40 Brutal Truths I Wish I Knew in My 20s
Summary
TLDRThe video offers 40 valuable life lessons for success and personal growth. Key points include focusing on what you enjoy, maintaining a consistent sleep schedule, taking care of your body, surrounding yourself with supportive people, and embracing self-improvement. It encourages setting boundaries, avoiding drama, assuming positive intent, and seeking advice from those who have achieved your goals. The video stresses responsibility, perseverance, and continuous personal development while emphasizing gratitude and dissatisfaction with the status quo to propel forward in life.
Takeaways
- 😀 **Passion Over Proficiency**: Don't become great at something you hate; delegate tasks you dislike and focus on what you love.
- 🕒 **Consistent Routine**: Establish a consistent sleep schedule to foster productivity and solve many life problems.
- 💪 **Health is Wealth**: Prioritize health as it fuels your energy, focus, and ability to achieve your goals.
- 👥 **Surround Yourself with Positivity**: Seek out people who uplift you and want the best for you, avoiding energy vampires.
- 🚫 **Acceptance of Others' Realities**: Let people stay in their chosen realities without argument; focus on your own growth.
- 🙏 **Humility is Selfless, Not Self-Doubt**: Be confident but prioritize service; don't diminish your self-worth.
- 🌟 **Embrace Challenges as Growth Opportunities**: Trials indicate you're on the verge of a breakthrough; use them to prove your worth.
- 📈 **Daily Self-Improvement**: Cultivate a daily habit of self-improvement; strive to be 1% better each day.
- 📢 **Set Boundaries to Teach Respect**: Communicate your standards clearly to ensure others treat you as you deserve.
- 🚪 **Admit Mistakes in Direction**: It's okay to realize you've taken a wrong turn; the sooner you correct it, the better.
- 🔍 **Seek Signs of Inner Truth**: Sometimes, the act of seeking is the sign you needed; trust your instincts.
- 🏋️♀️ **Strength Grows from Struggles**: Your past challenges have shaped and strengthened you; view them as opportunities for growth.
- 🤔 **Desire Attracts Abundance**: When you need nothing from others, you exude confidence and attract abundance.
- 🚸 **Success Requires Understanding**: Be prepared for misunderstandings on your path to success; they're a sign you're ahead.
- 🏃 **Push Harder When It Gets Easy**: When success comes, maintain the intensity of your efforts to achieve greater dreams.
- 📚 **Study, Don't Just Read**: Go beyond reading; study to apply knowledge and teach others for deeper understanding.
- 🌞 **Assume Positive Intent**: Assume the best in others to avoid unnecessary negative emotions and stay focused.
- 👥 **Help Yourself First**: Prioritize self-improvement to ensure you're equipped to help others effectively.
- 🔍 **Seek Out Problems**: Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and solutions.
- 🔄 **Change is Necessary for Progress**: Let go of old ways to make space for new, improved versions of yourself.
- 🗣️ **Confidence Builds on Kept Commitments**: Strengthen your confidence by fulfilling private commitments.
- 🔒 **Dedication Over Haste**: Commit to long-term efforts rather than seeking quick results.
- 🤝 **Reciprocate Respect**: Treat others as you wish to be treated to foster positive relationships.
- 🗣️ **Acknowledge Others' Success**: Recognize and praise others' achievements; it can be a powerful motivator.
- 🚫 **Self-Reflection Over Blame**: If you're encountering negativity, look inward first; you may be contributing to the problem.
- 🗣️ **Avoid Gossip and Drama**: Stay away from negativity as it distracts from your path to success.
- 😱 **Fear Can Distort Decisions**: Seek advice from others during fearful moments to avoid making poor decisions.
- 🌐 **Change is Always Possible**: Regardless of age or circumstances, you have the power to change your life.
- 🚭 **Eliminate Vices**: Let go of harmful habits to make space for positive changes and growth.
- 📱 **Curiosity Over Compulsion**: If your phone is your main source of entertainment, seek more fulfilling real-life experiences.
- 💪 **Accept Responsibility**: Embrace opportunities to help and serve others to grow and be valued.
- 🚫 **Self-Accountability**: Refuse to blame others for your situation; take control of your own life.
- 🙏 **Gratitude and Aspiration**: Be grateful for what you have while striving for more.
- ⏰ **Prioritize What Matters**: Show what truly matters to you by allocating time for it.
- 👏 **Earn Respect Through Admiration**: Seek respect not through fear but by being someone others admire.
- 🪞 **Life Reflects Your Inner State**: Your life is a reflection of who you are; improve yourself to improve your world.
Q & A
What is the main advice given about becoming good at something you dislike?
-The speaker advises against becoming good at something you hate. Instead, focus on what you enjoy and hire others to handle the tasks you dislike.
Why does the speaker emphasize going to bed and waking up at the same time every day?
-The speaker believes that consistent sleep patterns help create a productive routine, allowing problems to be solved more easily and success to compound over time.
What does the speaker suggest about taking care of your body?
-The speaker stresses that health is crucial because when you're healthy, you can pursue multiple goals, but when you're sick, your only goal becomes getting healthy.
How does the speaker define humility?
-Humility is not about thinking less of yourself, but rather thinking of yourself less and putting others first without diminishing your own worth.
What should you do when facing life's challenges according to the speaker?
-Challenges are seen as opportunities to level up. The speaker encourages viewing obstacles as tests to prove personal strength and readiness for growth.
Why does the speaker suggest normalizing leaving people in their chosen realities?
-Arguing with people over their life choices is seen as a waste of energy. It's better to let people remain in their chosen paths while focusing on your own growth.
How can you inspire others according to the speaker?
-By improving yourself and staying focused on your goals, you may inspire others to ask about your journey, even without directly engaging in debate or arguments.
What is the advice regarding confidence and personal commitments?
-Confidence is built by keeping the commitments you make to yourself in private. Breaking those commitments leads to self-doubt and imposter syndrome.
Why does the speaker advise against seeking advice from people who haven’t achieved your goals?
-Advice from those who haven’t reached your desired destination may be flawed or inaccurate, as they don’t have firsthand experience with the specific challenges or successes.
What is the significance of assuming positive intent, according to the speaker?
-Assuming positive intent in others, even in negative situations, prevents emotional overreaction and keeps you focused on your own goals rather than being sidetracked by frustrations.
Outlines
🛠️ Don't Pursue What You Hate
The speaker emphasizes the importance of not becoming proficient at something you dislike. Instead, focus on what you enjoy and delegate tasks that you dislike to others. This advice is given to fast-track success, highlighting that personal satisfaction should drive your work choices, not external expectations.
⏰ Stick to a Regular Sleep Schedule
The speaker advises waking up and going to bed at the same time every day to boost productivity. This practice compounds over time, leading to greater success and problem-solving capacity. Consistency in sleep patterns plays a crucial role in long-term achievement.
💪 Take Care of Your Body
Good health is the foundation for success, according to the speaker. When healthy, people are capable of pursuing multiple dreams, but when unwell, the only goal is to recover. The speaker stresses treating the body like a prized possession, as energy and focus stem from physical well-being.
🫶 Surround Yourself with Supportive People
The speaker emphasizes the importance of staying close to people who want more for you, not from you. By eliminating 'energy vampires' and surrounding yourself with people who uplift and support your goals, you can achieve greater success and fulfillment in life.
🚶 Let People Live in Their Own Reality
The speaker advises not to waste energy arguing with people who live in different realities or have different life philosophies. Instead, focus on your own growth and allow others to remain in their chosen paths, which might inspire them to seek advice later.
🙌 Humility Isn’t Self-Deprecation
The speaker explains that being humble doesn't mean thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. Confidence and service are not mutually exclusive, and it's possible to uplift others without diminishing your own worth or capabilities.
🔗 Challenges Are Signs of Growth
Whenever you're about to break through to a new level, you'll be tested, according to the speaker. These challenges are opportunities to prove that you're capable of achieving greatness, even when circumstances seem to push against you.
📈 Self-Improvement as a Daily Habit
The speaker stresses that continuous self-improvement should become an addiction. By aiming to get just 1% better every day, over time this effort compounds, transforming you into a more focused, confident, and fulfilled person.
👥 Teach Others How to Treat You
You set the standards for how others treat you. The speaker advises communicating preferences and boundaries clearly the first time an issue arises, ensuring that others understand how you expect to be treated moving forward.
🚪 Walk Away from the Wrong Situations
The speaker highlights that it's better to acknowledge when you're in the wrong situation than to waste time in the wrong environment. Whether it’s a job, relationship, or location, recognize when it's not serving your goals and move on quickly.
🔔 Waiting for a Sign Is the Sign
The speaker shares a personal story about asking for a sign during a difficult period, only to realize that asking for a sign is, in itself, the sign. This emphasizes the idea that you already have the answers within you to take action.
💪 Adversity Strengthens You
The speaker reminds us that hardships and challenges have made us stronger, not weaker. Overcoming difficulties is what builds resilience and growth, and each obstacle is a stepping stone toward becoming a better version of yourself.
🌸 Want Nothing, Get Everything
According to the speaker, the person who needs nothing is the one with the most power. When you stop seeking validation or external rewards and focus on yourself, opportunities and abundance naturally flow to you.
🌟 Success Requires Being Misunderstood
The speaker acknowledges that having a grand vision for your life often means being misunderstood by others for long periods. This is a normal part of success, and the people who doubt you today will later celebrate your achievements.
🔥 Push Harder When Things Get Easy
When life starts getting comfortable, the speaker urges us to keep pushing harder. It's important to maintain the same drive and determination you had when you started, especially as success begins to come easier.
👂 Only Take Advice from Proven Experts
The speaker stresses the importance of seeking advice only from people who have been where you want to go. Advice from those without personal experience is flawed, and it's crucial to follow the strategies of those who have achieved your desired goals.
🚫 ‘No’ Is a Full Sentence
Learning to say no is essential, the speaker explains. By saying no to unimportant or draining requests, you create space for more important opportunities and align your actions with your future goals.
💡 Don’t Dim Your Light for Others
The speaker urges us not to shrink ourselves to make others comfortable. It's better to shine brightly and allow others to adjust or seek a different path, rather than limiting yourself to fit into someone else's comfort zone.
🎯 Have a Clear Purpose
Having a primary aim or purpose is what motivates and drives success. The speaker shares that knowing exactly why you're here and what you're working toward creates the focus and energy needed to achieve remarkable things in life.
📚 Study Books, Don’t Just Read Them
The speaker makes a distinction between reading and studying. Studying a book means applying its lessons and truly understanding its content, which leads to personal transformation and the ability to teach others.
🙏 Always Assume Positive Intent
The speaker advocates for assuming positive intent in difficult situations. This mindset prevents emotional overreactions and allows you to stay focused on your own goals, rather than becoming bogged down by negativity.
🛑 Help Yourself First
Using the analogy of an airplane, the speaker explains that you need to put on your own oxygen mask first before helping others. You can't effectively support others if you're not in a strong position yourself, so prioritize your own well-being.
🛠️ Seek Bigger Problems to Solve
The size of your problems correlates with the quality of your life, according to the speaker. Rather than avoiding problems, actively seek out larger challenges to grow and expand your potential.
🔄 Your New Life Will Cost Your Old One
The speaker explains that moving forward requires shedding old habits, environments, and mindsets. If your current way of living worked, you'd already have what you want. Embrace change to achieve future success.
🏋️ Confidence Is Built in Private
Confidence comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself when no one is watching. Every time you follow through on your commitments, you reinforce your confidence, whereas breaking them erodes self-trust and leads to anxiety.
⏳ Dedicate a Decade, Not a Day
The speaker advises dedicating a decade to your goals rather than expecting instant results. It's long-term commitment and consistency that yield success, not short bursts of effort.
❤️ Treat Others as You Wish to Be Treated
The speaker emphasizes the golden rule: give love, respect, and positivity if you want to receive them in return. The way you show up in the world will be reflected back to you in your relationships and interactions.
👋 Acknowledge Others’ Efforts
Offering sincere praise can have a powerful impact on others. The speaker stresses that a simple compliment might be enough to lift someone out of a dark time, so don't underestimate the value of acknowledging others.
🔍 If Drama Follows You, Check Yourself
The speaker reflects on how repeated encounters with drama may indicate that you're the source of it. He suggests examining your behavior and mindset if you frequently find yourself in negative situations.
🏃 Avoid Drama and Gossip
To be a high-level person, avoid gossip and drama at all costs. Successful people don't engage in these negative activities because they are focused on creating opportunities and growth, leaving no room for unnecessary distractions.
😱 Fear Gives Bad Advice
Fear leads to poor decision-making, the speaker warns. During times of fear, avoid making decisions based on your immediate feelings and instead seek advice from trusted people who can offer a clear perspective.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Success
💡Self-improvement
💡Commitment
💡Surroundings
💡Discipline
💡Health
💡Humility
💡Learning
💡Mindset
💡Responsibility
Highlights
Don't make the mistake of becoming good at something you hate. Focus on what you enjoy and delegate tasks you dislike.
Go to bed and wake up at the exact same time every day to improve productivity and focus.
Your body is the only one you have, so prioritize health to maintain energy and focus.
Stay close to people who want more for you, not from you. Remove negative influences.
Normalize leaving people in their chosen reality. Don’t waste energy on arguments.
Being humble isn't about thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.
You get tested the most when you're about to level up. Challenges are opportunities for growth.
Improve yourself daily. Focus on becoming 1% better every day, even if setbacks occur.
Teach people how to treat you by setting standards and holding others accountable.
It’s better to admit you walked through the wrong door than to stay too long in the wrong room.
You waiting for a sign is a sign in itself. Take action instead of waiting for confirmation.
Nothing you've gone through has made you weaker; challenges strengthen you.
When you want nothing, everything wants you. Confidence comes from not being needy.
To be successful, you must be willing to be misunderstood for long periods.
When things get easy, go harder. Push yourself even when you're succeeding.
Transcripts
at the time of this recording I'm 44
years old and if I could go back and
talk to my 20-year-old self and give
some advice on how to get rich a lot
faster here's what I would say number
one don't make the mistake of becoming
good at something you hate when I
started off I thought I had to get great
at everything and it turns out that if
you don't like something if you hate
doing numbers or doing sales calls or
even doing customer support when you get
good at something you like doing you can
pay somebody else to take the things
that you hate doing number two go to bed
and wake up at the exact same time every
day if you take anything away from this
video having the time that you wake up
every day to create to be productive and
go to bed on time most problems would
actually be solved if you went to bed on
time the longer you do this for it will
compound into greatness number three
your body is the only one you have take
care of it when people are healthy they
have a thousand goals and dreams they
want to go after when they're sick they
have one get healthy most people treat
their body like a beat up car not like
the million thoroughbred horse it
actually is if you've got the energy
you've got the focus and you can push
forward you're going to run laps around
everybody number four stay close to
people that want more for you not from
you when I was growing up all I had was
people around me that were energy
vampires they keept sucking my energy
and asking for things and never ever
giving anything in return and when I
decided to do a friend ventory and clean
up those people and start adding folks
that wanted more for me that pushed me
that expected me to do bigger things
with my life life and they were my
biggest cheerleaders everything changed
number five normalize leaving people in
whatever reality they have chosen I used
to argue with people I used to get
frustrated when people would try to sell
me on their philosophy of living a life
that's not too stressed out and why do
you need to have more can't you be happy
with what you have I realized that
energy is better spent being better that
energy is better invested surrounding
myself with people that were also on
that shared Journey the cool part is I
don't get upset anymore I just don't
acknowledge it I just allow them to stay
in that reality that they've chosen and
every once in a while you'll Inspire
them to come ask you how you've been
doing it number six being humble isn't
about thinking less of yourself it's
about thinking of yourself less people
sometimes misunderstand my confidence in
what I'm doing or the way I communicate
is is not humble I am the truth is is
I'm all about service you thinking small
or being timid in your actions is
actually not going to inspire or help
anybody else so put other people first
but don't think less of yourself number
seven you get tested the most when it's
your time to level up this one I've seen
over and over and over again when I was
recording the audio for my book I got
the flute when I was about to hit a new
PR at the gym I injured myself when I
was about to have a record month
somebody quit and it's interesting how
right when you're about to break through
something in your life happens and I
always remind myself in those moments I
get to prove to myself that I'm as good
as I think I am when things are going
great anytime I'm being tested I just
remind myself God is asking me do you
really really want this number eight
improving yourself daily is the only
addiction you need I am addicted to the
expansion of my being I love waking up
every day a little bit better a little
bit more refined a little bit more focus
a little stronger a little more
confidence a little bit more full of joy
a little bit more full of grace if you
wake up with the attitude of just 1%
better every day and if you have a step
back that's okay give yourself a break
but just keep focusing on being better
make that obsession the thing you go
find every day that will change your
whole life number nine is you teach
people how to treat you I see this all
the time where someone is responding to
a text message and then they're upset
that the person didn't email them or a
customer cancels a meeting and you say
nothing and then they continuously
cancel meetings on you and you're just
like why do they always do that you
teach people how to treat you if you
don't set your standard you don't
communicate your preference if you don't
hold that standard then people around
you are going to continue to do things
that frustrate you because you haven't
said anything whereas the first time
they do it and you tell them that
becomes the new Norm they will treat you
differently just like somebody it's
always late if you allow them to be late
you never leave without them then
they'll never learn the lesson and
you've taught them that that's okay
number 10 it's better to admit you walk
through the wrong door than to spend a
lot of time in the wrong room see often
times we're born into a city that we
didn't choose a school that we didn't
choose a friend group honestly we didn't
really choose they just sat next to us
in high school and instead of
acknowledging that maybe that scenario
that place isn't the best for us and
moving on we stay in it way too long and
I will tell you the faster you can
acknowledge and move the better your
life's going to be number 11 you waiting
for a sign is a sign back when I was a
teenager I made a series of bad
decisions that landed me in jail and in
that moment I turned to God and I said
show me a sign the fact that I was
asking was the sign the fact that I
needed him was proof the fact that I was
at Rock Bottom sometimes is God showing
you that he is the rock at the bottom so
you don't need another sign if you want
one this is it number 12 nothing you've
gone through has made you weaker anytime
somebody's struggling or having an issue
in their business or their personal life
I always remind them that you've gone
through worse you've made it through it
and the reason why you are who you are
today is because of those conflicts
those challenges those setbacks we don't
get better without having to go through
things this is just another opportunity
for you to grow number 13 everything
wants you when you want nothing the
person that has the most power the most
confidence the most status in a room is
a person that needs nothing from anybody
else when you come off as somebody
that's needy it feels that way that
energy is kind of like icky when you can
get to a place where you don't need
anything and you focus on you and what
you can control that's actually when
abundance is going to show up into your
life number 14 you have to be willing to
be misunderstood for long periods of
time to be successful if you have a
vision for your life that is bigger than
anything anybody around you today is
trying to do then they won't understand
why you do what you do and that's normal
it means they're going to misunderstand
you they're not going to understand why
you're doing certain things why you're
sacrificing while you're showing up a
certain way and that's okay because all
those people that misunderstood you will
brag about being your friend once you
win number 15 when things get easy go
hard every time I get to another level
and things start getting easy I remind
myself how I used to act when I was
starting off most people start to climb
that mountain have some success and then
chill out my whole thing is why am I not
acting the same way I was when I had
nothing because I had a vision for my
life it was way bigger and if anything
you should go hard when things start
getting easy to remind yourself that
you're still fighting for the bigger
dreams number 16 only ask for advice
from people who have been where you want
to go if the person giving you advice
has never achieved the thing you want to
do then their strategy is going to be
flawed it doesn't matter how many books
they've read it doesn't matter how many
things they think other people have done
it doesn't matter how many stories that
they share about things they heard from
somebody else if they themselves have
not done it then their feedback is going
to be tainted it's going to be flawed
and honestly they're going to give you
the wrong blueprint to achieve so always
find the people that have been to the
place you want to be and ask them for
their advice number 17 the word no is a
complete sentence you're allowed to just
say no I know that you're worried about
hurting people's feelings but what about
your your feelings have you ever said
yes to somebody and you went to a thing
and then you're there and you're like
why am I here or you get on a call with
somebody that you don't know that
somebody introduced to you 3 months ago
and you're like why am I on this call
you're allowed to just say no and a no
today is a yes to your future number 18
don't dim your light to make other
people feel comfortable if you shine in
your light and being who you are and be
authentically yourself blinds other
people because that is too much for them
then I'd rather you be too much and they
can go find less number 19 have a
primary aim for your life people ask me
all the time why are you so motivated my
response is why are you not more
motivated I know why I'm here I know
what my life is going to stand for I
know what my purpose is when we have
that primary aim it becomes the fuel to
pull us forward to achieve some
incredible things in our lives number 20
stop reading books start studying them
see there's a difference if I'm reading
a book just to say I read it I'm not
going to retain it if I'm reading a book
cuz I'm studying it to not only apply to
my life to then teach other people that
consumption that level of comprehension
is going to change and shift my beliefs
my actions and the way I show up for
other people that's what it means to
study a book number 21 always assume
positive intent you're driving somebody
cuts you off you can use that moment to
get road rage and get pissed off and
start flipping them the bird and
screaming at them and then take the
whole morning processing how that person
did you wrong or you can assume positive
intent that maybe they're in a rush cuz
somebody they love is in the hospital
either one is as likely to be true the
second one enables you to not
emotionally over respond keeping you
focus on your dreams number 22 put your
own mask on first before helping others
when the plane's going down they tell
you put the mask on so that you have the
capacity to help people around you most
of you guys get distracted by other
people's dramas other issues and it
takes you off of your pursuit to
becoming better the truth is is you
can't help those other people until you
get the resources so if you keep getting
distracted Ed and you don't get those
Resources by the time they really need
your help you're not going to be ready
for it number 23 look for problems don't
avoid them I can tell you that the
quality of your life the size of your
life is correlated to the size of
problems you have in your life so
instead of being worried about having
big problems actually go find bigger
problems to solve number 24 your new
life will cost you your old one if you
want to move forward it's going to
require you to change the way you've
been which will mean that how you've
been living will not work for the future
cuz if it did you'd already have the
things you want so if you're not willing
to reassess let go cut things out of
your life then you'll always be held
back from your past from creating a
brighter future number 25 confidence
comes from keeping the commitments you
make to yourself in private most of you
want more confidence but the truth is is
you rode that confidence every time you
make a commitment that nobody else knows
about and you don't follow through you
don't get up at 5:00 a.m. when you said
you would you don't go to the gym when
you said you would you don't eat clean
when you said you would and every time
you do that you chip away at your
confidence to the point where you start
having self-doubt anxiety imposter
syndrome number 26 dedicate a decade not
a day some people go to the gym once and
they can't shut up about it they're like
oh my God I got an arm pump that was so
great I'm not impressed with anybody
that does something for a day a week a
month even for a year when you're
willing to dedicate a decade of your
time energy focus and resources to
achieving something trust me the world
will cude in your favor to be great
number 27 treat others the way you want
to be treated if you want more love in
your life then give more love if you
want higher quality relationships then
be a better friend the more you show up
with respect with motivation with
positivity with non-judgment the rest of
the world will treat you the exact same
way number 28 tell people about them
most powerful thing you have is the
acknowledgement of somebody doing
something great in your life you never
know when that word that sentence that
moment might be the thing that actually
could have saved somebody's life and I
know that sounds dramatic but I've seen
it happen so many times you have no idea
what people are going through around you
and that one compliment at the right
time for the right person might be the
thing they needed to stop a downward
spiral number 29 if you keep running
into bad people you may be the problem I
was training with my buddy the other day
and he's a bit of a complainer I was
like hey man do you realize that you
complain a lot he's like I've never
really noticed that I was like yeah and
I bet your friends complain a lot
because misery loves company so if if a
lot of drama is in your life you might
be the person creating the drama it's
nobody else's fault like go look in a
mirror number 30 avoid drama and gossip
at all costs if you want to be a high
level person don't spend time in Drama
and gossip they're allergic to it as
soon as they hear it they run away from
it why because they're spending all
their time in a place of opportunity and
Creation in the future and in that space
there's no place for that drama and that
gossiping number 31 fear gives bad
advice in those dark periods those
moments where you want to give up where
you just feel like you've had enough
just know that that is when you are
giving yourself the worst advice don't
take it from you find somebody else give
them the scenario and ask maybe two or
three people that's the best way to
overcome those moments where you're full
of fear number 32 it's never too late to
change I don't care if you're 87 or 27
I'm telling you today in this moment you
have an opportunity to decide to change
your life and every body had to take
that first step I had to take that first
step I had to start at zero everybody
goes through it and today could be the
day for you number 33 get rid of all
your vices and I'm talking about all
them talking about the gambling the porn
the social media the news the sugar the
friends the drama some of you guys are
addicted to things that you don't
realize are holding you back if you want
more you have to let things go from the
past so that you have space for the more
number 34 if you're addicted to your
phone your life just isn't interesting
enough if the best thing you got is
being distracted by Doom scrolling on
social media go pick up some Hobbies go
get around people that are living life a
little bit more exciting I'm telling you
if you start doing things in the real
world that freak you out that scare you
a little bit that push you over your
Edge that's way more interesting than
you just sitting there getting these
dopamine hits on social media number 35
take on as much responsibility as you
can you've got capacity offer to help
people especially people that are in a
position to serve you and your dream
going forward always say yes always say
yes the person that's always available
will figure out through that overwhelm
how to get more done and eventually
you'll be the person that they default
to to get involved in really cool
projects number 36 don't blame anybody
else but yourself I'm talking anybody
I'm talking all circumstances the end of
the day as soon as you blame somebody
else for where you're at you lose
control as soon as you acknowledge that
nobody's coming to save you and that you
are in control of your life your
decisions your circumstances and no
matter what anybody else is doing you
will then unlock the ability to move
forward if it's other people that need
to like me or do things to be successful
I'll never win number 37 be blissfully
dissatisfied with where you're at in
life and I got this from my coach Ed
mlet you want to understand that what
you've got today you should be crazy
grateful for as little or as big as it
is but at the same time know and believe
that you are here and created for
something more and that's the
dissatisfied part it sounds like a
dichotomy but I'm telling you you can
have gratitude and at the same time
realize you were created for more number
38 make time for what matters to you if
you tell me your family's important your
girlfriend's important your best
friend's important show me in your
calendar where you've dedicated time to
it see a lot of people say things are
important but they don't make them a
priority any new request from strangers
end up in their calendar way before the
thing that they said is important if it
matters to you you make time for it
number 39 respect comes from admiration
not fear I look up to people that are
givers that have done big things I'm not
looking up to people are respecting
folks just cuz I'm scared of what they
might do to me or they won't accept me
for example you might have a boss and
you're worried they're going to fire you
all the time that person isn't a good
person I want to follow a leader that's
going to hold me to a higher standard
that's also going to show up and Coach
me to become better that's somebody I
admire when you can change your frame to
find the people that you admire because
of how they show up in the world as a
giver you'll change because you're not
going to dim your light to help somebody
that wasn't going to help you unless it
helped them number 40 life is a mirror
not a window see a lot of you guys are
spending time looking out the windows
comparing yourself to other people and
the truth is is your life is a
reflection of who you are the world
isn't as it is the world is as you are
and it is a mirror so if you want the
rest of the thing to get better you got
to get better and it's based on what you
see when you look in that mirror are you
capable are you creating are you pushing
forward that's the most powerful lesson
out of all of them if you want to learn
the eight Money Rules that I wish I knew
in my 20s click the link and I'll see
you on the other side
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