When Women Create Drama, Do This...

Summary

This video discusses 'soft nexting,' a strategy for dealing with drama in relationships, particularly with women. The speaker suggests that women often create drama and that soft nexting, which involves withdrawing attention for a few days, can be an effective tool to correct undesirable behavior. It emphasizes the importance of not negotiating or arguing but instead using absence as a form of discipline. The video also notes that soft nexting requires a high level of desire from the woman and may not work as well in long-term relationships or marriages where physical absence is not an option.

Takeaways

• 🔧 The 'soft next' is presented as a crucial tool for men to deal with drama caused by women in their lives.
• 👤 It's suggested that women may create drama when they feel there is a lack of it in their lives, which can be stressful for men.
• ⏱ The 'soft next' involves withdrawing attention for a period of about three to four days to address frequent drama.
• 🚫 The technique is different from a 'hard next' and requires not responding to calls or making oneself scarce.
• 👁️ Attention and validation are described as valuable 'currency' in the 'girl world', and withholding them is part of the 'soft next' strategy.
• 🤝 The 'soft next' is not about negotiating or arguing but about demonstrating that the man will not tolerate unnecessary drama.
• 📉 It's important that the woman has a high level of desire for the man, ideally a 9 or 10 on a scale, for the 'soft next' to be effective.
• 🏠 The 'soft next' may not be as effective in long-term relationships or marriages where physical absence is not possible.
• 🛑 Alternatives for living together include spending more time away, like at work or the gym, or temporarily staying elsewhere if possible.
• 🔄 After the period of withdrawal, reconnecting involves letting the woman know why the attention was withdrawn without further negotiation.
• 📚 The speaker mentions that there are other tools in the toolbox that could be discussed in future videos and invites feedback from viewers.

Q & A

What is the main topic of the video?

The main topic of the video is discussing the concept of 'soft nexting' as a tool for dealing with drama in relationships, particularly with women.

What does the term 'soft next' refer to in the context of the video?

In the video, 'soft next' refers to the act of withdrawing one's attention from a woman for a short period of time as a response to drama or stress she may introduce into a man's life.

Why is 'soft nexting' considered an important tool according to the video?

'It's considered important because it addresses the issue of women potentially creating drama when there is none, and it provides a method to correct behavior without engaging in arguments or negotiations.

What is the '72-hour rule' mentioned in the video?

The '72-hour rule' is an example given in the video where a woman in a marriage would create a reason to fight about every 72 hours, causing stress to her partner.

How long does the 'soft next' period typically last?

The 'soft next' period typically lasts between three to four days, but it can be shorter or longer depending on the situation.

What is the key principle behind the effectiveness of 'soft nexting'?

The key principle is that attention and validation are valuable in relationships, and by withdrawing these, the person being 'soft nexted' may realize the importance of not causing unnecessary drama.

What is the importance of the level of desire in the effectiveness of 'soft nexting'?

The level of desire is crucial because 'soft nexting' is more effective when the woman has a strong, genuine desire for the man, ideally at a level of 9 or 10 on a scale.

How does 'soft nexting' differ from a 'hard next'?

While 'soft nexting' involves temporarily withdrawing attention, a 'hard next' is not mentioned in the script, but it typically refers to a complete and often permanent withdrawal from a relationship.

What does the video suggest for situations where 'soft nexting' might not be effective?

The video suggests that 'soft nexting' might not be effective if the woman has a low level of desire for the man, or if they are in a long-term relationship or marriage where physical absence is not possible.

What alternative actions does the video recommend for those living with a woman who is causing stress?

The video recommends spending more time away, such as working late, going to the gym, or staying at a secondary residence like a lake house or cottage for a few days.

What is the final advice given in the video regarding the use of 'soft nexting'?

The final advice is to not negotiate or discuss the issue further after reconnecting, and to make it clear that the man will not tolerate the drama, essentially giving an ultimatum to comply or end the relationship.