MUSLIM WIVES NEED TO LISTEN THIS REMINDER
Summary
TLDRThe video discusses the roles and responsibilities of men and women in marriage from an Islamic perspective, emphasizing that men are caretakers and providers, while women must work to maintain the relationship. It highlights the importance of mutual respect, love, and forgiveness, noting that women must guard their attitudes and actions, especially when their husbands are absent. The discussion underscores the idea that both men and women are accountable to Allah for their roles in preserving and safeguarding the relationship. Neglecting these responsibilities can lead to emotional and relational decay.
Takeaways
- 😇 Men are caretakers and responsible for supporting women, and this support requires ongoing effort.
- 🙋♀️ Women must work to overcome tendencies like holding grudges, resentment, and negative attitudes towards their husbands.
- 💡 The concept of 'Saleh' involves fixing or improving something, implying that women must actively work on their relationships.
- 😔 Despite men's efforts, some women may fail to acknowledge the good in their actions, leading to frustration.
- ⚖️ Women's behavior toward their husbands is linked to their connection with Allah, and negative attitudes can reflect spiritual issues.
- 💬 Women should guard their words and attitudes, avoiding spite and negative speech towards their husbands.
- 🛡️ Women are tasked with protecting their husbands' dignity, trust, and the integrity of the relationship, especially in their absence.
- 🤝 Marriage is a two-way street: men must continuously provide care, and women must reciprocate by supporting and safeguarding the relationship.
- 🌸 Neglecting these responsibilities can lead to emotional or actual separation within a marriage, where love and peace may be lost.
- 🔐 Allah emphasizes that both men and women must guard and maintain their roles in marriage to prevent it from falling apart.
Q & A
What is the main theme discussed in the transcript?
-The transcript focuses on the roles and responsibilities of men and women in a marriage, particularly discussing how women should guard their relationship with their husbands and how men should continuously provide and take care of their wives.
What does the speaker suggest is the primary responsibility of men in marriage?
-The primary responsibility of men in marriage, according to the speaker, is to be caretakers and providers for their wives, continuously working to support and maintain the relationship.
How does the speaker describe the attitude that women should avoid in their relationships?
-The speaker describes that women should avoid developing attitudes of spite, anger, or resentment, even when they feel they have reasons to be upset. Instead, they are encouraged to reconcile and maintain a positive demeanor.
What does the word 'Saleh' mean in the context of the transcript?
-'Saleh' is described as the opposite of 'fasada,' which means corruption or decay. In the context of the transcript, it refers to women maintaining a positive attitude, free from bitterness, and being willing to fix and improve their relationships.
Why does the speaker say that women must guard what cannot be seen?
-Women must guard what cannot be seen, according to the speaker, because they cannot always see or know the challenges their husbands face outside the home, such as temptations or difficult interactions. They must still care for their husbands and protect the relationship, even in the absence of direct observation.
How does the speaker describe the danger of women neglecting their relationships?
-The speaker warns that if women neglect their relationships, they risk emotionally losing their husbands, who may emotionally distance themselves or develop resentment, leading to a breakdown in love and tranquility within the marriage.
What analogy does the speaker use to describe the potential decay of a relationship?
-The speaker uses the analogy of food going bad when not properly cared for to describe the potential decay of a relationship. Just as food must be protected from spoilage, a relationship must be actively maintained to avoid deterioration.
Why does the speaker emphasize that women should not assume they will keep their husbands?
-The speaker emphasizes that women should not assume they will keep their husbands because neglecting their needs and failing to maintain the relationship can lead to losing them, either physically or emotionally.
What is the significance of the term 'kawam' as used in the transcript?
-The term 'kawam' refers to the responsibility and duty of men to be caretakers and maintainers of their wives. It is described as a noble role that reflects one of Allah's names, highlighting the divine responsibility of men to care for their families.
How does the speaker connect a woman's relationship with her husband to her connection with Allah?
-The speaker explains that a woman's attitude towards her husband reflects her connection with Allah. If her demeanor becomes corrupt or spiteful, it may indicate a weakening of her relationship with Allah. Conversely, maintaining a good relationship with her husband is seen as part of her devotion to Allah.
Outlines
🧔♂️ The Role of Men and Women in Relationships
This paragraph discusses the roles of men and women in a relationship according to Islamic teachings. Men are described as caretakers, continuously trying to provide and support their wives. Women, on the other hand, are reminded to fight tendencies toward resentment and anger, especially when men fail to meet expectations. The text emphasizes that women should strive to maintain a positive demeanor, despite any imperfections in their husbands, as their actions toward their spouse reflect their connection to Allah. The concept of being 'Saleh' (good or righteous) is highlighted as the opposite of 'fasada' (corruption or ugliness), encouraging women to reconcile and maintain harmony in their relationships.
⚡ The Impact of Spite and Anger on Faith and Relationships
This paragraph highlights how extreme spite and anger toward one’s husband can sever a woman’s connection with Allah. Even educated and religious women can fall into this trap, distancing themselves not only from their husbands but also from their faith. The text illustrates how deeply ingrained spite can block one's relationship with God, and stresses the need for women to remain subservient to Allah while maintaining respect and care for their husbands, even when they feel wronged.
🔒 Guarding What Cannot Be Seen in Relationships
This section delves into the concept of women guarding their husbands' dignity, trust, and honor when they are not present. It advises women not to speak ill of their husbands behind their backs, or engage in behavior that goes against their husbands' wishes. Furthermore, it emphasizes that women must be mindful of the trials and temptations men face outside the home. The paragraph stresses the importance of protecting the marriage and keeping it healthy, as neglecting this responsibility can lead to emotional disconnection or even the loss of the relationship.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Kawam
💡Saleh
💡Fasada
💡Subservient to Allah
💡Guarding the unseen
💡Resentment
💡Emotional divorce
💡Reconciliation
💡Peace and tranquility
💡Caretaker
Highlights
Men are described as caretakers of women, responsible for their welfare.
Allah emphasizes that not all women naturally possess certain qualities; they need to make an extra effort.
The term 'Saleh' in Arabic refers to goodness, the opposite of corruption ('fasada').
Women are encouraged to resist holding grudges or letting their anger cloud their interactions.
A key quality for women is their ability to reconcile and maintain peace in the relationship.
Allah instructs women to fight tendencies of spite and anger, which harm relationships.
A woman's attitude towards her husband is seen as reflective of her connection with Allah.
Guarding what cannot be seen: Women are advised to protect the dignity and trust of their husbands when they are not around.
Women should refrain from bad-mouthing their husbands to others, as it breaks trust.
The concept of ‘caretaking’ in the Quran applies to both men and women, stressing mutual responsibility.
Men face trials and temptations outside the home that women may not see, and women are reminded to be mindful of this.
Women should not assume that neglecting their relationship won't affect their husbands; emotional detachment is a real risk.
Reciprocity in care: Women are reminded that just as men strive to maintain the relationship, women must do their part.
Guarding the relationship is necessary because neglect can lead to destruction of the marriage.
Allah’s emphasis on protection and care highlights that both men and women have divine responsibilities in safeguarding the relationship.
Transcripts
foreign
[Music]
good men are caretakers of women he said
all men are all men are but when it came
to women he did not begin with the word
women
he didn't begin with Anisa
is
Allah is saying that what is going to be
described about women isn't actually
naturally the case for all women they're
going to have to make an extra effort to
be this way as a result of what a man is
trying to do
he's trying to provide he's trying to be
a source of support and he's doing so
over and over and over again and they're
going to have to be the first thing
Sally had a poor translation they're
gonna have to be good but we're gonna
have to understand what means
in Arabic actually is the opposite of
fasada
when something is bad something is
disgusting or ugly or corrupt and when
you fix it
of something to become good or for you
to fix something
for you to fix something now what women
are being told in this Ayah is that
actually they have they can have a
tendency they may or may not have it but
they have the ability to have a tendency
that no matter what good is done for
them they can't see good in it
they just can't see it in it now we'll
see it so what oh you think just because
you did the groceries I'm supposed to
respect you now
and then you can taste salaamu alaikum
and she'll say but the way in which my
sister the way in which you will say is
corrupt is
ugly
there's no love in it there's no respect
in it there's spite in it there's hatred
in it there's disresp there's this
there's this rejection in it
you're saying good words but they're not
Saleh and you'll and there's anger well
he didn't call me last night or he
didn't do this or he didn't do that and
there's all these reasons for you to be
upset now he's trying over and over to
be kawam and he's not perfect he's gonna
mess up and you're going to always have
reasons to be angry you get any wife
that's sitting in the audience here do
you have any reason to be upset with
your husband there are going to be
reasons even if she says no no no in her
mind there's gonna be a list
and our mind is going to be a list and
if I say can you just write them down on
a paper she's going to say do you have a
notepad I don't think a paper is enough
you know there are going to be reasons
for her to be upset and yet Allah says
the First Quality she's supposed to have
is to fight that tendency to hold a
grudge and to be angry and to let that
cloud the way she speaks and the way she
carries herself but actually become a
person that wants to reconcile that
wants to fix that wants to move on and
lot let things get corrupt not let
things get ugly by the way fasada is
also used for like
when food goes bad when you don't take
care of food it goes bad and you have to
take extra precaution to make sure it
stays fresh or stays clean and doesn't
get you know doesn't get infected she's
constantly gonna have to survey herself
and her attitude that's the First
Quality why should she do it then she
asks why should I do this he doesn't
deserve it you know what he smells like
do you know what he looks like do you
know what he talks like brother he gave
this but you don't understand my
situation yes you're right I don't
understand your situation but Allah does
I'm not talking to you about what I
think I'm telling you what Allah says
and he gives the reason in the next next
description of women why should you be
motivated to be this way
because you're willing and obedient
willing and ready to serve Allah
goes back to Allah
only to Allah should you be subservient
so when women are described as
subservient their relationship and their
attitude with their husband is actually
directly related to their connection
with Allah
and when their attitude becomes corrupt
when their demeanor becomes spiteful
then actually that's an indication to
yourself not for your husband to point
it out to you for you yourself of how
far you're traversing from your
connection with Allah and it gets so bad
at sometimes I've heard this with my own
ears a woman well educated well-educated
learn it in their religion she's arguing
with her husband she'll she gets mad at
him and she won't even sleep in the same
bed she won't even say she won't even
look at him for weeks and when she
starts arguing and he says you're you
you're so you learn the religion you
pray every day
you know you're so good in Islam why are
you so mean to me and she says well
right now I don't have to be muslim okay
literally right now I'm a Hindu
these words come out of knowledgeable
religion with religious women it's
shocking because the relationship with
Allah gets cut when you're spiked
towards your man is so high everything
gets blocked off
even your relationship with God
it's shocking
you have to check yourself
you know thank God they can't see me
right now
they have to be subservient to Allah
then he adds
guarding Khan consistently guarding
for what what is what can't be seen now
what does that mean guarding what can't
be seen the first meaning of that is
these women have to guard the dignity
the Integrity the respect and the trust
of their husbands when the husband is
not around
they shouldn't be talking to their
friends about how bad he is because he
can't be there to defend himself they
shouldn't be talking to other men if he
doesn't want them talking to other men
they shouldn't be going places he didn't
want them to go or he's never going to
find out he's at work until 6 PM he's
never gonna know he's completely India
they're invisible the daytime they're
invisible guys at work or whatever he's
traveling and they can do whatever they
want the first meaning of this Ayah is
actually they protect themselves from
what he doesn't want them to do
and by the way interestingly enough
Hatfield Guardian is also caretaker in
the Quran
caretaker that's the first meeting here
the second meaning of which is profound
is that they they are some things you
cannot see
you cannot see your husband
when he's at work
you can't see your husband when he's
traveling you can't see your husband
when he's checking into a flight at the
airport you can't see who he's sitting
next to
and you all know what I'm talking about
you can't see that you can't see the
trials and The Temptations that this man
that married to you faces when he goes
outside
how the women at the office talk to him
how people look at him who he interacts
with you can't control any of it
you don't see any of it but you know
what even if you don't see it you can't
be blind to it you have to guard what
you can't even see you know elsewhere in
the Quran
how can we guard over something we can't
even see
how can we be careful about something we
can't even see and women are being told
listen up
I know you can't see it but you better
watch for it anyway
you better take care of your husband as
if to think that what you cannot see
still exists
they have to go out of their way to be
good to their husbands to take care of
their needs to be attractive to their
husbands to be loving and caring to
their husbands they have to do all of
these things and then not assume while
he's ugly anyway who's gonna like him
outside
who's gonna look at him
I have to take care of him whatever
he can't do anything
they developed this attitude and once
that attitude develops in the mind of a
woman she starts demeaning her husband
puts him down and assumes that there's a
kind of well I don't have to do anything
to take care of this relationship and
Allah is countering all of it because
men try to continuously maintain
maintain maintain take care take care
take care it has to be reciprocated on
the other end you have to take care of
your husband and you have to guard for
the Unseen you have to know that he
might just you don't take care of
yourself and your relationship with him
you'll lose him
don't assume that you're gonna keep him
you will lose him and even if you don't
lose him explicitly you might lose him
emotionally he might emotionally divorce
himself from you
he may not even look at you with The
Eyes Of Love he may he may walk into the
house with resentment why am I walking
into this battlefield again
oh my God what's she gonna say today
if that happens between a husband and
the wife
what's the point of a marriage left
when Allah says so you go to them so you
can find peace so you can find
tranquility and now you have situations
where in the marriage the only time A
man does not find peace and
tranquilities when he's around his life
this is the tragedy on either side men
not doing their job women not doing
their job
and
the word also the sisters listen up in
the beginning of my I said that men
share a response have been given a word
of responsibility that is so Noble that
one of Allah's names it goes back to
that word kawam
I said that in the beginning
and now the final attribute for women is
the name of Allah is one of the names of
Allah
over all things this is one of the
shared names of Allah in other words
this is a Divine responsibility for you
to guard and Safeguard this relationship
and by the way you never use the word
guard unless something is in danger
never
you don't have to guard something that's
not in danger what are what is Allah
telling women and what is Allah telling
men when all men are told take care over
and over and over again it actually
means if you don't repeatedly take care
it will fall apart and what are women
being told if you don't watch guard it
will be destroyed you'll lose it
this is it's actually very powerful that
both sides have been given this balance
[Music]
are you tired of all these annoying ads
on YouTube are you worried that a Haram
video might pop up well the one is slam
TV app is here to solve these problems
insha Allah the one Islam TV app is 100
free of any ads and is safe to browse
for your peace of mind watch or listen
to lectures and lessons while you work
rest or drive with your device Switched
Off watch videos on demand or download
videos and watch offline watch hundreds
of high quality produce Islamic
reminders or on learning videos stories
of the prophets and so much more two to
four new videos uploaded daily insha
Allah one is slab TV is 100 run and
owned by Muslims which means a small
amount you pay for your subscription is
continuous charity for you as we use of
funds raised to continue producing more
beneficial videos and reminders insha
Allah the one Islam TV app is now
available on Apple devices Apple TV
Android devices Android TV Amazon Fire
TV and Roku so you can watch on most
devices and smart TVs download now for a
free 7-Day trial may Allah reward you
for supporting our work
[Music]
oh
[Music]
Ver Más Videos Relacionados
Memahami Peran Dan tanggung Jawab Dalam Pernikahan | Ustadz Bendri Jaisyurrahman
Hukum dan Hikmah Menutup Aurat - Ustadz Adi Hidayat
(Kelompok 11) Feminisme dan Disorientasi Sesksual Dalam Perspektif Islam
Nurse Got CORRECTED After Claiming She's NOT Like Other Girls!
If NO Women Preachers, How About The Prophetesses in the Bible? | John MacArthur
Women WILL NEVER LOVE This TYPE of Man - Accept Female Nature 101 (hypergamy value secrets)
5.0 / 5 (0 votes)