The Gates: the Great Untold Prerequisite to Getting What You Want

Summary

The script explores the challenges and obstacles, referred to as 'gates,' that individuals face on their journey to achieve their deepest desires. These gates represent internal and external barriers that must be overcome for personal growth and success. The speaker emphasizes that personal expansion comes from facing and passing through these gates, often involving painful choices or confronting lifelong fears. In order to truly get what one wants, the final prerequisite is to face the very thing they have spent their life avoiding. This process is essential for self-transformation and evolution.

Takeaways

• 🚧 The road to success is not straightforward; it's full of challenges and setbacks.
• 🔑 Gates are obstacles or barriers that must be passed through to progress toward what you want.
• 🧗‍♂️ Each gate represents an internal challenge or oppositional factor that must be overcome.
• 💪 Personal growth, strength, and transformation happen by passing through these gates.
• 🔥 Gates vary in difficulty and number, depending on the magnitude of a person's desire.
• 💡 Hitting gates is inevitable on the path to achieving anything meaningful.
• 🌱 Desire drives personal and universal expansion, but it also brings suffering if people resist or avoid gates.
• 🙌 People sometimes get what they want when they no longer feel attached to the outcome.
• ⚖️ The hardest gate involves choosing to face and experience something you've been avoiding your entire life.
• 🌀 The process of overcoming gates is a journey of self-transformation and alchemy, helping individuals evolve.

Q & A

What does the 'road to success' look like according to the script?

The road to success is not straight; it's full of twists, turns, ups and downs, and challenges. People often face obstacles, or 'gates,' that require them to grow and overcome personal limitations.

What is a 'gate' as defined in the script?

A 'gate' is described as a barrier or obstacle that prevents someone from advancing towards their goals. It represents an internal oppositional factor that needs to be addressed and overcome for personal growth.

How does overcoming a 'gate' contribute to personal development?

Overcoming a gate leads to personal expansion, growth, and transformation. As individuals pass through these gates, they become more aware, refine their values, and experience inner transformation, ultimately contributing to their personal and universal evolution.

Can you give an example of a 'gate' someone might face in their pursuit of success?

One example given is an athlete facing a gate related to lack of support. To pass through this gate, the athlete must demonstrate perseverance and push forward even when others might quit, overcoming both internal and external barriers.

What happens when people resist facing these 'gates'?

When people resist going through gates, they may give up on what they want, lose interest, or stop wanting it as much. This can make the gate swing open because there is no longer resistance to not achieving the goal.

Why do people sometimes get what they want when they no longer desire it strongly?

People often get what they want when they no longer desire it strongly because they are no longer resisting not having it. This lack of resistance can make it easier for them to pass through the gates that once blocked their path.

What is the 'final gate' mentioned in the script, and why is it significant?

The final gate is described as choosing to face the very thing one has been avoiding their entire life. This is the most difficult gate because it often involves confronting deep-seated fears or traumas, but it is essential to achieving one's deepest desires.

How are trauma and desire related in the script's explanation?

According to the script, many deep desires are driven by a need to avoid or heal from a trauma experienced in the past. At the final gate, the individual must confront this trauma directly instead of avoiding it, as the experience of it becomes crucial to obtaining what they want.

What are some examples of personal 'gates' faced by individuals in the script?

Examples include Jeremy, who must risk homelessness to live authentically; Aifa, who must choose unsafety to gain empowerment; Mia, who must face rejection to find true belonging; and De Way, who must choose aloneness to fight for his cause.

What does the script say about the relationship between desire and suffering?

The script argues that desire itself is not the cause of suffering. People suffer when they do not make peace with the fact that desire is endless and when they resist facing the 'gates' that stand in the way of achieving their desires.

Outlines

00:00

🛤️ The Road to Success is Full of Gates

The path to achieving one's desires is never straightforward. It is full of obstacles, which the speaker calls 'gates.' These gates act as barriers that must be passed through to move forward. They represent personal challenges that must be overcome, such as perseverance, self-criticism, or social consequences. The process of facing and overcoming these gates leads to personal growth and expansion. The speaker emphasizes that everyone, regardless of their goals, will face these gates, which may vary in size and difficulty based on the person's desires.

05:01

🚪 Why People Get What They Want When They Stop Wanting It

Sometimes, people achieve their desires only after they stop wanting them as much. This happens because they stop resisting the obstacles, or gates, that stand in their way. By releasing attachment to their desire, the gate blocking their progress opens. The speaker explains that this is a common phenomenon and ties it to the theme of letting go of resistance. Additionally, the speaker suggests that the final gate to achieving one's deepest desires is often the hardest to pass: facing and choosing the very thing one has spent a lifetime avoiding.

10:03

💔 Choosing What You’ve Avoided Your Whole Life

The most difficult gate to pass is choosing the thing that you’ve been avoiding your whole life. The speaker gives several examples: Jeremy must choose the risk of homelessness to be authentic, Aifa must choose unsafety to become empowered, Mia must face likely rejection to achieve true belonging, and De Way must embrace aloneness to continue his political mission. In each case, the individual must make a conscious choice to face their deepest fears and traumas to progress toward their ultimate desire.

🌪️ The Struggle of Facing Your Worst Fear

When individuals face the gate that represents their greatest fear, it feels like a no-win situation. The adaptation strategies they’ve used to avoid this fear are challenged. This gate forces a person to question their coping mechanisms and choose to confront their dread. It feels like being at square one again, and the choice must be made without knowing if it will result in getting what they want. The speaker stresses that passing this gate requires unconditional commitment to the desire, even without certainty of the outcome.

🚧 The Myth of an Easy Path to Success

Contrary to popular belief, achieving your desires is not as simple as positive thinking, visualizing, or taking inspired action. The speaker explains that people who avoid facing negative realities will inevitably hit gates related to denial and fantasy. The very design of existence, the speaker argues, is to use desire as a force for transformation through the process of facing gates. This alchemical process of overcoming personal challenges is essential for both personal evolution and universal expansion.

Keywords

💡Gate

A 'gate' in the video symbolizes an obstacle or barrier that must be overcome to progress toward a goal. Each gate represents an internal or external challenge that stands in the way of personal growth or success. For example, the video discusses gates such as 'self-criticism' and 'fear of failure,' and overcoming these obstacles is necessary for achieving what one desires.

💡Obstacle

An 'obstacle' refers to any challenge or difficulty encountered on the path to achieving one’s goals. Obstacles may be internal, such as limiting beliefs or fears, or external, such as lack of resources or support. The video highlights various obstacles people face, from personal insecurities to societal pressures, and emphasizes that overcoming these is essential for success.

💡Self-Transformation

'Self-transformation' refers to the process of evolving and growing as a person by facing and overcoming challenges. In the video, this concept is tied to the idea that the pursuit of desires leads to personal growth, as each gate forces the individual to confront their limitations and fears. This transformation is crucial for reaching higher levels of success and personal fulfillment.

💡Desire

'Desire' is a central concept in the video, representing the driving force behind personal growth and ambition. The narrator explains that desire is not the cause of suffering, but rather the refusal to embrace the challenges that come with it. Desire motivates individuals to push through obstacles, leading to personal expansion and fulfillment.

💡Perseverance

'Perseverance' refers to the ability to continue striving toward a goal despite difficulties or setbacks. The video uses examples of athletes and activists who face numerous gates but demonstrate perseverance by pushing through them. This resilience is portrayed as a necessary quality for achieving one’s goals.

💡Authenticity

'Authenticity' refers to being true to oneself, a recurring theme in the video. Several examples, such as Jeremy's story, emphasize the importance of living authentically, even when it comes at great personal cost, like risking homelessness or losing relationships. The video suggests that true fulfillment comes from aligning with one’s authentic self.

💡Shame

'Shame' is an emotion that can act as a significant gate, preventing individuals from seeking support or pursuing their desires. The video mentions shame as a barrier to progress, particularly when someone feels embarrassed about needing help. Overcoming shame is presented as a key step in passing through gates and moving forward.

💡Avoidance

'Avoidance' is a psychological coping mechanism discussed in the video as something people use to escape the discomfort of facing difficult truths or challenges. The final gate, in particular, involves confronting what one has avoided their entire life. The video suggests that avoiding difficult situations or emotions ultimately prevents people from achieving their deepest desires.

💡Self-Criticism

'Self-criticism' is identified as a common gate that many people face on their path to success. It refers to the internal negative judgments and harsh evaluations people place on themselves, which can hinder progress. The video suggests that integrating or resolving self-criticism is necessary to move forward.

💡Aloneness

'Aloneness' is the state of being without support, either physically or emotionally, and is presented in the video as a gate that some individuals must pass through. The example of Day Way illustrates how choosing aloneness—despite its difficulty—may be necessary for staying true to a larger cause or mission.

Highlights

The road to success is not straightforward; it's full of twists, turns, and challenges.

Most people only realize what's required to achieve their goals after they've already started down the path.

A 'gate' is an obstacle that acts as a barrier to moving forward, and we must pass through them to grow and succeed.

Each gate represents an oppositional factor within ourselves, which we must overcome to advance.

Passing through each gate requires personal growth, revealing deeper values, and self-transformation.

Desire is not the cause of suffering; it's the resistance to desire and hitting gates that causes suffering.

The final prerequisite for achieving your deepest desires is choosing the thing you've been avoiding your entire life.

Traumas and fears often drive our deepest desires, and the day will come when we must confront what we fear most.

Examples of passing through gates: risking homelessness for authenticity, choosing unsafety to gain empowerment, and facing rejection to find true belonging.

The hardest gate of all is when you must choose the very thing you've avoided, even if it feels counterintuitive and terrifying.

Personal transformation through gates involves letting go of adaptations or survival strategies you've developed over time.

You must be willing to face your biggest fear and move through it, regardless of whether it leads to success or not.

Avoiding negative experiences and focusing only on visualization or positive action will not help you bypass the gates.

Desire leads to self-transformation and evolution through the process of encountering and overcoming gates.

Understanding that gates are inevitable enables you to face them with greater mastery and awareness of the growth process.

Transcripts

the road to getting what you want the

road to success no matter what it is is

not a straight one it's full of twists

and turns and ups and downs and

challenges and times when you're going

to feel like you are back at square one

most people don't find out what will be

required of them in order to get what

they want until they are far enough down

that road to find it out for themselves

and not in particularly conscious ways

today I'm going to reveal the untold

prerequisite for getting what you want

so that you can be more prepared and

have a far more conscious relationship

with this road to getting what you want

and the many gates you will encounter

along the

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way it's at this point that you might be

asking what's a gate a Gate's a barrier

that you have to pass through in order

to advance forward as it applies to this

conversation about getting what you want

a gate is an obstacle that acts as a

barrier to us moving forward towards our

aim and thus that prevents us from

getting what we want each gate is

different and our task is to find out

how to pass each gate we encounter in

fact our personal expansion depends on

us doing so each gate represents

something within ourselves that acts as

an oppositional factor to what we want

just so that you can get an idea of what

I mean let's say that a person wants to

win a world title in a specific sport

they may hit a gate that pertains to

them having no support where the only

way to pass through it is to go above

and beyond what other athletes have to

do to train and enter competitions

demonstrating perseverance where others

might quit and then they may hit a gate

of self-criticism where the only way to

pass through the gate is to integrate

their inner critic and then they may hit

a gate that pertains to success causing

them to lose belonging in their family

and so the only way to pass through is

to be able to choose to move forward

despite the consequence being to lose

closeness with those people around them

who will not be Advocates to their

success and instead surround themselves

with people who will and then they may

hit a gate where they are injured and so

No One Believes In them anymore and so

the only way to pass through the gate is

to tap into an inner resource that acts

as a drive to rehabilitate and try again

despite being up against the pressure

of everyone's doubts and the attention

and celebration being geared entirely

towards other athletes and then they may

hit a gate where the barrier that they

hit is their own Shame about needing and

wanting support where the only way to

pass through this gate is to work

through that shame and admit to needing

and wanting support and then learning

how to take it in ETC obviously how big

gates are and how hard they are to pass

through and how many of them there are

tends to correlate with what one's

desires actually are and it tends to

correlate with the vibrational distance

between where a person is and where they

want to be you will hit these Gates no

matter what your desire is but imagine

that what you want is to find a job

somewhere that really values your

presence and

contribution you're likely to hit less

big deal Gates than you will if what you

want is to reach a state of

Enlightenment by integrating your ego

each time you hit a gate and do what it

takes to pass through it you're growing

you're developing you're strengthening

your deepest values are being revealed

you are becoming more aware you are

refining yourself you are

transforming you are being forged you

are expanding personally as well as

causing Universal expansion and in this

way desire plays an absolutely massive

role in expansion desire is not the

cause of suffering people suffer because

of not making peace with the fact that

there is no end to desire you will

always want something else and something

more and people suffer because of

hitting their

Gates and even a person whose desire is

to rid themselves of Desire will hit

Gates on the road to that desire and

many of them

on the road to getting what you want you

will encounter very oppositional factors

that exist within you to the getting of

what you want and you will encounter all

of them one common gate that people hit

on the road to what they want is the

resistance to going through so many of

these Gates on the road to what they

want a common way that people work

through this resistance is to give up on

what they want to the point where they

don't really want it anymore not very

much anyways by doing so they're no

longer in resistance to the not getting

of it and so the gate swings open this

is why you may have observed that people

often get what they want when they don't

even really want it anymore it is also

why the author of the never-ending story

chose to make this the final test for a

Tru but let's go deeper the thing that

almost no one on earth knows and the

thing that no one will tell you is that

when it comes to getting what you want

the very most the final prerequisite the

final gate is to choose the very thing

that you have been avoiding your entire

life in order to get what you want and

this is the most difficult gate of them

all often when it comes to our deepest

desire we are compelled toward that

thing at least in part because of a

trauma we suffered and therefore

something we are desperate to get away

from an avoid and the day will come that

rather than avoid it to get what we want

we must be willing to experience it we

must say yes to it for the sake of what

we want and often when we hit this gate

it feels very

counterintuitive so that you can

understand this better here are three

examples Jeremy grew up in a very poor

household with a very dysfunctional

family where the only way to have a home

was to become whatever pleased and

plated his mother his deepest fear has

always been to be homeless without

physical resources and most especially

without people to call home or come home

to Jeremy's biggest desire in life is to

live an authentic life to be himself at

this point in his life he ended up where

he lives and in the situation is in

because he became what his partner

needed to please her he moved into her

house he put himself in a supportive

role to her company and he acted

compatible to everything about her this

is a super precarious position that he's

put himself in revealing that he is not

who he said that he was and must change

everything in order to be true to

himself means that he will have to quit

his job working for her so he's going to

have no income she may kick him out of

her house

and she may want to end the relationship

because he isn't who she signed up for

so he will have no one to come home to

which is a special Hill given that

Thanksgiving and Christmas are just

around the corner now in order to get

what he wants he must actually decide

that being authentic is worth the risk

of being

homeless and choose that risk even if it

means temporarily experiencing that a

FIFA comes from a culture where women

are typically obedient and subservient

to men her father who was particularly

tyrannical had all the power in the

household and he was very abusive

whenever he felt that his power was

challenged as a result of this in order

to be safe aifa disowned her personal

power she has lived her life from this

place of prioritizing safety over

absolutely everything aifa really really

cares about safety however years ago

aifa became so sick so sick of being

disempowered she decided that she

desperately wants to be empowered as a

person as a result she's made a lot of

progress doing little empowering things

things like getting a certification so

she can make some money and pay for

things that she might want and learning

how to fix things around the house

herself and working through her

inability to say what she wants in any

given situation but now she's hit a gate

a gate where becoming more empowered

means being unsafe becoming empowered

means making decisions and doing things

that will set off her father's

tyrannical Fury becoming empowered means

upsetting the people in her culture

which is likely to lead them to cause

her pain emotionally and even

potentially physically and becoming

empowered means changing herself in ways

that go directly against all of her

lifelong safety strategies such as

becoming someone who takes charge when

taking charge was the Surefire way to be

attacked in order to become empowered

aifa will have to consciously choose

unsafety Mia was a child who was very

nerdy and pensive not exactly the kid

that had the easiest time fitting in she

found herself in a lot of pain and I

mean so much pain due to exclusion and

rejection in her early school years

enough pain that she chose to abandon

her authenticity and copycat other

popular girls so that she could get

belonging this social camouflage

strategy is something that she used her

entire life in order to get belonging

but now Mia is all too aware that she

does not have true belonging if what she

has to do is to pretend to be the same

as other people are something other than

who she is in order to belong she sees

that in order to find true belonging the

gate she must pass through is to face

and choose likely rejection and

ostracization the very thing she has

spent her entire life trying not to

experience de way was completely alone

for the first half of his life he was

the scapegoat of a very emotionally cold

family and to make matters worse he was

prevented from having friends his

deepest connection was with a parakeet

the family owned he spent 20 years

building very deep friendships

cohabitating with many people partnering

up with people on various Endeavors and

as an adult day way is on a very big

mission he's actually a political

activist he especially believes in

freedom of expression and does not

believe that the government should be

able to suppress and imprison those who

speak out against the government on

their various agendas day way has had to

pass through a boatload of gates on the

way to what he wants which is to change

the way people in his country are

governed but now he has met the most

dreaded gate of all 6 months ago de way

organized a public assembly to protest

the imprisonment of a man who spoke out

against the ethnic persecution being

carried out in a province of their

country and with it to demand the right

for free speech this assembly turned

ugly

I mean really ugly police and even

military arrived and started beating and

detaining people it was so traumatizing

for everyone involved that everyone

started questioning their commitment to

the cause as well as their association

with day way many of the people who

lived with him moved out for the sake of

their own safety all but one of the

people who partnered up with him to

bring about a cultural revolution left

the cause pledging only their support in

their desire for him to succeed the

person who stayed spends their days

questioning whether it was the right

decision to make or not and whether

they're strong enough this person is in

such a bad space

emotionally that he's emotionally

disabled from really being fully behind

the cause that he believes

in also on top of this de Way's wife ran

home to her family and expressed her and

her family's disapproval for what he's

doing she has told him that if he

continues she has to divorce him why

because it's going to mean that he does

not care about her or her family safety

deway has now found himself in the

position where to advance forward and

have a chance at getting what he wants

he must actually choose aloneness for

the sake of what matters most to him

when you hit this gate you will struggle

to accept it the position you are in

will feel so impossible to face and

experience it will shock you every

single adaptation that you developed

within yourself in response to that

dreaded thing or in order to avoid that

dreaded thing will be called into

question and either let go of or altered

you are likely to feel like the universe

is cruel you will feel like you are in

the worst lose lose of all time and

therefore ripped in two and you will

feel like you are at square

one and you will have to make the

decision to go through this gate by

being willing to say yes to the very

thing you have been running from your

whole

life without knowing whether or not it

will lead to any results whether or not

it will actually get you what you want

your vote for what you want has to be

this strong strong enough that the

choosing of it is not conditional upon

whether you actually do get it or not

many people especially those who cannot

accept painful truths and realities

believe that getting what you want is as

simple as focusing upon it

visualizing and that when you think

about having that thing you

want and then taking action towards it

inspired action it's almost like the

universe is going to give you wings to

fly past any and all Gates so that you

will not have to encounter any but I'm

going to tell you this is not the case

what will happen if you take this

approach is that you will eventually hit

the Gate of not being able to get what

you want because of your avoidance of

the negative the Gate of fantasy which

which involves the refusal to face and

accept reality and the Gate of the

coping mechanism of denial the very

design of this existence is to allow

desire to lead you through a process of

self- transformation by virtue of you

hitting these Gates it is these Gates

that are the alchemizing force behind

all Evolution both at a microcosmic

level and at a macrocosmic level and

knowing this will enable you to move

through these gates with far greater

Mastery because you know to to expect

them because you know this when you

encounter these Gates you will know what

is happening you will know that the only

way forward is to consciously take on

that gate with your own free will and

the willingness to engage in that

process of the Alchemy of

self have a good week

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