I failed to lose weight for 10 years. Here's what I learned.
Summary
TLDRThe speaker shares a deeply personal journey of struggling with disordered eating, including binge eating and obsessive thoughts about food. Despite a strong knowledge of nutrition and fitness, they found themselves unable to control their eating habits, leading to fluctuating weight and a sense of failure. The turning point came with the realization that the pursuit of an ideal body was causing more harm than good, and that a healthy relationship with food was the key to overcoming these challenges. The speaker emphasizes the importance of understanding that disordered eating, dieting, and body image issues are interconnected, and that one cannot be addressed without considering the others. They advocate for making informed choices about whether to pursue weight control or a healthy relationship with food, and share how accepting their natural healthy weight led to a more balanced life, including stable weight, fewer cravings, and the freedom to enjoy food without guilt or obsession.
Takeaways
- đœïž The individual struggled with binge eating and an unhealthy relationship with food, feeling constantly hungry and obsessed with food.
- đ They experienced difficulty feeling satisfied after meals and observed others eating without the same preoccupations, leading to feelings of jealousy.
- đ« The person tried various diets and weight loss plans but found motivation waning over time, from months to hours, and ultimately succumbing to binge eating.
- đ Despite a deep understanding of nutrition and fitness, their weight continued to fluctuate and increase, causing embarrassment and distress.
- đ They engaged in a cycle of restrictive dieting followed by binge eating, which was emotionally and physically draining.
- đ The turning point came from watching a video of a woman who overcame similar struggles, leading to a realization about the need to heal the relationship with food rather than just focusing on weight loss.
- đ The realization that low self-esteem and a poor body image were underlying issues that contributed to the unhealthy relationship with food.
- đ Acceptance that weight loss might not be achievable and that focusing on a healthy relationship with food could lead to a more balanced life.
- đ The pursuit of a 'dream body' was seen as a barrier to achieving the desired lifestyle and happiness, rather than an enabler.
- đ€ The individual came to understand that disordered eating, dieting, and body image concerns are interconnected and cannot be separated.
- âïž The decision to either fully commit to a healthy relationship with food or to weight control must be an informed choice, understanding the implications of each path.
Q & A
What was the individual's initial perception of their relationship with food?
-Initially, the individual was envious of people who could eat freely without overeating or undereating and did not constantly think about food. They struggled with feeling satisfied and often experienced binge eating, which led to feelings of self-loathing.
How did the individual's approach to dieting and weight loss evolve over time?
-The individual's approach to dieting and weight loss started with enthusiasm and motivation, but over time, the ability to stick to a plan diminished from months to weeks, days, and eventually hours. They found themselves constantly binge eating despite numerous attempts at different diets and strategies.
What was the turning point for the individual in their journey towards a healthier relationship with food?
-The turning point was when they came across a YouTube video of a woman who had transformed her relationship with food and no longer binge ate or obsessed over food. This encounter led the individual to realize that their problem was disordered eating and not a lack of discipline or natural hunger.
How did the individual's understanding of their self-esteem and body image impact their relationship with food?
-The individual gradually realized that their low self-esteem and poor body image were significant factors contributing to their disordered eating. They understood that their life goals and self-worth were too closely tied to their body, which was counterproductive and harmful to their well-being.
What was the individual's ultimate realization about their body and weight loss goals?
-The individual realized that their pursuit of a specific body type and weight loss was, in fact, causing the opposite of what they wanted. The obsession with weight loss was leading to binge eating, obsessive thinking about food, and a lack of control. They understood that they had to let go of these goals to improve their relationship with food.
How did the individual's life change after they accepted their inability to lose weight and maintain it?
-After accepting their inability to lose weight and maintain it, the individual started focusing on building a healthy relationship with food. This shift led to a balanced appetite, weight stability, and freedom from the obsession with food. Their life opened up, allowing them to enjoy social activities and pursue their goals without the burden of disordered eating.
What is the 'three-part package deal' the individual refers to in the context of disordered eating?
-The 'three-part package deal' refers to the interconnected aspects of disordered eating: binge eating and obsessing over food, dieting and restraining food intake, and allowing body weight and shape to dictate self-worth and life choices. The individual explains that one cannot choose to keep only the parts of this package that they like.
Why is it important for individuals to understand the full implications of pursuing weight control versus a healthy relationship with food?
-Understanding the full implications is crucial for making an informed decision about one's relationship with food. It helps individuals to be aware of the potential sacrifices and challenges they may face and to prepare themselves mentally and emotionally for the journey ahead.
How did the individual's perspective on their body and weight change after developing a healthier relationship with food?
-After developing a healthier relationship with food, the individual found that their focus on weight and body shape diminished. They began to care less about their appearance and more about being healthy and fit. The individual's confidence grew, and their body became a less significant aspect of their identity.
What advice does the individual give to others who are struggling with similar issues?
-The individual advises others to educate themselves about the realities of both pursuing weight control and developing a healthy relationship with food. They emphasize the importance of making informed choices, understanding the potential outcomes of each path, and being prepared for the challenges that may come with their decision.
What resources does the individual offer for those interested in working on their relationship with food?
-The individual offers a 55-minute video that explains the basics of the approach they use to help others improve their relationship with food. Interested individuals can request a call to discuss further if they find the approach resonates with them.
Outlines
đœïž Struggling with Binge Eating and Food Obsession
The speaker describes their past difficulties with binge eating and an insatiable appetite. They express jealousy towards people who can eat without overthinking and share their personal challenges with feeling satisfied after meals. The narrative details a cycle of dieting, motivation, and ultimately, failure to maintain a healthy eating plan, leading to a loss of trust in their self-control around food.
đ The Illusion of Weight Control and Its Impact
The paragraph discusses the speaker's realization that their knowledge of nutrition and fitness did not translate into personal success with weight management. They recount their fluctuating weight and the embarrassment it caused, despite their best efforts and understanding of health. The speaker also touches on the emotional toll of their disordered eating, including the loss of friends and the feeling of being trapped in a cycle of failed diets and unsustainable eating habits.
đ€ The Turning Point: Understanding Disordered Eating
The speaker shares a pivotal moment when they discovered that their problem was not a lack of discipline or natural hunger, but disordered eating. They reflect on their past belief that a certain body type or weight loss was essential for happiness and success. The paragraph highlights the realization that their pursuit of an ideal body was, in fact, contributing to their unhealthy relationship with food and low self-esteem.
đ Acceptance and the Path to a Healthy Relationship with Food
The speaker talks about the turning point in their life when they accepted that they would not achieve their dream body and how this acceptance allowed them to start healing their relationship with food. They describe the process of letting go of the pursuit of a specific body type and instead focusing on building a healthy relationship with food, which led to weight stability, balanced appetite, and freedom from food obsession.
đ The Irony of Weight and the Pursuit of a 'Natural Healthy Weight'
The speaker explores the irony of their past focus on weight loss and how their disordered eating was contributing to weight gain. They discuss the concept of a 'natural healthy weight' and propose that a healthy relationship with food will allow the body to find its own balance. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of understanding the package deal of disordered eating, dieting, and body image, and the need to make an informed choice about pursuing weight control or a healthy relationship with food.
đ The Misconceptions and Desire for Informed Decision-Making
The speaker expresses their wish for greater awareness and understanding of the realities of food relationships and body image. They discuss the lack of information and the presence of misinformation that can lead to uninformed choices about body and weight. The speaker shares their personal journey and how they eventually found a path that allowed them to feel good about their body and not be overly concerned with its appearance, as long as it was healthy and functional. They offer support to others in making informed decisions about their relationship with food.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄDisordered eating
đĄBinge eating
đĄHealthy relationship with food
đĄWeight loss journey
đĄSelf-esteem
đĄBody image
đĄMindful eating
đĄCravings
đĄDiet
đĄEmotional eating
đĄNatural healthy weight
Highlights
The individual never considered a relationship with food that didn't involve overeating or undereating until watching a video on YouTube.
A sense of jealousy was felt towards people who could eat without being overly preoccupied with food.
The struggle with feeling satisfied and the constant battle with an insatiable appetite led to binge eating daily.
A cycle of binge eating and self-loathing was prevalent, with a lack of trust in one's ability to control eating habits.
Motivation for dieting and weight loss was strong but never lasted, leading to a pattern of failed attempts and short-lived adherence to plans.
The realization that the pursuit of a dream body was causing more harm than good, including weight gain and disordered eating.
A shift in perspective occurred after accepting the inability to achieve a certain body type, leading to a focus on healing the relationship with food.
The journey to a healthy relationship with food involved letting go of the obsession with weight and dieting.
The individual experienced a transformation in their relationship with food, leading to weight stability and balanced appetite.
The pursuit of weight loss and body image goals was identified as a package deal that either needs to be fully embraced or rejected.
The importance of understanding that disordered eating, dieting, and body image are interconnected was emphasized.
The individual's life improved significantly once they stopped focusing on weight and started focusing on a healthy relationship with food.
The realization that the pursuit of a dream body was actually hindering the ability to achieve the desired lifestyle and happiness.
The individual found that as they started doing the things they wanted in life, the motivation to change their body decreased.
A new understanding emerged that a healthy relationship with food could coexist with a fit and healthy body, without the need for strict control.
The individual now helps others to make informed choices about their relationship with food and body image, without the pressure of misinformation.
The speaker emphasizes the personal nature of the decision to pursue weight control or a healthy relationship with food.
The importance of knowing that it's possible to feel good about one's body and not be overly concerned with its appearance was a significant realization.
Transcripts
absolutely didn't cross my mind that I
could be that way and just eat freely
without over underere eting or not
really think about food if I'm not
hungry not be very interested in food
that is not a notion which crossed my
mind I was simply jealous of those
people and that's about as far as that
thought process ever went I used to find
it exceptionally hard to feel satisfied
I would go to meals with family or cook
with my other half and then I would
watch them I would watch them eat
and think I don't understand how you can
actually be genuinely engaged in the
conversation and you're just eating
you're enjoying and then you might leave
some on your plate and then walk off and
go and do something else meanwhile I
just never felt satisfied I felt like I
had this
insatiable appetite for food I felt
physically hungry all the time I felt
like I was obsessed with food I had so
many cravings and at its peak I was
probably binge
eating every day and by binge eating I
mean I mean actually binge eating I mean
eating to the point of feeling
unbearably full and I hated myself for
it I hated myself for it I I remember
even making a video kind of like this
one but it was just a personal one to
myself where I was crying into the
camera begging myself after I'd had a b
to never ever do that
people eat how do they know how to just
eat normally why am I like this I didn't
trust myself at all around food I mean
sometimes I was so motivated with the
new plan or or or Diet sort of way of
eating or or weight loss Journey that I
was on sometimes I was so motivated that
I could that was that exceeded my desire
to eat but it it never lasted you know
and as the year sort of crept on it went
from me being able to stick to a healthy
eating plan or a weight loss Journey you
know over a period of a couple of months
then it became a few weeks and then it
became days and then it became hours um
to the point I was 10 years in and and
basically constantly binge eating and I
would play this little game with myself
of you can't bring all of these you know
chocolate and biscuits and and sweets
and cakes into the house don't bring
them into the house because you know
you're going to be good now but
ultimately I would find myself on the
way to the shops going to buy loads and
loads of sweets and chocolate knowing
full well what I was about to do right
making the the decision almost of it's
okay I'm going to go and you know
satisfy all of this I'm going to eat
everything I want and then tomorrow I've
started I've already planned this whole
new Journey that I'm going to go on
where I'm going to lose weight and I'm
going to get really healthy and I'm just
going to be so disciplined I'm going to
be so controlled and it was such a
beautiful picture in my mind that I
created I was like this time this is the
time that I'm going to finally succeed
and have everything that I want and my
journal was filled with all of these
plans it's like okay 12 weeks and I'm
going to lose x amount of weight over 12
weeks and this is how many calories I'm
going to eat or this is the plan that
I'm going to be following or like this
is the fasting schedule that I'm going
to be following and I would write it all
out to see how much weight that I'd be
losing in a certain amount of time to
sort of build up my motivation and I get
really really excited about I'm like yes
okay you know maybe I can do it but I
knew you know after enough rounds I knew
that I wasn't going to stick to it
anymore I didn't have any faith in
myself or my willpower or discipline to
see it through but you know what else
was I what else was I going to do when
everything first started I started
dieting was like restricting my food in
order to lose a little bit of weight and
after not very long it started to be
well yes I want to lose some weight but
also I have to diet and I have to
control my food and I have to restrain
myself because otherwise I'll gain
weight if you'd given me the option of
hey do you want a million P or do you
want to be in your dream body I would
have chosen than the second any day and
over the years I was gaining weight
that's the thing I mean I was going kind
of up and down but it was gradually
getting higher and higher and I just I
remember thinking this is so unfair and
it's so
embarrassing because I knew more about
nutrition more about Fitness more about
health as it were than most people on
planet Earth by this point I put more
time into it I put more energy into it I
planned it's all basically all that I
thought about is my number one priority
and yet I was the one that struggled I
was the one that had a weight problem I
was the one that couldn't control my
weight I was the one that couldn't
control my eating I was the one that
liked food too much how do you explain
to someone that you you go home
sometimes often and you eat five bags of
cookies and still want more I mean what
does that say about a person but what
people would see is my weight going up
and down and that mortified me that
absolutely mortified me because
sometimes I would lose weight and I'd be
really motivated and I'd manag to stick
to it and I'd manag to sort of like
control my Hunger or just like push it
away and I would lose some weight and
I'd feel amazing sometimes people you
know people would say things as well oh
my God like you look so great and then
and then I would just lose control and I
would fly off the handle and then I
would just be overeating overeating
overeating for days sometimes weeks like
desperately trying to get the control
back but failing at it and my weight
would go up and it's like well you know
I don't want to see anyone now and I was
just totally trapped I was absolutely
totally trapped there there was nothing
that I could do about it and I knew that
if I managed to lose the weight and keep
it off that my life would be completely
different I'd be able to feel confident
I'd be able to wear the things that I
wanted to wear I would feel like the
best version of myself but the more
years that went by and the more things I
tried you know like fasting keto ra
veganism Whole Food plant-based
vegetarianism calorie counting macro
counting gyming nutritionists diet pills
the more I started to feel like there
was no hope for me it took me twice as
long to get any of my qualifications up
to a certain point because I was just so
distracted by food I had lost a lot of
friends because I didn't want to go out
and see them or they would always want
to do things involving drink or food
what did it feel like my problem was I
didn't even really think too much about
what I thought my problem was at the
time I I I honestly think I just thought
I like food too much or I'm naturally
hungrier than other people and I've got
more Cravings than other people and
that's what my problem is you know
because I had
from the age of seven I had memories of
stealing food trying to seek out food
you know and it was really problematic
it was to the point that in my school we
had to keep our lunch boxes in the
classroom because someone was stealing
food out of other kids lunch boxes and
it was me you know so I just I didn't
question it in my mind my problem was
that I'm hungrier than other people and
I like food more than other people and
that sort of like my cross to bear in
life that's the thing i' had experiences
of sticking to a a plan or or a diet or
way of eating long enough to lose weight
so in my mind it's like well you
obviously are
capable at doing that and I would
constantly watch what I eat in a day
videos of other people I definitely had
a sense of what if I just lose the
weight and then I will feel obviously
then infinitely better and like I've
arrived I've succeeded now I can live my
life and be the person I want to be then
I'll just be motivated enough to
maintain that weight L I thought I had a
problem with delaying gratification I
didn't really know why I was different
to other people I just knew that I was
different and I just thought they they
just care less about food they were
lucky they were just lucky and I was
unlucky and it was that simple
absolutely didn't cross my mind that I
could be that way and just eat freely
without over or underere eating or not
really think about food if I'm not
hungry not care as much about food in
like the healthiest way possible not be
very interested in food I was simply
jealous of those people and that's about
as far as that thought process ever went
and it wasn't until I was on YouTube one
day and I came across this this
thumbnail of 3,000 calories and it was
this thin woman and naturally I clicked
on it because I was just so obsessed
with calories and weights and all these
things and bodies I clicked on it and I
heard myself in her story and that was
the first time it ever happened before
and she was talking about how she used
to binge eat loads and always think
about food and would obsess over food
and now she could eat loads of food and
she was weight stable and she didn't
really think about food and kind of like
life was great and she was one of those
people now that I was jealous and in awe
of and it was that was the moment where
things changed that was the Catalyst for
me discovering that my problem was not
being unlucky or undisciplined or
naturally hungrier or naturally with
more cravings and other people my
problem was disordered eating my mind
had been very geared up to how do I eat
less and how do I lose weight the
question that was not on my mind was how
do I heal my relationship with food and
the thing that really didn't cross my
mind even then and took years for me to
fully understand and come to terms with
and accept was that I struggled with low
self-esteem and bad body image I did not
see my goals that I had for my body and
for my life and how much my life was
dependent on my body as a negative thing
whatsoever that was something which I
really wanted to keep I wanted to keep
pursuing weight loss I wanted to keep
pursuing my dream body because that was
me being the very best version of myself
that was me being confident and
attractive and getting all the things I
wanted and being happy and having all
this fun and living this amazing life
and I had no idea at that point that
my body image and the goals I had with
my body and how much it meant to me that
was in essence creating all of the
things that I didn't want in my life
such as the weight gain first of all
ironically the binge eating the
obsessive thinking around food the extra
hunger the extra Cravings all of these
things were wrapped up together and it
was a packaged deal I didn't know that
it was a package deal but it was a case
of you want all of it you want the binge
eating and the dieting and the the
pursuit of a dream body you want all of
that or you want none of that and you
have to choose but no one told me that
no one relayed it like that to me and if
they had I probably I don't know maybe I
would have listened depends how they
would have related to me that was the
thing that made me waste years and lose
out on my teenage years and my early 20s
to some degree and honestly the only
thing that actually created a turning
point a real turning point in my
relationship with food was that I came
to accept and come to terms with that I
wasn't going to lose weight and that I'd
really exhausted every single option
absolutely every single option and when
I say that I mean it literally and I
done everything three times and my dream
of achieving a certain body type it died
I think if I had had any hope remaining
that there was a diet out there that
even if it was really painful difficult
to stick to there was a diet out there
that would allow me to lose weight and I
would be successful I think that I would
still be I I would still be in that
maybe to this day but I lost all hope on
that one day and it was the best thing
that ever happened to me because it gave
me the space to actually start working
on my relationship with food instead and
it's sad and it's tragic and the ironic
thing is is that I have everything that
I always wanted now it's just in a
different way to what I always pictured
and the road to get there is different
to what I pictured or what I had
expected I now am one of those people
that eats freely without over underere
eting I don't have to track anything I
don't have to analyze anything I don't
have to monitor anything I don't have to
eat
mindfully I eat nutritious food I also
eat ice cream it's not a big deal I
don't really have a lot of Cravings I
have some I don't really emotionally eat
I'm weight stable my appetite is
balanced and it's appropriate for what
my body needs I just don't think about
food in that way at all and I'm free and
I get to live my life and I'm confident
and I'm self assured and I'm pursuing
the things I want in life and all of
these things that I wanted and in trying
to achieve them doing my best to try to
help myself to achieve them I was making
I was getting further away from them and
that's why I found myself in such a
predicament why so many people find
themselves in such a predicament because
the very things that we try to do to
help ourselves in our eating and in our
pursuit of feeling confident and amazing
and having and going after the things
that we want in life Etc in our way of
doing that we are actually getting
further away and so yeah people do get
trapped I got trapped spiraling and the
irony is that as I started gaining a
healthy relationship with Fe and all of
that noise and that those challenges and
and those struggles started to dissipate
more and more over time and my life sort
of opened up and I could go and do more
things I could go out for dinner I could
go and hang out with my friends and I
was feeling better as I started to
Snowball the ironic thing is is that how
much I cared about my weight and shape
and size started to come down because
and I can only say this with hindsight
but because all of the things that I had
wanted to change my body for I started
to be doing them anyway and so the
motivation to change my body became less
and less over time you know before it
was like okay I need this particular
body so that I can feel and have and do
and wear all of these things and that
list of things started to get smaller
and smaller and smaller as I was doing
them and then the less that I was caring
about my weight and the less dependent
that I was on changing my body the more
more my relationship with food got
better and so it became this
self-fulfilling cycle and so there are a
few things I've learned just from my
personal story not my professional
experience that can keep us stuck in
disordered eating completely
unnecessarily and that is one not
realizing that the problem that we have
is disordered eating in the first place
two that not believing that we are
capable of having a healthy relationship
with food or it hasn't even crossed our
mind that we could be that way three
having the absolutely categorical belief
that a certain body or weight loss is
the only way to have all the things that
we want and deserve and and need in life
and four having any remote chance or
believing there's any remote chance that
there is a way for us to achieve our
perfect body through dieting and
controlling and restraining food because
what I leared and I learned this lesson
the hard way and maybe we all need to
learn the lesson the hard way I don't
know it's a three-part package deal it's
binge eating thinking about food all the
time obsessing over food feeling out of
control not trusting ourself with food
that's part one then there is the
dieting restraining controlling that's
part two and then part three is having
our body dictate what we think about
ourselves how we get to feel what we get
to do what we feel we get to have and
having our life and identity and goals
wrapped up in body control and it's sort
of a case of like once we developed
disordered eating then it's a case of
well do you want all three or do you
want none of the three but we can't just
pick and choose which parts we like and
which parts we want to keep and which
parts we don't it doesn't really work
like that and the ironic thing with the
conversation about weight is that it's
so it was so important to me right to
lose weight and the irony is is it was
my disordered eating that was making me
gain weight more and more above where
what I like to call my natural healthy
weight which is different for all of us
and the logic that I often lead with and
often give to clients of mine is if you
have a healthy relationship with food
let's say that you come to understand
that you believe that you're capable of
having one you believe you can have a
healthy relationship with food where
sort of in Balance naturally appetite is
regulated you don't really want to over
or undereat just everything you picture
when you think of a healthy relationship
with food the logic I lead with is that
in response our body is going to
regulate its own weight unless we have a
medical condition or take medications
that influence our body's ability to
regulate its own weight if we have a
healthy relationship with food then our
body's going to settle where our body
wants to settle as it were our bodies
don't think but just humor me on that
we've got a healthy relationship of food
and that's going to give us a certain
body at different life stages and that's
what I refer to as our natural healthy
weight but those two things they go hand
in hand and to then try to change our
body significantly outside side of that
natural healthy weight where we sit that
would then mean by default that we no
longer have a healthy relationship with
food and therefore have a disordered
relationship with food and there's no
right or wrong which one we pick whether
we want to pursue weight control we want
to pursue a healthy relationship food
and let our body settle where it wants
to settle and work on our confidence and
our body image and sort of life and
building up our life so that we're
thriving in our lives regardless of what
exactly our our body weight is doing or
we can pursue weight control and there's
no right or wrong it's very very
personal decision but what's frustrating
for me is that I didn't have and people
still don't and have an accurate
understanding of everything involved to
make an informed decision about that
right if there is fundamentally a way
for someone to have the exact body type
that they want and they feel confident
they don't feel like their confidence is
vulnerable um or dependent on their body
and therefore is vulnerable and they
feel like they've got a healthy
relationship with food or they feel
happy in all right then it's like well
there's no problem you know there's
absolutely nothing wrong with that at
all and I think that's the idea that I
had in my mind for so long or that I
hoped would maybe be the case I'm not
really sure but that's not the reality
for most of us right and so there's
almost like this this Mass delusion
about this there's so much
misunderstanding so much misinformation
and so much ignorance as well
surrounding this that I wasn't able from
to make an informed decision for myself
for the longest time I didn't know that
I could have a healthy relationship with
food I didn't know that I could be
healthy and fit and weight stable
without controlling my eating I didn't
know that I could be confident even if
there are things on my body which don't
align with what I previously wanted to
have I didn't know that I could care
significantly less about what my body
looked like and that it could be the
least interesting thing about me for
anyone else whatever they want to do
whatever choice they want to make
whether they want want to pursue weight
control and they're they're in on that
or they want to pursue a healthy
relationship with you I've got no
personal skin in the game with that I
just want to help people to make the
informed Choice with gains versus
sacrifices on each side without any
misinformation or any false assumptions
to be able to make that informed
decision that I felt like I wasn't able
to make for a decade I might at certain
points have made the decision of no I
want to pursue weight control and a
certain and body type there were a lot
of times on my journey where that would
have been the choice that I made and at
least then knowing okay and that means I
will probably continue to binge eat and
think about food all the time and have
these intense cravings and have to make
these sacrifices in my life at least I
would have made that choice knowingly
you know and I wouldn't have been
surprised or maybe even beat myself up
for all of these things that were
happening that come part and parcel with
trying to control my weight so heavily
if I had known that that was going to be
really difficult to achieve the body
that I wanted and maintain it you know
psychologically speaking physically
speaking then again at least I would
have been able to make that choice more
informed and more prepared and more
aware it was this sense of well I should
be able to control my body in this way
and it should be easier than it is and
there's something wrong with me because
I'm thinking about food all the time and
I have all these cravings and I want to
binge and there's something wrong with
me that my weight fluctuates and it's
really hard to control and maintain at
least that idea of there's something
wrong with me because it's not working
how I pictured it in my mind at least
that wouldn't have been there if that
was the choice I wanted to make and I
really would have wanted a lot earlier
on to have known to have fundamentally
known that I was able and capable of
having a healthy relationship with food
and all that it means for me today and
that I was capable of feeling good about
my body and honestly just not really
caring too much about my body as long as
it's healthy and fit and I can do the
things I want to do I would have wanted
to know that that was an option for me
again so I could have made an informed
decision there would have been lots of
times on my journey where that would
have been the thing that I wanted to
choose for myself and I've had those
conversations with other women women
that have spoken to me and considering
going down the path of gaining a healthy
relationship with you and then
ultimately they decide actually you know
what I'm not done with trying to
deliberately lose weight and control my
body at this point I'm not done with
that yet and I'm not ready or looking to
pursue a healthy relationship with food
and that's after we've discussed all the
ins and outs of it you know and it's
like okay if that's theice choice that
you want to make more power to you off
you go you know and at least they go off
knowing that and not surprised when they
struggle in certain ways in the ways
that they do and they've made that
choice knowingly and willingly for
themselves a joke because I'm biased on
the side of a healthy relationship with
food just because it it has made my life
everything that I wanted it to be and it
makes the lives of my clients everything
that they want to be because I'm biased
on that side what I do often joke with
with clients once they come on board is
look the reality is is if it were
possible and something exists where
someone could have the exact body that
they wanted and have a healthy
relationship with food the person that
invents that they would we would know
about it CU they would probably be the
richest person in the entire world hey
lovely if you've been watching some of
my videos and you're interested or
you're curious about maybe working
together on your relationship with food
and you'd like to have a discussion
about that then you're very welcome to
request a call what you can do is you
can head to the description and if you
follow that link through you will be
prompted to watch a 55 minute video that
I've put together which will take you
through the very basics of the approach
that we use you can see if you resonate
with it and this not only helps you to
assess if our approach might be worth
considering for you but it also means
that if we do have a call then all of
that time can be focused on you rather
than covering what I like to refer to as
the basics which I go through with
everyone initially and if if it looks
like it might be a good fit for working
together then we can have that call to
discuss everything further take care and
maybe speak to you soon
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