When You Do This Shift The Narcissist Will Come Running

Summary

In this video, we explore why narcissists come running back when you start moving on. Narcissists thrive on control and validation, and when they sense you’re detaching or gaining personal power, they reappear to regain control. The video explains their manipulation tactics, such as love-bombing and emotional triggers, and offers practical strategies to heal and protect yourself. Key advice includes emotional detachment, limiting contact, focusing on self-care, and healing your triggers. Ultimately, the goal is to reclaim your peace and freedom by taking back control over your energy and emotional well-being.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissists seek control and power in relationships, often using manipulation to maintain dominance.
• 😀 When a person starts to emotionally detach or move on, narcissists sense they are losing control and may return to reassert dominance.
• 😀 Narcissists thrive on validation, compliments, and attention, using these to boost their fragile ego and maintain power over others.
• 😀 They study their targets' behaviors, body language, and emotional triggers to gain leverage and manipulate reactions.
• 😀 Narcissists come back into your life not because they care, but to regain control and feed their ego, often with the illusion of love.
• 😀 Detachment is a key strategy for moving on from a narcissist. It means stopping emotional reactions, seeking validation, or feeding their need for control.
• 😀 The narcissist’s behavior is rooted in insecurity, and their need for validation is linked to deep internal fears and a negative self-image.
• 😀 To regain your power, focus on yourself: prioritize your well-being, goals, hobbies, and emotional healing.
• 😀 Limiting contact with the narcissist is essential to protect your emotional energy and prevent their toxic influence from affecting you.
• 😀 Recognize when a narcissist tries to manipulate with 'love-bombing' or other behaviors to provoke a reaction. Their actions rarely match their words.
• 😀 The ultimate victory is personal peace and freedom. By detaching emotionally and focusing on your own growth, you take back control over your life.

Q & A

Why do narcissists often come running when you start to move on?

Narcissists tend to come back when they sense that you're moving on because they thrive on control and validation. When they see that you're detaching emotionally, they feel a loss of power and seek to re-establish control over you.

What do narcissists ultimately want from their relationships with others?

Narcissists primarily seek control and power from others. They often create a facade of confidence, but in reality, they have deep insecurities and rely on others for validation to maintain their ego.

How do narcissists manipulate others to feel in control?

Narcissists manipulate others by studying their behavior, watching facial expressions, and learning their emotional triggers. They use these triggers to press your buttons and elicit reactions that reinforce their sense of control.

Why is detachment an important strategy when dealing with a narcissist?

Detaching emotionally from a narcissist is key because it stops giving them the emotional validation they seek. When you stop reacting and seeking their approval, you send a message that you are no longer under their control, which destabilizes their power.

What role does validation play in a narcissist's behavior?

Validation plays a central role in a narcissist's behavior. They need constant attention, compliments, and affirmation to feel powerful. They are driven by an insatiable need for validation from others to mask their internal feelings of inadequacy.

What happens when a narcissist sees that their control over someone is slipping?

When a narcissist notices that their control is slipping, they may try to regain power by reappearing in the person's life. This could involve sending a text, making a call, or interacting on social media to rekindle the emotional connection and reassert dominance.

How can you heal from a narcissistic relationship and stop reacting to their triggers?

Healing involves becoming self-aware of your emotional triggers and working on them. By recognizing what makes you react, you can neutralize the narcissist's influence and stop falling into their manipulation traps. Focus on self-care and emotional healing.

What should you do if a narcissist tries to come back into your life?

If a narcissist returns, recognize that their behavior is likely part of a manipulation tactic to regain control. They may try to love-bomb you or act kind to provoke a reaction, but their actions rarely align with sustained, genuine change.

How can focusing on yourself help in moving on from a narcissist?

Focusing on yourself helps by redirecting your energy away from the narcissist. When you invest in your goals, hobbies, and self-care, you regain your sense of identity and power, making it easier to move forward without being tied to the narcissist's toxic behavior.

Why is it essential to limit contact with a narcissist?

Limiting contact with a narcissist is crucial because their presence can emotionally drain you and trigger old reactions. By distancing yourself, you protect your energy and prevent further manipulation or emotional harm.