How to Handle Criticism, Hate and Disrespect?
Summary
TLDRThis script explores the vital role of embracing criticism for success, drawing on historical examples like Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis and modern figures like Elon Musk. It highlights the importance of filtering feedback through three critical questions to ensure constructive criticism, identifying four types of critics and advising on how to engage with each. The message is clear: use criticism wisely to build your success, not a graveyard for it.
Takeaways
- đ Embracing criticism is often cited as a key to success, but the script emphasizes the need for understanding how to do so effectively.
- đ Great leaders and change-makers share a common trait: the ability to receive and act on criticism constructively.
- đ€Ž Historical figures like Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj and modern figures like Elon Musk are highlighted for their openness to criticism from all levels.
- đŹ The story of Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis illustrates the transformative power of criticism and the tragic consequences of ignoring it.
- đ§Œ Semmelweis's simple solution of 'WASH YOUR HANDS' could have saved countless lives if not for the resistance to his criticism.
- âïž Criticism is a double-edged sword; it can either lead to greatness or become an obstacle to success, depending on how it's handled.
- đ Daniel Coyle's 'The Culture Code' introduces a method by basketball coach Gregg Popovich for discerning valuable feedback through three key questions.
- đ€ The script suggests asking three questions to critics to ensure the feedback received is constructive and actionable.
- đ It's important to categorize critics into four groups: haters, innocent critics, sweet talkers, and constructive critics, to filter feedback effectively.
- đ« Disregard feedback from haters who aim to pull you down, and block them to maintain focus and growth.
- đ Consider the advice from innocent critics with caution, respecting their intent while critically evaluating their suggestions.
- đ Beware of sweet talkers who may provide false validation; listen but do not rely solely on their praise.
- đ Value feedback from constructive critics, even if it's harsh, as it can lead to significant personal and professional growth.
Q & A
What is the common trait among the greatest leaders and change makers according to the script?
-The common trait is their ability to take and act upon the criticism they receive.
Who is Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj and how is he related to the topic of criticism?
-Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj was one of the greatest kings in Indian history, known for taking criticism from everyone regardless of their status.
What was Elon Musk's response when asked about the most difficult thing in his life?
-The script does not provide the exact response of Elon Musk, but it implies that it was related to handling criticism, not his ambitious projects like colonizing Mars or making reusable rockets.
What is the significance of the story about Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis in the context of criticism?
-The story of Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis illustrates the importance of listening to criticism and feedback, as his observations about hand hygiene could have saved many lives if adopted earlier.
What was the solution proposed by Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis to combat Puerperal fever?
-Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis proposed that doctors should wash their hands and instruments with Chlorine after conducting autopsies to prevent the spread of Puerperal fever.
What are the three questions suggested by Daniel Coyle in 'The Culture Code' to evaluate criticism?
-The script does not provide the specific questions, but it mentions that they help to navigate through both the good and the bad aspects of feedback and encourage constructive criticism.
How can one determine the value of criticism according to the script?
-By categorizing critics into four groups: haters, innocent critics, sweet talkers, and constructive critics, and understanding their intentions and the value of their feedback accordingly.
What should be the approach towards haters who criticize just to pull you down?
-Block them from your life and social media to avoid their negative influence on your focus and growth.
How should one handle advice from innocent critics who may give baseless advice out of love?
-Consider their intent, which is not evil, but do not take their advice without clear thought. Respect them and learn to ignore advice that does not make sense.
What is the advice regarding sweet talkers who constantly praise you?
-Listen to them but do not take their praise too seriously, as it can lead to complacency and hinder personal growth.
Why are constructive critics important and how should their feedback be treated?
-Constructive critics provide valuable feedback that may sound harsh but is essential for growth. Their criticism should be noted and worked on obsessively for exponential growth.
Outlines
đ€ Embracing Criticism for Success
This paragraph discusses the importance of embracing criticism as a key to success, a lesson often taught from childhood but seldom explained. It highlights the common trait among great leaders and change-makers: their ability to accept and act on criticism. The script uses the examples of Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj and Elon Musk to illustrate this point. It then poses a question about the significance of this habit and how ordinary people can learn to handle criticism properly, leading into a historical example from 1846 Europe regarding the 'black death of child bed' and Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis's struggle to communicate the importance of hand hygiene in medical practice.
đ The Art of Receiving Constructive Feedback
The second paragraph delves into the method of receiving constructive feedback, as described in Daniel Coyle's 'The Culture Code' and exemplified by basketball coach Gregg Popovich's 'magical feedback' technique. It suggests asking three critical questions to discern the value of feedback. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of filtering feedback from various sources, identifying four categories of critics: haters, innocent critics, sweet talkers, and constructive critics. It advises on how to handle feedback from each category, stressing the value of learning from constructive critics for personal and professional growth. The speaker concludes by encouraging the audience to use criticism as a building block for success rather than a stumbling block.
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Keywords
đĄCriticism
đĄEmbracing
đĄLeaders
đĄChange Makers
đĄPuerperal Fever
đĄFeedback
đĄConstructive Feedback
đĄHaters
đĄInnocent Critics
đĄSweet Talkers
đĄConstructive Critics
Highlights
The importance of embracing criticism for success is a lesson often taught from childhood, but the method to do so is rarely explained.
Great leaders and change makers share a common trait: the ability to take and act upon criticism.
Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj was known for accepting criticism from all levels of society.
Elon Musk considers handling criticism as one of the most difficult aspects of his life, despite his ambitious projects.
The story of Dr. Ignaz Semmelweis highlights the critical role of criticism in medical advancement, despite initial rejection.
Dr. Semmelweis's simple solution of 'WASH YOUR HANDS' revolutionized medical hygiene and saved countless lives.
Criticism can be a double-edged sword, leading to either greatness or failure, depending on how it's received.
The 'magical feedback' technique by basketball coach Gregg Popovich involves asking three key questions to critics for constructive feedback.
Filtering through genuine feedback requires discerning between haters, innocent critics, sweet talkers, and constructive critics.
Haters criticize to pull you down and should be ignored for maintaining focus and growth.
Innocent critics may give baseless advice out of love, which should be thoughtfully considered but not necessarily followed.
Sweet talkers offer praise but their advice should be listened to with caution and not taken too seriously.
Constructive critics provide valuable, albeit harsh, feedback that should be obsessively worked upon for growth.
Discerning and processing feedback effectively is crucial for personal and professional development.
Criticism can be transformative; it's up to the individual to use it to build a castle of greatness or a graveyard of failure.
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Transcripts
People did you ever notice that we all are told since childhood
that the habit of embracing criticism is the stepping stone to success.
But, nobody ever tells us how exactly do you embrace criticism ?
If you look at the greatest leaders of all time, the greatest change makers of all time.
The one thing you will find common in all of them
is their ability to take and act upon the criticism that they receive.
Chhatrapati Shivaji Maharaj, one of the greatest kings who ever lived in this country
was primarily known to take criticism from everyone.
For him it really did not matter whether it is coming from an ordinary villager or the prime minister of the state himself.
A modern day example of the same is Elon Musk,
you know what, Elon Musk was once asked at a conference
as to what exactly is the most difficult thing in his life.
Now, considering the fact that he is already doing crazy things like
colonising the Mars and making reusable rockets.
You would think that his most difficult thing would be related to
either one of these crazy things that he is doing.
But you know what he said, and I quote,
And here's where the question arises, as to why is this habit so so important
and more importantly, how can ordinary people like you and me learn to take criticism the right way.
To give you a deeper understanding of the same, I want to take you back to 1846, Europe.
For those of you do not know, this was one of the darkest times in the European history
wherein there was a major disease that was on the rise.
This disease was called the black death of child bed
wherein as soon as the mothers gave birth to their children
they used to die out of something called the Puerperal fever.
And just like the Covid-19 death toll today
there used to be a consistent increase in the deaths of mothers.
And even after years of research and millions of dollars into spending
no one could actually find out what exactly caused this problem.
But amidst all of this chaos, there was this one guy by the name Dr Ignaz Semmelweis.
He very openly started criticising the doctors and was screaming out the solution in every way possible.
And he did everything in his capacity to get his word out and prove the solution to the world.
But you know what, nobody listened to him and the entire society, especially the doctors
they called him crazy for decades.
And this poor man died in a mental asylum.
But you know what, after years of 'Research & Development'.
One fine day, after multiple references, the doctors actually tried out a solution
Guess what ? The Puerperal fever was gone like this
You know what his solution was ? It was a three word answer
WASH YOUR HANDS
As it turns out, Dr Ignaz had made an observation
that the doctors were doing the deliveries in the afternoon after conducting the autopsies in the morning
which is why the disease got passed on from the dead bodies into the mother's body
which is why even healthy mothers were dying out of the puerperal fever.
So all they had to do was wash their hands and instruments with Chlorine
and one of the deadliest disease in the history could have been eradicaed very very easily.
Today, Dr Ignaz is considered to be a legend and he is regarded as the 'saviour of mothers'.
But all throughout those years while the doctors were too proud to admit their flaws,
god knows how many mothers went inside the ward hoping that they would be able to see their babies
only to come of in body bags.
God knows how many children in that generation grew up without a mother
just because of the futile ego of the doctors who consider themselves next to god.
This is the reason why feedback and criticism is very very important.
This story also tells us that criticism is a double edged sword.
If taken the right way, it will lead you to greatness
and at the same time if not taken the right way, it will become the graveyard of your success.
So now the question is, in this big bad world while we have got only a few genuine well wishers
and on the other side we have got these dedicated haters who will go out of the way just to pull you down
and then we have got these people who often sugarcoat their answers just to keep their image
regardless of how pathetic your condition is.
How do you exactly filter through this chaos and take the feedback that really matters ?
The answer to this question comes from this book called the culture code
wherein Daniel Coyle talks about the method
which is used by one of the greatest basketball coaches of all time
who goes by the name Gregg Popovich.
And this method is very famously known as the magical feedback.
And you can use this magical feedback technique by asking three questions to your critic
Eventually, you will realize that you are getting constructive feedback.
These 3 questions are:
That's it.
Once you begin to ask these questions, automatically you will begin to receive constructive feedback from your critics
because these questions help the viewer navigate through both the good and the bad
and urges him/her to think about the new possibilites of improvement
which is what brings constructive feedback.
Once you get all these answers, it's time to jot them down
And work upon treating what works best for you and work upon what is not
Then comes the most important question of all
How do you exactly process this feedback
and how do you decide whom to listen to and who not to.
Well always remember, people, that there are 4 broad categories of people who will criticise you.
The first category of the people are the haters.
These are the people who will criticise you just to pull you down
and if you start taking them seriously it will mess up with your focus and stifle your growth.
So, block them both from your life and social media and it will work wonders for you.
The second category of people are innocent critics.
These are people who love you a lot but might sometimes give you baseless advice.
For example, your parents love you a lot that is why they might push you to take a so called safe career.
But you need to remember one thing; that their intent is never bad but their advice very well could be.
So, never ever take their advice without giving it a clear thought
If it makes sense to you, work upon it,
if not, learn to ignore it.
But the one thing that you need to remember is that you should never ever disrespect them
because today they might be giving you baseless advice
but tomorrow they could be giving you a sensible advice because ultimately their intent is not evil.
But then, if you begin to disrespect them
they might eventually stop giving you feedback which is very very bad.
With that we move on to the third category and these are sweet talkers.
These are people who will praise you so much that you will knowingly or unknowingly incline towards them
just to get validation.
And this is where you need to remind yourself that
"Ego is the anaesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity"
I repeat
So definitely listen to the sweet talkers but don't ever take them seriously.
And last and most importantly we have got constructive critics
These are people who love you a lot and will give you feedback that might sound very harsh at the beginning
but is very very important.
This could be a professor who really cares for you
this could be your best friend or even your partner.
And you know what, never ever leave these people and always jot down what they say.
And sometimes they might give you baseless advice because nobody is perfect
but do make sure to jot down their criticism and work obssessively on it.
And once you start doing this, you will begin to witness exponential growth
in whatever aspect you're taking criticism for.
This could be your personal life, professional life and this could even be your own business.
And if you do this I am 100% sure that nobody in this goddamn world can stop you from achieving greatness
regardless of what you're doing right now.
And every time it gets difficult to gulp down a harsh feedback just tell yourself one thing
Criticism is that stone that people will throw at you all the time
but it is you who needs to decide to whether to build the castle of your greatness
or the graveyard of your success.
Now, let that sink in, and think about it for a while.
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