3 Tricks to Regain a Woman's Respect & Attraction After Showing Neediness
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Bobby Rio addresses the concern of losing a girl's interest and offers three strategies to regain control and reignite attraction. The first tip is to ration your time and attention, implying scarcity to increase your perceived value. The second is to counterintuitively ask the girl for a favor, which can increase her investment and attraction due to the principle of effort justification. The third tip is to subtly pull back your interest, mirroring her behavior without appearing reactive, to prompt her to try harder to impress you. These subtle tactics are designed to shift the power dynamic in a relationship.
Takeaways
- đ Ration your time and attention: Avoid being overly available and make your time seem scarce to increase your value.
- đ Apply time constraints: When making plans or returning calls, introduce a time limit to show you have other commitments.
- đ€ Miss calls strategically: Don't always answer right away; let her wait a bit to make her value your time more.
- đ©ââ€ïžâđâđš Ask for a favor: Counterintuitively, getting her to do you a favor can make her feel more invested in the relationship.
- đ§ Effort justification: People value what they put effort into, so asking for favors can increase her attraction.
- đ Show dominance: By asking for favors, you demonstrate confidence and leadership, which can be attractive.
- đ¶ââïž Pull back interest: Mirror her behavior by slightly reducing your enthusiasm to make her try harder to impress you.
- đ€·ââïž Don't reward bad behavior: Avoid increasing your efforts when she becomes distant, as this can lower her respect for you.
- đŹ Change your responses: Subtly alter how you react to her, like disagreeing on small things or changing the subject, to show you're not entirely under her control.
- đ Start applying these techniques early: Use these strategies from the beginning of a relationship to establish a balanced dynamic.
Q & A
What is the main issue discussed in the video?
-The main issue discussed in the video is how to reignite attraction and regain control in a relationship when a girl starts losing interest and pulling away.
Who is Bobby Rio and what is his role in the video?
-Bobby Rio is the presenter of the video, and he is discussing strategies to help viewers regain the upper hand in their relationships when they feel they are losing attraction from a girl.
What is the first tip Bobby Rio gives to regain control in a relationship?
-The first tip is to ration your time and attention, implying that one should not always be available and should make their time seem valuable to avoid being taken for granted.
What is meant by 'time power' in the context of the video?
-In the context of the video, 'time power' refers to the control one has over the availability and scheduling of time in a relationship, where the person with higher status may not value the other person's time as much.
How does Bobby Rio suggest applying scarcity to your time?
-Bobby Rio suggests applying scarcity to your time by introducing time constraints when making plans, such as having to leave early or only being available for a limited time, to make your time seem more valuable.
What is the second tip Bobby Rio recommends to regain attraction?
-The second tip is to ask the girl for a favor, which can make her feel more invested in the relationship and create a sense of dominance by reversing the typical roles where the man does favors for the woman.
What psychological principle is behind asking a girl for a favor?
-The psychological principle behind asking a girl for a favor is the principle of effort justification, where the more effort a person puts into something, the more invested they become.
What is the third tip Bobby Rio discusses in the video?
-The third tip is to pull back your interest a bit, which involves subtly mirroring the girl's behavior by acting less enthusiastic and making slight changes to make her feel like her charm is wearing off.
Why is it important not to appear reactive when pulling back interest?
-It is important not to appear reactive when pulling back interest because it should seem like a genuine loss of interest rather than a response to her behavior, to avoid seeming upset or needy.
What is the purpose of not rewarding bad behavior in a relationship?
-The purpose of not rewarding bad behavior is to avoid reinforcing negative patterns and to maintain respect and balance in the relationship, encouraging the other person to improve their behavior.
How can the techniques discussed in the video be applied from the beginning of a relationship?
-The techniques can be applied from the beginning of a relationship by making a conscious effort to ration time, ask for small favors, and maintain a balanced level of interest during early interactions.
Outlines
đ Reigniting Attraction and Regaining Control
The speaker, Bobby Rio, introduces the topic of how to reignite attraction in a girl who seems to be losing interest. He shares a personal anecdote about a friend who was in a relationship where he felt he was losing control. Bobby and Rob Judge provided three tips to help regain the upper hand in the relationship. The first tip is to ration one's time and attention, suggesting that the friend was too available, which can lead to being taken for granted. The concept of 'time power' is discussed, where the person with a busier schedule is perceived as having higher status. The advice is to introduce scarcity to one's time to make the other person value it more.
đ Controlling Communication and Asking for Favors
The second tip involves controlling the timing of communication, such as not immediately returning a call or text, to create a sense of competition for one's time. This can make the girl think more about the guy, which is believed to increase attraction. The third tip is to ask the girl for a favor, which may seem counterintuitive but is based on the principle of effort justification. When a person puts effort into something, they become more invested in it. Asking for a favor can show dominance, make the girl feel more invested, and give her the opportunity to take care of the guy, which is something females often enjoy doing.
đ€ Pulling Back Interest and Avoiding Grand Gestures
The final tip is to subtly pull back one's interest, not as a reaction to the girl's behavior but as a genuine change in attitude. This can make the girl feel that her charm is wearing off and compel her to try harder to impress the guy. The speaker advises against rewarding bad behavior by becoming more enthusiastic when the girl becomes distant. Instead, small changes should be made to show that her control is waning. The speaker also suggests not explaining these changes if the girl asks about them, to maintain an air of mystery and intrigue. The video concludes with a recommendation for viewers to take a quiz to identify common mistakes in relationships and to subscribe for future videos.
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Keywords
đĄAttraction
đĄUpper Hand
đĄTime Power
đĄScarcity
đĄEffort Justification
đĄInvestment
đĄDominance
đĄPulling Away
đĄControl
đĄSubtlety
Highlights
The video discusses strategies to reignite attraction when a girl starts losing interest.
Bobby Rio shares three tips to regain the upper hand in a relationship.
The first tip is to ration your time and attention to avoid being taken for granted.
Applying scarcity to your time can make you seem more valuable.
Introduce time constraints when making plans to show you have a busy life.
Delaying calls or texts can communicate that you have other priorities.
The second tip is to ask the girl for a favor to increase her investment in the relationship.
Asking for a favor can make her feel more invested due to the principle of effort justification.
Doing favors for her can decrease your appeal, so it's better to have her do favors for you.
The third tip is to pull back your interest slightly to mirror her behavior.
Avoid rewarding bad behavior by not increasing your efforts when she pulls away.
Show her that her charm is wearing off by acting less enthusiastic.
Disagree with her on small things to show that her control is waning.
Never explain your behavior changes; let her wonder what's going on.
Subtle changes in behavior can be more effective than grand gestures.
Apply these techniques from the beginning of a relationship to establish a balanced dynamic.
Take a quiz to identify common mistakes in relationships and get a customized plan.
Engage with the content by liking, commenting, and subscribing for more relationship advice.
Transcripts
if you feel a girl's losing interest if you sense that she's pulling away Â
what can you do to turn things around change her mind and have her Â
chasing you again that's what i'm gonna reveal in this video hi i'm bobby rio and one of the big Â
questions that we get is what can i do to reignite attraction when a girl starts to slip away in fact Â
rob judge and i we were out to dinner recently with a few of our friends and Â
uh one of our friends one of our buddies was talking about how he started dating this this Â
girl everything was great he's really into her but he's got that sinking feeling that he doesn't have Â
any of the control anymore right everything is on her terms she's got all the power the upper Â
hand and we all know that when a girl has all that power that's a recipe for disaster so he asks us Â
what can i do to get the upper hand back he was still in contact with her she hadn't ended things Â
completely yet but she was losing attraction and he wanted to know what type of things could he do Â
to reignite some of that attraction that she had felt so rob and i gave him three Â
uh tips that really help you regain that upper hand with a girl so i want to share the three tips Â
i gave him with you in this video so the first tip is to ration your time and attention one of Â
the first things that our friend was complaining about was that he had a more flexible schedule Â
than the girl he's dating we've all been there right where you know it's always her dictating Â
when we hang out you know you're always wondering if tuesday night's not good for her and you're Â
kind of basing everything around it or like he's moving his schedule right he was actually moving Â
his schedule around to accommodate her and it was obvious that she had all of what we call this Â
the time power right in a relationship the person with the higher status doesn't see Â
the other person's time as valuable and the lower status person usually appears to have an Â
abundance of time and this allows them to be taken for granted and it's very easy it happens all the Â
time just like anything in life the more abundant a resource is the less valuable it is to the other Â
person so you need to apply some scarcity to your time see when the woman is the only one in the Â
relationship who has things competing for her attention she starts controlling everything the Â
guy sees her time as more valuable than his and he starts being afraid to be unavailable we've Â
all been there maybe he thinks if i can't hang out tonight i might not get to see her till next week Â
and then she might find somebody else and forget about me so he cancels his other plans to make Â
sure that that he gets a chance to see her and she starts getting used to the notion that he's always Â
flexible so she thinks to herself that you know she doesn't have to be she can make him change Â
his plans now the thing is when a girl has a tight schedule very often we don't want to turn down a Â
chance to hang out with her it's human nature i don't blame you if you're in that situation so Â
how can we still ration our time with her well one way is to apply scarcity to your time is to Â
introduce a time constraint anytime that you make plans with her you can say something like hey yeah Â
we can grab coffee but i gotta be out by six or i can only stay for an hour if you talk on the phone Â
and you're talking or you say hey i thought i'd call you because i have a quick 10 minutes but i Â
got to be off the phone at noon because whatever and give some brief hint of a reason you don't Â
have to go into it with a bit long excuse it's best if you have activities in your life that make Â
this plausible right you're not making it up but even if you don't you still should do this because Â
it'll make her see your time as having value again and that's a very very important it's the Â
principle of time constrained it also applies to calling a girl back and responding to her text so Â
if a girl calls you especially if we haven't heard from her in a while we get really excited and we Â
want to pick up the phone right away or text her back right away and sometimes you can but other Â
times it's wise to miss the call then call her back in 10 or 15 minutes the sub communication Â
is that you have competition for your time too now some guys want to play the game and they think i'm Â
not going to call her back until tomorrow i'm not going to text her back until like you know tuesday Â
and but i want to give you a better sneakier and way more effective way to control the timing Â
here's what you do so you wait till a certain time maybe it's right before you go to bed so Â
she texted you early in the day now right before the you go to bed you text her and you say hey i Â
saw you called i'll hit you up tomorrow because you're dictating that it's gonna happen tomorrow Â
and to make it more powerful um you make her wait till later in the day for you to return the call Â
what's cool is that it makes her think if he had time to text me before he went to bed why didn't Â
he just call me then right is he with somebody else what's going on like and it gets her mind Â
spinning like yours is we all know that the more she thinks about you the more she falls for you Â
right it's even more powerful than simply not calling until tomorrow okay tip number two is Â
subtle but powerful ask the girl for a favor yeah it's counterintuitive but there's a psychology Â
behind it see we talk a lot about how it it it never works out like when nice guys use favors Â
and he thinks that doing a favor and trying to be a white knight is going to win her over and it Â
doesn't work but most guys never think about the fact that the inverse is true while trying to do Â
her favors will i don't want to say it will repel her but but it kind of it kind of loses a little Â
bit of your appeal if you get her to do you a favor it attracts her this is because of something Â
due to the principle of effort justification the more effort we put into something Â
the more invested we become it's why it's really hard for us to walk away from a girl who we put Â
a lot of effort in weirdly though we notice that with clients that the less effort a woman Â
is putting in usually causes a guy to put more effort in it's like she gives a tiny bit Â
and then he gives a lot well what we're having you do and what i'm recommending is you do that Â
in reverse when you ask her to do you a favor because normally it's the opposite right normally Â
you're driving her to the airport you're removing her furniture you're giving her advice well you Â
reverse that when you say hey can you give me a ride somewhere or can you walk my dog while i'm at Â
work on tuesday right it could be anything right there are a few reasons though that this works Â
first it shows some dominance you're asking her to put some work in a needy nice guy Â
especially when a girl is pulling away is way too scared to do that Â
second while she's doing you the favor it makes her feel more invested in you she thinks if Â
i'm doing this it must be because i really do like this guy or else i wouldn't bother Â
right she justifies it in her own mind now another reason that it works to ask her to do a favor Â
is that we all feel good when we help somebody right that's why a lot of nice guys do nice nice Â
guy behavior because it makes them feel good about themselves so asking her to do a favor gives her Â
the opportunity to take care of you which is essentially something that females like to do Â
so you don't have to ask her for something huge right something monumental it doesn't have to Â
be a big favor but it should be something that requires her to take some time out of her day Â
and invest a little bit of energy back into you so let's discuss the next tip tip number three is Â
pull back your interest a bit now you don't want to overdo this because if you do it wrong and you Â
act way too cold it can kill the chemistry however in small doses it really really works in essence Â
what you're you're doing is you're mirroring her a bit right on the surface you act like everything Â
is fine sort of like she's acting you're not confronting her you're not breaking up with Â
her you're not seeming upset or needy that she's pulling away um you just pull back a little bit of Â
yourself sort of like like i said what she's doing here's the important part though it cannot appear Â
like a reaction to her behavior she can't think that you're upset or anything or else this won't Â
work it has to feel to her that you're genuinely losing a bit of interest in her one thing that we Â
always tell clients is never reward bad behavior now unfortunately that's what most guys do when a Â
girl does go cold they get even hotter thinking that they're going to convince her to stay but Â
in reality you're rewarding her bad behavior which makes her lose respect for you so instead you want Â
to make slight changes that make her feel like her charm is wearing off because here's the thing Â
as human beings we hate losing something right um she feels special and important and when you Â
seem less enchanted with her it compels her to try harder to impress you again and here's the thing Â
a woman can only feel attraction when she's trying to impress you so doing things like Â
acting a little less enthusiastic to hear from her a little less certain about her and really as rob Â
and i teach in the scrambler the subtle under the radar things are the most effective for example Â
if you always listen to her problems and give her advice when when she's kind of feeling down Â
or she's got something going on this time just change the subject if you always agree with her Â
disagree with her on something something that she'll notice the point is to show her that Â
her control over you is beginning to wane and don't explain yourself this is key this is so Â
important so if she's like is something bothering you is something wrong do not tell her that you're Â
acting this way because of how she's acting be like no every everything's everything's fine Â
right everything's fine seem a little distracted right your whole attitude like is like something's Â
going on leave her wondering what is going on are you interested in somebody else is she losing you Â
because that draws her back in a lot of guys want like they want the grand gesture to get her Â
back i want to send her flowers or whatever and because of this they make all the common mistakes Â
i talk about in my five mistakes men make when a girl pulls away video if you haven't watched Â
that i'll put a link but there's no single grand gesture that restores the power dynamic or gets Â
you that upper hand back what works is these subtle little things that you start applying Â
most of them are under the radar right she's not going to know what you're doing now you Â
don't have to wait until you've lost the power to use this either when you start dating someone new Â
one of the things you want to do is make a conscious effort to apply these techniques Â
right away right on a first date maybe she tells you about something she saw online tell her hey Â
send me that link right get her working right away because now when she goes home Â
she's got to do something for you right you got her investing in you when you're Â
setting up a date with her use a time constraint control the timing right you can do these things Â
right from the beginning now if you think you're making subtle mistakes like like our friend was Â
what i what i recommend is taking our short seven question quiz because Â
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