A-Y-Awesomeness Ep19 *HOW TO HARMONIZE W/ DIFFERENT LIFESTYLES OF FRIENDS & FAMILY*
Summary
TLDRDr. Edith Ubuntu Chan, a holistic high-performance coach and Chinese medicine doctor, discusses the challenges of making lifestyle changes, especially when facing family resistance. She emphasizes the importance of finding supportive communities and being patient with loved ones' concerns. Dr. Chan suggests responding to family with love and sharing lifestyle changes subtly when they express interest, rather than preaching. She encourages creating a harmonious environment by focusing on common interests and using positive reinforcement to inspire family members.
Takeaways
- đšâđ©âđ§âđŠ **Family Reactions**: Lifestyle changes can be challenging due to family reactions, especially when it involves dietary habits.
- đ **Personal Growth**: Dr. Edith Ubuntu Chan believes that we choose our families to learn life lessons and grow from challenges.
- đ€ **Community Support**: Finding new communities that align with your lifestyle changes is crucial for social support and success.
- đ± **Plant-Based Example**: If you're transitioning to a plant-based diet, surround yourself with like-minded individuals for support and resources.
- đââïž **Exercise Communities**: For new exercise routines, join communities that share your interests, such as running or dancing groups.
- đŹ **Communication**: Respond to family concerns with patience and understanding, acknowledging their love and concern.
- đïž **Patience**: Over time, show your family through your vibrant health and happiness that your lifestyle changes are beneficial.
- đ€ **Non-Preaching**: Avoid preaching; instead, wait for the right moment or when family members express interest in your changes.
- đ **Resource Sharing**: Share resources like books or documentaries that inspired your lifestyle changes, rather than lecturing.
- đ **Common Ground**: Focus on common interests with family members to build connections based on joy and love.
- đ **Inspiring Others**: By living a healthy lifestyle, you can inspire family and friends to consider their own lifestyle choices.
Q & A
What is the main challenge discussed in Dr. Edith Ubuntu Chan's video?
-The main challenge discussed is the reactions and responses from friends and family, particularly when making lifestyle changes to support personal well-being.
Why can changing dietary habits be difficult when interacting with family?
-Changing dietary habits can be difficult because family members may have grown up eating certain foods that are now being avoided, and these foods might be prevalent during family gatherings.
What is Dr. Edith Ubuntu Chan's perspective on the role of family in our lives?
-Dr. Edith Ubuntu Chan believes that we, as souls or spirits, choose our family to learn lessons and grow from challenges, implying that we have the capacity to harmonize with family challenges.
Why is it important to find new communities when making lifestyle changes?
-New communities provide a social support system that is crucial for making lifestyle or habit changes, offering resources and stability to help individuals feel more confident in their new habits.
How does Dr. Chan suggest responding to family members' concerns about lifestyle changes?
-Dr. Chan suggests acknowledging the love and concern behind their statements, responding patiently, and reassuring them that you are okay, without necessarily preaching your new beliefs.
What approach does Dr. Chan recommend when family members notice positive changes in you?
-Dr. Chan recommends waiting for family members to notice and comment on positive changes, then sharing information about your lifestyle changes if they express interest.
How can focusing on common interests help in harmonizing with family during lifestyle changes?
-Focusing on common interests allows for connection and shared joy, reducing the emphasis on differences and avoiding the ego-driven perspective that may create division.
What is the most effective way to share lifestyle change insights with family, according to Dr. Chan?
-The most effective way is to share resources like books or documentaries that inspired the changes, rather than preaching, and to offer more information if asked.
How should we approach family members who question our lifestyle choices out of concern?
-We should approach them with understanding and gentleness, recognizing that their questions come from a place of love and concern, and that our changes may prompt them to reconsider their own choices.
What does Dr. Chan encourage viewers to do to support each other in the community?
-Dr. Chan encourages viewers to share their experiences and strategies for harmonizing with family during lifestyle changes, to learn from each other and create a supportive community.
Outlines
đż Navigating Family Reactions to Lifestyle Changes
Dr. Edith Ubuntu Chan, a holistic high-performance coach and Chinese medicine doctor, discusses the challenges of making lifestyle changes, particularly when it comes to dietary habits, and the reactions from friends and family. She empathizes with the audience, acknowledging the difficulty of such changes and the common issue of family members' resistance. Dr. Chan suggests that these challenges are part of our soul's growth and that we have the capacity to overcome them. She emphasizes the importance of finding new communities that support the desired lifestyle changes, such as plant-based diets or exercise routines, to provide a social support system. The key is to surround oneself with people who are already living the changes to feel more stable and confident. Dr. Chan also shares personal strategies for harmonizing with family, including understanding their concerns as coming from a place of love, being patient, and waiting for the right moment to share one's lifestyle changes.
đ€ Harmonizing with Family Through Shared Interests and Patience
In the second paragraph, Dr. Chan continues the discussion on how to harmonize with family when making lifestyle changes. She advises against preaching one's new lifestyle choices to family members and instead suggests focusing on common interests to build connections based on love and joy. She encourages letting go of ego and finding shared activities or topics that can be enjoyed together. Dr. Chan also stresses the importance of responding to family members' questions about lifestyle changes with gentleness and understanding, recognizing that their concerns stem from love and concern. She shares her approach to sharing lifestyle changes, which involves waiting for the right moment and offering resources like books or documentaries rather than preaching. The goal is to inspire and uplift family members at their own pace. Dr. Chan concludes by inviting the audience to share their experiences and strategies for harmonizing with family, fostering a supportive community.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄWellness
đĄLifestyle Changes
đĄHolistic High Performance Coach
đĄChinese Medicine Doctor
đĄSocial Support System
đĄPlant-Based Diet
đĄEgo
đĄHarmonize
đĄSelf-Care Practice
đĄCommunity
Highlights
Dr. Edith Ubuntu Chan introduces the topic of managing reactions from friends and family when making lifestyle changes for wellness.
The challenge of changing eating habits, especially when visiting relatives who serve foods one has decided to avoid.
Advice on harmonizing with family by acknowledging the support and challenges they provide in one's wellness journey.
The importance of finding new communities for social support when making lifestyle changes.
Suggestion to surround oneself with people who are already living the lifestyle one aspires to.
The idea that as souls, we choose our families to learn lessons and grow from challenges.
Encouragement to trust one's capacity to harmonize with family challenges.
The role of the Ayah community in supporting individuals through lifestyle changes.
Strategies for responding to family members' concerns about lifestyle changes, such as eating less meat.
The recommendation to be patient and allow family to observe positive changes over time.
The suggestion to not preach but wait for family to express interest in one's lifestyle changes.
The importance of focusing on common interests with family rather than differences.
The approach to sharing lifestyle changes with family by offering resources rather than preaching.
The idea that family's questions about lifestyle choices come from a place of love and concern.
Advice on finding an elegant balance when making lifestyle changes to avoid discomforting family.
An invitation for viewers to share their experiences and strategies for harmonizing with family during lifestyle changes.
Dr. E encourages viewers to join the Ayah community for further support and resources.
Transcripts
hi my friends it's dr edith ubuntu chan
i'm a holistic high performance coach
and a chinese medicine doctor here with
another episode of activate your
awesomeness
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in today's episode i'd love to chat with
you about a topic that comes up very
often
when those of us are on a journey of
wellness and personal development making
lifestyle changes and changes in our
habits to support our well-being often
the hardest thing is the reactions and
response from our friends and family
particularly our family
don't you agree that that can be
sometimes the greatest challenge take
for example eating changes you know
you've decided to give up certain foods
that you've discovered through your
study and research to be not that
healthy for your well-being
but
maybe your family grew up eating some of
these foods and when you visit with
relatives
those old foods that you're no longer
wanting to eat is everywhere and it's
like the only thing to eat
so how do you harmonize with that it can
be super tricky
well first i want to point out you know
kudos to you good job for all the good
work you've already done in that
department and i want to let you know
that we're all feeling with you we all
go through that challenge together
i believe on some level that we as souls
or spirits chose which family to
incarnate
into to learn a certain set of uh
lessons or to grow from a certain set of
challenges
so i have full faith that you have the
capacity within you to harmonize with
any of these challenges you might be
facing with your family at this moment
and we as a community as the ayah
community we're all here to support you
speaking of community when it comes to
lifestyle changes the first most
important thing is to find new
communities whenever you're making new
lifestyle changes
let's make sure you have that social
support system because that's a huge
part of the battle when it comes to
making lifestyle or habit changes
so surround yourself with people that
are already stable in that new lifestyle
change let's say you are trying to eat a
more plant-based diet surround yourself
with tons of people that are eating the
plant-based diet and they'll have a lot
of the resources to support you to being
successful so that you feel more stable
and more confident in your new habits
when you go and meet with your family
likewise if you're
looking to take up a certain exercise
regimen surround yourself with a
community of people that like running or
that like to take zumba or dancing or
like hiking and so on so you feel really
fulfilled in the social aspects and then
when you do join with your family you
don't feel that lack that something is
missing at the end of the day we're all
social creatures so having harmony with
our friends family and community is
really important to all of us so i'd
love to share with you what's worked for
me as i've made some lifestyle changes
how to harmonize with my family
first is to notice that when family
members come to us and say oh well
you're doing this and that you know are
you sure and for example when i chose to
eat less and less meat like many moms
you know my mom was concerned no meat
what are you gonna eat so it's really
good to tune into the fact that it's out
of love
and concern
that our family makes these statements
and we can respond with yeah i know you
love me so much don't worry mom i'm
gonna be okay
and just be patient
sometimes you don't even have to say
anything
it's just a matter of time
if consistently
every time you gather with your family
they notice you look really vibrant
really happy really healthy
isn't that what everybody in our family
all our friends they all want that for
us
so when they make any comments it's only
because
they haven't been educated
to
the facts that you have
so instead of you preaching to them
just wait maybe we don't even bring up
these changes that we're going through
but they might say hey
is that a haircut or a new shirt or
what's going on you look really good
what's new with you
that's when you can say well actually
i've been doing this
self-care practice i've been doing
breathing every day i've been taking
walks every day or i've been eating in
this certain way and i feel really great
you want to learn about it i can tell
you about it and they might say yes or
no if they're not interested then that's
end of story when we gather with our
friends and family we're not there to
preach our new exciting thing to them
we're there just to connect in love and
joy so find what you do have in common
instead of focusing on all the
differences instead of focusing your
mind on oh my family is so
unevolved you know they don't make these
conscious choices that i do that's
actually just your ego speaking
if you let go of the ego part of you
into the loving kind part of you then
you might talk about things you do have
in common
like gardening or you know like uh like
wow look at how beautiful you've
decorated your house and things that you
can join together in a state of joy and
love with and when they do ask you about
your lifestyle changes that is really
the only moment where in my opinion is
appropriate to share
and if they want to learn more i think
what i found the most
effective is instead of preaching and
preaching and preaching nobody likes
being preached to is to share it like
hey i read this book do you want to read
it too that's what inspired me or i
watched this documentary and it blew my
mind and that's why i decided to make
this big lifestyle change and here
here's the documentary check it out and
then if you want to ask me more i can
share with you more resources i feel
that those are the most appropriate way
to harmonize with the energies of our
family and also at the perfect moment
uplift and inspire them to also
get on board with some of these
lifestyle changes that are working so
great for you
at the end of the day
just to come back down to the
fundamental
to understand that our friends and
family they love us
if
they question your lifestyle choices is
always because they're coming from a
state of love and concern
and that sometimes when you do things
different from them
it can cause them to start to
at their own way their own pace
question their lifestyle choices
which understandably can be very
uncomfortable for our friends and family
so we want to be really gentle with that
so
finding an elegant balance when we make
these changes i think it's a skill that
we can all devote some love and
attention and cultivating
and what about you i'd love if you could
leave a comment below and let us know
what's worked well for you when it comes
to harmonizing with your family when
there's been different lifestyle changes
and so on what has worked for you we can
all learn from each other so together
let's create an ayah community an
awesomeness community where we can
support and nourish each other in
uplifting ourselves our friends our
family and ripple effects into the whole
planet
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