The Gates: the Great Untold Prerequisite to Getting What You Want
Summary
TLDRThe script explores the challenges and obstacles, referred to as 'gates,' that individuals face on their journey to achieve their deepest desires. These gates represent internal and external barriers that must be overcome for personal growth and success. The speaker emphasizes that personal expansion comes from facing and passing through these gates, often involving painful choices or confronting lifelong fears. In order to truly get what one wants, the final prerequisite is to face the very thing they have spent their life avoiding. This process is essential for self-transformation and evolution.
Takeaways
- 🚧 The road to success is not straightforward; it's full of challenges and setbacks.
- 🔑 Gates are obstacles or barriers that must be passed through to progress toward what you want.
- 🧗♂️ Each gate represents an internal challenge or oppositional factor that must be overcome.
- 💪 Personal growth, strength, and transformation happen by passing through these gates.
- 🔥 Gates vary in difficulty and number, depending on the magnitude of a person's desire.
- 💡 Hitting gates is inevitable on the path to achieving anything meaningful.
- 🌱 Desire drives personal and universal expansion, but it also brings suffering if people resist or avoid gates.
- 🙌 People sometimes get what they want when they no longer feel attached to the outcome.
- ⚖️ The hardest gate involves choosing to face and experience something you've been avoiding your entire life.
- 🌀 The process of overcoming gates is a journey of self-transformation and alchemy, helping individuals evolve.
Q & A
What does the 'road to success' look like according to the script?
-The road to success is not straight; it's full of twists, turns, ups and downs, and challenges. People often face obstacles, or 'gates,' that require them to grow and overcome personal limitations.
What is a 'gate' as defined in the script?
-A 'gate' is described as a barrier or obstacle that prevents someone from advancing towards their goals. It represents an internal oppositional factor that needs to be addressed and overcome for personal growth.
How does overcoming a 'gate' contribute to personal development?
-Overcoming a gate leads to personal expansion, growth, and transformation. As individuals pass through these gates, they become more aware, refine their values, and experience inner transformation, ultimately contributing to their personal and universal evolution.
Can you give an example of a 'gate' someone might face in their pursuit of success?
-One example given is an athlete facing a gate related to lack of support. To pass through this gate, the athlete must demonstrate perseverance and push forward even when others might quit, overcoming both internal and external barriers.
What happens when people resist facing these 'gates'?
-When people resist going through gates, they may give up on what they want, lose interest, or stop wanting it as much. This can make the gate swing open because there is no longer resistance to not achieving the goal.
Why do people sometimes get what they want when they no longer desire it strongly?
-People often get what they want when they no longer desire it strongly because they are no longer resisting not having it. This lack of resistance can make it easier for them to pass through the gates that once blocked their path.
What is the 'final gate' mentioned in the script, and why is it significant?
-The final gate is described as choosing to face the very thing one has been avoiding their entire life. This is the most difficult gate because it often involves confronting deep-seated fears or traumas, but it is essential to achieving one's deepest desires.
How are trauma and desire related in the script's explanation?
-According to the script, many deep desires are driven by a need to avoid or heal from a trauma experienced in the past. At the final gate, the individual must confront this trauma directly instead of avoiding it, as the experience of it becomes crucial to obtaining what they want.
What are some examples of personal 'gates' faced by individuals in the script?
-Examples include Jeremy, who must risk homelessness to live authentically; Aifa, who must choose unsafety to gain empowerment; Mia, who must face rejection to find true belonging; and De Way, who must choose aloneness to fight for his cause.
What does the script say about the relationship between desire and suffering?
-The script argues that desire itself is not the cause of suffering. People suffer when they do not make peace with the fact that desire is endless and when they resist facing the 'gates' that stand in the way of achieving their desires.
Outlines
🛤️ The Road to Success is Full of Gates
The path to achieving one's desires is never straightforward. It is full of obstacles, which the speaker calls 'gates.' These gates act as barriers that must be passed through to move forward. They represent personal challenges that must be overcome, such as perseverance, self-criticism, or social consequences. The process of facing and overcoming these gates leads to personal growth and expansion. The speaker emphasizes that everyone, regardless of their goals, will face these gates, which may vary in size and difficulty based on the person's desires.
🚪 Why People Get What They Want When They Stop Wanting It
Sometimes, people achieve their desires only after they stop wanting them as much. This happens because they stop resisting the obstacles, or gates, that stand in their way. By releasing attachment to their desire, the gate blocking their progress opens. The speaker explains that this is a common phenomenon and ties it to the theme of letting go of resistance. Additionally, the speaker suggests that the final gate to achieving one's deepest desires is often the hardest to pass: facing and choosing the very thing one has spent a lifetime avoiding.
💔 Choosing What You’ve Avoided Your Whole Life
The most difficult gate to pass is choosing the thing that you’ve been avoiding your whole life. The speaker gives several examples: Jeremy must choose the risk of homelessness to be authentic, Aifa must choose unsafety to become empowered, Mia must face likely rejection to achieve true belonging, and De Way must embrace aloneness to continue his political mission. In each case, the individual must make a conscious choice to face their deepest fears and traumas to progress toward their ultimate desire.
🌪️ The Struggle of Facing Your Worst Fear
When individuals face the gate that represents their greatest fear, it feels like a no-win situation. The adaptation strategies they’ve used to avoid this fear are challenged. This gate forces a person to question their coping mechanisms and choose to confront their dread. It feels like being at square one again, and the choice must be made without knowing if it will result in getting what they want. The speaker stresses that passing this gate requires unconditional commitment to the desire, even without certainty of the outcome.
🚧 The Myth of an Easy Path to Success
Contrary to popular belief, achieving your desires is not as simple as positive thinking, visualizing, or taking inspired action. The speaker explains that people who avoid facing negative realities will inevitably hit gates related to denial and fantasy. The very design of existence, the speaker argues, is to use desire as a force for transformation through the process of facing gates. This alchemical process of overcoming personal challenges is essential for both personal evolution and universal expansion.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Gate
💡Obstacle
💡Self-Transformation
💡Desire
💡Perseverance
💡Authenticity
💡Shame
💡Avoidance
💡Self-Criticism
💡Aloneness
Highlights
The road to success is not straightforward; it's full of twists, turns, and challenges.
Most people only realize what's required to achieve their goals after they've already started down the path.
A 'gate' is an obstacle that acts as a barrier to moving forward, and we must pass through them to grow and succeed.
Each gate represents an oppositional factor within ourselves, which we must overcome to advance.
Passing through each gate requires personal growth, revealing deeper values, and self-transformation.
Desire is not the cause of suffering; it's the resistance to desire and hitting gates that causes suffering.
The final prerequisite for achieving your deepest desires is choosing the thing you've been avoiding your entire life.
Traumas and fears often drive our deepest desires, and the day will come when we must confront what we fear most.
Examples of passing through gates: risking homelessness for authenticity, choosing unsafety to gain empowerment, and facing rejection to find true belonging.
The hardest gate of all is when you must choose the very thing you've avoided, even if it feels counterintuitive and terrifying.
Personal transformation through gates involves letting go of adaptations or survival strategies you've developed over time.
You must be willing to face your biggest fear and move through it, regardless of whether it leads to success or not.
Avoiding negative experiences and focusing only on visualization or positive action will not help you bypass the gates.
Desire leads to self-transformation and evolution through the process of encountering and overcoming gates.
Understanding that gates are inevitable enables you to face them with greater mastery and awareness of the growth process.
Transcripts
the road to getting what you want the
road to success no matter what it is is
not a straight one it's full of twists
and turns and ups and downs and
challenges and times when you're going
to feel like you are back at square one
most people don't find out what will be
required of them in order to get what
they want until they are far enough down
that road to find it out for themselves
and not in particularly conscious ways
today I'm going to reveal the untold
prerequisite for getting what you want
so that you can be more prepared and
have a far more conscious relationship
with this road to getting what you want
and the many gates you will encounter
along the
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way it's at this point that you might be
asking what's a gate a Gate's a barrier
that you have to pass through in order
to advance forward as it applies to this
conversation about getting what you want
a gate is an obstacle that acts as a
barrier to us moving forward towards our
aim and thus that prevents us from
getting what we want each gate is
different and our task is to find out
how to pass each gate we encounter in
fact our personal expansion depends on
us doing so each gate represents
something within ourselves that acts as
an oppositional factor to what we want
just so that you can get an idea of what
I mean let's say that a person wants to
win a world title in a specific sport
they may hit a gate that pertains to
them having no support where the only
way to pass through it is to go above
and beyond what other athletes have to
do to train and enter competitions
demonstrating perseverance where others
might quit and then they may hit a gate
of self-criticism where the only way to
pass through the gate is to integrate
their inner critic and then they may hit
a gate that pertains to success causing
them to lose belonging in their family
and so the only way to pass through is
to be able to choose to move forward
despite the consequence being to lose
closeness with those people around them
who will not be Advocates to their
success and instead surround themselves
with people who will and then they may
hit a gate where they are injured and so
No One Believes In them anymore and so
the only way to pass through the gate is
to tap into an inner resource that acts
as a drive to rehabilitate and try again
despite being up against the pressure
of everyone's doubts and the attention
and celebration being geared entirely
towards other athletes and then they may
hit a gate where the barrier that they
hit is their own Shame about needing and
wanting support where the only way to
pass through this gate is to work
through that shame and admit to needing
and wanting support and then learning
how to take it in ETC obviously how big
gates are and how hard they are to pass
through and how many of them there are
tends to correlate with what one's
desires actually are and it tends to
correlate with the vibrational distance
between where a person is and where they
want to be you will hit these Gates no
matter what your desire is but imagine
that what you want is to find a job
somewhere that really values your
presence and
contribution you're likely to hit less
big deal Gates than you will if what you
want is to reach a state of
Enlightenment by integrating your ego
each time you hit a gate and do what it
takes to pass through it you're growing
you're developing you're strengthening
your deepest values are being revealed
you are becoming more aware you are
refining yourself you are
transforming you are being forged you
are expanding personally as well as
causing Universal expansion and in this
way desire plays an absolutely massive
role in expansion desire is not the
cause of suffering people suffer because
of not making peace with the fact that
there is no end to desire you will
always want something else and something
more and people suffer because of
hitting their
Gates and even a person whose desire is
to rid themselves of Desire will hit
Gates on the road to that desire and
many of them
on the road to getting what you want you
will encounter very oppositional factors
that exist within you to the getting of
what you want and you will encounter all
of them one common gate that people hit
on the road to what they want is the
resistance to going through so many of
these Gates on the road to what they
want a common way that people work
through this resistance is to give up on
what they want to the point where they
don't really want it anymore not very
much anyways by doing so they're no
longer in resistance to the not getting
of it and so the gate swings open this
is why you may have observed that people
often get what they want when they don't
even really want it anymore it is also
why the author of the never-ending story
chose to make this the final test for a
Tru but let's go deeper the thing that
almost no one on earth knows and the
thing that no one will tell you is that
when it comes to getting what you want
the very most the final prerequisite the
final gate is to choose the very thing
that you have been avoiding your entire
life in order to get what you want and
this is the most difficult gate of them
all often when it comes to our deepest
desire we are compelled toward that
thing at least in part because of a
trauma we suffered and therefore
something we are desperate to get away
from an avoid and the day will come that
rather than avoid it to get what we want
we must be willing to experience it we
must say yes to it for the sake of what
we want and often when we hit this gate
it feels very
counterintuitive so that you can
understand this better here are three
examples Jeremy grew up in a very poor
household with a very dysfunctional
family where the only way to have a home
was to become whatever pleased and
plated his mother his deepest fear has
always been to be homeless without
physical resources and most especially
without people to call home or come home
to Jeremy's biggest desire in life is to
live an authentic life to be himself at
this point in his life he ended up where
he lives and in the situation is in
because he became what his partner
needed to please her he moved into her
house he put himself in a supportive
role to her company and he acted
compatible to everything about her this
is a super precarious position that he's
put himself in revealing that he is not
who he said that he was and must change
everything in order to be true to
himself means that he will have to quit
his job working for her so he's going to
have no income she may kick him out of
her house
and she may want to end the relationship
because he isn't who she signed up for
so he will have no one to come home to
which is a special Hill given that
Thanksgiving and Christmas are just
around the corner now in order to get
what he wants he must actually decide
that being authentic is worth the risk
of being
homeless and choose that risk even if it
means temporarily experiencing that a
FIFA comes from a culture where women
are typically obedient and subservient
to men her father who was particularly
tyrannical had all the power in the
household and he was very abusive
whenever he felt that his power was
challenged as a result of this in order
to be safe aifa disowned her personal
power she has lived her life from this
place of prioritizing safety over
absolutely everything aifa really really
cares about safety however years ago
aifa became so sick so sick of being
disempowered she decided that she
desperately wants to be empowered as a
person as a result she's made a lot of
progress doing little empowering things
things like getting a certification so
she can make some money and pay for
things that she might want and learning
how to fix things around the house
herself and working through her
inability to say what she wants in any
given situation but now she's hit a gate
a gate where becoming more empowered
means being unsafe becoming empowered
means making decisions and doing things
that will set off her father's
tyrannical Fury becoming empowered means
upsetting the people in her culture
which is likely to lead them to cause
her pain emotionally and even
potentially physically and becoming
empowered means changing herself in ways
that go directly against all of her
lifelong safety strategies such as
becoming someone who takes charge when
taking charge was the Surefire way to be
attacked in order to become empowered
aifa will have to consciously choose
unsafety Mia was a child who was very
nerdy and pensive not exactly the kid
that had the easiest time fitting in she
found herself in a lot of pain and I
mean so much pain due to exclusion and
rejection in her early school years
enough pain that she chose to abandon
her authenticity and copycat other
popular girls so that she could get
belonging this social camouflage
strategy is something that she used her
entire life in order to get belonging
but now Mia is all too aware that she
does not have true belonging if what she
has to do is to pretend to be the same
as other people are something other than
who she is in order to belong she sees
that in order to find true belonging the
gate she must pass through is to face
and choose likely rejection and
ostracization the very thing she has
spent her entire life trying not to
experience de way was completely alone
for the first half of his life he was
the scapegoat of a very emotionally cold
family and to make matters worse he was
prevented from having friends his
deepest connection was with a parakeet
the family owned he spent 20 years
building very deep friendships
cohabitating with many people partnering
up with people on various Endeavors and
as an adult day way is on a very big
mission he's actually a political
activist he especially believes in
freedom of expression and does not
believe that the government should be
able to suppress and imprison those who
speak out against the government on
their various agendas day way has had to
pass through a boatload of gates on the
way to what he wants which is to change
the way people in his country are
governed but now he has met the most
dreaded gate of all 6 months ago de way
organized a public assembly to protest
the imprisonment of a man who spoke out
against the ethnic persecution being
carried out in a province of their
country and with it to demand the right
for free speech this assembly turned
ugly
I mean really ugly police and even
military arrived and started beating and
detaining people it was so traumatizing
for everyone involved that everyone
started questioning their commitment to
the cause as well as their association
with day way many of the people who
lived with him moved out for the sake of
their own safety all but one of the
people who partnered up with him to
bring about a cultural revolution left
the cause pledging only their support in
their desire for him to succeed the
person who stayed spends their days
questioning whether it was the right
decision to make or not and whether
they're strong enough this person is in
such a bad space
emotionally that he's emotionally
disabled from really being fully behind
the cause that he believes
in also on top of this de Way's wife ran
home to her family and expressed her and
her family's disapproval for what he's
doing she has told him that if he
continues she has to divorce him why
because it's going to mean that he does
not care about her or her family safety
deway has now found himself in the
position where to advance forward and
have a chance at getting what he wants
he must actually choose aloneness for
the sake of what matters most to him
when you hit this gate you will struggle
to accept it the position you are in
will feel so impossible to face and
experience it will shock you every
single adaptation that you developed
within yourself in response to that
dreaded thing or in order to avoid that
dreaded thing will be called into
question and either let go of or altered
you are likely to feel like the universe
is cruel you will feel like you are in
the worst lose lose of all time and
therefore ripped in two and you will
feel like you are at square
one and you will have to make the
decision to go through this gate by
being willing to say yes to the very
thing you have been running from your
whole
life without knowing whether or not it
will lead to any results whether or not
it will actually get you what you want
your vote for what you want has to be
this strong strong enough that the
choosing of it is not conditional upon
whether you actually do get it or not
many people especially those who cannot
accept painful truths and realities
believe that getting what you want is as
simple as focusing upon it
visualizing and that when you think
about having that thing you
want and then taking action towards it
inspired action it's almost like the
universe is going to give you wings to
fly past any and all Gates so that you
will not have to encounter any but I'm
going to tell you this is not the case
what will happen if you take this
approach is that you will eventually hit
the Gate of not being able to get what
you want because of your avoidance of
the negative the Gate of fantasy which
which involves the refusal to face and
accept reality and the Gate of the
coping mechanism of denial the very
design of this existence is to allow
desire to lead you through a process of
self- transformation by virtue of you
hitting these Gates it is these Gates
that are the alchemizing force behind
all Evolution both at a microcosmic
level and at a macrocosmic level and
knowing this will enable you to move
through these gates with far greater
Mastery because you know to to expect
them because you know this when you
encounter these Gates you will know what
is happening you will know that the only
way forward is to consciously take on
that gate with your own free will and
the willingness to engage in that
process of the Alchemy of
self have a good week
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