasizes the importance of building genuine connections and finding a balance in communication to avoid coming off as needy or emotionally distant, ultimately fostering a healthy and engaging relationship.
Takeaways
- đ Avoid texting all day and sharing your entire life story in one long text. It can come off as overwhelming and unnecessary.
- đ Refrain from using too many emojis in your texts. Overuse of emojis may give an impression of immaturity.
- đŹ Be cautious about spelling errors. Consistent spelling mistakes can be a turn-off, especially if English is your first language.
- đ« Never send unsolicited sexual messages or pictures. It's a violation of privacy and can harm your chances with a woman.
- đ Donât play hard to get incorrectly. If you like someone, it's okay to reach out and show interest without overdoing it.
- đ Build a connection through balanced texting. Engage just enough to show interest without overwhelming the other person.
- đ If English isn't your first language, be upfront about potential spelling mistakes to avoid misunderstandings.
- đ Understand that playing hard to get should be done with caution. It's about finding a balance between being available and not overwhelming the other person.
- đ€ Educate yourself about the stages of attraction. It's important to know when it's appropriate to escalate the conversation.
- đ Consider reading the 'How to Text' manual for more tips on effective texting strategies in dating.
Q & A
What is the main focus of Apollonia Pontia's video?
-The main focus of Apollonia Pontia's video is to discuss the five common mistakes men make when texting women they are interested in.
What is the first mistake men make when texting women according to the video?
-The first mistake men make is texting all day and trying to convey their whole life story in one text, which can come off as selling oneself too much.
Why is using too many emojis considered a mistake in texting?
-Using too many emojis can give off a vibe of immaturity and is seen as a mistake because it's excessive and not balanced with the woman's use of emojis.
What is the issue with consistent spelling errors when texting?
-Consistent spelling errors can be a turn-off and may indicate a lack of education or attention to detail, which can be unattractive to women looking for stability.
Why should men be cautious about sending unwanted pictures or sexual messages to women they are texting?
-Sending unwanted pictures or sexual messages can be seen as a privacy violation and is inappropriate if there hasn't been any flirtatious or intimate conversation established.
What is the wrong way men play hard to get when texting women?
-Playing hard to get incorrectly involves not texting a woman unless it's for setting up a date, which can lead to the woman feeling that the man is emotionally closed off or too busy for her.
What is the advice given for men who are not confident in their spelling abilities when texting?
-Men who are not confident in their spelling should either text less, try to improve their spelling, or consider having more phone conversations instead of relying on text.
How does Apollonia Pontia suggest men should approach texting women after a date?
-Apollonia Pontia suggests that men should text women after a date to check in and maintain connection, but not overdo it or play hard to get unnecessarily.
What is the importance of building attraction before engaging in sexting according to the video?
-Building attraction is important before sexting because it ensures that both parties are interested and comfortable with the intimate conversation, making it more likely to be well-received.
What resource does Apollonia Pontia offer to help men improve their texting skills?
-Apollonia Pontia offers a 'How to Text Manual' as a resource for men to improve their texting skills and avoid the mistakes discussed in the video.
What is the key takeaway for men when it comes to texting women, as per the video?
-The key takeaway for men is to find a balance in texting, not overdoing it or playing hard to get unnecessarily, and to maintain a connection that is genuine and respectful of the woman's feelings.
Outlines
đČ Common Texting Mistakes Men Make
Apollonia Pontia, a dating, relationship, and attraction coach, introduces five common texting mistakes men make when communicating with women. She emphasizes the importance of not being overly eager and not revealing too much about oneself through text. The coach advises against excessive texting, selling oneself too much, and using an excessive number of emojis, which can come off as immature. She also touches on the importance of proper spelling and the inappropriateness of sending unsolicited sexual images or messages, especially early in a relationship.
đ€ The Art of Attraction and Texting
In the second paragraph, Apollonia discusses the principle of building attraction before engaging in sexting, which should only occur when a woman is interested and comfortable. She stresses the importance of privacy and consent when sharing intimate content. The coach also addresses the misconception of playing hard to get through text messages, explaining that it's more about finding a balance between showing interest and not being overly available. She encourages men to build a connection, give space, and check in with the woman they're interested in, rather than over-analyzing or avoiding text communication.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄTexting Mistakes
đĄMindset
đĄAttraction Skills
đĄEmoji Overuse
đĄSpelling Errors
đĄSexting
đĄPlaying Hard to Get
đĄConnection
đĄPrivacy Violation
đĄCoaching
đĄText Manual
Highlights
Apollonia Pontia introduces herself as a dating, relationship, and attraction coach for men.
The video aims to address five common mistakes men make when texting women.
Mistake one is texting excessively, trying to convey one's entire life story in a single message.
Mistake two involves the overuse of emojis, which can come across as immature.
Mistake three is making consistent spelling errors, which can be a turn-off for women seeking stability.
The fourth mistake is sending unwanted pictures or sexualizing the conversation inappropriately.
Mistake five is playing hard to get incorrectly, which can lead to a lack of emotional connection.
The importance of not selling oneself too much in text messages is emphasized.
The video suggests that men should watch other videos for guidance on how to interact with women.
Being upfront about language learning can be a way to handle spelling errors.
The video explains that sexting should only be done when there is mutual interest and attraction.
Building attraction is a gradual process that should not be rushed through text messages.
Men are advised to find a balance between texting too much and not enough.
The video mentions the availability of Apollonia's 'How to Text' manual for further guidance.
The importance of emotional connection in dating is highlighted throughout the video.
The video encourages men to be authentic and not to over-analyze their texting habits.
A call to action for viewers to subscribe and engage with the content is made at the end of the video.
Transcripts
five horrible mistakes men make
when texting women you know when you
meet a girl
and you're all giddy and you're all
excited and all you want to do is get
her out on that date or just text her
and try to get results right now
well that mindset is probably not the
best mindset for you to be in
i'm gonna give you five horrible
mistakes that i've seen
so many men doing to myself and to other
women out there
and as a woman what we don't like this
is your first time watching this
video i or this channel i welcome you to
subscribe to this video
and this channel as well um my name is
apollonia pontia i'm a dating
relationship and attraction coach for
you men to really master your attraction
skills and really get good with women
let's get into it all right so the first
thing horrible mistake that you're going
to do
and that i've seen you excuse me not
that you're going to do but i've seen
happen is they text all day
they're trying to get to know the woman
through text
and too much length of text like your ch
your whole life story is in one
paragraph of the text where it actually
fits the whole phone
and then i see men in this why they are
texting all day
they're selling themselves you're trying
to sell yourself to a woman like
oh i'm six two and i do this and i have
this and i do
this and xyz and i'm this i'm i'm i'm
i'm
so you're selling yourself way too much
and you don't need to do that at all
because if you watch a lot of my videos
i tell you exactly what to do
when you meet and converse with women
now let's go tune to number two
mistake number two you use too many
emojis
all right an emoji here and there is
good but if you
find yourself using more emojis than the
woman does i would really
really really um recommend for you to
just slow that down just a little bit
now it's nothing wrong with smoke
sending an emoji here and there but what
i have seen is like when a girl is like
thank you
and you know your text message text
message and then you're like
you reply emoji reply she replies to you
no emoji
reply emoji emoji emoji like it's just
too much and actually that's happened to
me and it
kind of gives me the vibe of immaturity
right it just i just don't like it at
all and this is a big thing that i've
seen actually happen where we're talking
with emojis and it sounds so weird
to actually say this in a video like all
right wow what does the world come to
anyways
horrible mistake number three all right
now
all of us have spelling errors i do too
um
i am the person of spelling errors
because i'm always when i post or when i
post a message
i'm just posting and i go and i don't
really think about it sometimes on my
stories especially on instagram
and i don't spell i misspell all the
time but there's times where i will do
that
here's the difference spelling
errors constant spirit spelling errors
consistent spelling errors for
things that are pretty common that you
shouldn't know how to spell are not
salvageable so here's the thing guys
i understand my husband when me and him
first started dating
english was not his first language it
was french he was actually learning
english when he was dating me
but here's the difference is one he was
very upfront
with his spelling he told me like listen
if i text you
don't judge me on the spelling i'm
trying to work on it
and if you ever see a misspelled word
just please correct me whatever but
don't judge me it's completely different
when you are learning a language and
especially then on top of that trying to
spell a new language i mean come on
if this is you then it's okay just be
upfront with a woman but if you're
pretty what good well with english and
english is maybe your first language or
even a second language that you've had
in your life for years you've got to be
careful with spelling errors because
this is not salvageable
now um one of the things that is a turn
off to a woman that is looking for
you know a pretty stable man and
something more
is this um what we think okay so that
would be a next question what we think
um educating education is attractive too
guys
and plain and simple it just is so if
you're not a good speller maybe
text less or try to get her out on the
phone more and that's why i say text me
business
and you should always no matter what
have light chats by text and then move
into
a phone conversation or a date now
horrible mistake number four ascending
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unwanted pictures or
sexualizing the wrong way this is a big
one
if you haven't had any flirtatious
things going on through texts or um any
sexual messages from her or any flirty
messages from her or even
haven't even kissed or made out yet or
done anything
then you should not be sending her
sexting sexting
messages when we
go wrong here is i've seen a lot of men
text women sexually in order to get her
attracted to you
i don't know where that was even
told to men but i'm here to tell you
that doesn't work
and i really want you to understand this
one principle guys
sexting is great when a woman is
interested and she's hot and having
she's into you
but we actually have to build attraction
in order to get there and there's
different stages of attraction
which i talk about in my attraction
coaching course
i would encourage you to go to our
coaching page for you to check that out
and sign up if you are interested
but this is something that you do not
do sending unwanted pictures when the
woman doesn't even ask and where that
woman doesn't even ask
guys this is a privacy violation to be
honest
not of just yours but of hers too so
let's be careful here
i always would recommend for if you guys
have been intimate or started talking
intimately by phone or
text asking her actually before you send
it
is probably the way to go and lastly
the fifth horrible mistake that men do
when texting is playing
hard to get wrong oh this is a good one
man me and my other coaches natalie and
cynthia
um and there's another coach as well and
she's a woman
and we talk at least once a week in our
meetings and this is something that we
talk about a lot that's
men are coming to us to clean up what
they've learned
unfortunately from some other men
coaches there's great men coaches out
there
um but there's it's very tactical
sometimes and we're taking humanity out
of dating
and this is not what you're going to
find on this channel one of the things i
want to be really clear about is
you can't take away the essence of an
emotional connection of who you are
what do i mean by that now when you
start playing hard to get
because you really do just want to text
her and check in with her then do it
if the woman likes you she wants to hear
from you there's this notion that i've
heard that
you should never text a woman unless
it's only for a date
false what you need to do is build some
type of connection
you don't want to talk contact her all
day and all night
but you wanna kind of build up some
anticipation
and some connection ask her on the date
give her some space
check in have the date i've seen
so many men tell me that after they've
gotten on the date everything went well
and then the woman or the woman was like
i just feel like you're just emotionally
closed off or it's kind of weird because
you seem too busy for
me or you never really text i would like
to hear more from you and they give you
all these signs and you still don't do
it
because you're trying to play hard to
get because you think that if you text
her you're going to be needy
there's a difference between texting too
much which was my first horrible mistake
that men made in this video
between the difference between texting
too much and just texting enough
understand that you have it in you to
know what too much is
and what enough is and stop doubting
yourself if you want to
message a girl that you like because you
had a fantastic time with her on a date
in the next day or two days from now
freaking do it
i'm sure that woman will be will be
happy to hear from you
and it opens up the conversation for her
to also initiate with you a little bit
more
because if you don't engage in much as
as much in text the woman's not going to
do it either
so i would encourage you to just pace
yourself with text messages don't over
analyze and play too hard to get through
text
the only reason men play hard to get is
because they over text too much it's
about finding that happy medium
if you want more help with text
messaging i created something for you
it's my how to text manual and this is
something that you guys
need to read click that link below and
get your copy
of the text manual as always i love
hearing from you so please feel free to
comment below share this video with a
friend that might text a lot too
and help him out as always i'll see you
in the next one guys and remember you
are always loved
bye for now
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