A Tale of Two Brains - Men's Brain Women's Brain - Mark Gungor

Friday
31 Oct 201213:35

Summary

TLDREl guion explora las diferencias en la forma en que los cerebros masculinos y femeninos procesan la información y manejan el estrés. Los hombres, descritos con 'cajitas' separadas para cada aspecto de la vida, tienden a evitar mezclar pensamientos y emociones. En contraste, las mujeres, con un 'montón de alambre' en sus cerebros, ven todo como interconectado y se basan en la emoción para la memoria. La charla también toca el concepto del 'caja de nada', donde los hombres se refugian para desconectar, y cómo esto puede causar malentendidos en las comunicaciones entre géneros, resaltando la importancia de entender las diferencias en la comunicación y el manejo del estrés.

Takeaways

  • 🧠 Los cerebros de los hombres son descritos como compuestos de cajas separadas, donde cada tema o área de la vida tiene su propia caja.
  • 📦 La regla es que las cajas no se tocan entre sí, lo que significa que los hombres suelen centrarse en un tema específico sin mezclarlo con otros.
  • 👥 El humor en el discurso sugiere que los hombres pueden tener una 'caja de nada', donde se retiran para hacer nada en particular, algo que disfrutan y que es incomprensible para las mujeres.
  • 🎣 Los hombres pueden pasar horas realizando actividades que parecen inútiles, como pescar o ver televisión, lo que se atribuye a su capacidad de disfrutar del 'nada'.
  • 🤔 Un estudio de la Universidad de Pennsylvania sugiere que los hombres pueden pensar en 'absolutamente nada' y aún así respirar, lo que contrasta con la forma en que las mujeres procesan la información.
  • 🔌 Los cerebros de las mujeres son comparados con una gran red de cables conectados, donde todo está interconectado y emocionalmente driven.
  • 💡 Las mujeres tienden a recordar todo, ya que si un evento está conectado a una emoción, quema en la memoria y se puede recordar para siempre.
  • 👩‍❤️‍👨 La forma en que los hombres y las mujeres manejan el estrés es diferente; los hombres prefieren retirarse a su 'caja de nada', mientras que las mujeres necesitan hablar sobre sus problemas.
  • 🗣️ Cuando una mujer está estresada, necesita hablar de sus problemas para evitar que su cerebro 'explote', mientras que los hombres prefieren no hablar y simplemente desconectar.
  • 🚫 Los hombres a menudo se retiran de las conversaciones cuando sus esposas intentan hablar de problemas, lo que puede causar conflictos en la relación.
  • 🔄 La comunicación entre hombres y mujeres puede ser desafiante debido a sus diferencias en el procesamiento emocional y la forma de enfrentar el estrés.

Q & A

  • ¿Cómo se describe el cerebro masculino en el guion?

    -El cerebro masculino se describe como compuesto de cajas pequeñas, donde cada una tiene un propósito específico y no se tocan entre sí durante una discusión.

  • ¿Cuál es la 'caja favorita' del hombre según el guion?

    -La 'caja de nada' es la favorita, donde el hombre puede hacer actividades que parecen inútiles durante horas, como pescar o ver la televisión.

  • ¿Qué revela el estudio de la Universidad de Pensilvania sobre el 'caja de nada'?

    -El estudio revela que los hombres tienen la capacidad de pensar en absolutamente nada y aún así respirar, lo que indica una actividad cerebral diferente cuando están relajándose.

  • ¿Cómo se describe el cerebro femenino en el guion?

    -El cerebro femenino se describe como un gran rollo de alambre donde todo está conectado, con la emoción como la energía que impulsa estas conexiones.

  • ¿Por qué las mujeres tienden a recordar todo?

    -Las mujeres tienden a recordar todo porque conectan eventos con emociones, lo que quema en la memoria y se puede recordar para siempre.

  • ¿Cómo manejan los hombres el estrés según el guion?

    -Los hombres manejan el estrés corriendo a su 'caja de nada', lo que es una forma de desenrollarse y no quieren hablar de sus problemas.

  • ¿Cómo reaccionan las mujeres cuando ven a un hombre en su 'caja de nada'?

    -Las mujeres pueden sentirse irritadas o locas al ver a un hombre haciendo 'nada', ya que su mente nunca se detiene y no entienden la concepto de la 'caja de nada'.

  • ¿Qué sucede cuando una mujer está estresada según el guion?

    -Cuando una mujer está estresada, necesita hablar sobre sus problemas para no explotar su cerebro, lo que es diferente a cómo lo hacen los hombres.

  • ¿Por qué los hombres corren de sus esposas cuando intentan hablar de sus problemas?

    -Los hombres corren porque no saben qué decir o cómo ayudar, y su instinto es ofrecer soluciones, lo que no es lo que las mujeres quieren en ese momento.

  • ¿Qué ofrece una mujer a su esposo cuando está estresado según el guion?

    -Una mujer ofrece a su esposo hablar con ella y compartir sus problemas, lo cual es su forma de manejar el estrés y conectar emociones.

  • ¿Qué le sucede a un hombre cuando una mujer intenta 'arreglar' su forma de manejar el estrés?

    -El hombre puede sentirse incomodado o incluso enfadado, porque lo que busca es soledad en su 'caja de nada' para desestresar, no soluciones o conversación.

Outlines

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🧠 Diferencias entre cerebros masculinos y femeninos

El primer párrafo discute las diferencias fundamentales entre los cerebros de hombres y mujeres. Se describe el cerebro masculino como una serie de cajas separadas, cada una encargada de un aspecto distinto de la vida, como el auto, el dinero, el trabajo, etc., y se enfatiza que, al discutir un tema, los hombres solo abren la correspondiente caja y evitan tocar otras. Por otro lado, el cerebro femenino se compara con una red de alambres interconectados, donde todo está relacionado con todo, impulsado por la emoción, lo que permite a las mujeres recordar eventos de manera más efectiva. Además, se menciona la existencia de una 'caja de nada' en el cerebro masculino, que es su lugar favorito para escapar y relajarse.

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🤔 El 'caja de nada' y su influencia en el comportamiento

El segundo párrafo profundiza en el concepto de la 'caja de nada', un espacio mental que los hombres prefieren visitar para desconectar y relajarse, realizando actividades que parecen inútiles, como pescar o ver televisión. Se menciona un estudio de la Universidad de Pennsylvania que confirma la capacidad de los hombres de pensar en 'nada'. Esto contrasta con la forma en que las mujeres procesan la información, ya que su mente no para de trabajar y no pueden entender la idea de desconectar por completo. La sección también explora cómo esto afecta las dinámicas de relación, con las mujeres queriendo compartir el espacio de 'nada' y los hombres queriendo mantenerlo como un refugio personal.

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👫 Manejo del estrés en hombres y mujeres

El tercer párrafo compara cómo los hombres y mujeres manejan el estrés. Los hombres, al estar estresados, tienden a huir hacia su 'caja de nada' para desconectar y relajarse, mientras que las mujeres necesitan hablar sobre sus problemas para procesar sus emociones y evitar una explosión cerebral. Se discute la confusión que esto genera en las parejas, ya que los hombres ofrecen soluciones inmediatas y las mujeres buscan ser escuchadas. La sección destaca la importancia de respetar las diferencias en el manejo del estrés y cómo estas pueden afectar la comunicación en la relación.

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Highlights

Men's brains are described as consisting of separate boxes for different aspects of life, which do not interact with each other.

Women's brains are portrayed as a complex network of interconnected wires, symbolizing how different life aspects are linked emotionally.

The 'nothing box' concept for men, a favorite place in their brain to retreat to when they want to do something without thinking.

Men's ability to think about nothing while still being conscious, as demonstrated by a study from the University of Pennsylvania.

Women's inability to comprehend the 'nothing box' and their natural inclination to always be thinking or doing something.

The humorous anecdote about women wanting to 'decorate' the 'nothing box', highlighting the difference in coping mechanisms between men and women.

How men handle stress by retreating to their 'nothing box', seeking solace in doing activities that require no thought.

Women's stress response involves talking about their issues, which is in stark contrast to men's preference for silence and solitude.

The misconception that men want to be 'fixed' when they are stressed, whereas they actually seek understanding and space.

The importance of listening without trying to solve the problem when a woman is stressed, as opposed to offering solutions.

The speaker's personal experience with Catholic school and its impact on his perspective on life and relationships.

The role of emotions in women's memory, explaining why they tend to remember events more vividly when associated with strong feelings.

The humorous example of a man watching TV and being accused of not actually watching anything, illustrating the 'nothing box' concept.

The revelation for women about the 'nothing box' and how it helps them understand men's behavior during stress.

The speaker's advice to men on how to handle a stressed-out wife, emphasizing the need to listen rather than fix the problem.

The contrast between men's and women's communication styles during stress, highlighting the importance of understanding these differences for healthy relationships.

Transcripts

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well you fill in the blanks okay so

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now we're going to start discussing

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men's Brains women's Brains and how

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they're very different from each other

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now I want to start with men's Brains

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all right now men's Brains are are very

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unique men's Brains are made up of

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little

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boxes and we have a box for everything

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we've got a box for the car we got a box

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for the money we got a box for the job

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we got a box for you we got a box for

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the kids we got a box for your mother

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somewhere in the basement we got we

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got we we got boxes

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everywhere and the rule is the boxes

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don't

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touch

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when a man discusses a particular

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subject we go to that particular box we

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pull that box out we open the box we

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discuss only what is in that

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box all

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right and and then we close the box and

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put put it away being very very careful

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not to touch any other

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[Applause]

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boxes

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sorry my Catholic upbringing got in

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there for a minute but

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[Laughter]

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I I'm not a Catholic but I went to

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Catholic school when I was little I I

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had a nun who taught on hell like she

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was born and raised there I mean I'll

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never forget it but

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uh it did me good actually it was a good

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thing now women's Brains are very very

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different from men's Brains women's

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Brains are made up of a big ball of

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wire and everything is connected to

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everything the money's connected to the

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car the car is connected to your job and

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your kids are connected to your mother

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and everything's connected to everything

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like it's like the internet Super

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Highway okay and and it's all driven by

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energy that we call emotion

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just it's it's one of the reasons why

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women tend to remember

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everything because if you take an event

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and you connect it to an emotion it

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burns in your memory and you can

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remember it forever the same thing

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happens for men it just doesn't happen

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very often because quite frankly we

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don't

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care all

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[Applause]

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right women tend to care

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about and she just loves

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it

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okay now men we have a box in our brain

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that most women are not aware of

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this particular box has nothing in

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it true

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true in fact we call it the nothing

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box and of all the boxes a man has in

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his brain

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the nothing box is our favorite

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box if a man has a chance he'll go to

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his nothing box every

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time that's why a man can do something

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seemingly completely brain dead for

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hours on

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end you know like

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fishing

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and and we love it that's that's why a

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guy can sit in front of a TV and

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[Applause]

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go

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it

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glows of course this drives our wives

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nuts because they'll come up and say

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stop

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that you can't possibly be watching

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anything I'm

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not

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go

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away now they've actually measured this

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the University of Pennsylvania a couple

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years ago did a study and discovered

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that men have the ability to think about

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absolutely nothing and still

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breathe you know they connected all the

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wires and stuff like that and watch the

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brain activity then all

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[Music]

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sudden I think he's

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dead huh you

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know women can't do it they can't do it

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their minds never

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stop and and they don't understand the

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nothing box and it drives them crazy

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because nothing drives a woman more

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crazy or makes her feel more irritated

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than to witness a man doing

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nothing now one of the biggest

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Revelations I get out of women is this

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whole nothing box issue they just

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everything's starting to make

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sense and I've had women say oh it's

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nothing well can I go in his

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nothing now one of the biggest

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Revelations I get out of women is this

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whole nothing box issue they just

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everything's starting to make

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sense and I've had women say oh it's

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nothing can I go in his nothing box with

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him

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no why not because then it's

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something besides you'll walk in there

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and

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go you know you know this place could

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really use some

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pictures nice little table over here

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some flowers is no nothing get out we

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don't want

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nothing now this handles the way men men

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and women handle

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stress okay when a man is stressed out

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all he wants to do is run to his nothing

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box this is how we unwind the last thing

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we want to do when we're stressed out is

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talk about it we don't want to talk

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about it we just want

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to course those drives are nuts you know

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a woman will see a man in that

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vegetative state and she'll come up and

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go what you thinking

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about

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na we got me think about

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something no I think about

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nothing like gu's on a roll till you

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showed

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up go away all right cuz that's how he

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handles stress he

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just now when a woman is stressed

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out she has to talk about it if she

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doesn't talk about it her brain will

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literally

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explode so she'll start just I don't

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know might have something to do with

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this I you know I never thought about

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this my brother over here me

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never and and I know men who run from

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their wives when they do

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this they do I say why do you run from

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her he says cuz I don't know what to

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tell

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her said dear God man who told you to

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tell her

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anything she want you to tell her

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anything see a lot of guys they feel

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obligated when when you start explaining

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all your stress they feel obligated to

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fix you right CU that's what a man does

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a man only tells his troubles to another

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man in hopes that that man will help fix

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it okay but she's not a man and you try

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and fix her she going to kill you all

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right she doesn't want your advice she

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doesn't want your help she wants you to

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shut up and

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listen and a couple of L that's right

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you tell him tell shut

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up they like

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that now I had one guy tell me said man

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she just tell me how she feels I said

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she doesn't know yet this what he mean

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that's how she figures out how she feels

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by connecting this wire to that wire

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this wire so

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now because they love each other they

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offer to each other their answer their

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solution a man senses his wife is

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stressed out he loves the girl he offers

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to the girl his best and finest

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solution we're just quit talking about

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it

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just just quit thinking about

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[Applause]

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it and that's when she starts reaching

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for the knives and stuff she's going to

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stab you if you keep it up okay now a

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woman she senses her husband's all

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stressed out she loves him therefore she

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offers to him her best and finest

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solution talk to

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me why W you talk to

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me

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go

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away he doesn't want to talk to you

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leave him

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alone he will not

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die he's not a

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woman all right I know you've got to

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talk it through or you're going to be

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twisted inside he's not like that leave

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the Bo alone you tell he's stressed out

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just let him go to his nothing box just

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stay away

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