COMO SE MANTER FELIZ NO CASAMENTO?? | Como você fica quando bebe vinho? | ITALO MARSILI
Summary
TLDRThe speaker shares advice for young couples beginning their journey together, emphasizing three essential types of connection: physical attraction ('liking the skin'), emotional bonding ('liking to be together and sharing dreams'), and intellectual compatibility. The speaker warns against prioritizing intellectual compatibility over the other forms of connection, noting that while intellectual affinity is important, it’s the emotional and shared life dreams that truly sustain a relationship. He emphasizes the importance of dreaming and planning together, as a lack of this can signal trouble in a relationship. Ultimately, the key to a lasting marriage is keeping the heart young and maintaining a shared vision for the future.
Takeaways
- 💑 Start with physical attraction: It's important to have a strong physical connection at the beginning of a relationship.
- 🤗 Develop emotional liking: As the relationship progresses, emotional closeness becomes crucial for a healthy bond.
- 🧠 Foster intellectual connection: Intellectual compatibility is essential for long-term relationship success.
- 🚫 Beware of 'Red Flags': Losing the emotional and intellectual connection is a warning sign that something might be wrong in the relationship.
- 💭 Dream and plan together: Sharing dreams and making plans as a couple is fundamental for a strong partnership.
- 🔄 Avoid reversing the order: Starting a relationship based on intellectual affinity first can lead to problems, as friendship and love require different dynamics.
- 👵 Physical aspects fade: Accept that physical attraction will naturally change over time, but emotional bonds remain constant.
- ❤️ Prioritize emotional connection: The emotional bond is the core that keeps a couple together, not intellectual or physical aspects.
- 💡 Focus on the heart: The heart is the key to a successful relationship and marriage, emphasizing the importance of love and shared dreams.
Q & A
What are the three essential elements for a young couple starting their life together according to the speaker?
-The speaker suggests that a young couple should have a physical attraction, affection, and intellectual compatibility.
Why is physical attraction important in the early stages of a relationship?
-Physical attraction is important because it represents the initial connection and desire to be with the person, which is a fundamental aspect of a romantic relationship.
What does the speaker mean by 'gostar de meio do caminho' in the context of a relationship?
-The phrase 'gostar de meio do caminho' refers to enjoying the companionship and emotional connection with the partner, which includes sharing thoughts, dreams, and planning the future together.
Why is it a 'red flag' if a couple is losing their shared dreams or fantasies?
-Losing shared dreams or fantasies can indicate a lack of emotional connection and a potential problem in the relationship, as it suggests that the couple may not be aligned in their goals and aspirations.
What does the speaker suggest is the main reason for relationship failures?
-The speaker believes that relationships fail when the emotional connection, or 'meio do caminho,' is lost, as this is the core that binds a couple together.
Why is it a problem to prioritize intellectual compatibility over emotional and physical connections, according to the speaker?
-The speaker views it as a problem because intellectual compatibility is more suited for friendships, while the emotional and physical connections are the foundations of a strong marital relationship.
How does the speaker describe the role of physical attraction in a long-term relationship?
-The speaker acknowledges that physical attraction may fade over time, but emphasizes that the emotional connection, represented by the heart, remains young and is the true bond that sustains a couple.
What does the speaker recommend couples do to maintain a strong relationship?
-The speaker recommends that couples should love each other, dream together, and plan their lives together, focusing on the emotional connection as the key to a successful relationship.
What is the significance of the heart according to the speaker's perspective on marriage?
-The heart is significant because it represents the emotional core that keeps a couple connected and is the center of what binds them together in marriage.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of not getting caught up in theories and ideas in a relationship?
-The speaker emphasizes this because focusing too much on theories and ideas can detract from the practical aspects of loving and living with one's partner, which are essential for a successful marriage.
Outlines
💑 Building a Lasting Marriage
The speaker emphasizes the importance of three key aspects for a young couple starting their life together: physical attraction, emotional connection, and intellectual compatibility. They suggest that while physical attraction is crucial, it's equally important to enjoy each other's company and to dream and plan for the future together. The speaker warns that losing the desire to share dreams and plans can be a red flag in a relationship. They also highlight that while intellectual compatibility is important, it's the emotional bond that keeps a marriage strong. The speaker advises focusing on the emotional connection and planning together as the key to a successful marriage.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Maturity
💡Physical Attraction
💡Emotional Connection
💡Intellectual Compatibility
💡Dreaming Together
💡Red Flag
💡Heart
💡Planning Together
💡Affection
💡Love
Highlights
Importance of physical attraction in a relationship
Emphasizing the need for emotional connection beyond physical attraction
The significance of intellectual compatibility in a mature relationship
The concept of 'gostar de pele' or physical attraction as a foundational aspect
The necessity of 'gostar de meio do caminho' or enjoying each other's company on an emotional level
The role of shared dreams and future planning in a relationship
Warning signs of a relationship losing its emotional and intellectual connection
The idea that a couple should have shared goals and dreams
The importance of not losing the 'middle of the road' or emotional connection in a relationship
The misconception of prioritizing intellectual compatibility over emotional and physical connection
The natural progression of physical attraction fading while emotional connection remains
The heart as the center of a couple's bond, not intellect or physical appearance
Advice on loving and planning together as a couple
The importance of not focusing solely on intellectual compatibility in marriage
The potential pitfalls of inverting the natural order of relationship development
The enduring nature of emotional connection compared to physical and intellectual aspects
The key to a successful marriage lies in the emotional and shared dreams, not just physical or intellectual compatibility
Transcripts
O que que você diria para um jovem casal
que Ora bem então começando a vida não
no sítio do casamento em si mas a nível
de maturidade são três coisas que tenham
gostado sexual ou gostar de pele né
tenham gostado afetivo e tenham gostado
intelectual vamos dividir assim que eu
acho que foi bem claro para gente né
quer dizer tenham gostado de pele quer
dizer cara eu gosto de estar com a
pessoa aquela coisa carnal isso é
importante e é bom né e depois tem um
outro gostar que eu gostar de meio do
caminho né que eu gostar de sei lá o
gosto de estar junto com a pessoa eu
gosto de contar minhas coisas eu gosto
de projetar a vida né Eu gosto de
fantasiar eu gosto de fantasia
fundamental para relacionamento né quer
que eu quero dizer com fantasia sonhar
junto entendeu sonhar junto é tipo
projetar junto entende
se um casal der nota que tá perdendo ou
não tem isso é Red Flag né tipo bandeira
vermelha temos que ver o que tá
acontecendo tem que se envolvendo um
projeto temos sei lá que que ir para
próxima entendeu se ela fazia mais um
fim alguma coisa entende assim cara eu
preciso de um motivos para sonhar isso é
muito importante no relacionamento tá eu
vejo aqui em geral os casamentos os
relacionamentos eles falham quando esse
meio do caminho tá perdido o que eu vejo
muita gente hoje é querendo inverter a
ordem é querendo começar a buscar uma
afinidades ou pelo lugar intelectual
Veja isso é um problema é bom atenção é
bom falar sobre isso é um problemão
porque olha só quem tem afinidade
intelectual é amigo
em casamento obviamente maduro vou
imaginar que a gente vai envelhecer
junto né então em algum momento a parte
física ela vai perder aquele brilho
concorda né Aperte o brilho ela perde a
pujança mas essa parte do coração ela tá
sempre jovem sempre jovem entende essa é
aqui que tá o centro do
que vincula a gente enquanto casal tá o
centro do que vincula a gente como casal
não tá no intelecto beleza isso é muito
importante falar e não tá no físico
vamos parar de ficar nesse mundo de
teoria de de ideia de querer convencer a
tomar de alguma coisa e ama a tua mulher
o projeta junto planeja junto entendeu
coração coração eu acho que essa é a
chave de relacionamento de casamento
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