The Magic Of Not Giving Up Sarah Knight
Summary
TLDREl video trata sobre la 'magia de dejar de dar importancia a las cosas'. La autora describe cómo dejar de preocuparse por tareas, eventos y personas que no aportan alegría puede liberar tiempo, energía y dinero para enfocarse en lo que realmente importa. Inspirada en su experiencia personal al dejar un trabajo corporativo infeliz, propone el 'método no lo siento' en dos pasos: decidir qué no importa y dejar de preocuparse por ello. Es un llamado a establecer límites con honestidad y cortesía, mejorando la vida sin sentirse culpable.
Takeaways
- 🧹 **Decluttering Mental**: La limpieza mental es tan importante como la física, y nos ayuda a enfocar nuestra energía en lo que realmente importa.
- 🌟 **Determinar lo que no importa**: Identificar y dejar de lado lo que no nos importa es fundamental para liberar tiempo, energía y recursos.
- 💡 **El arte de no preocuparse**: La habilidad de no preocuparse por ciertas cosas (no darles un 'a') nos permite centrarnos en nuestras pasiones y en lo que nos hace felices.
- 📈 **Presupuesto emocional**: Al igual que con el dinero, es importante hacer un presupuesto de nuestras emociones para invertir en lo que realmente valoramos.
- 🚫 **Decir no de manera efectiva**: Aprender a decir no de manera puntual y cortés sin sentir remordimiento es una habilidad vital.
- 🏝️ **Cambio de vida**: Un cambio drástico en la vida, como dejar un trabajo que no nos satisface, puede tener efectos transformadores.
- 👗 **Trabajar de manera diferente**: Cambiar la forma en que trabajamos, como trabajar para uno mismo en lugar de para una corporación, puede mejorar significativamente nuestra satisfacción.
- 🏠 **Mudarse a un lugar nuevo**: El cambio de entorno, como mudarse a una isla tropical, puede ser una forma de liberarnos de las ataduras del pasado.
- 🤔 **Visualización**: La visualización de cómo nos sentiremos en una situación puede ayudarnos a tomar decisiones más alineadas con nuestra felicidad.
- 💼 **Obligatoriedad vs. Voluntad**: Es importante diferenciar entre lo que se nos exige hacer y lo que realmente queremos hacer para no malgastar nuestras reservas emocionales.
Q & A
¿Qué es lo que se llama 'la magia de no darle importancia' mencionada en el guion?
-La 'magia de no darle importancia' es un método para liberarse de las tareas, eventos, obligaciones y relaciones que no nos aportan alegría ni valor, permitiendo enfocarse en lo que realmente importa y nos hace feliz.
¿Cómo se define 'darle una' en el contexto del guion?
-Darle una significa invertir tiempo, energía y dinero en algo. Si no le das importancia a algo, no deberías invertir estos recursos en ello.
¿Qué sugiere el guionacer para hacer con las cosas que no nos importan?
-El guionacer sugiere que si no le importas algo, como 'Juego de Tronos', no deberías invertir tiempo, energía ni dinero en él.
¿Cuál fue el cambio de vida que experimentó la narradora después de dejar su trabajo?
-La narradora dejó su trabajo en una editorial de Nueva York, se liberó de una cultura y estilo de vida que la hacía infeliz, y comenzó a enfocarse en lo que la hacía feliz, incluyendo trabajar de una manera diferente y mudarse a una isla tropical.
¿Qué es el método 'no lo siento' y cómo funciona?
-El método 'no lo siento' tiene dos pasos: 1) Decidir qué no le importas y 2) Dejar de darle importancia a esas cosas. Se trata de usar honestidad y cortesía para no tener que sentirse culpable al decir que no.
¿Cómo se relaciona el método 'no lo siento' con la gestión de tiempo, energía y dinero?
-El método 'no lo siento' ayuda a gestionar tiempo, energía y dinero al priorizar y asignar estos recursos solo a las actividades que realmente importan y alegría.
¿Qué sugiere el guionacer para lidiar con eventos o obligaciones que no nos aportan alegría?
-El guionacer sugiere usar el método 'no lo siento' para decidir si un evento o obligación es importante y, si no lo es, se sugiere decir no de manera puntual y cortés.
¿Cómo se describe el proceso de 'desorden mental' en el guion?
-El 'desorden mental' se describe como tener cosas que te aportan alegría y otras que te molestan en la mente. El objetivo es despejar lo que molesta para hacer espacio para lo que aporta alegría.
¿Qué es un 'presupuesto' en el contexto del guion?
-Un 'presupuesto' en este contexto es una forma de asignar tiempo, energía y dinero a las cosas que realmente importan, evitando malgastar estos recursos en lo que no importa.
¿Cómo se puede aplicar el método 'no lo siento' a las relaciones personales?
-Se puede aplicar el método 'no lo siento' a las relaciones personales evaluando si alguien o algo es esencial en tu vida y, si no lo es, dejar de invertir tiempo, energía y dinero en esa relación.
¿Qué ventaja se menciona en el guionacer al aprender a decir no y establecer límites?
-Al aprender a decir no y establecer límites, se menciona que se puede tener más tiempo, energía y dinero, lo que lleva a una vida menos ocupada, menos abrumada y menos molesta.
Outlines
🧹 La Magia del No Importar
El primer párrafo habla sobre la tendencia de la sociedad hacia el orden y la desintoxicación, planteando la idea de liberarse de tareas, eventos, obligaciones y relaciones que no aportan alegría. Se describe una metodología para dejar de preocuparse por aspectos de la vida que no son significativos y cómo esto puede mejorar la calidad de vida. La narradora comparte su experiencia personal dejando su trabajo en una editorial de Nueva York para perseguir una vida más feliz y satisfactoria, enfocándose en lo que realmente le importa.
📝 El Método No Arrepentido
El segundo párrafo introduce el 'Método No Arrepentido', un proceso de dos pasos para identificar y desechar las actividades o situaciones que no son esenciales o que no aportan alegría. Se explica cómo asignar tiempo, energía y dinero a lo que realmente importa puede mejorar la vida de una persona. Se da un ejemplo de cómo se puede aplicar este método, eligiendo entre actividades como asistir a una fiesta o ver una serie preferida, y cómo se puede comunicar la decisión de no participar de manera honesta y cortés sin sentirse mal por ello.
🚫 Decir No y Liberarse
El tercer párrafo enfatiza la importancia de aprender a decir 'no' y establecer límites para evitar comprometerse en situaciones que no son deseables o que no aportan valor. Se sugiere una práctica de visualización para anticipar las consecuencias de participar en eventos no deseados y cómo rechazarlos de manera puntual y educada puede conducir a una vida menos agobiante y más satisfactoria. El discurso termina con un llamado a la acción para que los oyentes hagan cambios significativos en sus vidas mediante la desintoxicación mental y la creación de un presupuesto personal de tiempo, energía y recursos.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡ordenar
💡desintoxicación
💡no importar
💡energía
💡dinero
💡felicidad
💡presupuesto
💡metodología
💡visualización
💡obligaciones
💡liberación
Highlights
The concept of decluttering not just physical items, but also tasks, events, obligations, and relationships.
The idea that by not giving a 'f***' about certain things, one can focus on what truly brings joy.
Defining 'giving a f***' as investing time, energy, and money into something.
The suggestion to stop investing in things that don't matter to free up resources for what does.
The personal story of leaving a high-profile job for a happier, more fulfilling life.
The realization that happiness comes from mental decluttering, not just physical.
The introduction of the 'not sorry' method for intentional mental decluttering.
The two steps of the 'not sorry' method: deciding what not to care about and then not caring.
The importance of honesty and politeness in the 'not sorry' method to avoid guilt.
Applying the 'not sorry' method to events that conflict with personal priorities.
The concept of creating a 'budget' for time, energy, and money to allocate wisely.
The practice of visualizing how attending an unwanted event will make you feel to help decide whether to attend.
The idea that saying 'no' to non-essential commitments can lead to a less busy, less burdened, and less annoyed life.
The argument that mental decluttering has a more lasting impact than physical decluttering.
The empowerment that comes from learning to say 'no', set boundaries, and give fewer but better 'f***s'.
The life-changing magic that comes from mental decluttering and the freedom it provides.
Transcripts
you
we're living in a post tidying society
everyone including me has a story about
decluttering their home gathering all of
their possessions into the middle of the
floor deciding what brings joy and then
bidding farewell to a set of spatulas in
pursuit of a kamar happier life but what
if we could gather up all of the other
stuff tasks events obligations
relationships and drop it at the curb
without a single regret and by doing so
be free to focus our time energy and
money on the stuff that really makes us
happy well I figured out how to do it it
is great and I call it the life-changing
magic of not giving a and I hope
you'll excuse my language because there
is more where that came from
so before I can teach you how to stop
giving a we have to talk about what
it means to give one in the first place
giving a means you care right so
when I say I don't give a about
Game of Thrones I mean I don't care
about Game of Thrones now let's take the
concept a step further and let's define
your as your time energy and money
so if you don't care about something you
should stop giving your to it I
don't care about Game of Thrones so I
don't spend time watching it I don't
spend energy wondering where the next
season is going and I don't spend my
money on the books or merchandize or
anything
Westeros related Game of Thrones does
not get any of my make sense by
making these calculated decisions you
wind up with more time energy and money
to spend on the things you really do
care about and I call that
making a budget I'll get back to
budgets in a minute but first I
want to tell you a little bit about how
the life-changing magic of not giving a
happened to me two and a half years
ago I was a senior editor at a major New
York publishing house I had spent 15
years clawing my way up the corporate
ladder
I had a roster of best-selling authors
and everything I always thought I wanted
from my career was coming to pass but I
was really really unhappy the kind of
unhappy that makes it hard to get out of
bed in the morning the kind of unhappy
that makes it hard to commute 45 minutes
on the New York City subway and hard to
spend 8 to 10 hours at your desk before
turning around going home and doing it
all over again
so I quit and making that decision was
also really hard a lot of red wine a lot
of Tears but what came after I quit was
nothing short of life-changing once I
removed myself from the culture and
lifestyle of a job that had been making
me so unhappy I was free to focus my
time and energy on what would make me
happy including working but just in a
different way and eventually on moving
from Brooklyn to a tropical island I
stopped giving my to working for a
corporation wearing pants and taking
those long subway commutes and I started
giving my to working for myself
wearing bikinis and taking long walks on
the beach
I'm telling you life changing but none
of that change happened because I tidied
up my apartment it happened because I
cleared out my mind let me try and
explain imagine your mind is a barn and
inside it are all of the things that
bring you joy but also
all of the stuff that annoys you the
potential for a happy life is there but
you have to clear out the annoy to make
room for the joy this is mental
decluttering and it is magical I did it
by accident when I quit my job but it
was so amazing that I developed a way
for you to do it on purpose I call it
the not sorry method it has two steps
step one
decide what you don't give a about
step two don't give a about those
things
simple right but I know what you're
thinking this sounds like a recipe for
turning into an it's okay I get
that a lot but that's where the not
sorry part comes in see my method is all
about not giving a using honesty
and politeness so in the end you don't
have to feel guilty you were on your
best behavior and you have nothing to
apologize for
you are quite literally not sorry and
you're also not an so how might
the not sorry method work for you well
let's say you love Game of Thrones and
you've been invited to a Sunday night
dinner party that interferes with
watching your favorite show you feel bad
about turning down the invite but do you
really love Game of Thrones and you
don't want to record it to watch later
because spoilers well you only have so
much time energy and money to spend on
Sunday night so you need to consult your
budget decide which activity brings
more joy and allocate your books
accordingly
and I'm telling you if you respond in a
timely fashion
no thanks can't make it to that dinner
party you've done nothing wrong
you were honest you were polite and you
don't have to be sorry about it and
that's just the tip of the Berg
you can apply the not sorry method to
anything tasks events obligations even
people you start by making a list of
everything that's cluttering up your
mental barn all of the impositions on
your time energy and money the
you're being asked to give to keep it
manageable I go by category so for
example work is one category and five
on your list might be mandatory
meetings conference calls your
co-workers charity half marathon a
going-away party for a co-worker you
don't even like and doing your actual
job so once you've listed them all out
you perform the not sorry method step 1
decide what annoys you non-essential
stuff you don't care about step 2 stop
giving your in the form of time
energy and money to those things then
cross them off your list with a big
black marker it feels good
just go with it what I'm saying is yes
you may have to get up and go to work
everyday and you may have to attend some
mandatory meetings but you do not have
to attend a going-away party for a
colleague you don't even like but if
you're still having trouble not giving
that I recommend a visualization
exercise picture how you're going to
feel when you walk into that party
annoyed or full of joy it's been a long
day
your feet hurt you don't love
socializing with your colleagues at the
office let alone at a shitty bar you
really don't love pictures of warm Coors
Light so what should you do RSVP no of
course why would you spend your
bucks or your actual bucks on this party
I'll tell you why you do it because you
feel obligated and guilty you are
psyching yourself out of a perfectly
fine response know before you even try
it most people just don't think this
stuff through they say yes to things
like this right away and then wind up
wasting time energy and money on an
annoying unenjoyable night out you waste
even more time and energy just dreading
the party a week beforehand and even
more trying to come up with ways to
weasel out of your commitment and then
worrying that you'll be seen as an
for bailing at the last minute
and honestly if you do bail at the last
minute having never intended to go in
the first place then you're an
and you should feel bad about it
instead pause visualise and say a timely
polite no thanks can't make it this is
how you stop spending time you don't
have with people you don't like
doing things you don't want to do you'll
be less busy less burdened less annoyed
you'll have so much more time energy and
money and you will wonder why you didn't
stop going to baby showers 10 years ago
but look you don't have to quit your job
and escape to a tropical island like I
did you can make massive liberating
meaningful change just by clearing out
your mental barn making a budget
and sticking to it you don't have to
organize a yard sale you just have to
say the words no thank you
I don't have time I can't afford it you
can even say I don't want to the world
will not end this is you being honest
and polite no given not sorry
the life-changing magic is right there
for the taking and to be honest
decluttering your house only takes about
a week and then it lasts 1 or 2 but
mental decluttering learning how to say
no set boundaries and give fewer better
that lasts forever thank you
you
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