Why I Choose To Live A "Boring" Life at 25
Summary
TLDRThe speaker reflects on societal pressures and expectations from their late teens, leading to anxiety about career and materialism. Moving abroad for new perspectives, they discovered the importance of living in the present moment, embracing a simple and slow lifestyle, and valuing personal happiness over societal norms. This realization brought peace and contentment, emphasizing the subjective nature of fun and the beauty in simple activities.
Takeaways
- đ The speaker feels disappointed with their life at 25, believing they are wasting their potential.
- đ There is a societal pressure in Western countries to follow a specific path of productivity and economic contribution.
- đ€ The speaker was unsure of their values and what they wanted to do, leading to anxiety about making life decisions.
- đ At 20, the speaker realized societal standards were causing anxiety and decided to move abroad to find new perspectives.
- đ± The realization that the present moment is all we have helped alleviate social pressure and stress.
- đĄ Embracing a simple and slow lifestyle focused on what truly matters, like family, friends, and hobbies, brought happiness.
- đ ââïž Learning to say no to unnecessary things and protecting personal energy and values is crucial.
- đââïž Finding joy in simple activities like running, cleaning, and even sewing reflects a shift in what brings fulfillment.
- đĄ A desire to live in a cabin or a simple space away from the noise of modern life is expressed.
- đż The speaker no longer seeks fame but values a peaceful and simple life, despite occasional doubts and anxieties.
- đ€ Ending the day with a peaceful mind and heart is what truly matters, signifying contentment with the chosen lifestyle.
Q & A
How does the speaker feel about their life at 25 compared to their younger self's expectations?
-The speaker feels that their younger self would be disappointed, thinking they are wasting their life and potential, as they have not followed the societal norms they felt pressured to follow in their late teens.
What societal pressures did the speaker feel during their late teens?
-The speaker felt the pressure to conform to society's norms, such as being productive daily, working hard to climb the corporate ladder, and using savings to support the economy.
Why did the speaker decide to move abroad at the age of 20?
-The speaker decided to move abroad to find new perspectives in life and escape the societal standards that were causing them anxiety, as they needed space to understand themselves and their values better.
What realization did the speaker come to while living abroad?
-The speaker realized that the present moment is all they have and that they should focus on what they can do now, rather than being influenced by past or future concerns.
How did the realization about the present moment impact the speaker's life?
-This realization brought the speaker peace, allowing them to let go of social pressure and stress, and to understand that they are already happy with their current life situation.
What lifestyle changes did the speaker adopt after realizing the importance of the present moment?
-The speaker adopted a simple and slow lifestyle, focusing on things that truly matter to them, such as spending time with friends and family, and pursuing hobbies and passions like studying languages.
How has the speaker's perspective on material possessions changed after their realization?
-The speaker no longer feels the need to acquire material possessions like a house, car, or a large number of friends, as they have found happiness and fulfillment in a simpler lifestyle.
What does the speaker mean when they say 'fun is subjective'?
-The speaker means that what one person finds enjoyable may not be the same for another, and they have found joy in activities that others, including their past self, might find boring.
How does the speaker view their current lifestyle compared to their teenage years?
-The speaker views their current lifestyle as peaceful and fulfilling, contrasting with their teenage years when they aspired to be famous and accomplished in a more conventional sense.
What is the speaker's attitude towards their life choices and the simple life they lead?
-The speaker embraces their life choices and the simple life they lead, finding peace and contentment in it, despite occasional doubts and anxieties.
What is the speaker's advice for those who might be feeling similar pressures as they once did?
-The speaker suggests finding one's own values, focusing on the present moment, and embracing a simple lifestyle that prioritizes what truly matters to the individual.
Outlines
đ¶ââïž Searching for Life's True Path
The speaker reflects on the societal pressures they felt in their late teens to conform to a productive lifestyle, climbing the corporate ladder, and contributing to the economy. They express their struggle with not knowing their values or what they truly wanted to do, which led to anxiety and fear of making life decisions. The realization came at 20, prompting a move abroad to find new perspectives. This journey led to the understanding that the present moment is all we have, and focusing on it brought peace and the ability to let go of societal expectations. The speaker discovered happiness in a simple, slow-paced lifestyle, valuing personal interests and relationships over materialistic achievements.
đĄ Embracing a Simple and Peaceful Existence
In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the shift in their outlook on life from seeking fame and recognition during their teenage years to valuing a simple and peaceful life in the present. They acknowledge the occasional bad days and moments of anxiety but emphasize that they now sleep and wake with a peaceful mind and heart. The speaker finds joy in mundane activities that bring them a sense of accomplishment and internal cleansing, such as running without music or cleaning their house. They also explore new hobbies like sewing, which they find fulfilling despite its simplicity. The speaker concludes by expressing a desire to live in a cabin away from the noise, suggesting a continued pursuit of a tranquil and meaningful life.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄDisappointment
đĄSocietal Norms
đĄProductivity
đĄCorporate Ladder
đĄAnxiety
đĄSoul Searching
đĄPresent Moment
đĄSimple Lifestyle
đĄValues
đĄSaying No
đĄSubjective Fun
Highlights
The speaker feels disappointed with their life at 25, believing they are wasting their potential.
During late teens, there was pressure to follow societal norms and a certain lifestyle.
The speaker felt anxiety from societal standards, such as needing new clothes or picking a degree.
At 20, the speaker decided to move abroad alone to find new perspectives in life.
The realization that the present moment is all we have led to peace and letting go of social pressure.
Happiness and fulfillment can be found without needing a perfect career or materialistic things.
The speaker values a simple, slow lifestyle focusing on things that truly matter, like family, friends, and hobbies.
Studying languages and other passions bring happiness, even without external rewards.
Learning to say no to things that don't align with personal values and protecting one's energy.
Fun is subjective; activities like running or cleaning can be enjoyable and fulfilling.
The speaker finds joy in creating clothes, which was previously considered boring.
Simple living has led to finding fun in activities that were once thought boring.
The speaker contemplates moving to a cabin for an even simpler and peaceful life.
Nowadays, the speaker falls asleep and wakes up with a peaceful mind and heart.
The speaker no longer seeks to be famous but values a simple and peaceful life.
Despite bad days and doubts, the speaker finds peace in their lifestyle choices.
The video concludes with the speaker encouraging viewers to stay kind and meaningful on their journey.
Transcripts
If you would show the younger me what kind of life I'm living today at 25 he would be disappointed Â
and think I'm wasting my life and potential. But there's something I realized later when Â
I was in my late teens so basically 18-19, I felt this like pressure really to follow Â
what are the like society's norms and I think I'm not the only one feeling this. I feel in Â
the Western countries we are pushed at a very young age to this certain path and lifestyle Â
of needing to be productive daily, working hard to climb up the corporate ladder and then using Â
your savings to provide for the economy. And as most I was going to follow this path as Â
well but the difficulty was that I really had no ideas what I want to do I really didn't know Â
myself and what are my values and I was really afraid to make any step forward because I felt Â
like that's then the last step I will ever take. When I turned 20 I realized that many of these Â
societal standards had started to give me a lot of anxiety from small things like needing Â
to buy new clothes every season or going out on the weekends to bigger things like picking Â
a degree and going to study. I needed to take space from all this and decided to move abroad Â
alone to find new perspectives in life, no idea even what, just something new and different.
And while doing this soul searching abroad I realized one thing that the present moment is Â
the only thing that we have I shouldn't focus on what I was in the past or necessarily what will Â
I be in the future what's the right path but what I have now, what I can do now. And realizing this Â
gave me so much peace I could let go of all that social pressure and stress and realized actually I Â
am pretty happy already in life right now. I don't necessarily need to find that perfect career or Â
have some perfect materialistic thing like a house or a car or like a bunch of friends or something. Â
And this is where it really clicked and I realized that my thing is really the simple lifestyle, Â
slow lifestyle, focusing on only the things that really matter to me for example being Â
with friends, being with family, my hobbies, other little passions that I have for example Â
studying languages. Like even though it wouldn't give me something external still I should do that Â
if that really is something that makes me feel happy and fulfilled. So once I found out what Â
are my values what I really want to do and what I don't want to do I started to say no much more Â
people asking me to do certain stuff or seeing some amazing offers for example very cheap some Â
new stuff that I knew that I kind of don't need even though it's cheap I started to say no to Â
all those things that I don't need you. I was very much protecting my own energy and my own values. Â
And one really important thing that I realized and I want to share with you is that fun is so Â
subjective. There are many things that I do that people find and probably also the past me finds Â
very boring for example going to run for one hour one and a half hours without any like music or Â
podcast but I just find it so fun like it gives me so much peace, so many new ideas that I love Â
to do it even though if you think of it there's nothing there's just me putting my foot ahead Â
of the other and that's basically it but still there's something so beautiful in that. Other Â
stuff are for example cleaning the house, I used to find that boring as well but now it's like when Â
I clean or when I take a shower it's like when I'm cleaning something external I'm also cleaning Â
something internal. It feels also that I have accomplished something and I can like visually Â
see it nicer but also I made something more pure something that was a little bit cluttered.
I like how here you can really hear the leaves dropping from the trees first there's silence and Â
a little bit of wind the wind goes away and then you can hear all the leaves hitting the ground
And also recently I have started something that I never thought I would do and that they saw in Â
clothes like I haven't done it so much I suck at it to be honest but it's doing something Â
it's creating something with your hands that is so cool there's something really primal Â
I think in that makes it so fun. In school you know I did it when I was I don't know 12 years Â
old and I always thought that they see they're boring on it then it was that time to you know Â
talk with friends and not do any of that but nowadays it's just I could put some nice Lo-Fi Â
music behind and you know just create clothes that's amazing. And sometimes I really think Â
that if these are the things that I find now after I don't know a few years of slow living Â
simple living I find this fun maybe in 10 years I live in like a cave or something. Â
So there will be an update video from cave. I mean I really want to move like in a cabin Â
or somewhere else that would be super cool and not have to listen to these train sounds while Â
I'm filming a video. Nowadays when people ask how am I doing what I've been up to lately it's Â
sometimes very difficult to find the answer to that because could be that I didn't do much of Â
course you know I work and exercise and all that stuff but there isn't these huge things anymore...
Definitely need to move to a cabin
I used to think when I was in my teenager years that I wish to be somebody special, somebody like Â
famous for amazing things but nowadays I don't really care I think simple life is something that Â
already should be celebrated as it is. I mean of course till I have bad days I have anxiety Â
and doubts about this whole lifestyle and my life choices and all that but what is different from Â
when I was 17 year old is that nowadays when I go to sleep I fall asleep with a peaceful mind and a Â
peaceful heart and I can wake up also with those. And I think that's all that matters in the end. Â
So maybe for some it is a boring life but for me it's just a peaceful life. If you like this video Â
I'm sure you will like this one as well. Thank you so much for watching remember to stay kind Â
and meaningful in your own beautiful journey. Seve signing out until the next one, ciao!
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