Module 3: Bridging Gaps- Solutions to Conflicts
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful discussion, a group of individuals explore effective ways to resolve conflicts and foster peace. They emphasize the importance of straightforward communication, timely conflict resolution, and empathy. The group introduces innovative concepts like 'SAFE TIPS' and 'CAN CAN' to enhance understanding and acceptance of others. By sharing personal experiences and ideas, they encourage proactive steps towards building peaceful and fair communities.
Takeaways
- 🗣️ Being straightforward in communication is key to resolving conflicts.
- 🤔 Sharing ideas and concerns openly can prevent negative feelings from festering.
- 🤝 Engaging in activities with others can build friendships and understanding, reducing conflicts.
- 🕒 Timely addressing of conflicts is crucial to prevent minor issues from escalating.
- 🤝 Helping others, even those we have conflicts with, can demonstrate care and potentially resolve issues.
- 🌐 Exposure to different cultures and learning to handle various conflicts is important for young people.
- 💡 The concept of 'SAFE TIPS' (Similarities, Ask, Feedback, Empathy) was introduced as a communication tool to resolve conflicts.
- 🌟 Honest communication is essential for solving problems in teams or groups.
- 🏋️♂️ Participating in activities can help break down barriers and build bridges among diverse individuals.
- 👟 The 'CAN CAN' concept (Change, Accept, Act Now) was presented as a way to decode and address conflicts.
- 🌱 Reflecting on past mistakes and adopting a growth mindset can lead to better conflict resolution.
Q & A
What is the main topic discussed in the script?
-The main topic discussed in the script is how to resolve conflicts and bring more peace into our lives.
What is the first suggestion given to solve conflicts in the script?
-The first suggestion given is to be straightforward when discussing problems or solutions with friends or in group projects.
What is the role of communication in resolving conflicts according to the script?
-Communication is considered essential in resolving conflicts. It is highlighted that without communication, conflicts cannot be solved.
What is the SAFE tips concept mentioned in the script?
-SAFE tips is a concept where S stands for similarities, A for ask, F for feedback, and E for empathy. It is a skill set to help in resolving conflicts.
How does the script suggest using activities to help with communication and conflict resolution?
-The script suggests that engaging in activities, like sports or games, can help build connections and understanding, thus aiding in communication and conflict resolution.
What is the significance of the idiom 'put yourself in other shoes' in the context of the script?
-The idiom 'put yourself in other shoes' is used to emphasize the importance of understanding others' perspectives to resolve conflicts.
What is the CAN CAN concept introduced in the script?
-CAN CAN is a concept where C stands for change, A for accept, and the second C for act now. It encourages individuals to change their mindset, accept others, and act immediately to resolve conflicts.
How does the script relate the concept of youth to solving conflicts?
-The script suggests that young people play a significant role in solving conflicts and should be given opportunities to get involved in activities that promote understanding and acceptance of different cultures and perspectives.
What is the importance of time in conflict resolution as discussed in the script?
-The script emphasizes that conflicts should not be left unresolved for a long time as they can escalate into bigger problems, similar to a crack in a dam.
How does the script suggest helping others can show care and potentially resolve conflicts?
-The script suggests that even if there is animosity, helping others can demonstrate care and is a step towards resolving conflicts.
What is the final message the script conveys about creating peaceful and fair communities?
-The final message is that peace starts with individuals and implementing concepts like SAFE tips and CAN CAN can help create peaceful and fair communities.
Outlines
🎯 Addressing Conflicts Directly and Building Friendships
This paragraph discusses how conflicts, whether at school, home, or with friends, are a part of life. The speaker advocates for being straightforward in addressing problems, especially in group projects, to foster understanding and avoid awkwardness. Another speaker adds that engaging in activities with new people can help turn strangers into friends, which aids in resolving conflicts. The importance of honesty and timely resolution is emphasized to prevent small issues from growing into larger problems.
🤝 The Power of Communication and Safe Tips
This section focuses on the importance of communication in resolving conflicts. A concept called 'SAFE Tips' is introduced, with each letter representing a principle: 'S' for similarities, 'A' for asking instead of assuming, 'F' for providing feedback, and 'E' for empathy. These tips are highlighted as crucial skills for fostering understanding and building trust among people, especially the youth, to resolve conflicts effectively.
🌍 Bridging Differences Through Activities and Teamwork
This paragraph emphasizes that activities like sports and games help build communication and break down cultural or personal barriers, turning differences into strengths. The speaker advocates for collaborative efforts in conflict resolution, even when team members come from diverse backgrounds. Activities not only dismantle walls between people but also create bridges for mutual understanding and cooperation.
🛠 Addressing Conflicts Immediately and Caring for Others
The speaker stresses the importance of addressing disagreements without delay, as ignoring conflicts can lead to larger issues. They encourage taking action, caring for others, and placing oneself in others' shoes to gain empathy and understanding. This idea is tied to a broader principle of addressing problems in real-time and showing compassion for others, even in moments of conflict.
⚡ CAN-CAN: Change, Accept, Act Now for Peace
This section introduces the 'CAN-CAN' concept, which stands for 'Change, Accept, and Act Now.' The speaker explains that conflicts often arise from people having fixed mindsets, which prevent them from accepting different perspectives. The CAN-CAN approach encourages people to adopt a growth mindset, embrace differences, and take immediate action to create peace. The idea is that resolving conflicts begins with individual reflection and effort.
🔗 Connecting Ideas for Conflict Resolution
In this paragraph, the speaker connects the previous ideas shared by others, demonstrating how activities, addressing conflicts quickly, and open communication all align with the CAN-CAN concept. Collaboration and understanding within teams are emphasized as ways to build acceptance and resolve conflicts effectively. The youth are encouraged to contribute their unique skills to create positive change in society.
🕊 Peace Starts With Us
The final paragraph reinforces the theme that peace begins with individual actions and mindset shifts. The speaker thanks everyone for their contributions, tying together the various concepts discussed, such as communication, empathy, and proactive conflict resolution. Participants are encouraged to use their knowledge to suggest practical solutions in their projects to build peaceful and fair communities.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Conflict
💡Straightforward
💡Communication
💡Empathy
💡Feedback
💡Similarities
💡Acceptance
💡Growth Mindset
💡Teamwork
💡Idiom
💡Cultural Exchange
Highlights
Dealing with conflicts is a common issue in various aspects of life.
Being straightforward can help solve conflicts in group projects.
Sharing ideas openly can prevent negative feelings from accumulating.
Engaging in random activities with strangers can foster new friendships and understanding.
Speaking straightforwardly even in unfamiliar groups can prevent awkwardness.
Timely addressing of conflicts can prevent them from escalating into bigger issues.
Helping others can show care, even in the midst of conflicts.
Young people play a significant role in resolving conflicts.
Creating more opportunities for youth to engage with different cultures can help handle conflicts.
Working together as a team is crucial for accepting others' opinions and ideas.
Honest communication is key to solving conflicts.
The concept of 'SAFE TIPS' is introduced as a communication method to resolve conflicts.
S in SAFE stands for finding similarities to build connections.
A in SAFE represents asking questions to understand others' perspectives.
F in SAFE is about giving feedback constructively to improve situations.
E in SAFE emphasizes empathy as a way to build trust.
Activities can help in communication and accepting differences.
The concept of 'CAN CAN' is introduced to decode conflicts starting from oneself.
C in CAN CAN stands for change, moving from a fixed to a growth mindset.
A in CAN CAN is about accepting others for who they are.
N in CAN CAN encourages acting now to solve conflicts.
All concepts discussed fit together to create a comprehensive approach to conflict resolution.
Peace starts with individuals and their willingness to change, accept, and act.
Transcripts
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all right everyone let's get real for
minut we'll all deal with conflicts in
our life right whether it's at school
home or with our friend it happened so I
was thinking why don't we talk about how
we can actually F the conflicts that we
have to bring more peace into our lives
I'll start by saying one that I have
experienced that when I have like some
group project or something I go
straightforward to speak straight away
with my friend with the solution or the
problem that we have in the group
project so that we understand each other
and know what we're doing and like we
don't have to like be awkward with
ourself so I think that being
straightforward is the best way to uh
solve conflicts what do you gu think
yeah of course like if we keep it with
ourselves of course we have negative
feelings when we can just like share
ideas with our parents or friends I do
have one solution which is doing some
random stuff with anyone in order to
make people you don't know be your
friends when we do these activities the
friendship will also help you to
understand each other rather than
arguing about some of these problems and
conflicts so have you ever done anything
with someone you've never met before m
not really but I have sometimes like
been in some teams that in work that I'm
not like familiar with not like my best
friend or something and I feel like kind
of awkward to be like that but I still
speak straightforward to them so to like
we solve the conflicts that we have in
the project what do you
think so I think that time is big thing
but has come to conflict because if you
guys think about it um if you let a
little maybe just even a little just
scam goes on for too long it's going to
cause a big problem later yeah that's
true yeah right so let's say if there
was a crack in the dam and then you let
that crack go on for a little bit
longer eventually it's going to break so
I think that when you guys have any
kinds of disagreement you don't have to
go straight to talk right away you can
you can there can be time but not for
like long long time so yeah you can
maybe like observe and see that maybe
they need help or something you can just
start by acting you can just um help him
just a little bit little by little even
though if you guys hate to the point
where you want to see each other's face
you can still help because that shows
how much you cares for another human
being
maybe yeah right that was deep yeah I
like that idea it shows like you care
for like another person that you're
working with um what about you la I've
heard that you went upon a speech right
yeah I know right but in my opinion I
think that as young people nowadays they
really play a huge role in solving these
conflicts but there's one thing I
noticed is that the problem is we don't
have enough opportunities to get
involved with them I think we should add
more spaces where we can learn about
different cultures around the world and
learn how to handle like how to handle
different conflicts in different
situations such as through like
community activities or services and
even like Interfaith dialogues within
your group of friends but one thing that
we can't forget is that um working
together as a team is very important as
well because when we work with new
people around the world with like
whoever it is like we don't know or any
new people um we get to learn how to
accept other people's opinions and ideas
which allows us to open our heart and it
kind of relates to what was said earlier
that that when that honest communication
is actually the key we should learn how
to be like more straightforward in order
to solve
anything yeah that's right I think being
honest like really solves everything
when you talk to your team or like your
project groups thing yeah and speaking
of
communication you've talk about how
important communication is how do you
think it helps resolve conflicts um I
believe not communication is everything
without communication we can never solve
conflicts therefore I have created a
concept called safe tips Tell me about
yeah I know you guys say s stands for
similarities when we find Common Ground
we can easily build connection a stands
for ask instead of making assumptions we
should ask questions to understand
others perspective this chose respect
and helps us avoid misunderstanding I
agree I agree two more my friend stands
for feedback by giving constructive
feedback we improve situations and avoid
hurtful feelings to others e sense for
empathy by recognizing and valuing
feelings of others that is empathy my
friends and you can build trust as a
foundation from that therefore I believe
safe tips is a skill for all of us youth
that we have to practice now more than
ever
wow it was like in wise men's speech how
you even come up with that thank you
much I love that get said is a very like
helpful concept for like solving
conflict I think and uh it's more than
just like talking it's about like truly
understanding each other some you
mentioned earlier that activity help
with communication do you think this
fits with safe of course like when we
communicate it home can also accept the
differences so do you agree with me
while we communicate while playing
sports for example or maybe playing some
games we have to communicate and even
though we might be from different
nationalities different beliefs or
opinions we'll be a team a friend and
that is like the key point that can also
destroy the kind of
conflict that's great totally agree
activity activity not only break down
walls but also build Bridges uh what
about you Tino so as I was saying don't
let disagreements go on for too long I
don't like to deal with problems later
so if there's any agreement disagreement
I mean just deal with it try to talk try
to help try to care at least for another
um human being as we are in the same
Planet together there's actually an
idiom that put yourselves in other shoes
so that understand that's true exactly
that's true okay thanks do know that's a
great way great takea away um boom your
mentioned your can can idea before can
you explain how that helps us deal with
conflict and building peace the name can
can is very interesting yeah can can I'm
really all okay I'm really aging to tell
you guys about this so ID already
mentioned about the safe communication
tips right for me also I have this
concept called can can to be used in my
daily lives and I wanted to share for
you all so by decoding conflicts I
strongly believe that it all starts from
ourselves we don't really have to view
in view in a body perspective because
conflicts all comes from people who
Still Remains their own fixed mindset
meaning that people who still cannot see
uh the difference of perspectives of
others are still isn't being accepting
enough in what they are who they are so
that is why to for us to achieve peace
we have to apply this concept by
starting with C so C stands for change
right
change so the opposite term of fixed
mindset is growth mindset which is when
you are being willing to learn and adapt
and grow with others who you may see in
the future so it is important for us to
reflect on our past mistakes and to
shift our mindset from a fix to a growth
one yeah and then after you have changed
your mindset then we go on to a right so
a is accept
yeah so as I've mentioned before fixed
mindset people are people who may still
lack this skill so that is why whether
they have differences in their opinions
perspectives or appearances we just have
to embrace them for who they are because
everyone has differences compared to
each other and that's totally okay and
yeah that's is the nature of humanity so
yeah and lastly is now I also have seen
you guys mention already a couple of
times of do doing it right now you don't
have to wait for someone to inspire you
or any big movements to influence in
your life because it all comes back to
yourself and You by uh implementing this
can can concept I believe that you guys
can achieve in peace and be able to
solve the conflicts in how daily with
lives so it's change
accept can can can you can think it as
of like a can can yeah oh that's great
that's awesome Bo K can really brings it
all together change accept and act now
it's simple but powerful how you think
that fits with all the rest of us being
here well I think it fits like perfectly
with everyone here so starting off with
tangang right you mention about building
and doing activities together
collaborating so that builds acceptance
over time when you at first you may not
be familiar with each other but over
time you understand and how to adapt and
be with them in that that particular
environment and moving on to youo you
mentioned about solving the conflicts
quickly like at that at this moment
solve this crack like right now yeah so
it is also linked to this concept of
doing it right now without having to
wait or for anything and then moving on
to Pink G yeah so I also feel that youth
as we are youth it is important to to
collaborate and change something in our
society with different skills that we
all have we should be contributing
something for our future Generations as
well and then moving on to R of course
the safe communication tips this this
concept also can be aligned with uh my
hand can concept as well because
communication is open uh openly
communicating with others will make you
understand and being able to know what
you may lack or still have mistakes on
and you can change yourself up to the
point where you can understand and
accept the perspective of others yeah so
everything hits fits like
perfectly yeah it ties together
perfectly um thanks Boom for that and
thanks everyone for sharing like this
concept idea and like everything that we
talk together and I think peace starts
with us yeah that's true is true a good
and now I would like to ask the
participants how can you use your
knowledge about conflict to suggest
practical and realistic Solutions in
your project that help create peaceful
and fair communities
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