How To Make Any Boring Conversation Flirty (Say This)
Summary
TLDRThis video script offers a guide for men to transition from mundane conversations to meaningful interactions with women. It addresses common issues like being overly logical or too direct, and suggests a gradual approach to displaying intent. The speaker emphasizes the importance of teasing and push-pull dynamics to create attraction and build confidence. He also introduces the concept of progressive desensitization to overcome intent anxiety, providing actionable steps and offering a mentorship program for personalized coaching.
Takeaways
- đ The speaker used to struggle with initiating man-to-woman interactions and often ended conversations without sparking the necessary attraction.
- đ A common mistake is either keeping conversations too logical and boring or being too blunt and direct, both of which can hinder progress in relationships.
- đĄ The speaker suggests that physical attraction is just an initial intrigue for women, and a well-run conversation is crucial for deeper connection.
- đ¶ââïž To transition from platonic to romantic interactions, one must learn to display intent confidently, starting with small steps.
- đ¶ The concept of 'baby stepping' into displaying intent is introduced, emphasizing gradual desensitization to reduce anxiety.
- đ Teasing is highlighted as a crucial step in transitioning from logical to romantic conversations, serving as a playful way to introduce negative emotions.
- đ€ Playful disagreement is suggested as an initial step towards teasing, helping to avoid constant agreement which can be uninteresting.
- đŹ The speaker recommends using push-pull techniques in teasing, which involves a mix of negative and positive emotions to keep the interaction engaging.
- đ Incremental progression from teasing to flirting is encouraged, allowing for a smoother transition into displaying romantic intent.
- đ The speaker offers a mentorship program for those interested in more in-depth coaching and personal analysis of their dating and communication skills.
Q & A
What is the main issue the speaker addresses in the video script?
-The speaker addresses the issue of struggling to transition from boring, platonic, logical conversations to engaging, man-to-woman interactions that can lead to attraction and dating.
What does the speaker describe as the two common mistakes made by men in conversations with women?
-The two common mistakes are either keeping the conversation on a very boring logical level or being too blunt and direct, which can lead to either a 'blow me or blow me out' situation.
What is the speaker's advice for someone who is afraid to display intent in conversations with women?
-The speaker advises to start by 'baby stepping' into displaying more intent, beginning with small, non-threatening compliments and gradually building up to more direct expressions of interest.
What is the concept of 'teasing' as introduced by the speaker?
-Teasing is a concept where one playfully disagrees or gives a light-hearted negative response to create a more engaging and less predictable interaction, which can be a stepping stone to displaying intent.
What is the purpose of 'push-pull' in the context of the speaker's advice?
-The purpose of 'push-pull' is to create a dynamic in the conversation where one moment you might be teasing or disagreeing (pushing away), and the next moment you could be complimenting or showing interest (pulling in), creating a balance of emotions.
What is the speaker's suggestion for someone who is completely new to displaying intent?
-The speaker suggests starting with simple compliments like saying the person looks cute, and then gradually incorporating more intent as one becomes comfortable with the interaction.
What does the speaker mean by 'progressive desensitization'?
-'Progressive desensitization' refers to the process of gradually exposing oneself to a feared situation or behavior in small increments to build confidence and reduce anxiety over time.
How does the speaker define 'intent anxiety'?
-'Intent anxiety' is the fear or nervousness one might feel when trying to express romantic or sexual interest in a conversation, especially when it's a new or uncomfortable behavior for the person.
What is the speaker's view on the importance of physical attraction in the context of man-to-woman interactions?
-The speaker believes that while physical attraction is important and can serve as an initial intrigue for women, it is not the only factor. Running the conversation well is also crucial for progressing the interaction.
What kind of program does the speaker offer for those who want to learn more about these concepts?
-The speaker offers a mentorship program, which includes live coaching and one-on-one sessions, to help individuals improve their communication and dating skills.
What is the final call to action the speaker makes to the audience?
-The speaker encourages the audience to click the link in the description to fill out an application for a free consultation call, where they can discuss their current situation and how to achieve their dating goals.
Outlines
đ Overcoming Boring Conversations and Displaying Intent
The speaker discusses the common struggle of maintaining engaging conversations with women and transitioning from platonic to romantic interactions. They emphasize the importance of displaying intent confidently and gradually to avoid being seen as either overly direct or too reserved. The speaker shares personal experiences and offers actionable steps, such as starting with subtle compliments and gradually increasing the level of intent, to help viewers overcome their fears and improve their dating skills.
đ The Art of Teasing and Push-Pull Dynamics
This paragraph delves into the concept of teasing as a bridge between boring conversations and displaying romantic intent. The speaker explains that teasing, which involves playful disagreement and mild negative emotional spikes, can make the transition to flirting smoother. They introduce the idea of push-pull, where after a tease, a light compliment is given to balance the interaction. The speaker encourages viewers to practice this technique to become more comfortable with displaying intent and to stand out from others who only offer praise.
đ Building Confidence and Transitioning to Intent Display
The final paragraph focuses on the progression from teasing to confidently displaying intent. The speaker suggests that by starting with small, non-threatening interactions and gradually incorporating elements of attraction and teasing, one can build up to displaying intent without it feeling like a significant leap. They highlight the importance of practice and desensitization to make the process feel more natural and less intimidating. The speaker also promotes their coaching program for personalized guidance in mastering these concepts.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄPlatonic conversation
đĄIntent
đĄAttraction
đĄTeasing
đĄPush-pull
đĄDesensitization
đĄConfidence
đĄLogical level
đĄNice guy
đĄMentorship program
Highlights
Struggling with boring platonic logical conversations that don't progress to man-to-woman interactions.
The importance of transitioning from logical conversation to sparking attraction and emotion.
Common mistake of keeping conversations on a boring logical level or being too blunt and direct.
Physical attraction in women is more about intrigue rather than just physical appeal.
The need for displaying intent in conversations to make them man-to-woman interactions.
Overcoming the fear of displaying intent by practicing in baby steps.
The concept of progressive desensitization to build confidence in displaying intent.
Starting with simple compliments like 'you look really cute' to ease into intent.
Using the word 'q' as a casual way to compliment and ease into deeper conversation.
The role of teasing in transitioning from platonic to flirtatious interactions.
Teasing as a way to introduce negative emotions in a playful manner.
The importance of balance between positive and negative emotions in conversations.
Starting with playful disagreements as a form of teasing.
Using push-pull techniques to transition from teasing to displaying intent.
The gradual progression from logical conversation to teasing, and then to displaying intent.
Building confidence through practice and desensitization to comfortably display intent.
Offering a mentorship program for one-on-one coaching on these concepts.
Encouraging viewers to apply for a free consultation call to discuss personal coaching.
Transcripts
are you someone that struggles with
boring platonic logical conversation
that leads nowhere if so I'm going to
show you guys the easiest steps needed
to transition from boring logical
conversation all the way to getting into
a man-to-woman interaction what that
progression looks like and more
importantly the applicable techniques
and lines you need to be doing to make
that transition this was something I've
struggled with for years before I
actually got this down pat okay I used
to be that nice guy that would have
conversations that would fizzle out they
wouldn't become well I would get a bunch
of nice to meet shoes and there's
nothing more frustrating than that when
you can finally go up and start talking
to the girls they're engaging they're
responding but you're not sparking the
right attraction and emotion that you
need to get to a point where it is man
to woman the biggest problem I see a lot
of guys doing is that they either keep
it on a very boring logical level or
they try to just inject some direct
style intent into the conversation
you're either the nice guy that's
completely afraid to display intent it's
nervous talking to you and you just
don't know how to do it and I'll show
you how to overcome that in this video
watch this in full or you're the guy
that just goes in you start conversation
but then you're just too blunt you're
too direct and you either give all your
power away or you're in this kind of
situation what we like to call is like
blow me or blow me out the girl's like
either about it right away or she's not
and from my experience most women are
not going to be about that because
they're not just turned on physically
like how men are yes physical attraction
is a thing with women they can look at
you and determine whether or not they
are somewhat attracted but from my
experience physical attraction is
nothing more than Intrigue from a girl's
position if she finds a guy attractive
she's intrigued to go and talk to him
and you still need to run the
conversation well to get that girl in
either situation you're probably not
getting the girls you really want
because you're just too boring and
logical you're not getting any women if
you're blunt and direct you're only
getting the girls that are already super
into you and we're already attracted to
you before you even started talking so I
don't like either one of those
approaches and for that reason let's
talk about the right things to do and
how you can overcome some of these
struggles the biggest problem that I was
doing wrong when I was going up and I
was talking to girls initially I didn't
even have the balls to say I'm attracted
to you or I think you're cute or I like
your hair I couldn't even do that if
you're at that level well then the first
thing you need to do is actually start
baby stepping your way into displaying
more intent you need to understand that
displaying intent is completely normal
it's something you need to do as a man
if you actually want to get the woman if
you want to make the interaction man to
woman there needs to be some level of
intent at some point and the only way to
get there is to be able to deliver
intent from a confident place if you
can't do it at all you're not going to
be able to just go in and do it from a
confident place which is why I said we
need to start practicing that to get
desensitized to it the way you're gonna
become confident in that situation is by
going through it more and more times so
right away the first time you do it yeah
it's going to be nerve-wracking and I
recommend you do it in baby steps so
you're not just going to go up to the
first girl you see and just say oh my
God I thought you were so attractive I
think you're so sexy I was wondering if
I could take you out on a date if you're
the guy that has intent anxiety that is
a nerve-wracking traumatic experience
and even if you were to try to do that
you're gonna panic and run away and be
terrified to do that again okay that's
like if you're afraid of heights and you
just go from jumping off of a one foot
cliff to trying to jump off the 50-foot
Cliff you may jump off but it would be a
traumatic experience you're not going to
be freed from that the way to build up
the confidence is incrementally through
desensitization Progressive
desensitization so what I want you to do
is instead of going from jumping off of
no Cliff to a 50-foot extremely
terrifying clip we're gonna do a five
foot cliff and a ten foot cliff and a 15
foot cliff and then a 20 foot cliff and
as you start building your way up it no
longer becomes that terrifying of a
process because the progression is very
small increments and you'll actually
build up your core confidence on the way
up so what tell guys to do is initially
what you could do the first couple times
you just want to sprinkle in the word q
if you can just sprinkle in the word q
it makes things a lot easier you don't
need to ask the girl out you don't need
to do all the stuff you could literally
just tell the girl honestly I thought
you looked really cute by the way I just
wanted to tell you that have a good day
take care if you're in conversation some
of you guys may just ask for directions
start talking to the girl and say anyway
I'm gonna get going I just wanted to say
you look really cute by the way take
care you can literally leave right after
that sentence but at least you said it
and you gave yourself the evidence it's
okay to say it that is like jumping off
that five foot cliff for some of you
guys that's not a big deal and you're
like dude that's like really easy okay
if that's easy then I recommend saying
it and not leaving the interaction at
some point in the interaction you could
say something like oh honestly you look
really cute by the way but like I was
just saying I just noticed that blah
blah blah blah and you can keep talking
just sprinkle in that little tiny line
for some of you guys that even may be
challenging so another easy thing you
could do to bridge the gap is instead of
just going right into intent you want to
focus on teasing before displaying
intent so instead of going from boring
logical talk to intent I think a nice
half step in between is teasing and this
is of a crucial step I actually spend a
whole module inside of my program going
in depth on teasing mastering the art of
teasing and going over applicable
techniques okay so I'm gonna give you
guys one or two in this little video
right here and for those of you that
actually want to learn more about these
Concepts I do have a mentorship program
in place the links in the description
you can fill out an application right
down below okay I'll talk more about
that at the end of the video but if you
guys do want live coaching one to one
click that link okay but aside from that
let's talk about teasing and why this is
such a crucial step the reason most
dudes don't do it I think it's just like
it's not something that's commonly
taught in this industry but also if you
don't do it it makes the progression
from platonic logical to man to woman a
very big step and when something is a
big jump you're going to be very likely
to not do it or be afraid to do it so I
like teasing because it's a nice happy
medium that you could start to get
comfortable with and then once you're
here I'll even show you how you can baby
step teasing into flirting in a very
subtle way too okay so let's talk about
teasing instead of pesticizing the girl
or complimenting the girl what we're
actually going to do with teasing is be
pushing the girl away we're gonna be
telling her either a reason it doesn't
work or at the very least we're gonna
give her some kind of negative emotional
spiking out you don't need to be a
[Â __Â ] or an [Â __Â ] and say like mean
things to the girl to start teasing her
but I think she needs to experience some
kind of negative emotion even if it's a
small little bit it's automatically
going to make the interaction a little
bit more polarizing and not so
pedestalizing walking on eggshells
praising the girl which is what a lot of
you guys are doing if you have intent
anxiety you're probably afraid to give
the girl any negative emotion and you're
used to just complimenting or
pesticizing or maybe not even doing that
because you're afraid of doing that so
the first step I think you guys could be
doing in the teasing side of of things
is just sprinkling in the tiniest bit of
negative emotional Spike and that would
look something like a playful disagree
you want to playfully disagree with the
girl in the set and the reason this is
powerful is because again most nice guys
are just in agreement with everything
that the girl says they're either like
supplementing to the girl or just like
praising the girl or pedicizing the girl
it's nothing but positive emotions all
right if this is positive and this is
negative down here
the gut nice guys only are up here I
want you to start practicing giving the
girl small negative spikes because it's
gonna separate you from every other dude
that she talks to and that way when
there is a little bit of negative to
actually sprinkle in the positive which
would be intent it's not that big of a
step and it actually makes the net
around zero okay so instead of
pedestalizing or instead of being a
[Â __Â ] I like a combination of both
because that's what's ultimately going
to get you a positive result and it's
gonna be an easy step for those of you
guys that actually can't just display
intent and also keep in mind when it
comes to teasing there's a Vibe behind
teasing most dudes they don't have the
vibe to deliver powerful man to woman
intent so for them to go from logical to
powerful man to woman they can't do it
if you guys can start getting in the
habit of teasing and getting that
playful fun vibe to go from there to a
little bit of push pull is a very nice
transition and I think you'll actually
be able to execute on that so with that
being said I would like you guys to
playfully disagree with the girl what no
way or some of you guys that are a
little bit more ballsy you could even
add in like an F-bomb honestly what [Â __Â ]
no no [Â __Â ] way are you are you
[Â __Â ] serious no way that's a good
small little negative emotional Spike
it's not even really teasing the girl
it's just disagreeing which is the first
step towards teasing is giving the girl
some negative Spike giving her a little
bit of a push the last piece that I want
to talk about is the idea of push
pulling and I've talked about push
pulling before you guys know what that
is but when you start to tease the girl
first right on the fact that she's
either like cocky like what wow or what
ew oh my God that was so cocky or no way
I don't even believe you that's [Â __Â ]
you're a liar or you're a bad influencer
oh my God you're trouble you got to get
away any one of these is a little bit of
a tease whatever you're teasing the girl
on you could take that adjective or that
concept and you turn that into the
push-pull and that's when you would just
sprinkle in the you're cute but blank
you're cute but I feel like you're
low-key trouble I feel like you're
low-key of Brad I feel like you might be
a bad influence I feel like I don't know
I can't trust Latinas whatever you were
already teasing the girl about you just
you go from platonic logical get to know
you talk then to a disagree or a tease
about something once the combo is going
well you could sprinkle into your Cube
but say you're cute but that was so
cocky oh my God I can't right that's a
easy transition to baby step your way
into displaying more intent the problem
that you guys do is that you'll just get
into boring conversations small talk
question answer question answer you
never tease the girl and you never
display in 10 because that's a big jump
for a lot of you dudes so I'm telling
you take that step start teasing the
girl and then from there you could take
the teases and turn those into push
pulls and that's what's gonna give
yourself permission to make that easy
progression and over time you'll
actually get comfortable doing that once
you get comfortable doing that you'll
have confidence around that situation
and at some point you'll actually be
able to just look at the girl with
confidence and certainty because you've
gone through this process and you can
confidently display antenna that's an
easy progression that most of you nice
guys that struggle with this kind of
stuff could start implementing to start
getting a real result okay hope you guys
enjoyed this video if you're interested
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Concepts but if you actually want to
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Kyle signing out
peace out
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