What Makes A Person Attractive?: Attraction Broken Down

Summary

In this video, Hwome Bukari discusses the four pillars of attraction: height, face, physique, and energy. He emphasizes that while physical attributes are important, energy, which includes body language and confidence, is the most critical and challenging to improve. Bukari shares personal anecdotes and advice on overcoming insecurities and embracing one's unique qualities to boost attractiveness. He encourages viewers to 'own it' when it comes to their perceived shortcomings, as confidence and self-acceptance are key to being perceived as attractive.

Takeaways

• 🌟 The four pillars of attraction are height, face, physique, and energy.
• 🔑 Energy is considered the most important pillar as it encompasses body language, tonality, and overall confidence.
• 🚹 For men, height can be artificially increased with the help of elevated shoes, which also boost confidence.
• 💪 Physical attributes like height, face, and physique are easier to improve compared to energy.
• 🤔 The speaker believes that anyone can become attractive within six months with the right effort, except for the energy aspect which is harder to change.
• 🧠 Overcoming limiting beliefs is crucial for improving one's energy and thus their attractiveness.
• 🌈 Embracing one's unique traits, such as ethnicity, is essential for boosting self-confidence and attractiveness.
• 👟 The speaker recommends owning any tools or methods used to improve attractiveness, like elevated shoes, without embarrassment.
• 💬 The way people treat you is a reflection of how you treat yourself; hence, self-respect is key to being treated well by others.
• 📈 Consistent practice and social interaction can significantly improve one's social skills and energy.
• 🏆 Failure and practice are necessary for growth; the most successful people have failed more times than others have tried.

Q & A

What are the four pillars of attraction mentioned in the script?

The four pillars of attraction mentioned are height, face, physique, and energy.

Why is energy considered the most important pillar of attraction?

Energy is considered the most important because it encompasses body language, tonality, how one speaks, walks, and conveys oneself, including personality and humor. It's also the hardest to change due to self-image, nervousness, and limiting beliefs.

How can someone improve their energy in terms of attraction?

Improving one's energy involves working on body language, speaking confidently, walking with assurance, and developing a positive self-image. It also includes overcoming limiting beliefs and nervousness.

What is the role of elevated shoes in enhancing attractiveness according to the script?

Elevated shoes can provide extra height, which not only makes a person look more attractive but also boosts their confidence, which in turn improves their energy and overall attractiveness.

What does the speaker mean by 'own it or it owns you'?

The speaker means that one should embrace and be confident about their attributes, whether they are perceived as weaknesses or strengths. If not embraced, these attributes can hold one back and define one's self-perception negatively.

How does the speaker suggest dealing with stereotypes or negative biases about one's ethnicity?

The speaker suggests owning one's ethnicity and using it as a strength. He advises improving personal hygiene and appearance to change negative stereotypes and to be confident in oneself.

What is the significance of the phrase 'others treat you how you treat yourself' in the script?

The phrase implies that the way one treats oneself influences how others perceive and treat them. It emphasizes the importance of self-respect and self-care in shaping one's social interactions.

How does the speaker describe the process of becoming more confident and attractive?

The speaker describes a process involving hard work, social practice, and self-improvement over two years. This includes forcing oneself to socialize, speak confidently, make eye contact, and build relationships.

What analogy does the speaker use to explain the importance of practice in improving social skills?

The speaker uses the analogy of chess players, specifically mentioning Magnus Carlson and Hikaru Nakamura, to illustrate that practice and action are key to improving at anything, including social skills.

What advice does the speaker give for someone who feels they are not attractive physically?

The speaker advises that even if someone is not physically attractive, they can still be treated well by others if they carry themselves with confidence and positive energy.

How does the speaker define attractiveness beyond physical appearance?

The speaker defines attractiveness beyond physical appearance by emphasizing confidence, positive energy, and the ability to carry oneself well in social situations.