How to Shake Hands like a Gentleman - Handshake Etiquette for Confident Introductions

Summary

This video from the Gentleman's Gazette explores the history and etiquette of handshakes, from ancient origins to modern usage. It covers when and how to shake hands, emphasizing the importance of trust and respect. The video also addresses cultural variations in handshakes and offers tips for proper technique, including grip pressure and body language. Additionally, it discusses alternatives like the fist bump and provides advice for handling handshake mishaps.

Takeaways

• 🤝 The handshake is a fundamental part of social interactions and business deals, conveying trust, respect, balance, and equality.
• 🏺 The practice of handshaking dates back to the 5th century, originating as a gesture of peace.
• 🌍 Today, handshakes are common upon meeting, greeting, parting, offering congratulations, expressing gratitude, or completing agreements.
• 🤝 In sports, handshakes are a sign of good sportsmanship, showing respect for opponents.
• 🗣️ Handshake appropriateness varies by culture; some have specific handshakes or avoid them altogether.
• 👋 Handshake etiquette includes rising if seated, making eye contact, and offering a sincere smile.
• 🤔 The person in higher authority or older age typically initiates the handshake, but it's okay to take the lead if they don't.
• 🖐 A firm grip is important, but avoid being overly aggressive; the handshake should reflect assertiveness.
• 👐 The point of contact should be the web of the hand, avoiding a 'dead fish' or 'death grip' handshake.
• 🙌 The left hand should be visible and relaxed, not clenched or used to cup the other person's hand.
• 💡 If a handshake goes wrong, such as being left hanging, handle it with grace and perhaps humor.

Q & A

What is the historical origin of the handshake?

The handshake, also known as dexiosis, was practiced as far back as the fifth century, particularly in ancient Greece. It is believed to have originated as a gesture of peace, indicating that the hand offered for a shake was not holding a weapon.

What are the main purposes of a handshake in today's world?

The handshake is used to convey trust, respect, balance, and equality. It is commonly performed upon meeting, greeting, parting, offering congratulations, expressing gratitude, or completing an agreement.

In which situations is a handshake appropriate?

A handshake is appropriate when greeting guests, saying goodbye at a gathering, meeting in-laws or future family members, meeting someone you haven't seen in a while, and in any professional setting such as a job interview.

What are some cultural variations in handshake practices?

In Switzerland, it may be expected to shake a woman's hand first. In Russia, a handshake is common among men but not women. In Turkey or the Arabic-speaking Middle East, handshakes are softer, and a firm grip is considered rude. In China and Japan, a softer handshake is preferred, and in Korea, the senior person initiates the handshake.

How does the handshake differ in Japan and Korea?

In Japan, a formal bow with open hands at the sides is customary, while in Korea, a softer handshake initiated by the senior individual is preferred, often with the left hand grasping the right arm as a sign of respect.

What is the significance of the fist bump as an alternative to the handshake?

The fist bump spreads fewer germs than handshakes or high-fives, as it does not involve the palms of the hands. It is becoming more common in non-business settings as people become more aware of germs.

When should you offer your hand for a handshake?

You should wait until the other person has finished speaking or being introduced before offering your hand. It is also polite to rise if you are seated and to make eye contact with a sincere smile.

What is the proper grip pressure for a handshake?

The grip should be firm and not limp, but also not too strong to the point of being a 'death grip'. It should reflect assertiveness rather than aggression or passivity.

What should your left hand be doing during a handshake?

Your left hand should remain visible and not clenched into a fist, as this may come across as hostile. It should simply be at your side and not used to cup the other person's hand or touch their arm.

How should you react if your handshake is not reciprocated?

If you are left hanging, try not to feel embarrassed. It is likely a timing issue rather than a sign of disrespect. If you make a mistake, simply try again with a smile and perhaps a bit of self-deprecating humor.

What are some tips for maintaining good hygiene during a handshake?

Ensure your hands are clean and free of dirt, grease, food, or debris. If you have sweaty palms, blot your hand on your trousers or a handkerchief before shaking. If you shake hands with someone who has sweaty palms, avoid wiping your hand immediately as it may be seen as disrespectful.