HOW To VIBE with WOMEN emotionally via words by speaking NONSENSE to gain her ATTRACTION

Summary

In this video, the speaker discusses an unconventional method for building social skills and attracting women by talking about seemingly trivial topics, like peanut butter and oatmeal, to create intrigue and maintain mystery. The key is to slow down, avoid over-qualifying, and focus on being light-hearted, similar to how a child engages with the world. The speaker emphasizes that effortless conversations and staying in a relaxed, confident state are crucial for connecting with others on a deeper level, without overthinking or over-analyzing interactions.

Takeaways

• 😀 Talking about random, lighthearted topics can create an intriguing atmosphere on dates without revealing too much personal information.
• 😄 Speaking slowly (15-25% slower) can make your words more impactful and create a more captivating interaction with women.
• 🍯 Using personal anecdotes, like a long story about oatmeal, peanut butter, and honey, can engage women by showing personality while keeping mystery intact.
• 🤔 Avoiding deep intellectual conversations helps maintain a sense of intrigue and mystery, which can enhance attraction.
• 💬 The key to good conversation with women is not taking yourself too seriously and focusing on simple, enjoyable topics like nature, food, or the environment.
• 🚫 Avoid using books like 'Fifty Shades of Grey' to improve social skills; such material can distort focus on meaningful communication.
• 🌲 Discussing light topics like trees, the sun, or the atmosphere during dates can foster a positive and relaxed vibe.
• 📚 Overloading yourself with knowledge or feeling pressure to have deep conversations can hinder authentic connections.
• 🧠 Keeping a playful, childlike mindset—where you talk about what you want without overthinking—is a way to stay in the right vibe for dating.
• 💪 Cultivating a calm, grounded energy (stoicism or masculine energy) can make you more attractive by showing confidence without trying to impress.

Q & A

What is the main purpose of the speaker's video?

The speaker's main purpose is to teach viewers how to improve their social skills, particularly in conversations with women, by using relaxed, non-serious storytelling techniques like the 'peanut butter and oatmeal' story.

What does the 'peanut butter and oatmeal' story represent?

The 'peanut butter and oatmeal' story represents a casual, light-hearted conversation technique. The speaker uses it to illustrate how talking about everyday, simple things can make you relatable and keep a woman intrigued without revealing too much personal information.

Why does the speaker advise against reading books like '50 Shades of Gray' to improve social skills?

The speaker advises against reading books like '50 Shades of Gray' because they focus too much on lust and intimacy, which can destroy social skills by distracting people from building meaningful connections in conversations.

Why does the speaker believe that 'talking nonsense' works in social settings?

The speaker believes 'talking nonsense' works because it keeps the conversation light and fun, preventing the person from over-qualifying themselves or revealing too much personal information, which could destroy the sense of mystery.

How does the speaker suggest improving at speaking nonsense?

The speaker suggests improving at speaking nonsense by deprogramming your brain from unnecessary knowledge, focusing on simple observations (like the environment), and speaking slower to create a relaxed, enjoyable atmosphere.

What does the speaker mean by 'keeping the mystery' in conversations?

By 'keeping the mystery,' the speaker means not revealing too much personal information too quickly in conversations, allowing the other person to remain curious and intrigued.

How does the speaker suggest using body language and tone in conversations?

The speaker suggests talking 15-25% slower and using a calm, relaxed tone to create a sense of grounded masculine energy, making the other person feel comfortable and drawn to the conversation.

Why does the speaker emphasize not over-qualifying to women?

The speaker emphasizes not over-qualifying to women because trying too hard to prove your worth can come across as insecure. Instead, the speaker advises being relaxed and confident, which naturally draws women in.

How does the speaker suggest handling compliments or lengthy descriptions in conversations?

The speaker suggests responding to compliments or long descriptions with simple, direct comments. For example, if someone gives a long explanation, responding with a lighthearted comment like 'too many words' can create humor and keep the conversation light.

What is the speaker's overall advice for staying relaxed during conversations?

The speaker's overall advice is to adopt a childlike mentality, focusing on simple, present-moment observations and not stressing over deep or intellectual conversations. This helps create a relaxed, carefree vibe that draws others in.

Outlines

00:00

🚀 Buckle Up for the Oatmeal Story!

The speaker introduces the video by asking viewers to prepare for an engaging story. The narrative begins with an email about 'the oatmeal story,' which references a previous video where the speaker shared an anecdote about talking about oatmeal on a date. He humorously explains how he discussed oatmeal with peanut butter and honey for 30 minutes, creating a sense of fascination by focusing on trivial details. The speaker then uses this example to answer a question from a subscriber who asked if reading books like '50 Shades of Grey' is a good way to learn how to speak engagingly. The speaker humorously dismisses this idea, stating that such books would focus the reader’s mind on the wrong topics. He then outlines that to become an expert in social skills and create a magnetic presence, one must talk about themselves in a way that keeps a woman curious and intrigued, without revealing too much. He emphasizes that most men lose this mystery by over-talking and not keeping a sense of curiosity alive.

05:01

🗣️ Mastering the Art of Speaking Nonsense

The speaker delves into the concept of 'verbal nonsense,' describing how to engage in casual, seemingly unimportant conversations that keep a date interesting. He explains that the key to mastering this art is to avoid taking oneself too seriously and not to feel the need to prove anything. By talking about light, everyday subjects like the sun, trees, or food, one can maintain a relaxed atmosphere that feels natural and easy. The speaker emphasizes the importance of appearing calm, confident, and comfortable in one's own skin. He suggests that maintaining a 'masculine frame' or calm energy is vital. He advises against striving for deep, intellectual conversations, which he believes can be intimidating or dull. Instead, he recommends embracing a childlike simplicity in conversations, highlighting that this approach helps to connect with women on an emotional level, without stress or anxiety. He concludes by stating that speaking nonsense in a confident, laid-back manner is key to forming a genuine connection and creating a fun, engaging atmosphere.

Keywords

💡Nonsense

In the context of the video, 'nonsense' refers to the idea of speaking in a casual, carefree manner without focusing on logic or depth. The speaker emphasizes the value of speaking without seriousness, focusing on trivial or surface-level topics like oatmeal and peanut butter, to keep conversations light and engaging without revealing too much personal information.

💡Mystery

Mystery is a central concept in the video, where the speaker advises that maintaining an air of mystery can enhance attraction during conversations. By avoiding personal disclosures and instead discussing simple, non-serious topics, a person can remain intriguing to their date. The video suggests that revealing too much destroys curiosity and makes one less appealing.

💡Vibe

The term 'vibe' is used to describe the emotional and energetic flow of a conversation or interaction. The speaker encourages staying in the right 'vibe' by keeping the conversation light, relaxed, and playful. It's about creating an enjoyable atmosphere rather than focusing on deep or intellectual topics, which might make the interaction feel heavy or strained.

💡Slower speech

The video emphasizes the importance of speaking more slowly on dates. By deliberately slowing down speech, the speaker claims to create a more captivating and calming presence. This tactic is believed to make the speaker seem more confident and in control, which is framed as an attractive quality.

💡Descriptive language

Descriptive language is a technique the speaker highlights for keeping a woman engaged. Instead of discussing personal interests or deep topics, the speaker advises using vivid descriptions of mundane things like the taste of oatmeal with peanut butter and honey. This type of language adds personality to the conversation without revealing personal details, helping to maintain an air of mystery.

💡Qualifying

'Qualifying' in the video refers to the act of trying to prove oneself to the other person, often by emphasizing achievements, intellect, or status. The speaker advises against qualifying on dates, as it is seen as undermining confidence. Instead, he suggests focusing on being relaxed and natural, which keeps the conversation light and non-threatening.

💡Childlike mindset

The speaker promotes adopting a childlike mindset, where one engages with the world with curiosity and simplicity, focusing on immediate pleasures like ice cream or trees. This carefree attitude is framed as key to speaking 'nonsense' and building attraction, as it shows a lack of stress or overthinking, traits that are believed to be attractive.

💡Oatmeal story

The 'oatmeal story' is a personal anecdote from the speaker used to illustrate how seemingly mundane topics can be turned into engaging conversation material. By describing his love for oatmeal with peanut butter and honey in great detail, the speaker shows how to create a vibe of casual conversation without revealing personal or deep information.

💡Peanut butter and jelly

The speaker uses the metaphor of 'peanut butter and jelly' to symbolize the natural compatibility between men and women. He argues that relationships should feel effortless, like how peanut butter and jelly complement each other, without needing to impress or prove oneself through status or achievements.

💡Masculine energy

'Masculine energy' refers to the grounded, calm, and confident demeanor the speaker advises men to embody during conversations with women. By staying relaxed, not qualifying themselves, and focusing on the vibe rather than content, men can project an aura of stability and confidence, which the speaker believes is key to attracting women.

Highlights

Talking about a random topic like oatmeal for 30 minutes to keep conversations light and nonsensical.

Using vivid descriptions like peanut butter and honey mixing in oatmeal to maintain an engaging conversation.

The key to maintaining a woman's interest is not revealing too much personal information, keeping a sense of mystery.

Avoid heavy, logical conversations that might destroy attraction, focusing instead on emotional engagement.

Deprogramming your brain from overthinking and focusing on simple topics like nature or the atmosphere.

Using slow speech (15-25% slower) during dates to create a captivating effect.

Humor and light comments (e.g., too many words in a food description) can create positive responses from women.

Talking about mundane things like the sun, trees, and food can help avoid over-qualifying yourself to women.

Maintaining a relaxed and effortless vibe is key to coming across as a grounded, masculine man.

The simplicity of childhood behavior (eating, sleeping, observing surroundings) can serve as a conversational model.

Reducing the need for deep intellectual meaning helps create a stress-free interaction.

Life doesn’t need to be heavy with excess knowledge or purpose; this keeps you stuck in your head.

Focusing on the vibe and being present in the moment enhances connections with women.

A man should embody a calming, confident energy to attract women, without trying too hard.

Success with women lies in avoiding over-explaining or proving oneself, and instead letting the conversation flow naturally.

Transcripts

can you buckle up I'm going to smoke

this fat cigar and then I'm going to go

on a fat hike

now this is going to be such a great

video everybody needs to buckle up okay

because I got a email in my inbox and

the subject line was the oatmeal story

hm what would be the oatmeal story a day

or two I had a video you know actually

I'll screenshot the clip or I'll put the

clip in so that way you can see it I

talked about hul what I did on a date

was I talked about the oatmeal there was

once I talked like I'm dead serious when

I when I tell you this there was a date

that I went on and I talked about my

like sometimes throughout the week I

have oatmeal and I put peanut butter and

honey in it okay and I talked about the

oatmeal the peanut butter and the honey

for probably like 30 minutes and I sit

there and I say things like God I just

love it when the peanut butter mixes

with the honey it's so good I always do

too much honey because then it's like

sugar overload and then when I do all

the sugar overload I just feel so good

and then it's like a snack and then it's

almost kind of like I'm eating dessert

and the dessert just feels so good in my

tummy and how before I work out I like

the oatmeal and then I put the honey in

it and the peanut butter and oh it's so

full and I giv I love it and blah blah

and the point that I was trying to

making and the point that I was trying

to make is how to stay in the right Vibe

and in the right flow so we have a

question from our subscriber and he goes

hey

Casey how do I learn to speak nonsense

like the oatmeal and the peanut butter

story is reading some books like 50

Shades of Gray a good way to start

question mark very descriptive just like

you were in the story guess using

qualifiers adverbs are required I don't

even know what an adverb means that's

high IQ I do not believe in high IQ or

low IQ I literally believe in no IQ the

stupider you are when you talk in

general as you're socializing with the

ladies the more she's going to go I

really like him

okay anyways thanks for the example

probably on my way to success you are on

your way to success now we are going to

take each of these line by line okay but

I'm going to hammer out the middle of

this first is reading some books like 50

Shades of Gray a good way to start

absolutely not number one that is a

movie number two your brain is going to

be so focused on going to the bedroom

and lust that your social skills are

going to totally get destroyed number

three in order to get to that level of

intimacy with a woman on 50 Shades gray

there is a buildup and a progression you

cannot just go from Zer to 100 in

today's video I'm going to explain how

to be the absolute Grandmaster with

social skills how to be the absolute

Grandmaster with speaking to women and

virtually how to talk about yourself

24/7 so you give off the vibe that it is

all about you she is entering into your

world you are the center of attention

you are the man that she wants to be

with and who she wants to associate with

I'm going to show you how to talk all

about you without telling her anything

about you personally and this is the

biggest secret because 99% of you when

you are on these dates you run your

mouth far too much and then you know

what happens you're sitting there

wondering what happened here's what

happened you are no longer a

mystery you have no longer sparked her

curiosity and her Intrigue and it is a

chapter book or a novel that she

finished far too quickly and she is on

to the next novel this is what majority

of men are running into all right now

that we covered the 50 Shades of Gray

stuff let's actually dissect this line

by line hey Casey how do I learn to

speak the nonsense like the peanut

butter and the oatmeal Story how do you

speak the nonsense the first thing you

have to do is you have to deprogram your

brain from all of the useless

information that you learned you have to

understand that life is simple look at

the trees look at the colors talk about

the Vibrance of the

colors breathe talk about the air talk

about the atmosphere talk about things

you like okay I'm going to be getting as

descriptive as I can with this but let

me give you an example the peanut butter

and the oatmeal store the reason why I'm

talking about this is because she got an

Insight that had personality but she

didn't actually know anything about me

by the end of the day did she know

anything about my hobbies my interests

what I do for a living why I do what I

do no none of that because that logical

in-depth conversation is what destroys

her attraction to keep the mystery you

need to make sure she feels comfortable

the first thing you do when you are

speaking to women is you talk

slower okay so far since I've moved I've

been on a few dates on two of them so

far I have been called dramatic on both

of them even though I wasn't saying

anything that provoked drama why would

that be as I speak slower when I'm on a

date I aim to talk anywhere from 15 to

25% slower why because I want her to

feel almost intoxicated or drunk on the

words the words are the only thing that

penetrates a woman's Soul the words are

the only thing that penetrates her

feminine emotion the first key okay here

is how you learn to talk the verbal

nonsense I'm going to tell you two

things as to how I do this the first key

with this verbally is you need to not

take yourself so seriously how do you

not take yourself so seriously by not

trying to over qualify to the woman how

do you not over qualify to the woman you

do not feel the need to prove anything

to her while you're there on that date

so what do I do I talk about the

sun I talk about how nice the sun feels

if I'm outside okay I'm going to talk

about the trees I'm going to talk about

the food okay when I was on a date I had

a server the server came and gave me

this big long 2-minute shiel on all

these different crisscross mix matched

dinner combinations it was so long

winded by the time he left I just smiled

I went like that by

go too many

words one sentence like that too many

words she starts giggling she starts

laughing because it was so naal on it

was so centered she could tell that it

worked this is definitely some Nuance to

this but here's the the way I do this

okay I believe that God made man and

woman like peanut butter and jelly so if

God made man and woman like peanut

butter and jelly what does that

mean that means he made man and woman to

go together in an easy fashion this

doesn't have to be hard you don't have

to do jumping jacks to prove yourself to

her you don't have to do handstands or

back flips you don't have to be a

professional NASCAR driver you don't

have to be CEO of a Fortune 500 company

you don't have to do any of that you

don't have to even typically have looks

about your status but you have to know

how to be a man to be a man when you're

with a woman means that you have a

calming energy that is grounded in who

you are okay some call that

stoicism some call that masculine energy

some call that masculine frame use

whatever word that you need to solve

that problem for

yourself but if you believe that your

dating life should be easy and you

believe that the vibe should be

effortless you sit there with that girl

and you talk about the things that are

around you you talk about Mother Nature

you talk about the colors you talk about

the things you like if I notice

something about her as she speaking I

will call that out okay you can talk

about why she painted her fingernails

that way why you like the fingernails

that way why things you like about women

things you things personality traits you

don't like by the end of it she feels a

depth that you have

character so when people are actively

trying to qualify women you have to

understand you end up doing these things

naturally when you just are in this

chilled relaxed state so to conclude

your question my friend how do you get

better at talking nonsense I want you to

imagine that you are a child again with

absolutely zero

responsibilities what does the child do

the child eats the child

sleeps the child shits the child will

occasionally throw a temp temper tantrum

if needed the child is ruthlessly

demanding in the things that he wants

and that he likes in that moment the

child will walk down the street and he

goes trees look at the

trees the child will walk down the

street and goes ice cream I want ice

cream I want chocolate ice

cream when you stop feeling the need to

go deep when you stop feeling the need

to prove yourself when you stop feeling

the need to have everything have deep

intellectual meaning there's so much

talk that so much heavy energy whether

that be purpose or direction or having

meaningful conversations or having

chemistry I don't believe that life was

meant to be that stressful and I also

don't believe life was meant to be that

deep this excess knowledge and this

excess information is what keeps you

stuck it's what keeps you in your head

when you Vibe and chill the [ __ ] out and

you tell yourself none of this [ __ ]

matters that is when you finally come

across as a strong grounded stoic

masculine man without trying like you

have not a care in the world like you

have no anxiety in the world world and

like you're completely free to be who

you are and who you'd like to be that my

friend is how you get better at talking

nonsense to connect on the right vibe in

the right wavelength with women if you

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