How To Stay Mysterious (Make Her CHASE You)
Summary
TLDRThe video script narrates the importance of maintaining mystery in relationships to foster attraction and passion. It illustrates the pitfalls of oversharing personal details and the resulting loss of interest from a partner, using the metaphor of a soldier going to war to emphasize the value of absence and the excitement it brings to a relationship. The speaker shares personal anecdotes and advice on creating intrigue and avoiding depolarization, advocating for a dynamic balance between partners to sustain a healthy and passionate connection.
Takeaways
- đ Maintaining mystery in a relationship is crucial for sustaining attraction.
- đŁïž Over-sharing personal details can reduce attraction by killing mystery.
- đ” Avoid mundane, overly honest responses to keep the conversation interesting.
- đ Women often fantasize about their partners more positively when there is an element of mystery.
- â Not answering every question directly can help maintain an air of mystery.
- đ Being slightly elusive can increase a woman's interest and respect.
- đ« Familiarity and spending too much time together can lead to depolarization in relationships.
- đïžââïž Maintaining a strong, masculine image is important for long-term attraction.
- đïž Historical relationships had built-in periods of separation which maintained passion and excitement.
- đ Time apart and maintaining personal missions or challenges can strengthen romantic relationships.
Q & A
Why does Jeffrey lose Jessica's interest during their date?
-Jeffrey loses Jessica's interest because he overshares about his life, removing any sense of mystery and causing her to feel less attracted to him.
What advice does Adonis give Jeffrey about maintaining attraction?
-Adonis advises Jeffrey to maintain a sense of mystery, as attraction can only be intense when there is some mystery involved.
Why is it important to avoid answering every question a girl asks directly?
-Avoiding direct answers maintains a sense of mystery and prevents the conversation from becoming mundane and predictable.
What is the effect of being too familiar with someone in a relationship?
-Being too familiar can lead to depolarization, where partners become too similar and lose the initial excitement and attraction.
How does the video suggest men should handle questions about their daily activities?
-The video suggests men should give vague or playful answers to maintain mystery, rather than detailing their routine activities.
What is the significance of the 'going to war' metaphor in relationships?
-The 'going to war' metaphor highlights the importance of men pursuing challenging missions away from their partners to maintain mystery and keep the relationship dynamic and exciting.
How does familiarity impact the polarity in a relationship?
-Familiarity reduces polarity by making partners too similar, which can lead to a lack of sexual attraction and passion over time.
What practical tip does the video give for texting a girl?
-The video suggests never answering a girl's question in a way that kills the conversation and instead steering it back to something more engaging or mysterious.
Why is mystery important in both casual and serious relationships?
-Mystery keeps the relationship exciting and prevents it from becoming mundane. This is especially crucial in long-term relationships to avoid depolarization and maintain attraction.
What role does fantasy play in a woman's attraction to a man?
-Fantasy plays a significant role as women often imagine their idealized version of what a man is doing, which can be more exciting than reality. Maintaining mystery fuels this positive fantasy.
Outlines
đ Oversharing in Relationships
The first paragraph discusses the negative impact of oversharing personal information on a date. Jeffrey, the protagonist, shares too much about his life with Jessica during their date, which leads to her losing interest and eventually ghosting him. Adonis explains that the loss of attraction is due to the elimination of mystery, a key element in attraction. Jeffrey realizes his mistake and decides to change his approach, learning from Adonis's advice to maintain an air of mystery.
đ€ The Art of Mystery in Dating
In the second paragraph, the speaker elaborates on the importance of maintaining mystery in dating. He contrasts the behavior of Jeffrey, who overshared, with that of a more successful man who keeps his activities vague, thus sparking a woman's interest and fantasies. The speaker advises not to answer questions that could lead to mundane or uninteresting conversations, suggesting that ignoring certain questions and changing the subject can intrigue a woman and keep the relationship exciting.
đ The Dangers of Depolarization in Relationships
The third paragraph delves into the concept of depolarization, where a man and a woman become too similar and lose the initial excitement and attraction in their relationship. The speaker argues that spending too much time together and becoming too familiar can be detrimental to a relationship's long-term health. He uses the metaphor of a caveman to illustrate the point that the uncertainty of a man's return from a hunt added to the passion and excitement in early relationships.
đ The Consequences of Familiarity
In the fourth paragraph, the speaker continues the discussion on depolarization, emphasizing the negative consequences of familiarity in relationships. He suggests that modern couples' tendency to spend all their time together leads to a loss of mystery and excitement. The speaker contrasts the passionate love of a couple separated by war with the mundane existence of a couple where the man avoids challenges to stay at home, leading to a deterioration of their relationship.
đ The Pain of Losing Love Due to Familiarity
The final paragraph concludes with the speaker's personal realization of the importance of maintaining mystery and polarity in relationships. He reflects on his past mistakes of becoming too familiar with his partners, leading to a loss of attraction and passion. The speaker vows to change his approach to love, inspired by the powerful imagery of a soldier going to and returning from war, symbolizing the value of absence and the excitement of reunion in a relationship.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄMystery
đĄAttraction
đĄDepolarization
đĄMasculinity
đĄPrimal Desires
đĄFantasy
đĄFamiliarity
đĄCommunication
đĄMysteriousness
đĄAttachment Style
Highlights
Jeffrey's oversharing on a date leads to Jessica losing interest, illustrating the importance of maintaining mystery in attraction.
Adonis advises Jeffrey on the error of oversharing personal details too soon, which can diminish attraction by killing the sense of mystery.
The transcript discusses the counterintuitive approach of not answering questions that could lead to mundane conversation, to preserve mystery and intrigue.
The speaker shares personal anecdotes from his youth, highlighting the growth in his understanding of dating dynamics and the importance of not over-texting.
The concept of 'bits' is introduced as a playful and mysterious response to common questions, to avoid revealing mundane activities and maintain allure.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of not revealing too much about one's daily life to keep the relationship exciting and prevent depolarization.
The transcript explains how mystery fuels a woman's fantasies about a man, which can be positively disrupted by mundane revelations about his activities.
The speaker provides practical tips and examples of conversational tactics to maintain an air of mystery and avoid mundane exchanges.
The importance of polarity in relationships is underscored, with the masculine and feminine energies needing to remain distinct to sustain attraction.
The transcript uses the metaphor of a soldier going to war to illustrate the value of absence in intensifying a relationship through the creation of mystery and anticipation.
The concept of depolarization is dissected, showing how too much familiarity can lead to a relationship becoming more friendship-like rather than romantic.
The speaker contrasts the passionate reunion of the soldier and his wife with the potential monotony of a relationship that lacks challenge and absence.
The importance of maintaining individuality and personal missions in a relationship is highlighted to prevent the erosion of romantic feelings over time.
The transcript concludes with a personal vow from the speaker to structure his love life with the lessons learned from the importance of mystery and absence.
A call to action for viewers to support the channel through YouTube memberships is presented, offering a way to engage further with the content creator.
Transcripts
Jeffrey has somehow managed to attract
Jessica and she's coming on a date with
him right now you got this Jeffrey we
all believe in you but then Jeffrey does
something that most guys do he begins to
tell Jessica everything about his life I
work at the shop over there I wake up at
2PM sometimes I have bad mental health
I'm really actually quite lonely I love
to play League of Legends and valerians
and I have the anxious attachment style
Jessica gets less and less attracted to
him as the day goes on and she starts to
even feel a little bit repulsed by him
after the dates she doesn't even reply
to any more of his messages she's just
ghosted him Adonis
I don't want to see is Jeffrey sitting
alone and looking sad Jeffrey my boy
what troubles you I was I was on a date
with Jessica but then when I told her
everything about me she got bored and
left Adonis of course knew what the
issue was she felt unattracted because
you killed all the mystery young Jeffrey
attraction can only be intense when
mystery is involved Jeffrey thought
about what Adonis had told him and
realized where he had gone wrong he told
Jessica everything about his life he
followed all the normal advice that he'd
seen up to this point in his life that
he should open up and talk about his
interests and his hobbies and tell her
everything he will not make the same
mistake again
I want you to Picture This scene I'm 17
almost 18 years old and I'm just getting
a little bit comfortable texting girls
and they're actually replying to me for
the first time in my life I'm about to
go into this update so imagine I've got
a date booked and we're gonna go meet in
town center at a cafe get some coffee
and just walk around and imagine the
date is booked three days from now on
Friday do you think I would have left it
there or do you think younger me would
have been one of those guys maybe like
yourself who would have continued to
keep on texting her so hey uh what are
you doing right now and she just replies
with a one word answer TV Netflix eating
and then a small message after that WBU
like what about you oh yeah she replied
okay and she asked me the question as
well yeah yeah I'm just uh of course I
knew at that point I'm not gonna like
tell her that I'm playing video games or
whatever I was really doing like fapping
or something by the way I'm on page 63
I'll pull up right now I was gonna tell
I said oh you know I'm just I mean I'm
in the gym it's chest day today it's
having that kind of conversation where
you ask her what she's doing and she
asks you what you're doing and you have
this like friendly conversation is that
truly answer this question is that truly
going to increase her attraction into
you do you think that the guy who's
actually good with girls and I'm sorry
to disgust you but maybe the guy who has
been with the girl that you've got a
crush on maybe the guy that she's
currently waiting to text her back and
he's taking a while you know the guy
that your crush is chasing is he texting
her hey here what are you up to I'm just
watching TV like I mean he might send
her like a WYD text like what you're
doing in more of like you know sexual
tone of like what are you doing come
over something we've probably seen this
around you that the guy that the girls
actually go for aren't taking as much of
an interest in them and what's
interesting is that the girls are taking
an interest in these guys and these guys
aren't really ever answering the
question that they ask you know I've got
such a weird piece of advice it's like a
tip that you can follow which sounds so
silly but it works like such a crazy
amount never answer a question of hers
that's gonna kill the conversation so
just quickly for this tip just when a
girl texts you and she says oh hey how
are you the thing is you could be like
99 of other guys and be like yeah a good
and how are you and now you having a
boring stale normal conversation with
her what you can do which sounds so
socially uncalibrated but it works so
much more effectively is that if she
does ask you some kind of question or
she leads the conversation down into a
path which is going to destroy some of
your mysteriousness and it's going to
lead into some boring part of the
conversation so how many brothers and
sisters do you have what you can simply
do is just not reply to that question
take a little bit of time and then just
change the conversation so your text
history might be her saying us do you
have any brothers or sisters you don't
apply for an hour or two and then you
reply with something like let's get
coffee tomorrow it sounds silly and a
lot of guys will never attempt this but
that's maybe because a lot of guys don't
realize just how important it is to be
mysterious to the girl that you want to
attract because let's see it from their
perspective and I'm not talking about
you know what some girls on YouTube or
Tick Tock say that they want from guys
yeah I just want a guy who opens up and
communicates what a girl says especially
in front of a camera or in front of
other people it's not always what she
truly wants a lot of girls will openly
happily with a smile and say yeah I just
want a nice guy and then
so first of all the videos that you've
seen of girls even saying what they want
each sometimes a lot of the times aren't
even truly what they want let's actually
look at it from her Primal brain imagine
a woman as a cavewoman to Primal
animalistic no social conditioning
whatsoever because our brains are
relatively the same as the caveman days
so she has these Primal desires inside
of her what are they well of course she
wants a strong masculine man who can
provide and protect for her and how can
she tell that he is this strong and
masculine man sure she could you know
she could look at you and see okay oh he
is strong he goes to the gym nice nice
but you know one of the greatest assets
one of the best things that happens in a
woman's mind for you that you're
probably ruining with every girl that
you speak to women's Minds have a lot of
fantasy if she likes you she will
fantasize about you and if she does not
know what you're currently doing most of
the time she will fantasize about you
way more positively way better than what
you're actually doing her perspective of
you if she likes you right if you're
some champ who's like she's not replying
to then obviously like this is to help
but if she does have like a little bit
of crush on you maybe if she's met you
for some dates maybe if you've got
kissed her or held a handle you've got
it even more serious and intimate than
that if she does actually like you trust
me when I say that she is fantasizing
about you just through the day and she's
wondering what you're doing in the
Primal caveman days you left the cave
and she's thinking of I was gonna say
the dinosaurs that you were beating up
but I don't think dinosaurs were but you
know she's thinking of like what if he
gets hunted down by a saber-toothed
tiger no no he hit survive yeah he'd
survive what if there's another caveman
who's aggressive no he'd probably win
because I've seen him fight and if we
just translate that to the modern day
and she again the caveat is that she
likes you well then she's thinking wait
what is he doing right now he's finished
work he's not replied just yet is he
with other girls no no he'll just be
with his friends I wonder which friends
he's with maybe he's at the gym building
muscle but what if girls are looking at
him when he's in the gym building muscle
who's he messaging right now and of
course you know these thoughts are kind
of a little bit negative especially for
her you know mental sake but this is
usually the dynamic of a woman who
really really looks up to respects and
values the man that she has in mind she
will fantasize about you and what you're
doing as long as you stay mysterious but
imagine if she was gonna fantasize about
you imagine if she was gonna think
you're that you're doing these amazing
things and then you send her that
dreaded message oh hey what are you up
to I'm just watching TV right now
fantasy destroyed mystery gone oh yeah
he's yeah yeah he's just watching TV
okay yeah fair enough fair enough yeah
I'm watching TV too but just before you
sent that text or maybe you met her in
person and she said oh what did you do
today and you just blindly answer the
question oh yeah so today I woke up at
eight and then I went to the gym and I
did some training and I did this and did
this and this this mystery destroyed so
I want to give you some actual like
practical tips like sentences that I
personally say that you can kind of
maybe don't steal them exactly but you
know make them like your version of them
and I'll give you a disclaimer that
before I'm gonna tell you some stories
where you know I've remained mysterious
and I've said like you know the right
thing to a girl it is gonna sound cringe
when it's like me talking to you on the
camera you know I mean like often times
when I try and give real practical tips
especially about dating and flirting it
always feels kind of cringe and
uncomfortable because I'm not here with
a woman right now if maybe like I
wouldn't do this but like if I recorded
a video of me and my girl flirting then
that would be different so I'm gonna
tell you just logically in a draw dry
sort of way of what I say and somewhat
of how I say it and so you can just kind
of you know grasp an idea but just
understand that it's not going to seem
anywhere near as like good as it
probably would be if it was actually
with you know some woman that I'm
flirting right here right so for example
in 2021 let's say through the Kobe
lockstown uh there's a girl that I
matched with on Tinder she's picking me
up from my place and we're just gonna go
drive and like listen to music so she
picks me up and we're driving over there
and she said oh so what did you do today
and I already know what to kind of
answer because I'm thinking okay I'm not
going to tell her the truth yeah I woke
up at five and then I was you know I'm
on a dopamine detox so I just don't
really consume any bad dopamines well
then I had a cold shower because cold
showers increased opening which is
really good that Andrew huberman said
that it's really good then I brushed my
teeth I I didn't floss in the morning
because I floss at night and you don't
really need obviously I'm not gonna
answer like that even if I did some fun
stuff right so yeah I went for a big run
with a weighted backpack and I then I
set up my gym rings on a trip it's like
it's not that attractive and Nutella so
again this girl asks what did you do
today my answer you know I'm laying back
it sounds crazy oh yeah I was like this
guys I was such a novel male but like
hopefully you can find somebody like
pretending to be way more cooler than I
actually am I'm actually a bit of a geek
but I'm like laying back arms up here
arms up here in the the car so what did
you do today bits and she laughs like
haha bits what what do you mean you did
bits today yeah yeah I did bits today
and then like you know she's like
laughing about it Go and tell me and
then okay boo boo and I grab my phone
and change the song and the the playlist
or whatever boom test passed and it
sounds silly and you'll probably
thinking about I can't reply to a girl
when she says what did you do today and
I just say bits that's like at least my
vibe that's worked for me is like an
answer with like a very short sentence
of one word let's give you another one
with the same question okay what did you
do today if you answer this question
honestly that's a mystery killer oh yeah
today okay so we know we're not gonna
answer it directly but she says what did
you do today and you look her and say
yes I don't know you just uh you just
went to work and just look at it and
just give her like a little grin
what are you laughing about what what
did you do whoa nice now you're getting
something because if you just answered
it yeah I went to work yeah I work at
that show it she's oh okay yeah fair
enough and yeah yeah and then you say oh
what did you do oh yeah yeah I just went
on Netflix but you can literally just
look into her eyes and just say yes and
whatever she guesses just keep looking
it just almost laugh as if she's totally
oblivious to what you really did like
she's so off just that she's gonna be
thinking about 50 different things that
you did today that's powerful and this
is a very very specific example that I
can think of right now of like a broad
personality like style change that you
could make of becoming more mysterious
but hopefully you can see what I'm
getting at here but you might think wait
Ham's okay this could maybe work with
some broken Western women that I met on
Tinder two years ago it's okay fair
enough but this wouldn't really work
with my wife though no my brother this
is 10 times more important to use on
your wife a hundred times more important
this is where guys get messed up guys
think that these like tips that you're
learning here are only for you know
casual degenerate stuff and yeah it's
you know I just want to be totally
honest honest and comfortable with you
know my woman like you know when I
really get married then I'm just gonna
be normal with her no no you have to
understand that especially with a
marriage or the mother of your children
or a serious relationship the girl that
you're totally in love with especially
with her that's when these small things
matter the most because you want to know
that probably the number one thing that
destroys relationships you know the
statistics from like scientists and
researchers say it's like Financial
issues and all this stuff and stress
it's not there's something that they
can't measure but there is one absolute
killer of relationships and it's
probably ended all of your previous
relationships all of mine everyone that
you see around you it starts with the
same core problem and then you know it's
like oh the financial stress is annoying
us now we're going to get a divorce okay
fine but there's one main issue that
causes all relationships to break and
it's depolarization depolarization is
when a man and a woman start to become
too similar equals and soon enough
they're more like friends than they are
lovers because when you met you were so
mysterious to her and she was so
exciting for you there was so much
energy so much newness to your
relationship and it is extremely rare
extremely rare to carry this on for the
long term imagine that first date that
you had with you know a girl who becomes
your girlfriend or your wife and how
nerve-wracking it was and how like
exhilarating it was to be in each
other's companies and you probably
didn't even have any thoughts in your
mind is it like that once you've spent a
hundred hours five hundred a thousand
hours together depolarization is when a
masculine man and a feminine woman start
to become too close to each other and
sometimes it even goes the opposite way
and the masculine man starts to become a
lot more feminine the woman becomes a
lot more masculine to stay polarized is
such a beautiful thing because that is
where you stay as a masculine mysterious
strong man and she stays as a beautiful
feminine woman and this is so rare you
know why because this this is very very
important honestly I hope you know this
sounds like a bit you know weird or just
trust me I'll explain now you know why
this depolarization happens why couples
get depolarized familiarity too much
time together in the modern day it's
seen as so normal to have this desire to
spend all day with your partner that
seems like healthy and it seems like a
good thing right until you start to
compare it to every relationship of
every couple up until 100 years ago the
man used to be out of the house away
from his woman for hours and hours and
hours sometimes days and days and weeks
and weeks and months and months and
months I like to relate everything back
to our natural like caveman days like
you know evolutionary stuff where you
just sat in the in the cave with her
every single day just looking at the
cave painting like oh just like friends
no because you needed to go get food so
you got off you trained every day you
became more and more athletic and then
you went out on the hunt and she
genuinely genuinely did not know if you
were coming back and you were gone for
maybe hours sometimes sometimes days
think about that right now I know it's
like you know it seems silly caveman but
just really think okay just genuinely
think if that was reality if we were
cavemen you're in the cave right now
with your woman you can't even like
speak English but you can communicate in
the language of love and it is wild and
passionate that the times that you have
together animals and it's time for you
to go hunt and she's dreading this
moment because she's terrified she
doesn't know what's gonna happen but she
believes in you and you go you leave
that cave and she's just sat there a
little bit anxious maybe a lot anxious
just waiting for you and imagine that
moment after she's been waiting and
waiting and waiting and waiting and
waiting scared by yourself that you
return with a massive bore on your
shoulders imagine how your woman would
look at you then imagine you know that
instant presence of love as soon as
you'd look eyes into her how different
would your energy be how passionate
would you be with your woman at that
kind of moment when you've just
disappeared for hours maybe days
genuinely think she's like literally
imagine that she has literally woken up
when about the entire day and gone to
sleep when you went out for the hunt she
has no idea where you are she has hope
that you're coming back but she isn't
actually that certain and then you
return Victorious do you think you're
gonna feel depolarized after that do you
think that yeah you're just going to go
sit down and watch some Netflix or some
cave painting after that or do you think
you're gonna drop the ball down and walk
straight over there and pass
okay obviously it's like a silly example
but the modern day isn't that different
because you could go to war
metaphorically you could leave that
house you could leave the area you could
go and do something exciting where she
is waiting for you it's destroyed this
familiarity between you two it has
skyrocketed the mysteriousness inside of
you and then you come back and you are
so polarized so different from each
other so much energy and passion built
up inside of you but that may be one of
the best things for your relationship
ever and so if you compare what you've
just imagined of this like caveman
relationship so how couples these days
are when they live together and they go
to sleep next to each other reading the
same book and then they wake up and they
kiss each other and then they're
watching Netflix and it sounds so cute
it's so cute isn't it but then they do
that tomorrow as well and the day after
and the day after and yeah okay the man
goes to work and maybe the woman does
too but the woman kind of knows yeah
he'll be home at 6 30 and sometimes he's
home at 6 45 because oh well with the
traffic today but they are very familiar
with each other and depolarization stems
from familiarity where is ask yourself
this question where is the mystery of
the modern man imagine you were a woman
and you dated like a normal man maybe
like yourself what do you actually think
that you were mysterious would you get
sexually excited for yourself would you
spend any amount of time thinking what
is he doing is he with other women right
now is he like working on some big thing
or in his business is he is he training
right now or would you just think yep
yep 11 pm that's usually when he's
playing legal oh look he's online
playing League of Legends right now I'm
telling you all this because I have made
so many mistakes in relationships and
this is the most costly of all it's that
I became in such a weird way too close
to the girl that I was dating too
familiar I spent too much time with her
I talked to her every single day and now
these things seem like normal things
everyone wants this doesn't they like in
your mind you must understand in your
mind you have these beliefs that this is
exactly the normal thing to want for in
a relationship is to talk every day and
to spend a bunch of time together and to
have sex every day it seems like a
really good idea in the short term and
then you realize that actually this is
deteriorating the long-term survivorship
of your religion [Â __Â ] because now I have
a slightly different attitude to
relationships a different Dynamic if
you're interested in my personal life if
not like I don't know if this is going
to be valuable this part of the video
now so you can click away if you want
but if you are interested in my personal
life there are two pictures that I'd
really like to show you which moved me
as soon as I saw them my best friend Sam
showed me both of these the first
picture is a soldier on the train
kissing his wife goodbye just before he
goes to war and you know there's the
quote like a picture is like a thousand
words I think you can see the Thousand
Words straight away he's going to war
his wife's gonna be neurotically anxious
so worried not knowing what's gonna
happen he's filled inside with so much
excitement and nervousness and love and
so many different emotions so intense
and as much as she doesn't want him to
go she actually needs them to go because
it is this concept of going to war that
is I think one of the most important for
normal healthy long-term relationship of
a masculine man and a feminine woman and
we don't have this anymore do we we
don't have this concept of like a guy
going to war these days like of some
countries are anymore but I'm saying
like they're on the modern people in
like a country that's not actually water
torn there's no such thing as going to
war yeah okay I'm going to work honey
I'll be back in nine hours imagine all
that they're both gonna be feeling right
now imagine even just leading up to this
picture being taken okay they know that
June 11th he's gonna be going off to war
you know taking the train away to go to
the training camp imagine the weeks
maybe even months before that in that
woman's mind and heart she feels the
coming pain of their separation and so
she is like one of her best behavior so
is he and they're so into each other
because their time together is actually
limited and that seems like a bad thing
but that is so healthy their time
together is limited because he is going
to war next month do you think they're
going to be spending time they're
reading the newspaper watching the
television together especially imagine
the last few days imagine how precious
those last few days would have been for
this couple of course anxious and of
course nervousness for both of them but
imagine how much love would have been in
the room and how passionate they would
have been in those last few hours
compare that to another couple of this
exact same moment that you don't see
there's you know this other fictional
character that's not in this picture of
the guy on the train okay this other guy
right and he's got a wife as well and he
finds a way to not need to go to war
he's pretended to break his finger or
figure sickness or doctor's note or
something right he's the lucky one
because he gets to stay home with his
wife and they're going to have such an
amazing time on day imagine they're
Dynamic right now and how passionate
that couple would have been to this
couple on the train this couple on the
trim it is they're limited time together
so it's going to be special and yet that
couple if I'm imagining some overweight
guy I can't help but think yep that the
kind of guy who wouldn't want to go to
war is probably going to be overweight
he's you know done something he's going
to stay at home and even his wife is
saying it's a good thing oh yeah you
know I'm so glad that you're you're
staying here and then they have an
argument in a few days and then his wife
seems to respect him a little less and
I'm sorry for being vulgar but his wife
seems to be drier physically that's
never happened before and she doesn't
really seem to be a sexually submissive
as she used to be but you know that's
all minor like yeah I get to escape War
I'm really lucky and maybe they don't
divorce or anything you know times with
different back then but their
relationship is going downhill they're
getting more familiar with each other
he's lost all mysteriousness because he
has to you know he has to stay at home
pretend that he's disabled or something
so he doesn't want to go to war and it's
like life just sees him every you know
she walks past every single day he's
just there reading the newspaper think
about his existence is that a good I
mean yeah he saved himself you know he
oh yeah you're definitely safe from war
nights but even inside of him he's
thinking okay I don't have to go to war
I'm getting kind of fat my wife doesn't
respect me anymore I'm bored she doesn't
sleep with me like she used to anymore I
hate how she talks to our neighbor a
cooking's been worse recently she's
going back to her mom's town for three
days I don't know if she's gonna like
speak to any ex-boyfriends like I can't
even trust her anymore you see
abandoning your duty to go to war as a
man whether this is like literally or
just metaphorically you know doing
something very difficult where you're
away from your woman for days or weeks
at a time at least the resentment it
leads to this destruction of
mysteriousness which he just sees you
all the time and this is what most guys
live in like the modern day equivalence
of the guy who refuses to go to war so
he potentially got a disability now he
just sits at home every day most guys
are that guy most guys maybe they go to
work for a few hours per day and then
they come home and they just hop on
their PC next to the girl yeah I've got
a gamer girlfriend things are so amazing
guys we we haven't had sex in the last
three days and you're thinking oh no no
but that's not going to be me though
things would be really really different
bro everyone thinks that because when
you live in that kind of environment
when you spend so much time with your
woman and you become depolarized and
familiar with each other the mystery
goes but let's go back to that previous
couple the one who was saying goodbye at
the train station and he goes to war and
she goes back home and she's worried
she's worried she's worried she's
worried she's worried he's in the
trenches right now metaphorically and
physically and she's still worried she's
thinking about him 24 7. everything she
does from making a cup of tea to
gardening to spending time with her
mother is colored in the light of
missing him missing his love everything
you see this polarity This Love This
passion building up even though they're
not next to each other and then she gets
a letter it's a short and sweet letter
from him he's safe he loves us so much
he can't wait to come back home and see
her beautiful smile and she's tearing
down on the page she loves him as well
and she's writing one back imagine how
beautiful that experience is and then
imagine this goes back and forth for a
while and her heart jumps every time she
just simply sees his name on an envelope
and eventually the war is won and then
we see the second picture where he has
returned back into the city they're not
even waiting till they get back home to
passionately kiss to reunite do you
think this couple right here are going
to be familiar with each other or
depolarized do you think they're going
to go home and stick Netflix on now and
maybe play some video games together
think about how passionate they're gonna
be because he has been mysterious
because he has went away the value of
being mysterious is so high and you're
beginning to see it now and it seems a
bit crazy the way Hamza saying that we
should go sacrifice our lives for our
country obviously not I'm using this as
an example just for like I'm not saying
oh yeah go go sign up for the draft bro
I don't think you sign up to drafts I
think you just go anywhere but the point
is go to war disappear destroy the
familiarity that you have with your
woman it will be one of the best things
that you ever do I've made a vow to
myself that these two pictures the one
that he's going to war and the one that
he's coming back from this is how I
would like to structure my love life
from now on I'm making this video
because I have been the other guy I have
been the guy who came up with some kind
of excuse so that he didn't need to go
and do that hard thing that hard my
challenge so that he could sit at home
in a state of comfort with his woman
because that's you know it seemed right
and it seemed like that's what she
wanted and that man or me well I've seen
the destruction of the love of
relationships that meant a lot to me
because I became that guy who was just
sat at home on Netflix on video games
like at one point I had a gamer girl
girlfriend and we're playing games next
to each other Dying Light in Minecraft
and RuneScape and that seems like every
guy's fantasy trust me it might be every
guy's fantasy but it was my hellhole
because when you see your woman
physically get less sexually interested
into you that is one of the most painful
things as a guy you know a mineral sex
obsessed but seriously you know a girl
could say something horrible to you
disrespectful you know and okay no
that's unacceptable right but the things
that she doesn't say but she can't help
but do she can't help but sometimes not
be as like submissive as she used to be
in beautiful and supportive and
especially the sexual things that that
makes a man insecure that messes with a
man's mind and so when you live like I
have done for a large time with you know
like women I've been with and you've
become that guy who's just so familiar
who's not mysterious and little you see
the destruction of the love that once
was the most beautiful thing in your
life it happens because as a man you
need to disappear you need to have some
kind of Mission To Go full focus into
with all these thoughts and nervousness
and anxiety and all this emotion and
thoughts and everything you need to be
willing to drop it all to go pursue
something so incredibly difficult that
requires everything from you including
some time away from your woman and that
in such a weird way is one of the most
attractive things that you can do as a
man once she's in love with you and you
need to disappear for a few days for a
business meeting or for some athletic
competition you get to live like those
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