The 7 Most Common Female Narcissistic Traits - NPD
Summary
TLDRこのビデオでは、女性のナルシスト的な特徴について詳しく説明しています。それらの特徴には、外見への執着、誘惑、虚勢を張る自信、金銭への浪費、不貞行為、子育ての問題、そして競争心などがあります。女性ナルシストは、常に他者を卑下することで自身の価値を高めようとし、関係性を破壊する傾向にあります。ビデオは、こうした女性ナルシストの特徴を理解し、対処する方法を提示しています。
Takeaways
- 👸 ナルシストの女性は、外見、見た目に過剰にこだわり、整形手術にも積極的である。
- 💃 魅力的な振る舞いや服装で異性を惹きつけ、操縦する傾向がある。
- 💪 他者を見下すことで自信を得る一方で、自分の過ちを認めることができない。
- 💰 派手な消費や無駄遣いをする傾向があり、金銭感覚に乏しい。
- 💔 パートナーに求める理想が高く、浮気や離婚に至りやすい。
- 👶 子育ての際、特定の子供を過剰に可愛がり、その他の子供を見捨てる。
- 🏆 対人関係で競争心が強く、勝利至上主義になりがちである。
- 👸 社会的地位や役割を重視し、その立場を守ろうとする。
- 😡 非難されると過剰に反発し、大袈裟な態度をとる。
- 🚫 ナルシストの診断は専門家に任せるべきで、自己判断は避けるべきである。
Q & A
ナルシシズムの特徴は女性にも見られるものなのでしょうか?
-はい、ナルシシズムの特徴は女性にも見られるものです。ビデオでは、女性のナルシシストの7つの一般的な特徴について説明しています。容姿や魅力、過剰な自信や金銭の浪費、不貞、子育て、そして競争心などが挙げられています。
女性のナルシストの容姿に関する特徴は何ですか?
-ビデオによると、女性のナルシストは容姿に執着し、しばしば過剰な整形手術を受けることがあります。また、注目を浴びることを好み、自分の容姿への賞賛を求めます。自分よりも注目を浴びる人がいると嫉妬し、攻撃的になることもあるそうです。
女性のナルシストはどのようにして魅了するのでしょうか?
-女性のナルシストは自分の身体を使って魅了する傾向があります。挑発的な服装や態度で特定の人物を惹きつけ、その人物から得られるものを手に入れようとするのです。しかし、ある程度近づいた段階で支配的になり、相手をコントロールしようとします。
女性のナルシストの自信はどのように形成されるのでしょうか?
-女性のナルシストは、他者を自分より下に見ることで自信を得ます。他者を卑下し、自分の優位性を主張することで、虚栄心を満たすのです。健全な自信とは異なり、この自信は歪んだものとなっています。
金銭に関する女性ナルシストの特徴を教えてください。
-ビデオによると、女性のナルシストはお金をむちゃくちゃに使う傾向があり、派手な物に浪費しがちです。しかし、浪費に対する後ろめたさはありません。お金は自分の地位や権力を示すものと考えているためです。
女性のナルシストは不貞に陥りやすいのでしょうか?
-はい、そうです。ビデオでは、女性のナルシストは不貞に陥りやすいと指摘されています。最初はパートナーを理想化しますが、次第にパートナーを卑下し、より魅力的な対象を求めるようになるからです。しかし、新しい関係でも同じパターンが繰り返されてしまうそうです。
女性のナルシストは子育てにどのような影響を及ぼすでしょうか?
-ビデオによると、女性のナルシストは「ベビーナルシスト」を育てがちだそうです。子供の中から片親の気に入った子供を優遇し、他の子供は愛情を受けられません。子供は親の代理人のように見なされ、子供の成功は親の優れた育児の賜物とされます。
女性のナルシストと競争することの危険性は何でしょうか?
-ビデオでは、競争は女性のナルシストにとって重要であると述べられています。他者に勝つことで優位性を示そうとするため、能力の違いを無視して一方的に競争を仕掛けてくることがあります。敗北を認めず、大げさな反応を見せるかもしれません。
一般的な男性のナルシストとは違った女性ナルシストの特徴はありますか?
-はい、いくつか異なる点が指摘されています。例えば、男性よりも女性のナルシストの方が整形手術を受ける傾向が高いそうです。また、伝統的な性別役割から自尊心を得ようとする面があります。さらに、子育てにおいても、男性とは違った問題があると言われています。
ビデオの内容から、女性のナルシストと関わる上での注意点は何がありますか?
-ビデオでは、女性のナルシストと関わる際は様々な問題が起こりうることが示唆されています。不当な扱いを受けたり、金銭的な搾取をされたり、不貞に巻き込まれたりする可能性があります。また、子供がいる場合は、ナルシストの親から適切な愛情を受けられない恐れもあります。自分を守るための配慮が必要そうです。
Outlines
👸 女性のナルシシズムの一般的な特徴
この動画は、一般的に男性に関連付けられがちなナルシシズムについて、女性に特有の7つの一般的な特徴を探ります。外見、セクシーさ、自信、金銭、不実、育児、そして競争心といった側面が取り上げられています。それぞれの特徴は、女性ナルシストの振る舞いや対人関係における影響と関連付けられています。女性ナルシストの特徴を理解することで、そのような行動を認識し、対処する洞察が得られると述べられています。
💰 金銭とナルシシスト的な自己中心性
この段落では、金銭がナルシストにとって地位と権力を表すものであり、他者を操ることができる手段となることが説明されています。女性ナルシストは贅沢な出費を好み、借金や支払いを気にすることはありません。金銭は、彼女たちの特別な存在感や重要性を確認するためのポイントのようなものです。このような浪費的な金銭の使い方は、ナルシストの歪んだ自己像と他者観を物語っています。
👰 女性ナルシストと不実な関係性
この部分では、女性ナルシストがパートナーを理想化し、最終的には従属させ、搾取する傾向があることが述べられています。パートナーが与えれば与えるほど、ナルシストの要求は増え続け、いつまでも満たされることはありません。結果的に、ナルシストは新しい魅力的な対象を見つけ、不倫に走ったりする可能性が高くなります。また、気分の変化や過剰な自尊心から、ナルシストは謝罪することを拒み、パートナーを無視、放棄、罰するようになる傾向もあると指摘されています。
👶 女性ナルシストの育児スタイル
この段落では、女性ナルシストが子供を自分の延長線上に置き、子供の成功を自分の優れた育児の賜物だと考える傾向があると述べられています。しばしば片親に偏った愛情を注ぎ、他の子供を劣等感や自己不安に陥れてしまいます。育児スタイルは、子供の実績主義的で、愛情の提供が子供の成功に左右されがちです。さらに、女性ナルシストは、子供に対して操縦的な関わり方をし、子供に完全な満足は与えません。一方で、男性ナルシストは家族を捨てる可能性が高いことも指摘されています。
🏆 ナルシストにとっての競争とその意味
最後の部分では、ナルシストにとって競争が自らの優越性を証明する機会となることが説かれています。職場でも家庭でも、他者に勝つことにナルシシストは大きな喜びを感じます。女性ナルシストは、他の女性と支配権をめぐって争う傾向があります。そして、競争相手に打ち勝つことが、自分の価値を高める「ナルシシズムのエネルギー」源となります。さらに、女性ナルシストは、伝統的な性別役割や社会的地位に基づいて、自尊心を満たそうとする傾向もあると指摘されています。
Mindmap
Keywords
💡ナルシシズム
💡外見
💡セクシュアリティ
💡自信
💡金銭
💡不貞
💡育児
💡競争心
💡ジェンダー規範
💡関係性の破壊
Highlights
Female narcissists tend to be obsessed with their appearance, sometimes resulting in numerous plastic surgeries.
Female narcissists use seduction selectively to attract a specific high-value target or accomplish a goal, unlike histrionic personalities who seek attention indiscriminately.
Female narcissists gain confidence by comparing themselves favorably to others and belittling those they see as beneath them.
Money equals status and power for narcissists, who recklessly spend on flashy items with no remorse, often achieving little due to their excessive spending.
Female narcissists act like 'black widows', idealizing their mate initially to attract them, then emasculating and abandoning them when a higher status target emerges, often leading to infidelity.
In parenting, female narcissists often have a 'favorite' child they focus on while neglecting the others, viewing the children as extensions of themselves.
Competition proves supremacy for female narcissists, who love opportunities to excel over others, whether at work or home.
Female narcissists derive narcissistic energy through traditional gender roles, societal status, and being adamant about never admitting even simple failures.
The core of narcissism is self-doubt, fear, guilt, inferiority, and shame, which drives the maladaptive behaviors of narcissists.
Narcissists lack insight into their maladaptive confidence and destructive behavior, focused only on elevating themselves higher.
Narcissists put the burden of their happiness entirely on their partner, blaming them for any dissatisfaction and creating an insatiable need to please.
Narcissistic parenting is achievement-oriented, with love and worth contingent on the child's accomplishments reflecting the parent's superiority.
Narcissists thrive on triggering 'narcissistic wounds' in others by taking away their spotlight or sense of superiority.
Narcissists have difficulty apologizing, especially when caught overtly wrong in front of their high-status targets.
Narcissists exhibit unpredictable moods due to excessive pride and an unwillingness to open up about their true desires out of fear of being vulnerable.
Transcripts
what are the seven most common female
narcissistic traits and I think this is
a really important video to discuss so
we can get into it explore it because
most people when they hear narcissism or
narcissistic traits they attribute it to
males but there are specific aspects of
females that exhibit narcissistic traits
but often we're surprised by it so maybe
you'll be surprised by some of the stuff
I'm going to talk about in this video so
let's talk about female narcissists now
you may wonder if you're a female
narcissist or if you're living with one
now let me help you out and I'm going to
provide some information for you to help
you understand how to figure this out
now of course this is not a clinical
disorder female narcissist is not a
clinical Disorder so we don't want to
diagnose someone else or even ourselves
now we're going to talk about narcissism
narcissistic personality disorder and
traits associated with it but the point
of this video is not for you to diagnose
yourself okay but it's for you to build
Insight diagnosis should only be derived
from a mental health professional all
right now that we got that out of the
ways narcissism is a personality
disorder that has been the subject of
many studies discussions breakups
estranged families and so on movies all
kinds of stuff however when it comes to
female narcissism the topic is often
overlooked or misunderstood the impact
of female narcissism on relationships
particularly on finances and Fidelity is
a crucial area that I think deserves
more attention and that's why we're
going to dive into it now narcissistic
women tend to display an exaggerated
sense of self-importance entitlement and
a lack of empathy now these traits can
lead to a host of problems in
relationships including infidelity
Financial abuse and manipulation so
we're going to explore the impact of
female narcissism on relationships and
I'm going to provide insights into how
to identify and cope with such behavior
when you see this stuff so grab a cup of
coffee and join me as we dive right into
the world of female narcissism and its
impact on relationships now there might
be periods throughout this video where
like wait that's the same as men that's
true but the illustration in the
presentation that we see in females that
have narcissism or narcissistic
personality disorder is different and
that's what we're focusing on so let's
break down those seven narcissistic
traits first we're going to talk about
appearance now most females tend to be
obsessed with their appearance sometimes
resulting in numerous plastic surgeries
now female narcissists is good at
marketing herself being the most
Charming person in the room right and
you can't take that away from her
because she craves attention if you try
to get in between her need for attention
and recognition of that appearance
that's where you could cause a
narcissistic wound that's where she
could push back that's where she become
aggressive that's where she could start
making fun of you in front of other
people perhaps people she just met
remember that the disorder part of
narcissism that narcissistic personality
disorder is when you don't get along
with folks when it's disruptive to
relationships so if you have your your
narcissistic female and she's in a group
of folks right she's impressing them
with her new outfit and how she looks
and they're all like wow she really has
it together
and you show up and you're just you know
coming along seeing everybody's
chit-chatting about things like that and
as you come up
you are dressed and let's say an even
nicer suit or you get the same attention
that the female narcissist just did
right and you have this nice pant suit
on or you got this nice suit on you got
the nice jacket dress shirt blouse I
don't know whatever it is right and then
the group turns and says oh that's nice
that's nice you're taking away her
Spotlight and you have to pay for that
because that could become the
narcissistic wound that could be that
problematic component and that's why
appearance is so Central to the female
narcissist that they need to be
recognized and that the plastic
surgeries you don't see that in men as
much you don't see as many plastic
surgeries in males with narcissistic
personality disorder as you do in
females I'm not saying it doesn't happen
for males but it's different for females
and there's also this tendency of
jealousy this intense jealousy that
you'll see in narcissistic females that
are often Associated or highly connected
to their appearance so we see that they
certainly want to be recognized for
their appearance right they want that
attention to what they're wearing in
their makeup and their hair and all this
other stuff and when they don't get it
then they get jealous remember you just
walked up to that group of other females
right who noticed what you're wearing
and now she's jealous of you and that
could be part of what incurred the
narcissistic wound so now she has to
make you pay for it and she can
embarrass you in front of others or make
you cry or point out something that
might be awkward about you even if it's
not she may still point it out to shame
you make you feel small
so appearance so let's go on to our next
one seduction now your female
narcissists use their bodies to Allure a
mate now this can sometimes be seen in
provocative clothing but it's different
from histrionic personality disorder
your histrionic personality or
individuals they're continually wearing
inappropriate revealing clothing whereas
a narcissist does it selectively for a
specific person or to accomplish a goal
so it's almost like they're trying to
hit this target right they're trying to
identify this individual and narcissist
whether male or female usually will
identify others object of high value
that could be monetary it could be
attractiveness it could be access to
particular resources or clubs or bars or
cars or whatever it is some status level
and they'll use that Seduction on that
identified object of high value as they
want to attach to that object of high
value so you see that we're histrionic
personality disorder individuals
typically doesn't do that what that
individual does is they will draw
attention to themselves in a very uh
dramatic way in a very over-the-top way
whether it's using a lot of swear words
curse words using very revealing
clothing or being very seductive you
know being flirtatious and coquettish
and you know that kind of thing right
touching your arm right when you say a
funny joke right like that yeah you get
what I'm saying you get it and so that
seduction component now female
narcissists they tend to lack this
ability to process shame they have
difficulty apologizing even when they're
overtly found guilty particularly if it
is in front of or anywhere in eyesight
or earshot of that identified High
status object so they want to seduce
that high object status they want to
move that person into their world so
then once they're close then they feel
like they can have more control over
them then they can get what they have
and that will then feed that sense of
narcissism validating that sense of
narcissism validating that grandiosity
that sense of specialness so it becomes
this cycle where it feeds itself and
that's how narcissus is perpetuated it
feeds Itself by these maladaptive
patterns certainly seductive is one of
them now another component that I want
to talk about is confidence now you may
be surprised to hear that confidence
what well let me tell you females that
are along the narcissistic spectrum they
gain their Poise that confidence from
comparing their superiority over others
now they feel good about themselves when
others are beneath their own standards
of excellence they can point out what a
failure they are they can point out just
in that example with with you know all
the women are impressed with their
clothing and the other girl comes up and
when she shames her she feels more
confident about herself because she's
feeding her narcissist her narcissist
becomes this Central component right it
becomes that nucleus of her sense of
self and she's feeding that nucleus so
it is growing becoming stronger and you
see that she doesn't really pay
attention to what else is going on
because she's got this flush maybe it's
a dopamine hit for her right she's got
this flush of confidence over
that other person that she just
belittled so it's this false sense of
confidence it's this maladaptive sense
of confidence because in an Adaptive
sense of confidence it's that you can
appreciate what that person who just
walked up who's getting the attention
what they're wearing or what is special
or pretty or unique about them but the
narcissist doesn't because at their core
that Central those Central components of
narcissism is self-doubt fear guilt
inferiority and shame and it's those
things that drive that narcissism and
you see this false sense of confidence
it's a very maladaptive sense of
confidence and they belittle the
accomplishments of those that they feel
are beneath them so that they can have a
sense of Greater strength in many ways
it's like Yertle the turtle I don't know
if you ever read that book but Yertle
the turtle he had to be higher higher
and higher and he wanted his subjects
his little turtles to continue to make
him bigger and stronger and grow taller
so he could see more of his kingdom and
more of his kingdom but if you remember
the book in spoiler alert but he gets so
so high that he topples over and he's
covered in mud and you don't want to be
urinal the turtle but individuals would
narcissism have poor insight and
individuals that are females that are
along narcissistic Spectrum also have
that poor inside so they don't see that
maladaptive confidence and their
behavior and how destructive it is they
just see that they're growing Higher and
Higher and Higher and that's what they
focus on the next component that we're
going to talk about is money
and money can certainly be like points
I've had clients that I've worked with
along the narcissistic Specter males and
females and many of them have talked
about how money equals status and power
so money is points so the more points
that I have the more power and control I
have and the more I can manipulate or
control other people's lives and that
gives them that sense of power that
feeds that narcissist remember becomes
this Perpetual cycle of maladaptivity
that keeps feeding itself and money can
be a huge part of that and females are
no longer expect them they just love
excessively spending money particularly
on things that are very flashy and even
though there's no shame or remorse in
how much they're spending or ruining
their bank account things like that most
narcissists don't have a lot of money
most narcissists achieve very little
and this is in large part because
they're spending so much and they're so
afraid of achieving that they would
rather sit back and are shrouded by that
narcissism and it creates this distorted
image of self and others so what they
see is what they wear and not that debt
that comes with it and not that loss
that comes with having to manage the
bills manage your spending because if
you have to manage your spending then
you're certainly not a high status
special unique person that you deserve
to be and that goes to that Central
component of narcissism that maladaptive
belief so money is absolutely a
component we could even call it a trait
because of the way that that they do
spend money the way they recklessly
spend money and you see how destructive
this is so the next one that we're going
to talk about is Fidelity now females
along narcissistic spectrum they act
more like black widow spiders and
they're idealizing their mate to attract
them and emasculate them and for the
spouse or partner the more they give the
more the narcissist wants and it becomes
insatiable it becomes you're always
doing more you're always trying achieve
more you're always because you're also
held accountable for that individual's
Health welfare beliefs happiness but
because the narcissistic individual is
so external in their beliefs and in
their view that and they that external
validation that it all falls on you that
they put it on you that they're like
well I'm not happy because you did this
and you're a horrible person because I
feel this way because you did this and
the things you did could be very routine
that most of us do right it could be
something that you know that you mess up
something that everybody makes mistakes
but your narcissist sees it as you being
a failure so being in this relationship
you then try to feed that relationship
make that person happier but you can't
and in these cases what happens is you
see that they start to disengage and
they can neglect abandon or punish their
partner for these things and that's
where the Fidelity comes in because then
they see a higher status object than you
so they go out and they find somebody
else to be with but all that is it just
takes them up one more step because
eventually you know they might leave you
right and then they go to the next step
and that next step eventually that
maladaptive narcissism rears its head
again and it becomes destructive again
and it becomes to eat away at the
relationship and it'll fit that pattern
or the partner will get fed up with it
it'll cut it off and be like you're gone
forget it because what you're also
dealing with under that component of
fidelity is these unpredictable moods
and it can be due to pry this excessive
Pride or even other other traits or
other issues that might be going on
because narcissists they don't open up
about what they really want because
there's great fear because when there's
truth inside them that if someone knows
that they could use it against them if
they use it against them that could be
the power play that they do with others
that they don't want done to them so it
really becomes this this opposite
component right the self-destructive and
relationship destructive pattern that
I've seen many times in clients that
that I've worked with that have
developed this maladaptive pattern and
Fidelity becomes such a big issue uh
narcissist I I believe they're at a
higher probability to of course commit
adultery to cheat but it doesn't mean
that they all do right we don't want to
have absolutes we don't want to split on
this right you just want to be aware
there is that higher tendency because of
what I talked about before it's always
going to that higher status object that
I hire status person who has more who
can provide more or so they believe
because for them The Grass Is Always
Greener now another component that we
see in parenting that parenting style so
we we could say children is the next
component right or that it's actually
now children isn't a trait but parenting
can be a culmination of several traits
and narcissists like to raise baby
narcissists now often they pick a
favorite child and focus all of their
efforts and attention on that special
child the other children are left to
feel inadequate unworthy and insecure
and females often view their children as
an extension of themselves even when the
child is an adult so everything the
child accomplishes is a reflection of
their own Superior parenting and you see
the female aspect it's an odd sense of
mothering and when I say odd sense is
because there tends not to be a lot of
emotion transference there what we see
is a lot of achievement orientation it's
very cognitive in many ways it's very
achievement based as to if you achieve
this well then you're worthy of my love
but if you don't then I don't and really
what is your value anyway because any
failure or mistake you make that is
illustrative of the failed narcissistic
parent now I've mentioned in many of my
other videos as well when I talk about
narcissism in Children of narcissism
that most narcissistic parents don't
make narcissists and that's and and that
is that remains true because what
happens is is that the narcissistic
individual and in this case a
narcissistic female identifies that one
child and they nurture that child's
narcissism but the other children tend
to develop this sense of just as I
mentioned feeling inadequate unworthy
and insecure and in many ways that can
blossom into disorders that look more
like histrionic personality disorder or
borderline personality disorder doesn't
mean that they all develop that is that
what I'm saying
I'm saying that that they can start to
develop some of those traits and issues
and again that female narcissistic
parenting it is certainly based on that
and it can almost be as if they are you
know dangling that sense of yeah I can
be that caring mom
up to this point and then I'm gonna pull
it back and it becomes this manipulative
back and forth so that the child is
really driven to connect to that parent
because the idea of good mother becomes
so intense and that is what they are
striving for that is what they're going
for however the issue becomes that you
never get it so it's that carrot that
you never get to eat it's that goal that
you never get to achieve it's that
marathon and you're constantly running
it and there's no Finish Line but you
want to keep running it and you get into
it and because you've been running it
for so long you're kind of like well I
guess I'll just keep running it so you
see that trait and we're going to call
that the children even though children
isn't really a trade as we know but it's
more like parenting style parenting
approach parenting via narcissism we see
it more clearly in narcissistic females
because narcissistic males often they
are more likely to take off they're more
likely to identify failures in their
children now they they will pick some
special children but I think they are at
a higher likelihood to abandon that
family abandon those children and spouse
and be like well I'm going on to
something better right and we can go
back to that sense of fidelity that we
talked about before and we see that in
males but of course we're attaching it
now to the to the children component so
lastly and this I think is one of the
most interesting components is talking
about the competition and competition
can be something that can be really
really delicate for many narcissists and
your narcissistic females are certainly
not immune to that issue and competition
so nothing proves Supremacy quite like
the competition for a narcissistic
individual they love an opportunity to
excel over others whether it's at work
or home wherever it may be and this can
be brother to brother and parent-child
relationships females battle with other
females for dominance and that dominance
is that sense of competition just like
it goes exactly to that point of again
when I talked about earlier in the video
is it's that women are commenting the
female narcissist on her way she looks
and things like that that other person
comes up and that becomes that
competitor and they have to dominate
that individual because it triggered
that emotional button of insecurity and
that sense of Doubt shame guilt
inferiority and so they have to try to
manage that that narcissistic wound and
you see this it can just as I mentioned
in a wide variety of different types of
relationships and because that kind
competition becomes the food that feeds
the narcissism a lot of times they will
get into competitions or in competence I
don't mean like an actual formal like
competition right not gonna be like a
tennis match unless they are amazingly
good at tennis then they are likely to
pick a beginner and just thrash them
right or if they're a runner if they've
run marathons before they're like oh
yeah yeah you should run with me it'll
be fine and they seem like they're
really good friend they're like oh wow
you really encouraging me to be healthy
that's really nice but then when you get
in the marathon
and she she just takes off and she's
like loser and just running running
right and then at the end she's like I
can't believe you couldn't keep up and
you're like huh what what is what is
going on here huh and so you feel lost
and you feel stuck but you fed that
individual's narcissism so you see that
that sense of competition can become so
Central and lastly females along
narcissistic spectrum they get that
narcissistic energy through more like
traditional gender rules and you could
say that they're the home children
suitable career suitable careers they're
husbands they could be the wife of such
and such trophy wife such and such their
feminine traits the role in society that
they can fill or the PTA whatever it may
be or in the HOA and interestingly the
more wrong that she is the greater the
outrage and drama she displays and this
is how you you'll be able to to identify
them is that they're not even willing to
admit those simple failures those simple
mistakes and particularly if it's within
her domain and in her domain she has to
be the queen there is no one one that is
more powerful or important than a
narcissistic Queen hope you found this
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