Talk To Strangers. It Will Change Your Life.
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the host addresses the challenge of talking to strangers and overcoming social anxiety. By sharing personal experiences and practical tips, the host demonstrates how to initiate conversations and build connections. With the help of a friend, they show various approaches to interacting with strangers, from simple questions to more daring requests like asking for a hug or a free item from a restaurant. The video emphasizes the importance of social connections and the need to push past fear of rejection to open new doors in life.
Takeaways
- đ Social anxiety is a common barrier that prevents people from talking to strangers and can even affect personal and professional growth.
- đ The book 'Quiet' by Susan Cain was instrumental in helping the speaker understand introversion and inspired him to become more extroverted.
- đ The importance of social connections in human life is often overlooked, and the fear of rejection leads to missed opportunities for connection.
- đ Overcoming social anxiety involves stepping out of one's comfort zone, which can lead to personal growth and new experiences.
- đŁïž Approaching strangers with a friendly and polite demeanor can be an effective way to initiate conversations.
- đŻ Having a clear goal in mind before starting a conversation with a stranger can help guide the interaction and make it more meaningful.
- đ« Treating strangers as potential friends can change the perspective on social interactions and reduce the fear of rejection.
- đ Rejection is not personal; it's often a quick judgment based on limited information, and it's important to not take it to heart.
- đ Practice makes it easier to talk to strangers; the more one does it, the more comfortable and natural it becomes.
- đ± Learning to talk to strangers is about rebuilding essential human traits that have been lost in recent years due to increased reliance on digital connections.
Q & A
What is the main skill discussed in the video script?
-The main skill discussed in the video script is learning how to talk to strangers.
Why is talking to strangers considered a difficult thing to do?
-Talking to strangers is considered difficult because it requires putting one's ego aside and potentially facing rejection, which can trigger social anxiety.
What book did the English teacher give to the speaker, and why?
-The English teacher gave the speaker the book 'Quiet' by Susan Cain because they saw the speaker was struggling and having a hard time, and the book is devoted to helping introverts make real-life changes in the world.
How did the speaker change their approach to social interactions after receiving the book?
-After receiving the book 'Quiet', the speaker took it as a challenge to become more extroverted, started talking to more people, and got out of their comfort zone.
What is the fundamental lesson the speaker shares about strangers?
-The fundamental lesson shared is that a stranger is just a friend that you haven't met yet.
What is the speaker's advice for starting a conversation with a stranger?
-The speaker advises having a goal in mind before entering the conversation, being friendly and polite, and starting with a simple question to ease into the conversation.
What is the importance of being complimentary and nice during a conversation with a stranger?
-Being complimentary and nice during a conversation with a stranger can encourage reciprocation of kindness and make the interaction more positive.
How does the speaker demonstrate the process of talking to strangers in the video?
-The speaker demonstrates the process by showing different approaches to starting conversations, from simple questions to more challenging social experiments like asking for free items from restaurants.
What is the main message of the video regarding overcoming fear of rejection?
-The main message is that rejection is not personal and should not deter one from trying. The speaker emphasizes that the worst that can happen is a negative response, but that should not stop one from attempting to connect with others.
How does the speaker relate talking to strangers to personal growth and success?
-The speaker relates talking to strangers to personal growth and success by stating that being able to talk to more people and open up more doors can help achieve one's goals in life, whether it involves social media, personal relationships, or career advancement.
Outlines
đŁïž Overcoming Social Anxiety to Talk to Strangers
The speaker begins by discussing the importance of learning to talk to strangers, a skill that can be challenging due to the fear of rejection and social anxiety. They share personal experiences of how social anxiety prevented them from approaching people they were interested in or even starting their YouTube channel. The video aims to teach viewers how to overcome this fear and start conversations with strangers. The speaker also humorously demonstrates poor approaches to starting conversations and emphasizes the need to show genuine interest and friendliness when initiating a conversation.
đ Engaging Strangers in Conversations
This section of the script details the process of approaching strangers and starting conversations. The speaker and their friend Joe engage in various interactions, from simple greetings to asking for life advice and even requesting hugs. They explore different scenarios, such as approaching people on the street, in restaurants, and other public places. The goal is to demonstrate that rejection is not personal and that persistence can lead to positive outcomes. The speaker also introduces a social experiment where they ask for free items from various establishments, showcasing the power of simply asking.
đ± Rebuilding Human Connection Through Conversations
In the final paragraph, the speaker reflects on the broader implications of talking to strangers. They argue that this skill is about more than just making small talk; it's about reestablishing a sense of human connection that has been lost in the digital age. The speaker shares their personal journey from being introverted to becoming more extroverted and the impact it had on their personal and professional life. They emphasize the importance of self-confidence and the willingness to face rejection as key to achieving one's goals. The video concludes with a reminder that talking to strangers is a valuable skill that can open doors and enrich one's life experiences.
Mindmap
Keywords
đĄSocial Anxiety
đĄRejection
đĄIntrovert
đĄExtrovert
đĄComfort Zone
đĄEgo
đĄConnection
đĄFear
đĄConfidence
đĄRejection
đĄStrangers
Highlights
The importance of learning how to talk to strangers is emphasized as a fundamental life skill.
Overcoming social anxiety and fear of rejection is key to initiating conversations with strangers.
The speaker's personal journey from social anxiety to starting a YouTube channel is shared.
A book recommendation 'Quiet' by Susan Cain influenced the speaker's approach to social interactions.
The concept that strangers are just friends we haven't met yet is introduced.
Having a goal in mind before starting a conversation with a stranger is suggested.
Being polite and friendly when initiating a conversation is highlighted as effective.
The speaker demonstrates how to ask strangers for recommendations in a city.
Rejection is presented as a normal part of social interaction and not a personal attack.
The video includes a social experiment where the speaker and a friend approach strangers for hugs.
A challenge is undertaken to request free items from different businesses by talking to strangers.
The video showcases the success of the social experiment with multiple 'yeses' and one 'no'.
True Earth's eco-friendly laundry strips are introduced as a product to reduce plastic use.
The video concludes with a reflection on the importance of rebuilding human connection in a digital age.
The speaker shares insights on how to approach strangers with confidence, drawing from personal experience.
The video ends with a call to action to not be afraid of rejection and to embrace social interactions.
Transcripts
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hey how's it going
where are you going
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learning how to talk to strangers is one
of the most fundamentally important
skills that you can learn in your
lifetime no matter how old or young you
are here's the problem though talking to
strangers fundamentally is a very
difficult thing to do because it
requires you to put your ego in your
pocket and allow yourself to potentially
get rejected social anxiety has
prevented me from asking out a lot of
girls that i thought were cute walking
up to people who seemed interesting and
honestly putting myself out there more
it even took me a long time to start my
youtube channel because i was afraid to
put my face onto this camera and
potentially find out what my friends
really thought of me now i know that a
lot of us have that same problem so in
this video i'm going to be teaching you
how to talk to strangers how to move
past that fear of rejection and learn
how to put yourself out there and open
up every single door before i teach you
how to talk to strangers i think it's
best i show you how not to talk to
strangers ask you a quick question can i
continue the conversation for you with
your friend
just take over the phone
yeah yeah don't say who it is though
sorry
quick question what are you listening to
a podcast oh cool can i listen
cool hi i'm just a random stranger but i
wanted to say hi
oh language spanish spanish
espanol
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is your name john by chance
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i thought i recognized you from cesar uh
no i'm sorry
can i get a hug can i have a hug
a hug
yeah why not nice to meet you that's how
not to ask but now let's get into how to
talk to strangers
so this is a video that i've been
wanting to make for a long time because
it's a problem that has been impacting
me since high school i used to be an
extremely introverted person so much so
that in my final year of high school i
won an award and any time that you win
an award you get a trophy but you also
get a book and the book was picked by my
english teacher who saw that i was
struggling and having a really hard time
and the book was called quiet by susan
kane it's a book entirely devoted to how
introverts can still use their powers to
make real-life long-lasting change in
the world what's funny is i had never
considered myself an introvert or an
extrovert i didn't even understand both
of those concepts until she gave me that
book i couldn't believe that that was
the book that she gave me because i
thought introverts are never gonna make
big changes in the world because they're
too afraid to talk to people so i took
her giving me that book as a as a shot
or as a challenge let's say to become
more of an extroverted human being and
at that exact point i flipped the switch
started trying to talk to more people
get out of my comfort zone more and
become more of an extroverted human
being most of us know that a fundamental
part of human life is our social
connections as much as you might not
want to think so or you might be willing
to just sit on instagram and scroll
through social media for the rest of
your life talking to people is a very
important part of life and we all forget
to do it or choose not to do it because
it's scary because we don't want to get
rejected we don't want to get our egos
bruised in a very short amount of time
we have stopped going up to each other
on the streets and instead just resorted
to staring at our phones and i find that
we've lost this certain connection where
it looks like we're more connected
online but at the same time we're
becoming increasingly disconnected in
reality now to help me film this portion
of the video where we're gonna go talk
to strangers this is joe what's up i
made an instagram story asking someone
if they wanted to to help me film he
answered like literally 60 seconds later
actually i saw it at that moment i'm
like what am i doing i'm not training
gotta come help him out wanted to do it
for a while so perfect timing i knew
william from hockey was kind of an
[Â __Â ] in hockey like he wasn't that
inspirational guy the idea i had of
william was like
an [Â __Â ] i don't know one day my
friend showed me he's like oh look at
this guy like i'm like oh [Â __Â ] i know
him he's an [Â __Â ] he's like no no
look at this bro then i started
listening to his goddamn like
interesting okay whatever i'll give him
follow and it's actually pretty great
content and he's a nice guy i think
we'll find out we'll find out after
today so when it comes to actually
developing the confidence to go and
approach a stranger you really just have
to remember the fundamental lesson which
is a stranger is just a friend that you
haven't yet met now in my experience of
talking to a lot of people and going up
to them on the street and getting over
my own version of social anxiety the
best way to talk to a stranger is to
have a goal in mind before you enter the
conversation once you've gone that it's
really important to just be friendly
when you enter the conversation so one
way that i really like to use which
honestly works all the time is you just
say excuse me sorry to bother you do you
mind if i ask you a quick question very
canadian he's very friendly it's very
polite but it really works once you're
in the conversation you're in like the
hardest part is actually just getting
the conversation started and once you
know that the person is interested in
you and has given you the time to speak
then you just gotta do your thing be
very complimentary people be very nice
and and people will be nice in return so
what we're gonna do right now is i'm
gonna show you a few different ways that
you can actually walk up to strangers
and talk to them i'm just going to give
you the entire rundown from not speaking
to them to getting into a full-blown
conversation so we're just going to
start off with an ask and not a request
this is a really easy way to ease
yourself into a conversation and just
get the adrenaline pumping after maybe
two or three conversations with a
stranger you'll see when you try it
things get a lot easier hi how are you
how's it going
good good
okay all right that wasn't part of it
but excuse me guys i might have to ask
you a quick question okay we're filming
a video we're from out of town but we
want to know what is one thing that we
can do in montreal that's really fun
that you recommend
go for a good routine okay cool all
right thank you excuse me sir how's it
going can i ask you a quick question
we're not from montreal but we're uh
we're trying to figure out cool things
to do so we're asking strangers if they
can recommend anything
there's a good nightlife where are you
from
brazil nice excuse me
sorry
what are you listening to drilled drill
by who what's up dude how are you
good to see you filming a video or
talking to strangers
learning how to talk to children not a
stranger though how's it going man
it's been a while
like i feel like i know everyone who's
walking on the street
every time i see someone in the distance
i'm like i think i know you can ask you
guys a quick question
you mind if i ask you guys a quick
question
no one speaks any language
excuse me guys can i ask you a quick
question
can i ask you a quick question no all
right excuse me do you mind if i ask you
guys a quick question
okay
first rejection first rejection see
what's the worst case that happens like
my feet are still moving their feet are
still moving it's all good the thing
about rejection is that most of us think
it's personal but the reality is it's
not personal no one knows you they don't
know who i am they're just making a
judgment and they're basing it off that
so we can get past that
and we're good all right so part number
two i'm going to take one of my
extroverted friends which is joe joe
supposedly claims that he's not afraid
of anything i am not afraid and we're
going to walk him through how to start
random conversations taking random
characters the hardest part yeah it's
taking you the most busy straight in
montreal excuse me do you mind if i ask
a quick question what's your best piece
of life advice
can i issue a challenge to you yeah go
for it can can i get you to walk up to a
stranger and ask them if you can give
them the hug yeah okay go for it i love
this
hi i'm so sorry
okay better question can i also get a
hug for sure
that's it bro just out of curiosity
why'd you say yes so fast is that your
vlogging i am vlogging yeah why not give
love to people you should always say yes
more often you'll have more stories two
future motivational speakers right here
sir we just want to say you're doing a
great job thank you you're awesome
really very much we needed someone
intelligent part of the organization so
you'd be the only person in my family
yeah that's why i'm here have a good one
that was the gm of the halves that was
can't those can't use it there's a gm of
the house okay last step in the
progression of trying to talk to
strangers is we're gonna go out with a
little bit of an extreme challenge and
walk up to different restaurants and ask
them if we can get a free item hey how
are you
i'm good we're doing a social experiment
for youtube so for the last part of the
video we're going up to different
restaurants and asking if we can get one
free item
we got the no at starbucks two scoops
free garlic potatoes from amir we just
got a free drink and a free cheeseburger
from mcdonald's success success so we
went to ask at five places and we got
four
yeses and one note we got a black coffee
from java you a cheeseburger for
mcdonald's two full scoops of protein
powder from liquid nutrition some garlic
roasted potatoes from amir if you know
montreal you know that lebanese garlic
potatoes these are like the bomb and
then last but not least we got six mini
donuts from mr puffs we got all of this
for absolutely no cost
just because we asked now talking to
strangers is really nerve-wracking and
that makes me at least sweat a lot and
it makes my clothes pretty stinky so the
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me now let's get back to this video
funny enough learning how to talk to
strangers is about everything except for
learning how to talk to strangers it's
about rebuilding one of the most
essential human traits that the human
race has lost in the last 15 years and
after high school i started figuring out
more and more of what i wanted to do in
life and i realized that if i wanted to
have a big brand and be on social media
then there's no way that i could do that
and still be introverted and achieve the
same success that i have planned for
myself in my head and i know for a lot
of you watching it's the same thing even
if you don't necessarily want to be on
social media and running a brand like me
just being able to talk to more people
and open up more doors is probably going
to get you to where you want to be in
life it comes back to you if you're
comfortable with you and you know
yourself do you go up and ask either
they're going to say leave me alone or
nothing that's the bottom line you have
to try in life pretend that you're
abroad no one knows you you know just
asking for some little things you know
what you like about city like what's
what's i don't know where to eat and
everything just like not not not
thinking too far just like hey i just
wanted to tell someone today you know
just asking how they're doing on stuff i
did just have gags for five years so i
know how to go up to strangers i did
this for five years before i used to be
shy when i was younger when i would
prime people i'm like okay what's the
worst that could happen the worst thing
for example right now is that they don't
hug me you know we can't be afraid of
rejection it's important and it's part
of life so yeah you just gotta ask
that is how not to walk up to a stranger
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