DAMPAK MEDSOOS

Summary

The script discusses the negative impacts of social media, such as toxic behavior, comparison pressure, and online bullying. It explores how social media affects our mental health through constant exposure to unrealistic portrayals of life, increasing anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. The script also highlights the role of social comparison and projection in fueling negative behavior. Despite these issues, it argues that social media itself isn't inherently bad, offering benefits like connectivity and inspiration, but emphasizes the need for a healthier, more pragmatic approach to its use.

Takeaways

• 😕 Many people view social media as toxic, and some have even stopped using platforms like Instagram and Twitter.
• 😩 Social media often leads to unhealthy comparisons, like seeing friends flexing wealth or relationships, which can make users feel down.
• 🤯 Peer pressure on social media is huge, especially for teenagers, who feel compelled to keep up with others' achievements and appearances.
• 😶 Social media friendships can sometimes be judged based on how often they are publicly acknowledged through posts.
• 🤐 Online hate, cyberbullying, and toxic comments are common, and people often feel free to criticize without considering others' feelings.
• 🤔 Cancel culture is prevalent on social media, with individuals being criticized for mistakes without much consideration or kindness.
• 💖 Social media interactions can release oxytocin, a hormone associated with positive feelings like love and trust, similar to real-life interactions.
• 🧠 The pressure and anxiety from social media often stem from social comparisons, where users feel inferior after seeing others' posts.
• 😡 Anonymity online makes bullying easier, as users feel less accountable for their words and actions, further escalating the toxic environment.
• 🛑 Despite its toxic side, social media offers benefits like creativity, connection, and knowledge sharing, and users have the option to log out or deactivate when needed.

Q & A

What is the main topic discussed in the script?

The main topic discussed is the toxic nature of social media (sosmed), how it impacts people's mental health, and the psychological mechanisms behind social media interactions.

Why do people perceive social media as toxic according to the script?

People perceive social media as toxic because it often leads to social comparison, triggers feelings of inferiority, and exposes users to negative behaviors such as bullying, hate speech, and 'cancel culture.'

How does social media affect the brain, according to the neuroeconomist mentioned?

The neuroeconomist explains that interactions on social media trigger the production of oxytocin in the brain, a hormone associated with love, trust, and bonding. This hormone can increase by 13% during social media use, similar to the feeling experienced during marriage or real-life interactions.

What is social comparison, and why is it relevant in social media contexts?

Social comparison is the act of comparing oneself to others, often leading to feelings of inadequacy or inferiority. Social media provides constant exposure to others' achievements and lives, making it a prime platform for social comparison and thus increasing anxiety and pressure.

What is the role of anonymity in exacerbating negative behaviors on social media?

Anonymity on social media allows users to behave more freely, often without direct consequences. This leads to a lack of accountability and empathy, enabling behaviors like bullying, trolling, and hateful comments.

What is 'cancel culture,' and what is the script's stance on it?

Cancel culture refers to the practice of ostracizing or 'canceling' individuals or organizations based on problematic actions or statements. The script criticizes cancel culture for being reactionary and lacking nuance, emphasizing the importance of respectful dialogue instead.

How does the script explain the pressure to post on social media?

The script suggests that people feel pressured to post on social media to validate relationships and experiences. For example, friendships may feel 'unofficial' until they are publicly acknowledged through posts, which reflects a growing dependence on social media for social validation.

What psychological theory does the script mention to explain why people engage in bullying on social media?

The script refers to Freud's theory of projection, which suggests that people criticize or bully others as a way to cope with their own insecurities or feelings of inferiority. In the example provided, someone feeling inadequate may lash out at others online to alleviate their own negative feelings.

How does the script suggest social media can still be beneficial despite its toxic aspects?

The script acknowledges that social media can be useful for generating ideas, connecting with others, and finding opportunities. It emphasizes that users have control over their engagement, such as choosing to log out or deactivate accounts if necessary.

What is the script’s ultimate advice for dealing with the negative aspects of social media?

The script suggests focusing on changing personal behavior and attitudes rather than condemning others. Instead of comparing oneself to others or participating in negative online behaviors, the advice is to engage with social media in a more balanced and mindful way.

Outlines

00:00

📱 The Toxicity of Social Media

Many people perceive social media (sosme) as toxic, often leading them to uninstall platforms like Instagram and Twitter. The content shared on social media can sometimes be nonsensical or harmful, such as flaunting wealth, sharing significant life events, or posting achievements. These posts can make others feel inadequate about their own lives. The script discusses a tweet highlighting the intense peer pressure faced by teenagers due to social media, where people feel compelled to showcase their lives, leading to anxiety and feelings of inferiority. It mentions issues like hate speech, cyberbullying, and the fear of being canceled, exemplified by a personal experience with a video about Blackpink. Despite these negative aspects, social media also offers positive interactions that can release oxytocin, making us feel good, similar to real-life social interactions. This duality makes it a complex tool in modern life.

05:01

🧠 The Psychological Impact of Social Media

Social media's impact on mental health is complex. The pressure and anxiety stem from constant social comparisons, where people measure themselves against the curated lives of others online. This comparison can lead to feelings of inferiority, as described by Alfred Adler's concept of 'inferiority complex.' To cope, people often engage in self-presentation, showcasing the best aspects of their lives. However, this can also lead to online bullying, driven by individuals projecting their insecurities onto others. Anonymity on social media exacerbates this issue, allowing people to bully without facing immediate consequences. While social media can be toxic, it also offers numerous benefits, such as ideas for content and staying connected. Ultimately, the script suggests shifting cultural attitudes to focus on positive behavior rather than perpetuating negativity.

Keywords

💡Toxic

The term 'Toxic' in this context refers to the negative effects of social media (sosmed) on individuals' mental and emotional well-being. It highlights how platforms like Instagram and Twitter can create pressure, anxiety, and feelings of inadequacy by showcasing unrealistic or overly competitive lifestyles. Examples in the video include seeing others' success or material possessions, leading to comparison and feelings of inferiority.

💡Social Media (Sosmed)

'Sosmed' is short for social media, platforms like Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube. In the video, it is portrayed as both beneficial and harmful. On the one hand, it connects people and provides entertainment, but on the other, it can become a space for flexing, comparisons, and bullying, affecting users' mental health.

💡Social Comparison

Social comparison is the act of comparing oneself to others, especially in terms of achievements, lifestyle, or appearance. The video describes how social media intensifies this comparison, leading people to feel inferior or pressured to present an idealized version of themselves. It is a key factor in why social media can feel 'toxic.'

💡Cancel Culture

Cancel culture refers to the phenomenon of ostracizing or 'canceling' individuals or groups for mistakes or unpopular opinions. The video touches on how users may get 'canceled' for small missteps, like posting an incorrect fact, leading to public backlash. The speaker criticizes this culture, especially when it is done without empathy or constructive feedback.

💡Oxytocin

Oxytocin is a hormone associated with feelings of love, trust, and social bonding. In the video, the speaker explains that interactions on social media, like replying to comments or chatting with friends, can trigger oxytocin production, which mimics real-life social connections and positive emotions. This explains why people are drawn to and feel good using social media.

💡Pressure

The term 'pressure' in the video refers to the societal expectations and stress that social media users feel. This pressure comes from seeing others' achievements, lifestyles, or curated content, which can make users feel like they need to keep up, succeed, or present a perfect image online. It is a driving factor behind anxiety on social media.

💡Bullying

Bullying on social media is addressed as a prevalent issue where users insult, mock, or shame others. The anonymity of online platforms can make bullying more common, as people feel less accountable for their words. The speaker uses the example of people attacking content creators or celebrities in the comments section without considering the emotional impact.

💡Inferiority Complex

An inferiority complex is a feeling of inadequacy or being less than others. The speaker mentions how social media amplifies this feeling by allowing users to constantly compare themselves to others' success, wealth, or appearance, leading to mental strain. This complex is linked to the way people try to overcompensate by posting idealized versions of themselves online.

💡Projection

Projection is a psychological defense mechanism where individuals attribute their own negative feelings or shortcomings to others. In the video, the speaker explains that people who feel inferior may project their insecurities by attacking or belittling others online. This concept is used to explain the root of some online bullying behaviors.

💡Self-presentation

Self-presentation refers to the way people curate and manage how they appear on social media, often showing only the most flattering or impressive aspects of their lives. The video discusses how users try to follow trends and appear 'ideal,' which can lead to feelings of pressure and dissatisfaction when they compare their real lives to the polished images they see online.

Highlights

Social media is often perceived as toxic due to the freedom people have to post anything, which can sometimes lead to unrealistic portrayals or unnecessary comparisons.

Flexing on social media, such as posting wealth or achievements, can create feelings of inferiority or pressure in viewers.

The pressure of maintaining a social media presence, such as obsessing over captions or fearing judgment, can lead to mental health struggles.

Hate speech and negative comments are common, with people freely criticizing or bullying others online without direct interaction.

Cancel culture is another prevalent issue on social media, with people often being harshly judged for small mistakes.

The neurochemical impact of social media interactions includes increased oxytocin levels, similar to those experienced in real-life relationships.

Social media creates an illusion of real-life interaction, leading to users feeling emotionally invested in online engagements.

Oxytocin released during social media use can reduce stress and promote feelings of empathy and connection.

As social creatures, humans need connection, and social media fulfills this need, which explains its widespread use.

Social comparison on social media often leads to anxiety and feelings of inferiority, especially when people see others' successes.

Even those who seem successful on social media often experience the same pressures and attempt to present an idealized version of themselves.

People often bully others online to manage their own feelings of inferiority, projecting their insecurities onto others.

Anonymity on social media allows for more aggressive behavior, as users don’t directly witness the impact of their comments.

Social media is not inherently toxic, as it offers opportunities for creativity, connection, and access to information.

The speaker suggests that instead of contributing to toxic behaviors or comparisons, individuals should focus on changing their own online behavior.

Transcripts

Gua yakin banyak dari lu yang pasti

pernah mikir bahwa sosme itu Toxic

bahkan banyak dari lu yang mungkin udah

pernah instal Instagram Twitter dan lain

sebagainya Terus lu sekarang gak Pai

lagi dan pakainya Ya udah pakai YouTube

gitu kan Makanya kita bisa ketemu di

sini well bisa dibilang kayak gitu ya

sosme itu Toxic karena ya itu tempat

orang buat ngpost segala hal dan yang

dipost itu kadang-kadang gak make sense

contohnya misal flexing lah gitu kan

atau mungkin tiba-tiba teman lu dapat

duit banyak terus misalnya ngasih ke

siapa ke siapa gitu ya atau mungkin

mantan lu posting dapat pacar baru gitu

Yang ternyata masih

fwb atau postingan sahabat lu yang

mungkin menang lomba internasional atau

konferensi gitu meskipun di belakangnya

enggak tahu ya konferensinya bagus atau

enggak Tapi yang jelas

postingan-postingan kayak gitu dan juga

sosm overall gitu Ya bikin kita sering

kali mikir gitu kok hidup gua kayak gini

ya dan akhirnya bikin kita jadi ngerasa

down ya kan sampai suatu hari gua nemuin

tweet yang menarik sih Jadi ada yang

bilang gini jadi remaja di era sosmed

itu peure pressure-nya gede banget lihat

Instagram pada pakai outfit mahal lihat

Twitter umur segini udah harus begini

lihat YouTube Masih muda udah pada kaya

raya Enggak cuma itu baru-baru Ini gua

juga nemuin sebuah tweet yang pada

dasarnya adalah tweet yang heran gitu

sekarang itu sahabatan itu Dinilai dari

posting Insta Story kita kan sahabatan

Kenapa sih lo ggak pernah publish

persahabatan kita di medsos nah rasanya

sebuah peristiwa atau kejadian itu belum

sah aja sih kalau misalnya kita belum

post ke sosmed bahkan ada teman gua ya

yang dia mau ngpost sosmed dia mikir

dulu sejam 2 jam untuk ngubah-ngubah

caption padahal mungkin dikit yang baca

juga dan ini belum ngomongin banyak sisi

lain dari media sosial Kayak misalnya

hate speech cberbling dan lain

sebagainya gitu ya kalau lu lihat

komentar postingan IG atau YouTube 1%

aja kadang ada aja orang yang dengan

seenak hati komentar jelek marah-marah

ngejek atau misalnya nyari celah gitu

buat nyala-nyalahin salah ngomong dikit

bisa dicancel kemarin juga gua sempat

ngpost soal video blackpink ya dan

kebetulan memang ya ada salah di tim

risetnya 1% di gua juga enggak ngecek

lagi terus alhamdulillahnya memang para

fans-fans kipppers ini mengingatkan sih

dengan baik alhamdulillahnya ya di 1%

bisa diingatkan dengan baik kalau di

yang lain mungkin ada yang udah dicancel

that's why kita juga sempat nge-post

tentang cancel culture ya Dan kita

enggak setuju sih dengan cancel culture

yang yang enggak mikir gitu dan enggak

sopan awalnya mungkin ya jadi thank you

banget buat yang udah remind video 1%

jelek kemarin-kemarin atau salah gitu

gua sangat apresiasi karena disampaikan

secara sopan sih intinya banyaklah dark

side of sosmate ya lewat sosm orang

kayak bebas gitu mau ngetik apaan aja

tanpa peduli perasaan orang lain Dan ini

juga Mungkin yang bikin beberapa dari lo

punya concern kalau mau ngepost sesuatu

bakal dibully enggak ya bakal di body

shaming enggak ya bakal di-cancel enggak

ya gua mau bikin project ini jadi enggak

ya takutnya gua salah nah segala

fenomena ini bikin kita bertanya-tanya

ada apa sih dengan sosmate Kenapa sih

sosmate bisa Toxic sekarang kok dulu

Enggak kenapa sih bisa ngaruh ke

kehidupan kita Apakah emang bener Toxic

dan harus dijauhin ya sebenarnya

jawabannya enggak sih ya jawabannya sih

enggak Toxic karena kalau enggak ada

sosmate ya enggak akan ada 10% dan

enggak akan ada industri-industri lain

yang yang oke juga yang muncul gara-gara

sosmed tapi gini Buat jawab pertanyaan

itu gua mau cerita tentang otak kita

sebenarnya dan hubungannya sama sosmet

Nah kalau menurut seorang neuroekonomist

Interaksi yang kita bangun di sosmet itu

bikin otak kita memproduksi hormon

oksitoksin jadi ngaruh ke otak kita

directly nah oksitoksin ini sebenarnya

bakal kita keluarin kalau kita lagi

jatuh cinta lagi disayang atau lagi

pelukan sama orang intinya ketika kita

lagi berinteraksi sama orang lain di

penelitian yang dilakuin interaksi sama

orang lain di Twitter itu ningkatin

hormon oksitoksin sebanyak 13%. dan itu

gede dan peningkatan yang sama terjadi

di otak kita ketika kita lagi nikah nah

ketika kita ngelakuin hal-hal di sosmate

entah balas chat teman reply komen di

Twitter nulis curhatan lu di curhatan

perseners yang banyak banget gitu ya

dari kemarin-kemarin atau bahkan lihat

video lucu di tiktok otak kita itu

menganggap kalau Interaksi yang kita

lakuin itu real gitu serupa dengan

interaksi kita terhadap orang-orang yang

kita peduliin di dunia nyata nah ketika

hormon ini meningkat lu bakal ngerasain

perasaan positif Kayak misalnya empati

love cinta atau trust Interaksi yang

dibangun juga bikin kadar stres kita

menurun Nah sebagai makhluk sosial kita

memang butuh yang namanya koneksi dan

interaksi that's why basic relationship

juga jadi kebutuhan di level 1 Karena

gini kalau lu enggak punya teman kalau

keluarga lu up ya lu enggak bakal

bisa naik ke level selanjutnya di

kurikulum 1% at least ya jadinya memang

sosmate itu lekat banget sama kehidupan

kita kita pengin terus mainin kita

memang pengin membuktikan diri kita di

sana dan memang kita juga butuh bisa

jadi di zaman sekarang kayak kalau lu

enggak punya sosmate sama sekali gitu ya

ya bisa jadi lu susah dapat kerja bisa

jadi lu susah dapat teman Ya enggak sih

mungkin buat lu yang enggak setuju bisa

komen ya Nah mungkin ini juga yang bikin

kita menganggap apa yang terjadi di

dunia sosial sama dengan apa yang

terjadi di dunia nyata ini sempat

dibahas sama Eno bening sih kalau

misalnya mbak-embah di tiktok tadi

mempertanyakan Kenapa temannya enggak

ngestoryin Padahal mereka sahabatan ya

mungkin wajar ya Enggak sih simply

karena otak kita mempersepsikan

persahabatan di dunia nyata dan soswet

sebagai kedua hal yang sama Apakah gua

kayak gitu bisa jadi gua kayak gitu

meskipun gua enggak sih ya dan banyak

orang juga enggak Kayaknya dan banyak

orang yang bakal bilang lebay tapi kalau

menurut gua ini Apakah wajar Ya wajar

sebenarnya karena berhubungan sama Otak

lu gitu nah Pertanyaan selanjutnya

adalah Apakah hal ini juga yang bikin

sosmet jadi Toxic nah Sebelum gua jawab

lebih jauh Sebenarnya ya didefinisiin

dulu Toxic itu apa gitu kan kalau

misalnya yang gua maksud adalah Kenapa

interaksi di medsos bikin kita ngerasa

cemas kepressure kena mental gitu kan

atau mungkin beneran kena gangguan

mental gara-gara sosmet Which is bisa

jadi well jawabannya bukan dari si

oksitoksin tadi perasaan-perasaan tadi

datang simply karena kita well

ngebanding-bandingin diri kita sama

orang lain atau bahasa scientificnya

adalah social comparison nah sosp ini

Jadi ruang yang sangat bagus buat kita

ngelakuin perbandingan tadi karena

orang-orang bebas posting apapun lu jadi

punya akses buat ngelihat kehidupan

orang lain nah rasa cemas yang kita

dapetin ketika kita ngebanding-bandingin

itu bisa jelasin sama perkataan Alfred

Adler dia bilang manusia itu pada

dasarnya adalah makhluk yang selalu

punya rasa inferior

infioritying nah rasa inferior atau rasa

bahwa ya kita tuh lebih rendah daripada

orang gitu lah adalah rasa yang bikin

kita bisa kena mental dan kena pressure

ketika kita ngelihat

pencapaian-pencapaian orang untuk

menutupi rasa inferior yang kita punya

kita akhirnya berusaha buat apa buat

ngikutin tren buat nampilin yang terbaik

dan ya self presentation lah istilahnya

gitu Padahal kalau kita perhatiin hampir

semua orang itu ngerasain hal ini

termasuk orang yang lu kagumin bahkan

yang lu jadiin role model gitu di media

sosial mereka juga berusaha buat

nampilin yang terbaik di medsos dan

bikin self presentation yang ideal

meskipun di belakangnya engak ada yang

tahu dan menurut Gua sebenarnya

inferioritas ini sih yang bikin orang

ngelakuin bullying di sosmet Entah untuk

terlihat keren atau untuk memanage

tekanan dan perasaan cemas yang memang

dia punya sendiri ibaratnya gini anggap

aja ada orang namanya Asep gitu ya Asep

tuh Nama Bapak gua juga sih tapi Asep

ini anggap aja adalah orang yang enggak

keren di dunia nyata ngabers lah dia

gitu kampungan lah cuma Peng angguran

terus jelek juga gitu kan Terus ketika

Asep ngelihat postingan artis atau

siapapun itu yang pamerin pencapaiannya

ya Perasaan inferior kita jadi naik gitu

kan bisa-bisanya ada orang sekeren itu

gitu kan Nah ketika Asep ngelihat

postingan artis atau siapapun itu yang

pamerin pencapaiannya ya Perasaan

inferior Si Asep ini naik dong kok

bisa-bisanya sih ada orang yang sekeren

itu sementara di sini gua cuma jadi

ngabers gitu kan cuma jadi pengangguran

gitu kata si Asep gitu dalam hati Nah

untuk menutupi perasaan inferior itu ep

mencarilah celah si artis yang bisa dia

jelek-jelekin dan ini sebenarnya sempat

di Jelasin lah sama Freud gitu tentang

projection di mana Kalau lu ngerasa

jelek ya lu jadi ngatain orang jelek dan

lain sebagainya Itu banyaklah

penjelasannya yang kayaknya engak bakal

gua bahas di video sekarang karena bakal

panjang tapi gini salah satu juga yang

di sosm yang bisa bikin bullying makin

parah juga bukan hanya yang tadi tapi

juga karena ada anonim

karena kayak perasaan bahwa lu bisa

kabur habis ngbully orang karena enggak

ada interaksi secara langsung dan lu

enggak ngerasa sebersalah itu juga

karena enggak bisa ngelihat perasaan

korbannya makanya orang-orang kayak Asep

ini bisa leluasa ngebully artis ngebully

mungkin di 1% juga ada yang

ngejelekjelekin tanpa alasan yang jelas

ya karena dia mikir artis enggak kenal

dia terus juga orang ini enggak kenal

bisa langsung diactivate bisa langsung

log out gak bisa lihat dampak dari

kata-katanya yang bisa mungkin bikin

sakit hati Nah kalau misalnya kayak gitu

sosmit Jadi beneran toks dong ya kayak

yang gua bilang di awal Enggak sih smit

bisa ngasih banyak manfaat gua juga

banyak dapat ide konten dapat bacaan lu

punya pilihan untuk logout lu punya

pilihan untuk diactivate terakhir sih

kalau menurut gua ya pragmatisnya sih

daripada kita mengutuki orang-orang yang

ngebully akhirnya jadi nge-bully

orang-orang yang ngebully juga

ngejelek-jelekin orang yang ng-cancel

juga menurut gua kulturnya mending

diubah sih daripada kita mengutuki

kegelapan daripada kita ngebandingin

diri sama pencapaian orang atau sama

perilaku orang di sosm ya mendingan kita

coba aja ya untuk mengubah perilaku kita

Nah kalau