Episode 14: How to run GYM GAME | shoutout to Mousetrappua for the request!

Summary

In this video, the hosts discuss the intricacies of meeting and approaching people at the gym, specifically women, and how to do it without coming off as creepy or overbearing. They emphasize the importance of playing the long game, establishing familiarity over weeks or months, and allowing natural interactions to develop. The hosts advise against rushing things and stress the importance of reading signals, respecting boundaries, and maintaining a calm, patient approach. The conversation also touches on different gym environments, offering advice for both solo workouts and group training classes, where social dynamics differ.

Takeaways

• 😀 Play the long game when meeting people at the gym; it may take months to build familiarity and trust.
• 😀 Avoid rushing interactions or expecting immediate results—patience is key in building connections.
• 😀 Start by establishing familiarity through regular, non-intrusive encounters without forcing conversations.
• 😀 If the person approaches you, it’s a good opportunity to engage, but keep it brief and respectful.
• 😀 Gradually increase your interactions, but don’t overwhelm the person by talking to them too often.
• 😀 Pay attention to body language cues like eye contact and positioning, which may indicate interest.
• 😀 Respect boundaries—just because someone is near you doesn’t mean they’re ready to engage in conversation.
• 😀 In group settings like CrossFit or group classes, interactions may progress faster due to the social nature of the environment.
• 😀 Avoid over-initiating conversations. It’s important to leave room for the other person to show interest as well.
• 😀 If the person gives a clear signal of disinterest, like mentioning a partner or avoiding conversation, accept it gracefully.
• 😀 Gym interactions should be natural and mutual. Don’t treat the gym solely as a place for dating; respect the space and the people within it.

Q & A

What is the main piece of advice for approaching someone at the gym?

The main advice is to play the 'long game' by building familiarity over time through brief, natural interactions. Avoid rushing or forcing a connection, and respect personal boundaries.

What does playing the 'long game' at the gym mean?

Playing the 'long game' means taking a patient approach, where you gradually build rapport and familiarity with someone over the course of weeks or months, rather than expecting immediate results.

How can you start building familiarity with someone at the gym?

Start by just being in the same space at the same time regularly. Avoid talking to the person initially, but allow for incidental interactions, such as asking about equipment or sharing a brief exchange if they approach you.

Why is it important to avoid forcing conversations at the gym?

Forcing conversations can come off as creepy or make the other person uncomfortable, which could cause them to change their gym schedule to avoid you. It's important to let interactions unfold naturally.

What should you do if the person you're interested in starts putting themselves in your proximity?

If they start positioning themselves near you, you can use that as an opportunity to talk, but it still needs to feel natural. Don't force the conversation, and be mindful of their body language to gauge their interest.

How should you approach a conversation after you've built some familiarity?

After a few months of familiarity, you can start a conversation by asking simple, gym-related questions, like 'Are you finished with this machine?' or 'How many sets do you have left?' Keep the interaction brief and respectful.

What are some signs that someone might be interested in you at the gym?

Signs of interest include physical cues like making eye contact, positioning themselves near you, or engaging in light, playful conversation. They may also give subtle nods or body language that invites further interaction.

How can you tell if your conversation is progressing well at the gym?

If the person is actively participating in the conversation, making jokes, or asking you questions, it's a good sign that they're interested. If they seem engaged and comfortable, it's a positive indicator.

What should you do if the conversation doesn't go well or you're 'blown out'?

If the person indicates they're not interested, such as saying something like 'My husband is picking me up in 10 minutes,' it's important to gracefully accept it and move on. Learn from the experience and don't take it personally.

How does group training or classes differ from regular gym workouts in terms of meeting people?

Group training or classes provide a more social environment, where it's easier to talk to others because of timed rest periods and a more communal vibe. It's less formal, making it a better setting for starting conversations compared to a regular gym workout.