3. does the battle with mental health ever end?
Summary
TLDRCe script de vidéo aborde la longue et complexe lutte contre la santé mentale. L'auteur partage ses expériences personnelles, allant de la perte et du deuil à l'immigration, qui a exacerbé ses problèmes mentaux. Il discute de la déception face à la réalité que la santé mentale n'est pas quelque chose que l'on 'répare' complètement, mais plutôt géré au jour le jour. Il souligne l'importance d'un soutien et d'acquérir des compétences pour gérer les défis, reconnaissant que la vie est un processus d'apprentissage continu où chaque jour comptabilisé est une victoire.
Takeaways
- 🤔 L'auteur a réfléchi pendant de nombreuses années à la question de la fin de la lutte contre la santé mentale et soupçonne que la réponse est non.
- 🎥 Initialement prévu comme un script vidéo, le sujet a été repoussé car l'auteur craignait qu'il ne soit pas utile ou populaire.
- 🌱 L'auteur a commencé à penser à la santé mentale après une perte à l'âge de 12 ans, ce qui a été un tournant dans sa compréhension de la mort et de la disparition.
- 🌐 L'immigration a été un facteur clé qui a perturbé la santé mentale de l'auteur, en réveillant ses anciennes douleurs et en créant un épisode dépressif prolongé.
- 👨👩👧👦 La relation avec sa famille, en particulier sa mère, a souffert en raison de ses propres luttes avec la santé mentale, ce qui a entraîné des conflits fréquents.
- 📚 L'auteur a changé sa spécialisation de l'art à la psychologie, dans l'espoir de comprendre et de traiter sa propre santé mentale.
- 🧘 L'auteur a appris à gérer ses propres émotions et anxieties grâce à des techniques et des processus de pensée acquis lors de la thérapie.
- 💊 L'auteur a réalisé que la santé mentale n'a pas de solution définitive et que les médicaments ne font que gérer les symptômes.
- 👶 L'auteur a découvert que les enfants, tout comme les adultes, luttent avec leurs émotions et leur santé mentale quotidiennement.
- 🔄 L'auteur a observé que la vie continue d'apporter de nouveaux défis et que la santé mentale est un processus de gestion continue plutôt qu'une fin en soi.
- 🏆 Malgré le manque d'accomplissements matériels, l'auteur est fier de son parcours et de la stabilité de sa santé mentale actuelle.
Q & A
Quelle est la question principale abordée dans le script?
-La question principale abordée dans le script est si la lutte contre la santé mentale se termine un jour.
Quel âge avait le narrateur lorsqu'il a commencé à réfléchir à la santé mentale?
-Le narrateur avait 12 ans lorsqu'il a commencé à réfléchir à la santé mentale pour la première fois.
Quel événement a été un stresseur majeur pour le narrateur et a affecté sa santé mentale?
-L'immigration a été un stresseur majeur pour le narrateur, qui a réveillé ses problèmes anciens et a déclenché une longue période de dépression.
Comment l'immigration a-t-elle affecté la relation du narrateur avec sa famille?
-L'immigration a conduit à une détérioration de la relation du narrateur avec sa mère, qui traversait elle-même des difficultés de santé mentale, et a changé les attentances qu'elle avait envers lui.
Quel changement de vie a eu lieu pour le narrateur pendant sa dernière année de lycée?
-Le narrateur a vécu un conflit avec son partenaire et a ensuite vécu la pandémie de COVID-19, qui a combiné avec les demandes d'admission à l'université pour le laisser complètement démoralisé.
Quelle décision importante a pris le narrateur après la fin de son lycée?
-Après la fin de son lycée, le narrateur a décidé de voir un thérapeute en 2021 et a changé sa spécialisation de l'art à la psychologie.
Pourquoi le narrateur a-t-il arrêté de faire de la thérapie?
-Le narrateur a arrêté de faire de la thérapie parce qu'il se sentait qu'il savait comment gérer ses problèmes de santé mentale mieux et que la thérapie ne lui apportait plus grand-chose.
Quelle est la réalisation du narrateur concernant la santé mentale après avoir étudié la psychologie?
-Le narrateur a réalisé qu'il n'y a pas de solution définitive pour la santé mentale, mais plutôt des moyens de gérer les symptômes et de développer des compétences pour gérer les émotions.
Comment le travail avec des enfants a-t-il influencé la perspective du narrateur sur la santé mentale?
-Le travail avec des enfants a aidé le narrateur à comprendre que les enfants luttent aussi avec leurs émotions et leur santé mentale, ce qui lui a donné une nouvelle perspective sur les défis émotionnels que chacun rencontre tout au long de la vie.
Quelle est la conclusion du narrateur sur la lutte contre la santé mentale?
-Le narrateur pense que la lutte contre la santé mentale ne se termine pas, mais qu'elle devient plus facile à gérer au fil du temps, ce qui est la meilleure chose que l'on puisse espérer.
Outlines
🤔 L'exploration de la santé mentale
Le narrateur réfléchit depuis 11 ans à une question clé sur la santé mentale, qu'il n'est toujours pas sûr de pouvoir résoudre. Il a envisagé de réaliser cette vidéo dès le début de sa chaîne, mais s'est retrouvé pris dans la nécessité de créer du contenu utile pour attirer des abonnés. Avec le temps, il a réalisé qu'il ne deviendrait pas un créateur de contenu à temps plein et a donc décidé de partager son expérience sans se soucier de la popularité ou de l'utilité de la vidéo. Il commence à raconter son histoire depuis l'âge de 12 ans, lorsqu'il a connu pour la première fois la perte et le deuil, et comment ces expériences ont influencé sa compréhension de la santé mentale. Il évoque également l'immigration comme un facteur clé qui a perturbé son état mental, provoquant un épisode dépressif prolongé et des tensions familiales.
📚 Éducation et prise de conscience
Le narrateur décrit comment la fin de son lycée, la rupture avec son partenaire et les applications universitaires l'ont laissé démuni. Il a dû effacer tout contenu numérique et se concentrer sur la reconstruction de sa vie. Il parle de ses expériences positives, notamment avoir trouvé un emploi à temps plein et avoir commencé à suivre un thérapeute en 2021, qui a été bénéfique. Il a également changé sa spécialisation universitaire de l'art à la psychologie, dans l'espoir de comprendre et de traiter sa propre santé mentale. Cependant, après deux ans et demi de thérapie, il a décidé d'arrêter, estimant avoir appris comment gérer ses propres émotions et anxiétés. Il partage également son évolution dans la compréhension que la santé mentale n'est pas quelque chose que l'on 'répare' définitivement, mais plutôt un ensemble de symptômes à gérer au quotidien.
👨👩👧👦 Le rôle de la technologie et la prise en charge des enfants
Le narrateur discute de l'impact de la technologie sur notre capacité à nous connecter avec nos propres pensées et sur notre santé mentale. Il mentionne que la technologie peut être une distraction qui nous empêche de traiter les événements de notre vie. Il exprime également son opinion que la vie adulte avec ses stress modernes ne peut pas être exempte de luttes mentales, et que la clé est de savoir comment gérer ces moments. Il partage son expérience de travailler avec des enfants, ce qui lui a permis de comprendre qu'ils luttent aussi avec leurs émotions et leur santé mentale. Il souligne l'importance d'un soutien et d'apprendre des techniques pour se stabiliser mentalement.
💪 La fierté de surmonter les défis
Le narrateur conclut en disant qu'il n'y a pas de fin définitive à la lutte pour la santé mentale, mais que cela devient plus facile avec le temps. Il exprime sa fierté de surmonter les défis de la vie malgré le manque d'accomplissements matériels ou professionnels. Il souligne l'importance de la résilience et de la satisfaction de se lever chaque jour et de continuer à avancer. Il remercie ses amis et souligne que les relations humaines sont précieuses et font partie intégrante de son parcours. Il espère que son histoire peut résonner avec d'autres et les aider à comprendre leur propre parcours dans la santé mentale.
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Keywords
💡Santé mentale
💡Dépression
💡Anxiété
💡Thérapie
💡Psychologie
💡Stress
💡Soutien
💡Technologie
💡Auto-acceptation
💡Relations familiales
Highlights
The speaker has been contemplating the question of whether mental health struggles ever end for over 11 years.
They initially believed that all content posted should be useful for channel growth, but now they've shifted their perspective.
The concept of mental health first occurred to the speaker at the age of 12 after experiencing loss and grief.
Immigration was a significant stressor that triggered a long-term depressive episode for the speaker.
The speaker's relationship with their mother declined due to her own mental health struggles and changing expectations.
The speaker felt unfairly treated compared to their brother, leading to frequent arguments.
The pandemic and a breakup contributed to a period of feeling completely destroyed.
Despite hardships, the speaker found positives, such as working a full-time job and gaining financial independence.
The speaker began seeing a therapist in 2021, which was a significant step in their mental health journey.
Switching majors to psychology was motivated by a desire to understand and potentially fix mental health issues.
The speaker quit therapy in 2024 after gaining tools to manage their anxiety and depression.
Working with children made the speaker realize that mental health struggles are present from a young age.
The speaker acknowledges that there is no simple solution or end to mental health struggles, but managing them becomes easier over time.
Technology may exacerbate mental health issues by preventing us from processing our thoughts and feelings.
The speaker reflects on the importance of having a support system and learning techniques to stabilize mental health.
Despite not achieving traditional milestones, the speaker is proud of their personal growth and the relationships they've built.
The speaker concludes that the battle with mental health may never end, but it becomes more manageable, which is the best outcome to hope for.
Transcripts
I have pondered about the question in
the title of this video for so long like
11 years maybe maybe more and the true
real answer is I'm not sure but I
suspect that the answer is no and I had
the thought of recording this video back
when I started this whole Channel back
in February which was 7 months ago and I
just never got around to it because it's
not something I could write a script for
and I thought it wouldn't be useful and
I thought everything I post would have
to be useful because I really wanted to
grow my channel and now that I don't
really care about that anymore and now
that I realize that I was never going to
be a full-time YouTuber or full-time
content creator I can finally do it with
no concerns for whether this video will
blow up or people will find it useful or
anyone will ever find it or watch it and
honestly nobody might because I haven't
posted in weeks if not months and we all
know that internet algorithms reward
constant posting and punish opposite I'm
going to start from the first time I
ever thought of the concept of mental
health or understood it was a thing I
think that was when I was 12 and I had
experienced loss and grief for the first
time ever in my life that was when I had
realized that people don't live forever
you stop existing at one point it was a
really scary thought but it was also
fascinating in a way because I had never
thought about that before and I was just
wondering what happens after you stop
existing but of course nobody knows so
nobody could help me with that right but
because up to that point my life had
been pretty average and uneventful and I
had family and friends around me I was
eventually able to kind of get over
without much trouble I didn't experience
any Mental Health crisis or anything I
just grieved and then I stopped grieving
because time passed and life kept
happening the next big thing in my life
that really shook up my mental health
was immigration and I think that because
it was such a huge stressor brought out
every other little problem that had
piled on up to that point it definitely
brought my grief back up I remember
thinking about my grief from when I was
12 during the whole immigration process
a lot like all day every day for a few
months because the IM migration brought
up all these past things that I kind of
have been able to get over and kind of
like store away they were now coming
back up because I had nothing to
distract myself with I was in a new
place where I don't speak the language I
don't know anyone I can't do anything
yet because it was summer and I hadn't
started school yet so I didn't have
other things to focus on so all I could
do is wallow in my depression that was
the first time I truly experienced like
a long longterm depressive episode that
lasted at least a year if not more
another thing that immigration had led
to was that my relationship with my
family especially my mom had declined
because she herself was going through
her own mental health struggles and
suddenly the expectations she had put on
me changed very dramatically so I just
felt I was being treated fairly and I
didn't understand at the time why she
was treating me this way and so the
natural answer that came into my head
was that I was either not good enough or
I had done something and she had started
hating me and I also felt like my
brother who probably because he was
younger the expectations on him were not
nearly as high I felt really unfair
about that and I thought what does he
have that I don't why did my mom start
hating me and not him and so this
thought process would lead to us having
a lot of fights on a daily basis about
every trivial little thing and also the
big things too like our values didn't
align her thinking was more traditional
and my thinking was more Progressive
about basically every issue all
throughout high school that I lived with
that thought of oh my family hates me
then in my senior year of high school
the pandemic happened right before that
was when my partner at the time and I
had broken up for the last time those
two things combined together combined
with like college applications and all
that I was completely destroyed so I had
to delete everything I had to wipe my
phone in my laptop and I just kept
thinking that I did something wrong or
it was my fault or I ruined everything
however of course there were positives
with all the negative things that were
happening in my life there were also POS
positive things happening in my life for
example because high school was over and
college was 100% online for my first
year of going to college I was able to
have a full-time day job for the first
time and it was horrendous it was
working in fast food but it gave me a
taste of money and grownup life and I
was able to save up a bunch I ended up
separating from my family at 20 I think
19 or 20 I decided to start seeing a
therapist in 2021 which was great I also
decided to switch my major from art to
psychology which was also great and I
actually quit therapy at the beginning
of this year like in January of 2024 so
I was in therapy for 2 and a half years
or so but the reason I quit therapy was
not because I stopped feeling socially
anxious generally anxious about
everything in life or that I wasn't
depressed anymore that my room didn't
get dirty anymore it was just that I
felt like I knew how to deal with it
better one before I didn't even realize
while I was feeling anxious that that
was anxiety I thought that was just how
I am as a person I thought it was part
of my personality and so being able to
in the moment identify that I am
experiencing anxiety right now is like a
huge thing that helps you calm down in
the moment and then I also learned
techniques and thought processes that I
could Implement to not spiral to not let
the anxiety get out of control and make
me literally like flee the situation or
say something mean that might hurt
somebody or start disassociating and
then completely messing up whatever I'm
doing because I'm literally mentally not
present I've learned the skills to not
do all of those things and so I felt
like therapy wasn't really giving me
anything anymore which is why I quit
when I started therapy which was around
the same time that I switched my major
to psychology my belief was that you can
fix depression you can fix anxiety you
can fix mental health like there was
some sort of a solution at the end of
the tunnel and that is why I wanted to
focus on working with adults as licensed
clinician to help people in that way my
selfish plan was that as I was learning
to be a clinical psychiatrist or
psychologist that I would figure out
what was wrong with me and also be able
to fix it fix myself by learning about
psychology if that makes sense and I
feel like a lot of people who go into
psychology go into it with that mindset
but as you learn more about it you
realize that there literally isn't a
solution the medications that Clin
prescribed to people are just to manage
their symptoms on a day-to-day basis to
make them functional enough to be able
to go through the day but it is not the
solution you can't fix your hormones to
where they're are going to stay balanced
forever you can't fix yourself to where
you'll never feel sad or anxious or
hopeless or depressed ever again in your
life like that is just not a thing
another thing that kind of happened in
my life by my chance but it ended up
being so good was that I started working
with kids and I stumbled upon the job
unexpectedly and I never expected to get
hired but it's been a year it made me
realize that they are struggling with
big feelings on a daily basis too and
they're struggling with their mental
health all the time too and just because
I don't remember struggling with that
cuz I just don't have memories of what
happened when I was that young that does
doesn't mean I didn't struggle it just
means I got through it you know so if
kids who are in theory should have
caregivers who help with their needs
most of the time again in theory if
you're lucky if you're privileged you
have caregivers who take care of you of
your basic needs at least most of the
time still struggle with mental health
then how are you ever going to imagine
that when you're an adult and nobody is
taking care of your basic needs anymore
besides you and you also have modern
societal stressors like attacking you
from every corner at all times that you
are not going to struggle mentally the
point is not to never struggle mentally
again the point is to know what to do
when it happens the point is to have a
support system when it happens to help
you get through it the point is to learn
techniques of how to restabilize
yourself again and again again and again
and that is basically life there's no
simple solution there's no pill that
fixes you there's no event that's ever
going to happen that's going to keep you
happy for the rest of your life
basically what I'm trying to say is as
you go through life your triggers change
you're never going to have a
trigger-free life that's just how life
is I feel like the development of
technology has made this whole thing
even worse because if before like before
technology was a thing people had time
to be in their thoughts and nowadays all
of our free time is taken up by
technology which is distracting us from
our own thoughts so if you don't ever
journal or like spend technology free
time where you're not listening to
anything you're not reading anything
you're not doing anything you're just
like walking around with no background
noise or you're like washing the dishes
or taking the shower with no podcast no
music no nothing like when do you ever
when do you ever process anything that
happens in your life you know what I
mean and there's just so much more bad
stuff that we are aware of because of
Technology like global warming and
conflicts that are happening in the
world at all times that we weren't aware
of before so if you're an especially
sensitive and empathetic person hearing
all of those things and learning about
all those things is going to make daily
life that much harder before you get
healed from any one thing like 10 more
things happen and there's bad going
on in the world there's just no point
where you're ever going to be 100% happy
or 100% healed that's just a fact I used
to think that achieving certain
Milestones or doing a certain thing or
having a certain amount of money would
like make me happy for a prolonged
period of time first I thought it was
forever then I was like yeah that's not
happening but maybe it could make me
happy for a prolonged period of time but
even that is not happening because other
things are just going to keep happening
and a lot of them aren't going to be
good because that's just how life is
okay so I'll close out with this I was
talking to my mom on the phone recently
and I talk to her a lot now because
we've fully been able to repair our
relationship for the most part and I
don't have any negative feelings towards
her or anyone else any and she was
saying that she has noticed how much
I've changed and how much I've grown and
how much my mental health has stabilized
and she was basically validating and
acknowledging how much hard work I had
to put towards myelf development to get
to this point where I am no longer a
ball of nerves or a ball of depression
or a ball of anxiety and I can function
on a daily basis without a therapist and
it made me think about how it's been
almost four years since I moved out and
separated from my family and if I really
think about it I don't really have much
to show for it because I did not start a
successful business I have nothing to my
name really I'm renting a room I don't
own anything I don't even have a degree
yet because I had to take multiple
breaks throughout to just catch up
financially or give myself a mental
break and this despite that I'm still
proud of myself because I'm still here
okay and every day that I wake up I and
I get through the day is fine it's still
that day even if I didn't do anything
productive that day still mattered
because I got through it and I'm coming
to terms with the fact that it is okay
to work as hard as you have ever worked
in your life for 4 years straight and
still have nothing to show for it
because the fact that you're still
here is something to show for it the
fact that you worked for 4 years and
achieved basically nothing is something
it's something to be proud
of and every friend I've met along the
way during these four years which I've
met so many and I could not be more
grateful for all of
them if I haven't done everything that
I've done in these four years I would
have never met those
people and just that
alone makes everything worth it and it
means I haven't wasted any time so to go
back to the question I post at the
beginning of this video and in the title
does the battle with mental health ever
end I think my answer is still no but I
think it gets easier and that's the best
any of us could ask for it's definitely
the best that I could ask for so I hope
this resonated with some of you and you
got something out of this and I will see
you in the next one
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