You DON'T Have TIME For HER!

Summary

This video explains the principle of being 'time-poor' as a key to attracting high-quality women. It discusses how over-texting or over-planning dates can make a man seem desperate or lacking a fulfilling life. Instead, a man should project value by appearing busy and engaged in meaningful pursuits. By valuing his time, he signals his self-worth and creates a sense of rarity and scarcity, which women find highly attractive. The script also emphasizes the importance of setting standards, prioritizing personal passions, and maintaining a strong sense of autonomy in relationships.

Takeaways

• 😀 Time is a valuable resource, and treating it as scarce increases your attractiveness to women.
• 😀 Being overly available or texting too much can make you appear desperate or like you have nothing else going on.
• 😀 Women find men who are busy and have a fulfilling life more attractive because it shows they are high value.
• 😀 Over-planning dates or being overly prepared can make a man appear as though he has too much time on his hands, which is unattractive.
• 😀 The principle of scarcity applies not just to material goods (like diamonds) but also to time—what is scarce is more valuable.
• 😀 Women are attracted to men who can show they are in high demand and have their own personal pursuits or ambitions.
• 😀 A man who is constantly busy, such as working on a startup, demonstrates that his time is valuable and not to be wasted.
• 😀 Men should prioritize their own passions, hobbies, and self-care to ensure that their time spent with a woman is meaningful.
• 😀 High-value men set standards for themselves and their relationships, and they don't settle for low-quality people or situations.
• 😀 Women are attracted to men who have a sense of purpose, autonomy, and confidence—not to those who make them the center of their world.

Q & A

Why is being 'time poor' considered attractive to women in dating?

Being 'time poor' signals that a man has a fulfilling and busy life, making his time appear valuable. Women find men who are busy with meaningful pursuits more attractive because it implies that spending time with her is a rare and special opportunity.

How does over-planning a date affect a woman's perception?

Over-planning a date can make a woman feel that the man has too much free time on his hands, which might come across as desperate or unappealing. It can give the impression that the man is overly invested too soon, which can be a turn-off.

What is the principle behind using time as a valuable resource in dating?

The principle is that scarce resources are perceived as more valuable. By presenting your time as limited, you elevate its value, making the time you spend with a woman seem more precious and meaningful.

Why is the concept of 'time scarcity' important in dating dynamics?

Time scarcity communicates to a woman that you have other important commitments and pursuits. It makes her feel like her time with you is highly valuable, which in turn increases her attraction and investment in the relationship.

How does a man’s career or busy life affect his dating life?

A man who is busy with his career or personal projects projects an image of success and ambition. His limited availability makes his time feel like a precious resource, which makes his interactions with women more desirable and appealing.

What role does pre-selection play in making time seem more valuable?

Pre-selection refers to the idea that a man who is dating or desired by other women is seen as more attractive. This perceived social proof, combined with his time being scarce, amplifies his value in the eyes of a woman.

How does being overly available for a woman affect a man’s attractiveness?

If a man is always available, it can signal that he has little else going on in his life, making him appear less valuable and less confident. Women tend to be more attracted to men who have a strong sense of independence and a busy life.

What does it mean for a man to 'set standards' in his dating life?

Setting standards means that a man maintains high expectations for the type of woman he dates. This involves being selective about who he spends his time with and not settling for anyone who doesn't meet his criteria for quality and value.

How does filling your life with activities impact your dating life?

By filling your life with interesting and enjoyable activities, you create a life that is rich in experiences. This makes your time more valuable, so when you choose to spend it with a woman, it signifies that she is worth the sacrifice of other fulfilling activities.

What does the idea of a 'mission-driven' man mean in dating?

A 'mission-driven' man is someone who has a clear purpose in life and dedicates his time to pursuits that are important to him, such as career, personal growth, and relationships. His sense of purpose makes him more attractive because it shows confidence, independence, and self-worth.