How to become THAT student THIS summer
Summary
TLDRIn this inspiring video, the speaker shares her personal journey from teenage insecurity to becoming a confident adult, offering insights into self-improvement. She emphasizes the importance of valuing internal beauty, developing interests and skills, and maintaining health and fitness to enhance attractiveness. The speaker also discusses the significance of being an interesting individual with hobbies, goals, and transferable skills. Above all, she stresses the power of self-belief, confidence, and patience in achieving a true 'glow up' from within.
Takeaways
- 😀 Confidence is key: The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-confidence in being perceived as smart, interesting, and attractive.
- 📚 Listening and empathy: Being an active listener and showing empathy in conversations can make one seem smarter and more understanding.
- 🧠 Wisdom and philosophy: Learning and applying wisdom or philosophies to various situations can help in appearing smarter and offering valuable advice.
- 📖 Reading and knowledge: Consuming books and documentaries can enrich one's knowledge, making them more interesting and credible in conversations.
- 💭 Internal beauty: Valuing people's internal qualities over external appearances can lead to deeper thinking and more profound communication.
- 🎨 Hobbies and passions: Having hobbies and being passionate about interests can make a person more interesting to others.
- 🎯 Goals and aspirations: Having clear life goals can make a person seem more interesting and purpose-driven.
- 🛠️ Skill development: Building transferable skills like writing, problem-solving, and coding can make a person more interesting and valuable.
- 💪 Health and fitness: Taking care of one's health and fitness demonstrates self-worth and can increase attractiveness.
- 👗 Dress for yourself: Wearing clothes that represent one's taste and comfort can boost confidence and authenticity.
- 🚫 Setting boundaries: Having the strength to say no and make independent decisions shows confidence and is attractive.
- 🕊️ Self-worth and confidence: Believing in one's own worth and acting in alignment with that belief can transform a person's attractiveness.
Q & A
What was the speaker's experience during their teenage years?
-The speaker was unconfident and shy during their teenage years, constantly worried about being perceived as unattractive and awkward.
What does the speaker attribute their transformation to?
-The speaker's transformation is attributed to a journey of many years, learning and growing to become the person they had always dreamed of being.
What is the first secret shared for becoming smarter and being perceived as smart?
-The first secret is to actively listen to what people are saying, understanding their meaning and responding empathetically, which can make one seem smart and understanding.
What is the role of wisdom and philosophies in becoming smarter?
-Learning wisdom and philosophies that can be applied to various situations helps in becoming smarter, as it enables one to give holistic advice that reaches and helps people on a deeper level.
How can subscribing to the speaker's newsletter contribute to personal growth?
-The speaker's newsletter shares wisdom and philosophies that can help individuals achieve more with a certain mindset, contributing to personal growth and development.
What is the importance of valuing internal beauty for being perceived as smart?
-Valuing internal beauty emphasizes the importance of what's on the inside, leading to a deeper way of thinking and naturally reflecting this in one's language and daily interactions.
How can reading books and watching documentaries contribute to being interesting?
-Reading books and watching documentaries helps in gaining knowledge and recalling facts during conversations, making one more interesting and credible.
What is the significance of having real interests in being perceived as interesting?
-Having real interests and hobbies makes a person more interesting because it shows commitment and passion, which others find appealing and engaging.
Why is it important to have goals and aspirations to be interesting?
-Having goals and aspirations shows that a person is reflective and has a purpose in life, making them more engaging and interesting to others.
What is the role of transferable skills in making a person interesting?
-Transferable skills like writing, problem-solving, and coding make a person interesting because they demonstrate a person's ability to excel in various life aspects and be helpful to others.
What are some universal aspects that increase attractiveness according to the speaker?
-Health and fitness, dressing for oneself, setting boundaries, and confidence are universal aspects that increase a person's attractiveness.
How does the speaker define real attractiveness?
-The speaker defines real attractiveness as an aura that comes from within, reflecting confidence and self-esteem, which can transform a person's appearance and presence.
What is the twist the speaker mentioned at the beginning of the video?
-The twist is that the real glow up comes from within, emphasizing the importance of self-belief and acting in alignment with the qualities one wishes to embody.
What is the speaker's advice on patience when it comes to personal growth and transformation?
-The speaker advises patience, stating that a glow up does not happen overnight and that personal growth is a gradual process that requires time and commitment.
How does the speaker encourage viewers to interact with the community?
-The speaker encourages viewers to interact by reading and responding to comments, fostering a supportive community, and sharing resources and favorite things in the description box.
Outlines
🌟 Overcoming Insecurities to Achieve Personal Growth
The speaker reflects on their journey from being unconfident and shy during their teenage years to becoming someone they always aspired to be. They share their experience of not having a role model as the oldest sibling and the challenges they faced in their self-improvement journey. The speaker aims to help viewers by revealing secrets to becoming smarter, more attractive, and interesting, emphasizing the importance of active listening, learning wisdom, valuing internal beauty, and reading books and watching documentaries to enrich one's knowledge and conversational skills.
🤔 Becoming Interesting and Attractive Through Personal Development
This paragraph discusses the importance of being interesting and attractive as perceived by others. The speaker suggests that having real interests, hobbies, and goals can make a person more appealing. They emphasize the value of transferable skills like writing, problem-solving, and content creation, which can make an individual stand out. Additionally, the speaker touches on the significance of health and fitness, dressing for oneself, and setting boundaries as ways to increase attractiveness. The paragraph concludes with the idea that confidence is a key factor in attractiveness, and it can transform a person's aura, regardless of their physical appearance.
💪 Cultivating Confidence and Inner Glow for Personal Transformation
The final paragraph focuses on the internal aspects of personal growth, highlighting the importance of self-belief and confidence. The speaker shares their past struggles with confidence and how they learned to value themselves, which in turn affected their self-esteem and the way they carried themselves. They stress the importance of acting in alignment with one's beliefs about being smart, interesting, and attractive. The speaker encourages viewers to be their own biggest fan, to cheer themselves on, and to stand by their own worth. The paragraph concludes with a reminder that personal growth, or a 'glow up,' is a gradual process that requires patience and self-acceptance.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Confidence
💡Glow up
💡Perceived intelligence
💡Interests and hobbies
💡Internal beauty
💡Transferable skills
💡Attractiveness
💡Health and fitness
💡Dressing for oneself
💡Boundaries
💡Self-esteem
Highlights
The journey to becoming smart, interesting, and attractive is a personal one, often marked by a lack of confidence in one's teenage years.
The speaker emphasizes the importance of active listening and empathy in contributing to conversations to be perceived as smart.
Learning wisdom and philosophies applicable to various situations can enhance one's intelligence and depth of advice.
A free newsletter subscription is offered as a resource for gaining additional wisdom and philosophies.
Valuing people's internal beauty can lead to a deeper understanding and reflection in one's own language and behavior.
Reading books and watching documentaries can increase knowledge retention and contribute to engaging conversations.
Being interesting involves having real interests and hobbies, which can make a person seem more passionate and committed.
Having clear goals and aspirations can make a person seem more intriguing and purposeful.
Building transferable skills like writing, problem-solving, and coding can make a person more interesting and resourceful.
Attractiveness is subjective, but health and fitness are universally seen as attractive qualities.
Dressing for oneself and expressing personal style can boost confidence and make a person more appealing.
Setting boundaries and not being a 'Yes Man' can demonstrate strength and conviction, which are attractive traits.
Confidence can transform a person's attractiveness, regardless of physical appearance.
The speaker shares personal experiences of overcoming people-pleasing tendencies and building self-esteem.
The importance of self-worth and believing in one's own value before seeking validation from others is highlighted.
The concept of a 'glow up' is discussed as an internal transformation rather than an external change.
Patience is key in personal development, as a 'glow up' does not happen overnight.
The speaker invites feedback and interaction from the audience, emphasizing the supportive community aspect.
Transcripts
do you want to be smart interesting and
attractive I wanted to be known as all
of those things in school but I was
constantly worried that people thought I
was unattractive and awkward so during
my teenage years I was very unconfident
and shy now I'm someone that my younger
self had always dreamed of becoming and
more because never could I have imagined
that I would be putting my face in front
of thousands of strangers to judge but
this glow up in all different aspects
and confidence took me many many years
to get to and because I'm the oldest
sister in the family I had no one to
tell me what to do to make it easier it
was a rough Journey so I'm here to help
make your glow up way easier today I'm
spilling the secrets that I wish I knew
about becoming smarter more attractive
and interesting make sure to stay to the
end of the video for a little twist
let's go being smart and also being
perceived as smart can be very
advantageous well that was kind of a
dumb state
ironic how can you be smarter and be
perceived as smart the easiest way to do
this no is not from your report card but
it's with your ability to contribute to
conversations there are several ways to
do this one listen to what people are
saying instead of just hearing it I used
to be really awkward and have a hard
time talking with people so I'd seem
really dumb because I would only be
hearing the words they're saying passive
ly you have my undivided
attention instead of listening intently
to their meaning and processing it so I
can have something to say back so
instead of just letting the words go in
one year and out the other and being so
stressed about what to say next be so
absorbed in the moment of their words so
you can really feel how the other person
feels and then when you give a response
that shows you're empathetic then they
think oh you're really smart and you're
understanding the second thing you can
do is to learn wisdom or philosophies
that can be applicable to any situation
for example the advice on this channel
is not just study tips if you think
about it most of my advice is applicable
to people who just want to level up in
life in general people have called me
smart not because I'm some genius with a
high IQ but because I give holistic
advice that reaches and helps people on
a deeper level one way that you can
learn philosophies and additional wisdom
that I don't share on this channel is in
my free newsletter you can sign up for
that in my description box an example of
a newsletter I sent with wisdom is where
I shared how you can achieve more with
this mindset if your friend is
struggling with something and their
words are all littered with I can't then
tell them instead of thinking I can't
think how can I blink you can also tell
them that this is an abundance mindset
instead of a scarcity mindset and boom
the more you can give helpful advice to
other people the more they will
appreciate your mind and the smarter you
will be about solving your own problems
the Third Way is to Value people's
internal beauty if you want to be smart
and perceived as smart that means that
you want to place emphasis on what's on
the inside right so if you want other
people to see what you have on the
inside then you need to genuinely value
that as well instead of just looking at
outside appearances when you start
admiring people for who they are on the
inside rather than just the clout they
have you're going to subconsciously be
able to feel and think about things
deeply and in a more smart way then
automatically and naturally your
language that you use on a daily basis
will reflect how you value deeper things
and not shallow things for example once
you place emphasis and prioritize your
internal skills and characteristics you
won't care as much about materialistic
new clothes the latest celebrity so that
will lead you to speak about shallow
things less as well I can tell from your
comments How Deeply you think about
things and reading your words makes me
feel wow that person is so smart because
they took a moment to reflect and give
their own perspective because I admire
that then I myself will also speak in a
more smart and deep way another way you
can gain knowledge and be able to spit
those random facts is by reading more
books watching more documentaries when
you take time to consume a long piece of
content with a story then you're more
likely to remember that and be able to
recall that in a conversation giving
examples and evidence in your spoken
word just like in an essay is just as
important to being smart and credible
you want people to value your thoughts
they do this when you give them good
advice that also makes them think
something that makes them go wow I've
never thought of that before that's so
helpful being able to respond
intelligently and show how someone's
words moved you like you really listened
will make people think very highly of
you because that's also just being a
good human at the end of the day how to
be interesting so I read this quote
somewhere I don't remember where but
it's boring people are bored so if you
are sitting in your chair or on your
couch all day bored ah well might as
well go scroll on Tik Tok might as well
be told what to put in my brain through
a Netflix show then you likely are a
boring person so how have the Vibes been
lately low key I just feel like life's
been mad cringe lately and how's your
Riz mid no cap on God when I'm bored I
realize huh I must be boring because I
don't have an interest or a hobby I
would love to do right now to get me not
bored thus to be interesting have real
interests think about some acquaintance
you have like that person let's call
them Joe so Joe kind of knows you now if
someone asked Joe what do you know about
Amy and Joe only says I think she's nice
well then I don't seem very interesting
right but if I have hobbies and passions
that I'm always committed to then
probably word spreads around and Joe
would be like oh Amy she likes playing
tennis and she loves singing I think she
has a YouTube channel do you see how if
you find things interesting and you
commit time toward it then then people
are also going to find you interesting
so number one have hobbies not too many
because you want to be able to commit a
lot of energy to each one so that it's
obvious that you're actually passionate
about it and you have something to show
for it number two have goals have
aspirations in life I find that the most
boring people are when I meet them and I
ask them about what they do outside of
work what they think about life and they
just always say I don't know so have
some way of reflecting and know what
your goals are number three build
transferable skills fantastic skills
that will help you in all aspects of
Life are writing being able to portray
your thoughts in a clear understandable
way problem solving skills ability to
create content coding once you build
your repertoire of things you're good at
you might become known for that so
someone might be like oh you have a
coding question go ask Amy oh you're
stuck on on writing an essay well let's
ask Amy a quick question you're
interesting because it shows that you
love life and you want to live it to the
fullest you can by improving your human
capital I really admire people who have
skills not because of that skill itself
but because I know that it took a lot of
time and commitment to get to that
skilled point to become a master and to
do all of those things with Hobbies
goals and skills you need to keep the
mindset to convert time in a beneficial
way to yourself that's the headline if
you're converting time in a way that's
beneficial to yourself you're going to
be interesting
attractiveness okay so yes
attractiveness is relatively subjective
but there are some Universal things that
I think many people would agree that
increase your attractiveness health and
fitness being healthy is super
attractive that shows that you value
yourself and your body if you don't even
take care of yourself then how can you
expect other people to take care of you
with Fitness and treating your body like
a temple know that discipline is so
attractive I like having and building
ABS not because it's some beauty
standard but because they're a visible
sign of my hard work and discipline when
you make a decision based on how good
that is for you that is so attractive
because that shows you value yourself
and so other people will too ask
yourself how does the way you carry
yourself and treat your body reflect
your self-esteem number number two dress
for yourself I had a phase in middle
school where I would just copy what
other people are wearing because that
was all the validation I needed for
looking cool you know how clothes are
sometimes like a second skin well
sometimes I wouldn't even feel
comfortable in my own skin because the
clothes wouldn't really represent what I
wanted to wear since it wasn't purely
based on my own taste to wear that thing
the clothes were wearing me I wasn't
wearing the clothes and people can feel
that lack of confidence when you're not
comfortable in your own skin so in
college I picked the pieces that I
thought were so unique and cool just
because I thought they were unique and
cool and then I kind of became a trend
Setter among my friends because they're
like oh your Fashion's so cool because
you're so willing to try new things and
just wear whatever the heck you want so
dress for yourself three set boundaries
don't be a Yes Man people feel like they
can push yes men around and that's not
very attractive so if you actually don't
want to go to that party everyone else
is going to then reject them have
strength and conviction in your own
decisions and what you want to do making
choices for yourself means that you have
confidence behind your own judgment you
are your own person that won't just
conform to everyone else and you're not
just living on autopilot you know fomo
fear of missing out well replace that
with Jomo the joy of missing out in high
school I might miss football games
because I wanted to study for my
chemistry test and guess what sticking
by my own priorities not only got me
better grades and better results but
people will also know that you're the
kind of person that stands by what you
say four there's a reason why confidence
can literally transform a person's
attractiveness regardless of what
clothes they're wearing regardless of
what they look like and regardless of
what makeup they have on I used to
purposefully act more shy and
unconfident because I thought that if I
acted too confident then people would be
like who are you like you have no reason
to be confident and they would look down
on me I believe that if people thought I
was awkward and shy then being awkward
and shy would affirm them and I would
have nothing to lose I was becoming the
person that I feared I was perceived
as but those were the low points of my
life where I was the biggest people
pleaser ever so this goes back to what I
said earlier about valuing yourself and
why confidence is so important because
how can you get people to Value you if
you don't even value your yourself I
talked about how to gain confidence in
my confidence video like one of the
things is to improve your skills and
competence because then you have a
reason to be confident so when I realize
the value I can bring to the table
gradually that self-esteem grew and the
way that I smiled even changed like my
smile became bigger more natural began
to light up my whole face rather than
just being this grin shape real
attractiveness is like and Aura you
can't explain it because you can have
the exact same smile from A to B but the
whole vibe is just different when you
have confidence in one picture and not
in another this leads into the twist you
ready remember how I said at the
beginning of the video that I wanted to
be perceived as smart interesting and
attractive by my peers well the real
glow up comes from within you need to
work on the things that make you believe
that you are smart in interesting and
attractive act in alignment with those
things if you want to be a straight A
student already believe that you're a
straight A student and do the actions
that person would do like I said earlier
if you want to have high self-esteem
give yourself a reason to have high
self-esteem act like you're trying to
compliment yourself look at yourself in
the mirror and be like you're great
because you XY Z be able to give
yourself reasons and cheer yourself on
like you're your biggest fan if you
can't give yourself reasons for why
you're so great then that's the first
issue to fix you cannot ask for other
people to find you worthy you have to
see your own worth first you have to
believe in it and not let it be shaken
because there are mean insecure girls in
this world there are people who you
might feel will gossip behind your back
and think lowly of you but you have to
stand by yourself remember that your
perception of yourself is more important
than anyone else's finally have patience
a glow up does not happen overnight I
know glow up in 7 Days sounds so
enticing like those YouTube videos but
that's a lie that's just clickbait it's
alluring it's enticing but that isn't
even possible for a physical glow up let
alone a mental glow up in 7 Days know
that you're amazing and you don't need a
glow up glow up sometimes implies that
we're not good enough already but the
way to think about it is that you simply
want to bring out the best within
yourself the best potential that you
already have wow the lighting has
changed so much already the weather is
getting warmer yay I'm so happy now my
pits are out in the open okay well
anyway let me know what else you'd like
me to cover I know that there are
hundreds of different factors that go
into glowing up like skin care and
clothing that would be something new I
discussed so let me know if you like my
take on those I love reading your
comments even if I don't have time to
respond to all of them I'm still acting
like I have 20K subscribers but I
literally cannot get to everyone now I'm
sorry but I read them all and make sure
to interact with each other too I love
seeing our supportive a team Community
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favorite things like school supplies
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Linked In the description box so check
that out yay thank you and see you next
time peace
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