How To Confidently Ask Her Out: Catholic Dating

Summary

This video offers a comprehensive guide for Catholic men on how to ask a woman out without being sleazy. It shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of creativity in the invitation, planning the date to show leadership, and being 'husband material' by presenting oneself as a man worthy of a loving wife and family. The speaker stresses the significance of self-improvement, including physical fitness and spiritual life, to attract a suitable partner. The video concludes with advice on maintaining confidence and the role of prayer, particularly the rosary, in discerning a future spouse.

Takeaways

• 😀 Be confident in asking a woman out; it's a natural step towards potential family life.
• 📱 Use creativity in asking someone out, like making a playful bet, to make the interaction memorable.
• 👫 Plan the date yourself as a man, showing leadership and consideration for the woman's interests.
• 💡 Be ready to be flexible with your plans, but have a clear idea of the date's structure to avoid awkwardness.
• 💪 Prioritize self-improvement, including physical fitness and personal grooming, to be 'husband material'.
• 🏠 Ensure your life is in order, addressing any personal issues, before seeking a relationship.
• 🙏 Pray and seek spiritual guidance, such as daily rosary, to discern your path in finding a life partner.
• 👕 Pay attention to your appearance and presentation to attract the right partner.
• 🚫 Avoid putting undue pressure on the woman when asking her out, keeping the atmosphere light and enjoyable.
• 🔍 Be open to rejection and see it as a part of the process in finding the right person.

Q & A

How did the speaker meet his wife?

The speaker met his wife at a party, and they were reintroduced later in August.

What strategy did the speaker use to ask his wife out on a date?

The speaker used a game of Connect 4 and proposed a wager where if he won, he would take her on a date, and if she won, he would owe her a cup of coffee.

What was the outcome of the Connect 4 game and the speaker's plan?

The speaker intentionally played poorly and lost the game, which led to his wife picking him up for a picnic date at the base of a mountain.

Why does the speaker emphasize creativity when asking a woman out?

Creativity makes the invitation memorable and stands out more than an expensive dinner, reducing the feeling of pressure on the woman.

What role does the man have in planning the date according to the speaker?

The man should be the leader and decision-maker, planning the date from start to finish without asking the woman what she wants to do.

Why is it important for the man to plan the date according to the speaker?

Planning the date demonstrates confidence, leadership, and the ability to provide and protect, which are attractive qualities to women.

What does the speaker suggest about the man's physical fitness and health?

The speaker suggests that a man should be healthy and fit, as it indicates the ability to protect and provide for a family in the long term.

How does the speaker relate physical fitness to attracting a quality spouse?

The speaker believes that the quality of the man, including his physical fitness, determines the quality of the woman he can attract.

What is the speaker's advice on handling rejection when asking women out?

The speaker advises to be okay with rejection, seeing it as a natural part of the process and not the end of the world, as there are many other potential partners.

What role does prayer play in the speaker's approach to dating and discerning marriage?

Prayer, specifically the rosary, plays a significant role as it provides the speaker with confidence and certainty in discerning his marriage.