Covert Contracts and the Damage They Do
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful video, the host, Nuke, delves into the concept of 'covert contracts'—unspoken agreements we believe exist with others, impacting relationships and self-growth. He explores how these silent expectations can lead to disillusionment and hinder progress in life and dating. Drawing on Dr. Robert Glover's work, Nuke discusses recognizing and breaking free from these contracts to avoid unnecessary emotional turmoil and live a more authentic life.
Takeaways
- 🎯 The concept of 'covert contracts' is explored, which are unspoken agreements or expectations one has in relationships that can lead to disillusionment when not met.
- 🤔 The speaker emphasizes the importance of recognizing and breaking covert contracts to avoid being held back in life and relationships.
- 🗣️ Communication is key in addressing covert contracts; expressing needs and expectations clearly to avoid misunderstandings and disappointments.
- 💡 The idea that publicly acknowledging a broken covert contract can lead to others perceiving you as nihilistic or bitter is discussed.
- 👥 Covert contracts can exist not only in romantic relationships but also with oneself or with the world, shaping one's actions and reactions.
- 👀 The notion that people may feel entitled to certain outcomes based on their efforts, such as getting in shape or making money, is challenged.
- 💔 Disappointment arises when reality does not align with the covert contracts one has in their mind, especially in the context of dating and relationships.
- 🚫 The potential for covert contracts to create a sense of entitlement and the subsequent bitterness when those entitlements are not met is highlighted.
- 💡 The suggestion to 'divest oneself from the outcome' of a covert contract as a means to break free from its constraints is presented.
- 🤷♂️ The acceptance of the reality that not every girl will want a relationship, and the importance of understanding and respecting that is underscored.
- 🔄 The idea of 'rotations' in dating is introduced, where one may casually date multiple people without the expectation of a committed relationship.
Q & A
What is a covert contract according to the speaker?
-A covert contract is an unspoken agreement or expectation that one believes exists, even without communicating it to the other party or getting their consent. It's often a set of 'if-then' statements in one's head about how certain actions should lead to guaranteed outcomes, especially in relationships.
Why are covert contracts potentially harmful in relationships?
-Covert contracts can be harmful because they set up unrealistic expectations that others are unaware of. When these expectations are not met, it can lead to feelings of anger, disappointment, and disillusionment, potentially damaging the relationship.
What is the role of communication in addressing covert contracts?
-Communication is key in addressing covert contracts. By clearly expressing one's needs and expectations to the other party, it allows for a mutual understanding and agreement, which can prevent misunderstandings and disappointments.
What does the speaker suggest is a common misconception about breaking a covert contract publicly?
-The speaker suggests that when people publicly acknowledge breaking a covert contract or overcoming one, they may be perceived as nihilistic, bitter, or as having given up. This perception can be a barrier to addressing and resolving covert contracts.
What are some examples of covert contracts mentioned in the script?
-Examples of covert contracts mentioned include the belief that if one is a good person they will be liked and loved, if one meets everyone else's needs without asking then their needs will be met, and if one does everything right they will have a problem-free life.
How does the speaker describe the process of breaking a covert contract?
-The speaker describes two ways to break a covert contract: one is to communicate the expectations clearly to the other party and negotiate, and the other is to divest oneself from the expected outcome, accepting that the desired result is not guaranteed.
What is the relationship between covert contracts and self-improvement according to the speaker?
-The speaker suggests that self-improvement can sometimes lead to covert contracts, where individuals believe that achieving certain milestones, such as getting in shape or making money, will automatically lead to romantic success. This can result in disappointment when these expectations are not met.
Why does the speaker argue that expecting too much from self-improvement can be problematic?
-The speaker argues that expecting too much from self-improvement can lead to entitlement and disappointment. When individuals believe that their efforts should guarantee them certain outcomes, such as attracting a partner, they may become bitter and resentful when reality does not align with their expectations.
What is the speaker's view on the importance of outcome independence in relationships?
-The speaker views outcome independence as crucial in relationships. It involves accepting that one cannot control the actions of others and that expecting specific outcomes from a relationship can lead to unnecessary pain and disappointment.
How does the speaker relate covert contracts to the concept of 'nice guys'?
-The speaker relates covert contracts to 'nice guys' by suggesting that they often operate under the covert contract that if they are good, kind, and do everything for others, they will be liked and loved in return. This can lead to frustration and bitterness when these expectations are not met.
What advice does the speaker give for dealing with the disappointment of a broken covert contract?
-The speaker advises to practice self-forgiveness and to understand that it's okay to have made mistakes based on the information and maturity one had at the time. It's important to learn from these experiences and move on, rather than carrying the burden of past errors.
What does the speaker suggest is a common reaction to having a covert contract broken?
-The speaker suggests that when a covert contract is broken, individuals may experience anger, frustration, and confusion, especially if they feel they have not communicated their expectations to the other party.
What is the purpose of discussing covert contracts in the context of dating and relationships?
-The purpose of discussing covert contracts in the context of dating and relationships is to help individuals recognize and address unspoken expectations that can lead to misunderstandings, disappointments, and conflicts.
How does the speaker define 'red meat' in the context of the manosphere?
-In the context of the manosphere, 'red meat' refers to content that is sensational, provocative, or extreme, often focusing on negative aspects or grievances related to dating and relationships.
What does the speaker suggest is a common misconception about promiscuous women?
-The speaker suggests that a common misconception about promiscuous women is that they are not capable of being in a committed relationship or that they are not interested in emotional connection, which may not necessarily be true.
What is the speaker's view on the role of ego in relationships?
-The speaker believes that ego can be a hindrance in relationships, causing individuals to project their needs and expectations onto others without considering the other person's perspective or desires.
What advice does the speaker give for dealing with the realization that a casual relationship partner is seeing other people?
-The speaker advises to divest oneself from the outcome, accept the situation for what it is, and continue to enjoy the relationship without expecting or demanding commitment or exclusivity.
How does the speaker describe the experience of being in a rotation with a woman?
-The speaker describes being in a rotation with a woman as a situation where one is not the only person she is seeing, but rather one of several men in her life. This can be a source of insecurity for some, but the speaker encourages viewing it pragmatically and focusing on enjoying the experience.
What does the speaker suggest is a common covert contract among men regarding promiscuous women?
-The speaker suggests that a common covert contract among men is the belief that if a woman is promiscuous, she must be seeing multiple men and therefore not interested in a serious relationship, which may not be the case.
What is the speaker's stance on the idea that a man's value is tied to his ability to attract women?
-The speaker argues against the idea that a man's value is solely tied to his ability to attract women, stating that a man's worth is not dependent on making women happy or securing a relationship.
What advice does the speaker give for men who feel lost or overwhelmed by the complexities of dating and relationships?
-The speaker advises men to focus on solutions, work on self-improvement, and seek out practical advice and insights from books, blog posts, and discussions with other men, rather than getting caught up in sensational or 'red meat' content.
What does the speaker suggest is a common reaction to seeing a woman who is perceived as promiscuous in a positive light?
-The speaker suggests that a common reaction is for people to judge and label the woman negatively, assuming she is not interested in a serious relationship or that she is only seeking casual encounters.
How does the speaker view the role of 'nice guys' and 'beta' men in the context of covert contracts?
-The speaker views 'nice guys' and 'beta' men as often being trapped by covert contracts, such as the belief that being kind and non-assertive will lead to romantic success, which can lead to disappointment and frustration when these expectations are not met.
What is the speaker's perspective on the importance of self-awareness in navigating relationships?
-The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in recognizing and addressing covert contracts, suggesting that understanding one's own expectations and beliefs is crucial for navigating relationships successfully.
How does the speaker define 'red meat' in the context of the discussion?
-In the context of the discussion, 'red meat' refers to content or rhetoric that is provocative, often focusing on negative or controversial aspects of dating and relationships, and may not provide constructive solutions or insights.
What does the speaker suggest is a key factor in enjoying casual relationships with women?
-The speaker suggests that a key factor in enjoying casual relationships with women is to not judge them, to understand that the relationship is for fun, and to be exclusive in understanding the situation, leading to enjoyment without any sense of obligation.
Outlines
🗣️ Introduction to Covert Contracts
The speaker, Nuke, introduces the topic of covert contracts, a concept coined by Dr. Robert Glover, author of 'No More Mr. Nice Guy'. Covert contracts are unspoken agreements or expectations one has in relationships, often leading to disillusionment when unmet. Nuke discusses how these contracts can negatively impact dating and life, and the common misconceptions about breaking them. He also touches on the importance of communication and the dangers of invisible expectations.
🗣️ Dealing with Covert Contracts
Nuke outlines two primary methods for dealing with covert contracts: asserting one's needs and expectations clearly or divesting oneself from the expected outcomes. He uses the analogy of viewing women as promiscuous to avoid disappointment and discusses the challenges men face in dating due to covert contracts. Nuke emphasizes the importance of reality and the potential pitfalls of not addressing these unspoken agreements.
🗣️ The Dangers of Covert Contracts
The speaker discusses the inherent dangers of covert contracts, such as the assumption of being liked or loved for being a good person, meeting everyone's needs without asking, and expecting a problem-free life. He highlights how these contracts can be detrimental, especially in dating, and how they often stem from societal or familial influences. Nuke also addresses the self-improvement journey and the common misconceptions men have about attracting women.
🗣️ Overcoming Entitlement and Frustration
Nuke talks about the frustration and entitlement that arise from covert contracts, especially when men feel they have met certain standards but are still rejected. He emphasizes the importance of understanding that self-improvement, such as gaining wealth or status, does not guarantee romantic success. The speaker also touches on the fear some men have of losing out to someone with less apparent effort, highlighting the need to let go of the idea of a sure thing in relationships.
🗣️ Self-Awareness and Forgiveness
The speaker discusses the importance of self-awareness in recognizing and addressing covert contracts. He talks about the need to forgive oneself for past mistakes and the societal pressure on men not to do so. Nuke shares his personal journey from being pragmatic to understanding the role of emotions in decision-making, and the importance of learning from past experiences rather than being defined by them.
🗣️ The Impact of Environment and Social Dynamics
Nuke explores how environmental factors and social dynamics can influence the effectiveness of covert contracts. He uses personal anecdotes to illustrate that factors beyond one's control, such as being in a college environment, can impact the attention one receives from the opposite sex. The speaker also discusses the unrealistic expectations some men have about their attractiveness to women and the need to adjust these expectations.
🗣️ The Role of Ego and Emotional Intelligence
The speaker discusses the role of ego in hindering personal growth and the importance of leaving ego at the door to enjoy life more fully. Nuke shares his personal transformation in 2021, when he decided to focus on having fun and learning from others rather than being driven by ego. He emphasizes the value of emotional intelligence and being pragmatic in dealing with life's challenges.
🗣️ The Influence of Media and Public Figures
Nuke talks about the influence of media and public figures on men's perceptions of relationships and self-worth. He criticizes content creators who focus on doom and gloom, arguing that they should offer solutions rather than just highlighting problems. The speaker also addresses the impact of certain personalities, like Pearl, and the need for more positive and solution-oriented role models.
🗣️ The Importance of Self-Acceptance and Growth
The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and personal growth, especially for men who feel lost or lonely. Nuke discusses his military experience and the loneliness he witnessed among young men, advocating for a more compassionate approach to helping them navigate relationships and life. He also criticizes the focus on 'red meat' content that offers no real solutions, urging for more constructive dialogue.
🗣️ The Challenge of Breaking Covert Contracts
Nuke discusses the difficulty of breaking covert contracts and the emotional work required to do so. He shares personal experiences where he had to let go of expectations and accept the reality of situations, such as when a casual relationship continued to be just that, despite his initial disappointment. The speaker encourages men to be outcome-independent and to enjoy the present moment.
🗣️ Embracing Imperfection and Learning from Experience
The speaker talks about embracing imperfection and learning from personal experiences, whether they involve relationships or self-improvement. Nuke emphasizes the importance of not letting societal expectations or the fear of judgment dictate one's actions. He encourages men to enjoy the journey of self-discovery and to be open to the lessons that each experience brings.
🗣️ The Power of Self-Reflection and Change
Nuke concludes by discussing the power of self-reflection and the ability to change one's perspective on life and relationships. He stresses the importance of breaking free from societal pressures and expectations, and the need to find one's own path. The speaker also encourages men to be solution-oriented and to seek out content that promotes personal growth and self-improvement.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Covert Contracts
💡Disillusionment
💡Communication
💡Expectations
💡Outcome Independence
💡Self-Improvement
💡Nice Guy Syndrome
💡Red Pill
💡Game
💡Paternity Question
💡Forgiveness
Highlights
Discussion on 'covert contracts' and their impact on dating and life, based on Dr. Robert Glover's concept.
A covert contract is an unspoken agreement that one believes exists without communication or consent from the other party.
The importance of recognizing and addressing covert contracts to avoid disillusionment in relationships.
Public disclosure of covert contracts can lead to misunderstandings and negative perceptions.
Strategies for dealing with covert contracts include clear communication of expectations and outcome independence.
The role of self-awareness in identifying and breaking covert contracts that hinder personal growth.
How societal and cultural factors can contribute to the formation of covert contracts.
Examples of covert contracts in dating, such as expecting a committed relationship without clear communication.
The impact of covert contracts on self-esteem and the perception of self-worth in relation to romantic interests.
The misconception that external achievements like wealth or physical fitness guarantee romantic success.
The role of forgiveness in letting go of past mistakes and covert contracts that no longer serve us.
The influence of social media on perceptions of self-worth and covert contracts related to romantic relationships.
The idea that covert contracts can be both limiting and liberating, depending on one's perspective and approach.
The importance of aligning one's actions with reality rather than with the expectations set by covert contracts.
How covert contracts can lead to bitterness and resentment when unmet, and the need for emotional maturity to handle such situations.
The potential for covert contracts to be broken in a healthy way, leading to personal growth and better relationship dynamics.
Final thoughts on the necessity of self-improvement and self-awareness in navigating the complexities of covert contracts.
Transcripts
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thank you
hey guys what's up uh it's nuke here
again
um
here with another uh episode of
um
you know just live
just talking just talking you know
um so I'm one of these more often I got
more time so I'm going to be dropping
these as much as I can
um
but yeah today we're going to talk about
a covert contracts and
probably hurt you
not only in dating but in life in
general just dealing with people and and
dealing with life and why people feel so
disillusioned and how it just slows you
down in life and then how also
people think that when you when you
publicly tell people that you've broken
a covert contract or you've gotten over
or or recognized a covert contract
um
um they feel they see that you're like
they see you as nihilistic bitter or
just have having given up right so
um the people of the definition of code
for contract which I think was coined by
Dr Robert Robert Glover
who is the right who is the author of
Nora Mr Nice Guy which is a great book
by the way so basically a covert
contract is an agreement that you
believe exists even if you have not
actually communicated it to your partner
or gotten their commit their consent and
that's that's in the in the view of a
relationship
um so
yeah and it doesn't have to be with the
person it could be with yourself or the
world something that you just
an agreement or a deal or if then
statement you have in your head that you
think if I do this I will guaranteed get
this even though I haven't said it to
anyone it's just in my head right
let me just uh
put up some chats here
um CD bear says I am so ready for this
topic yes good
um and if you guys if I you know I don't
have a background psychology so if I say
something correct or
um or no I don't make sense on you guys
can even explain something let me know
um so we have
tadio Velasquez says this is a bigger
you can start the chain you can't start
to change unless you see what's wrong
those damn covert contracts are often
invisible to you but not others exactly
um
that's why they're so dangerous and they
really trip you up and and can ruin
can ruin you for a long time
um Jack says what's up Jack nuke mod me
hello yes also I refuse to be Griffith
in this relationship ah so you've chosen
to be uh guts
and yes I just modded you Jack
Daniel says don't mod Jack he'll abuse
his power uh we'll see
um yes Jack has received his mod Powers
you know I've I've made him a mod so
uh thanks man I I was gonna work out
today but
um I decided to rest and then tomorrow
I'll hit it I try my best get ready for
the summer
um all right so let's get into it so
basically
um
cover contract is just an agreement if
like an if then statement you make
and it can be you know in a
relationships in to the world the person
you know
um stuff like that and the thing is the
crazy thing about is that no one knows
about this except you and you assume
that that the rest of the world or you
know
uh know about it so
you get kind of like people are like why
didn't they understand what I wanted I
mean I I made the agreement how come
they're not because you didn't
um communicate it so a lot of times what
happens is uh the other the SEC another
party Acts
a certain way
and then you feel mad but that you you
they're allowed to do that because they
never
um
you know they didn't know about what you
wanted right
so
let me see what else we got here
I had it open
so how do you deal with covert contracts
basically
you have to assert your needs and
express them clearly whether it be to a
person to yourself to an institution
um and there's only two ways out of a
covert contract right there is you know
going out and communicating the the
covert or uh the contract or sorry your
expectations to someone
um like if you're
in a relationship
um with someone whether it be romantic
you know brother sister mother father
what you want and what you need right
and if they don't if they're not on
board then you're gonna you have to
change the relationship
or
um
or it's gonna end and you know it may
you may not want it to end but it's
better to end now rather than later when
when the contract is broken and you have
nothing to go to go off of and this is
extremely dangerous when you're dating
women
um as a guy because a lot of guys have
covert contracts and that's why they
just suck at dating and they suck at
dealing with women and they're bitter
and they have to go on uh Twitter and
just you know kind of try to reinforce
that covert contract over and over again
not realizing that like hey maybe you
know
um
maybe you should start making cover
contracts and start being in reality you
know and then the second way is to
um
what was it a second way it was too
completely un unlink yourself from the
outcome of the contract that you make in
your head and that is where a lot of
people don't like the idea or the notion
of certain things in the red pill and in
dating that they just can't accept
because they they don't want to tell the
girl what they expect because you know
it's unsexy or it looks needy and stuff
like that which I understand but they
also they don't want to divest
themselves of the outcome and that's
where they have this like weird gray
area I can give you an example of this
right like an example would be
um assume she's promiscuous but don't
obsess right a lot of guys don't like
that they don't like the fact that you
see every girl as promiscuous or [ __ ] as
you know you know for the streets but
the thing is
you have to see them that way
um because you're trying to break the
covert contract that hey if a girl
likes mirrors into me or I like a girl
you know she has to be Chast for me
and she has to be only for me and she
doesn't know that no one else knows that
only you think that so if you pre
prematurely think every girl's
promiscuous you're saving yourself a lot
of pain and a lot of uh you know
um
disappointment
um by just enjoying the moment and and
realizing that hey this girl could this
girl
could very much be promiscuous
and that brings a whole new set of
problems but if I find out it's okay I
will proceed with the relationship in a
different manner
you know
um I won't try to hop into a
relationship with her or I won't have to
you know lie to myself later and then
get hurt down down the road realizing
like oh my covert you know in my mind I
thought she was a little angel but here
I am
you know falling for this girl and she's
you know she's rotating men or she has
she's seeing other men you know or
simply you know there's other terrible
ways men find out that
um
you know that women are promiscuous you
know whether it be through STDs whether
it be through pregnancy from other men
which is the main reason why men don't
innately want to be in a relationship
with the promiscuous woman is because
the paternity question right
um
but if you assume a girl is promiscuous
in the beginning it saves you a lot you
start using protection more you may say
uh no this girl's a little you know
things are off you'll start to be able
to observe her bad behaviors more
because you don't have the veneer or you
have you don't you're not projecting the
good girl image on her so you can see
her more for what she is and you can
enjoy the moment you know you don't have
expectations relationships are so much
better when you don't have expectations
of a person especially in your own head
that no one that she doesn't know
right
so
um
yeah that's that's basically you know
like uh and there's there's three main
covert contracts according to Robert
Glover
um so let me see I have him here
um and and the basically the three
um
covert contracts right
are uh
uh if I'm a good person I will be
liked and loved right if I meet every uh
if I meet everyone else everyone else's
needs without having to ask then they
will not meet uh they will meet mine
right
um if I do everything right then I will
have a problem-free life right and you
see how problematic those statements can
be especially when you're dealing with
the opposite sex and they they ruin guys
and and what you see a lot of like
um
out there in the world in terms of like
you know celebrities
um
celebrities
uh
you're you know even your own family
members girls girl relationships with
you where a lot of times
um you had this thing in your head about
like how a girl should be or how things
should be because in your mind you've
said you've made an if then statement
and then you know there's so many and
there's so many covert contracts that
we've had as a as a guy developing into
your
into the man
you know as you in your self-improvement
journey right Every Man Has a
self-improvement journey there's going
to be a lot of covert contracts that
were told to you in the beginning that
maybe someone who's gone through the
Journey or someone who who grew up in a
different time and dealt with women in a
different era or time or someone who
uh maybe it's a different social class
different race grew up in a different
country
um they excuse me
um they will teach you these things
right and they become covert contracts
for example one of them is excuse me
one of them is like if you get if you
get jacked and you get big in the gym
you'll get girls like it is it's like an
if then statement right
um and you'll you know and that's why a
lot of guys will get jacked and go to
the gym which is great that is really
the best thing the best first step is
going to the gym getting for anyone
doesn't matter what gender background
you have to stay in shape there's no
choice
um but
um it's not it's not a button you push
where like you you reach 225 bench all
of a sudden you get girls like and that
and that's that covert contract where
it's not supposed to like be a button
where like hey I can deadlift 405 or I
can bench press 225 where are my women
you know and and the lifting Community
the gym Community makes fun of this a
lot in in the
uh on certain memes where like they say
what I expect what I thought lifting
would bring me and it shows like a
jacked guy with several by women and
then what I what I really got and it's
like a jackass or I know my dudes asking
him advice which is funny because you
know that's it's good that you make fun
of your own covert contracts and you get
over it right but that's just that's a
very popular uh covert contract for men
that are like self-improvement is that
if I get jacked I will get women
automatically like I'll walk to the
beach or I'll walk I'll walk into a
supermarket and I will say though as
time goes on me being in shape is giving
me more and more rewards but very slowly
but it is very it is noticeable like
every day I realize that the country is
getting fatter and people care less and
that men that are jacked have a V taper
um and are not awkward there's a lot of
gym cells out there are becoming more
and more attractive simply because
there's just less and less people that
are in shape every day right
all right we got a
Valerie thong says it's a shame most red
pill guys don't know about Robert Glover
he's one of our best scientists yeah
he's his book is is really good I
recommend you guys read it um it really
is that part of the red pill where you
guys start breaking
these cover contracts this nice guy
syndrome
um and and you really it's like a lot of
people either read him and then forget
or don't read them and then they don't
even know you could see it Meal Time
these little covert contracts they have
either the way they tweet or make
content
um and you don't you realize like
um no man that's not how it works
um and then in terms of self-improvement
for men like there's a like make money
and then you'll have women
um and I'm like yeah
um of course you want to make more money
a curse you want to accrue status of
course you want to become more charming
and and better looking and all that
stuff right but I think what happens is
that a lot of people do the
self-improvement part
and they think that they get entitled
where like hey I'm jacked hey I have
money hey I have a career hey I'm this
hey I'm dead I'm six feet six five
whatever you know
um I'm 5'8 but I'm Jack five nine this
and and then they and then they get
rejected by a girl when they when they
reach all these things and if one single
girl and that's all it takes for them to
become bitter and angry because they
made that cover contract where if I do
all these things I will get the girl and
every single girl I I like will will
like me and and the and that's the
problem that a lot of these guys that
attack me and attack the red pill and
attack is that they can't they are
terrified they're absolutely terrified
that if they put in all this work and
they they do all this stuff over the
years right and you know they get these
little clicks on Twitter like oh we're
all jacked and Rich Bros and and uh you
know we travel around the world and
we're just so cool and we're like a
mafia whatever bull crap which isn't
true because you know but
um they're afraid that some guy with
half the money you know and half the
looks or whatever you know comes up and
takes and gets the women that they have
worked their whole life to achieve with
just a little bit of time and Charisma
that's why a lot of them hate
game or hey just charm
um because at the end of the day
you know
that's something that every man has to
see where they you know
it's you can very well be the best
in the environment you're at you can be
the tallest guy at the at the club you
can be the best dancer at Salsa night
right you can be the
you know you could be whatever you know
wherever you're at in life you can be
the best at your job right
um but that does not guarantee you
the best girl right you will have to
understand that it's all a matter of
chance and probability
right it is not it is not a guarantee
and I think a lot of the guys that that
are like status only in game forget game
forget everything else what they want is
that they want that sure thing
um because if you've invested in either
idea or a thought your whole life and
then someone else tells you hey this is
not true
because this then you know they'll call
you a liar and all this stuff and I know
for a fact and it's you know it's easy
in college I was getting a lot of female
attention why is that I wasn't you know
super jacked or or as Charming as I am
now or you know I was it was like 12
years ago right but it was just because
there was a lot of women around me
you know there was no social media was
barely starting there's a lot of women
around me so the chances were that hey
uh I was gonna get a lot of female
attention
right so you fast forward fast forward
now I get about the same
um just not you know from young 19 year
olds right because of the environment
but what does that teach me that teaches
me that it's not only about if I if I
work out and if I make money and if I
have status and if I have a follower
account if I'm an influencer I'll get
women it's also things outside of my
control like I can't go to a college
campus right now I'll be creepy sit in
you know sit in there in the square and
just wait for women to come up to me and
tell me good morning and how are you and
let's go study you know that's not a
thing and that's something out of my
control so now I understand that yes I
have to do these things in order to
increase the probability but there are
no guarantees there every single girl is
not going to say yes to me
uh
Billy Buster says Will Smith is taller
and more jacked than Tupac how's that
work for him
yeah very true
um
I try not to use celebrity as an example
but yeah
um that's another thing where people
make covert contracts with outside of
themselves and then when when that
representation of the Cobra contract in
celebrities real life family breaks you
know they just you know they they go
into a kernel panic they don't know what
to do
tadio Velasquez says I think the anger
and frustration are the key you can't
you can pretend your entitlements don't
exist but the frustration appears to
show you you are not getting what you
want yeah and for the guys that are like
um
smarter and more self-aware you can
catch yourself and that's the beauty of
it you can catch
um
you can catch yourself
um
when you're like in a covert contract
you're just like because you could feel
that frustration but you also feel like
you haven't told the other person
anything
right
um like for example when a lot of when
guys find themselves with a girl that
they like and the girl just wants them
for casual
uh sex and and they're like why is she
seeing other men I should be a man
enough for her and then you realize like
oh in my head I wanted a commitment
and exclusivity but she doesn't know
that she thinks we're just partying
having fun so you see how now you can
catch yourself and be like okay well
here are my choices
I can risk I can risk saying hey
I don't like that you're seeing other
guys let's be serious uh let's be
let's be monogamous with me and that's
not a really good choice because within
a relationship the man usually should
not ask for a relationship
right the woman should be the one
uh asking for a relationship and that's
you know basic game advice so really
that only leaves you the choice of
um really outcome Independence really
demoting her to a plate and being like
okay well I understand what this girl is
if she wanted to be in a relationship
with me she would and then you keep her
there until one day she starts acting
like a girlfriend which usually when a
girl usually starts out with you as you
know just for fun
um usually it's like she just broke up
with her boyfriend show or something
like that you know and
you have to really you have to accept
like hey some girls really don't want a
relationship
they just want to have fun you know like
the song Girls Just Want to Have Fun
uh okay CJs says I feel like we make
cover contrast because we can't face the
reality of the situation it's a security
blanket do you think it comes from bad
parents wanting their attention if
you're losing them you know I don't know
I think the nice guy stuff really comes
from parents
um
nice girl nice guy stuff because a lot
of I think a lot of nice guys the people
who had those three
um main covert contracts is that they
were they've just they were taught that
in order to feel loved and appreciated
they had to do for others so if they do
for others maybe Mom and Dad would
appreciate me and love me and that was
the expectation I think that's for the
nice guys I think that's how he
explained it correct me if I'm wrong
though
uh
they are most likely a future of human
psychology yeah I'm interested you know
maybe I should maybe I should dive
deeper into the why but yeah there is
there is some covert contracts that are
and super innate to the humans uh humans
uh you know ability you know for
survival and I think it makes sense like
for example if I come to a tribe A group
of men a group of group of people and I
say hey if I work hard for this tribe
you know like a new job you know or
joining the military or
um joining a a family when you get
married if I work hard and do good for
these people they will accept me and see
me as useful and then eventually we
could take care of each other that's a
covert contract that humans have
that is innate to each other obviously
does it always work out no but I think
that's a good one knowing that you have
to when you're entering a situation
um that say Hey if I want to get
accepted by these people if I want to
get looked at I have to work hard and
does it always work out no but for the
most part it does which is and I think
that's a normal covert contract and if
and if that cover contract's broken it's
okay it's not like you should beat
yourself up it's something that is
pretty much
irrational to think you know
um and
I'm gonna call you ants would you
consider yourself a very pragmatic
person if so were you always this way
um
no I wasn't always pragmatic I was more
like as a kid I had a lot of masking
bravado I thought that I was you know
special and that the world revolved
around me you know normal kid stuff but
as time went on in order to solve my
problems I found that
um
um being extremely pragmatic and let
emotion be an afterthought
um was the best but now as I get older I
realize that motion has its place in
making my decisions and you know here's
the thing that has helped me
um especially when my covert contracts
were broken I was pissed and angry I
learned to forgive myself because
I think
one of the hardest parts you know and I
made a video a video about this one of
the hardest parts of being a guy
especially these days is that no one
wants you to forgive yourself they want
you to carry every single mistake you've
made with women with everything in your
life they want you to carry that and
make it part of who you are and your
brand or whatever you run for the rest
of your life
you know so if you if you got
embarrassed by a woman once in your life
and someone finds out that's who you are
you could be the best
in the best womanizer on Earth you could
be like Troy Francis but if if someone
finds out that you got blown out by a
girl and you were sad and depressed for
six months or three months and you cried
in public or whatever but now you're you
fixed it and you and you improved and
now you're great and you're the best
um
now people's you know you as a guy have
to understand that like people people
are mean and they want to put you in
that box that you were back in the day
but realize like you've already grown
and pushed yourself past that and one of
the best ways to push yourself past a
bad situation in your life or a mistake
you made
um or it's just simply forgive yourself
and put yourself in your older self
shoes and be like hey I didn't have the
tools or the knowledge or the maturity
to have taken that situation and made it
better I did what I thought was best in
that moment and did I learn from it yes
and now I move on it's part of growing
up and you know there's there's feelings
of guilt there's feelings of I should
have done better and a lot of times
um especially
um dating women in this in that don't
like the red pill they
they're really Savage and this is how
they manipulate men and [ __ ] with men by
you know RNA guilt and or a native in
our inability to forgive ourselves among
when we experience our own incompetence
right like so you have a woman say a
girl didn't doesn't like you it's
because you weren't good enough I'm like
are you serious
I'm not good enough
what do you mean I'm not good enough
nuke isn't good enough like good enough
for who
so a girl doesn't want to give me sex
I'm suddenly not good enough for that
girl who is that girl I don't even know
her
you know you know what I'm saying that
sounds
that I'm not good enough for a person
well that isn't you know this isn't like
a job interview where like I present my
resume first you know VP of the company
and I just started you know good enough
just basically means to them is a tactic
they use to to use men's innate innate
guilt
um and
our ability to beat ourselves up when
we're not good enough against us so you
know that that's just it's it's really
silly
uh
that's pretty cool name of saksa the
relationship is the girls dude exactly
um and hey that's a strange covert
contract to be in right if you guys have
any good covert contracts let me know in
the chat we could talk about them but
um yeah and when you're in that
situation like I was saying where you
got a girl that doesn't like
she's not bringing up the relationship
she's you know and oftentimes it'll be
very confusing for her for a guy for the
first time dealing with women that don't
want to be in a relationship and he's
used to girls you know constantly needle
needle nickel or needling him or poking
him for a relationship it can be a a
mind [ __ ] you know you have a girl that
shows up when you want
um you have a girl that's sexually is
giving you everything you have a girl
that sends you nudes you have a girl
that you know
um respects you deeply
you know you have all these things that
uh
uh a girl's doing right and
and you think why didn't she want to be
a relationship with me and you gotta
understand female nature is that when
you're with a girl like that in a casual
relationship but she doesn't want to be
with you she sees you as a super fun
exciting guy and she wants to do all
these things out of you not because love
or future or she's trying to put you in
a she just wants to have fun and you
have to understand that about women
right
Billy Buster says when I go to college
bars have you tried it uh yeah there's a
couple of uh bars on the street here
where it kind of caters to the local
University
and the local universities are kind of
very expensive kind of like
uh University where you know more
affluent people are people with uh
scholarships good scholarships go to
um but no I usually
um
I don't know I usually go to places
when you're in a big city there's bound
to be young women everywhere you know
um but that place it's it's loud it's
it's very clicky you know like I haven't
I haven't gone to a college bar maybe I
should try it but
I'll try it maybe
CJs says that makes sense being trained
to given to give in order to receive
love leads to covert contracts
what's the alternative should be should
we be gaming every relationship career
family and just bring good feels uh yeah
like I said the only way out of it of of
a covert contract that you've made in
your head if you're in one and you don't
know it or you're starting to realize
that holy crap is to divest yourself of
the outcome basically hey I gotta stop
trying to get something out of this I
gotta do it because I want to do it or
do it because and then do it for the
moment you know or explain it to the
other person what you want
and you know that's your choice often
telling a girl
who's having fun with you and having the
time of her life with you what you want
is going to chase her away because she's
going to remember when you're in a
casual relationship with a girl
she's in it because she's free and fun
and she can be a [ __ ] and she can be who
she wants to be without any of the
responsibility and attachment
of being with a man like she could be
like she can you know and I have this
all the time where I have women that are
just super like want to be around me
acting like a girlfriend but they also
want to be free and be able to go to the
club when they want and be able to
you know because also when women were
are with a fit guy right a guy who goes
to the gym they also feel that pressure
where they're like oh you know his
lifestyle and all that stuff but now if
you have a girl that's casual she can
you know tell you oh yeah I go to the
gym I'm going to the gym today and then
the same day eat like a half a pizza
because they don't have to worry about a
man telling them you know there's a lot
of things that come with a woman being
in a relationship that we don't really
think about but they think about molding
themselves to you and how they're going
to fit in your life and a lot of times
um for women that it you're like their
first Alpha you know uh you know I don't
want to call myself that but you know
you're the first guy that like tells
them no you're the first guy that or is
has decent game and charms them you're
the first guy that takes them home on
the first night and they don't even know
how that happened
um you're the first guy that you know
maybe gives there's a lot of women that
have never had an orgasm and you may
very well be the first guy who gave it
to or gave it to them record time or
simply you just
um you know like the race thing I was
talking about maybe
she wanted to experience a latino man
for fun and then she found out that
you're everything that she wanted and
she stuck around simply because women
don't think in that long term they think
in the right now they think
um man I had a good time last Saturday
with this guy
I don't really want to be a relationship
I just want to have fun and enjoy myself
and I'll say the relationship for a more
stable guy which is you know the beta
bucks but anyway yes I got off on a
Tanger but yes
Randy Morgan says you consider sneako
your personal arrival no I don't why why
is that even brought up
Randy Morgan says if a girl doesn't like
you that means she's not good enough
yeah I think that's a good mental model
I think the best mental model when a
girl doesn't like you when I say doesn't
like you does that mean initially like
first meeting
or does it mean like like you for a
relationship you know we should probably
understand what like you means
there's probably a lot of girls that are
willing to have sex with you and they
hate your guts but just because you know
women's hate and love don't really
aren't really opposites
I've noticed it coming when they use is
you're not worth my time are you talking
about women to men or men to women
ah CJs covert contract I was in was
being guilted into becoming friends with
an ex I beat myself up that I could have
done better only to give her the
benefits if you have yes she treated me
like a friend oh man I'm sorry that's
that friends with X stuff that's why as
soon as the relationship ends you walk
away you remove all attention she's
basically dead to you you know and the
only way she can come back is through
sex but yeah I'm glad you learned man
I think it happens to the best of us
bull Russ what's up man how you doing uh
a few years back I had to cut a girl
loose because she wanted to move in
after explicitly telling her initially
in the relations that I would never
agree to that
um
yeah she she made her covert contract
even though you told her not to because
a lot of women think they can just
bypass men's rationality and boundaries
with you know being
with different ways right but as a man
your boundaries your frame is all there
is so good on you bull rush
um 90 says medium is a message if she
enjoys fun but with you it doesn't seem
interesting and more than that that's
the message yeah and a lot of guys
I'll tell you this much a lot of guys
say that's awesome you know but it if
you have if you're a type of guy that's
never experienced that or you just have
a lot of these Clover contracts
um
in your head
about what what you have to be to be
attracted to women and secure her
Chastity you know make her vagina only
yours
um it's gonna [ __ ] with you and you're
not gonna you're gonna be pretty like
dumbfounded right
um so yeah just medium is a message if
you're
um if you're in a type of relationship
that you know you're wondering why this
girl isn't you know begging for or like
disappearing for a week at a time and
coming back or two weeks at a Time
coming back then just say hey man like
if she wanted a relationship she'd be
there
CJs says man this podcast is absolutely
gold thank you for doing this gotta go
good night all right man have a good
night CGS
um you can I guess catch the rest of it
tomorrow you uh sleep well
Billy Buster you're not hers it was just
your turn yeah I've heard that flipped I
don't know about that mental motto is
good or not but if it works for you man
it'd do it
and I can vouch for bull rush he's a top
dog yeah bull rush is one of ours
um all right so yeah
I forgot where I was before I dressed
these super chats
um or sorry Super Chat see I'm already
projecting my covert contract on you
guys
um uh chats right but uh you know like I
said there's the three and
I will say I like to use examples
especially on Twitter because Twitter is
a really cool place where you get to see
people's insecurities in
uh in in real time right and I think the
biggest covert contract that we're
seeing right now for you guys that are
like actively posting and seeing what
the [ __ ] show is especially with Rollo
right now in his tweet is exactly that
is that what a high value man is and
what it gets you right and that here's
here's how stupid this is there's a lot
of men that think and women you know
and women weren't an opportunistic way
where they think if I have a kid then
I'm a man of Worth or I'm a high value
man because I have a family I hold
values right so who's covert contract
recently got broken and that if you are
a Christian Catholic man if you wait
till marriage if if you go to church and
if you're you know you'll get promised a
beautiful life with kids and you're a
real patriarch and you don't have to
learn game or anything like that like
those red pill guys whose covert
contract just got broken
Stephen Crowders right
so
um and I like the guy I've always liked
Steven Crowder I've never like been like
super
uh
uh like conservative in that movement I
mean maybe I was maybe 2016 but so was
everyone but um
I liked I thought that guy was funny I
thought you know he was funny I like you
know obviously arguing with college
students isn't the coolest thing in the
world but to see all the college
students going to Colonel panic when he
would argue with them was funny he was
he was an entertainer right
um but then like you know they all these
all these conservatives they preach that
if you get married with their ideals and
under God and all that stuff
um then
you know and then you'll have a perfect
marriage and you don't have to do the
heavy lifting of learning game using
dread
um
outcome Independence like if my girl
leaves me yeah it's gonna suck but I'm a
man and my my whole value isn't like how
how making women happy you know making
my woman happier staying with me that's
not my brand that's not who I am as a
person right so
um yeah that cover Contra is is being
broken in real time and you see and then
see instead of them
saying oh I'm praying for both they're
actually attacking Stephen Crowder
because they don't want
they don't want someone they don't want
their little fantasy of hey if I get
married with these values and under God
and go to church and all that stuff
that maybe it could very well not
guarantee the life that I wanted
you know so
or the life that's been promised to me
so that's you know that's an example in
like in in the Twitter sphere what is
going on
um
and Rolo just basically tested their
their covert contract saying that you
can't the fastest way to do something
is you know is to not have children
respecting all that stuff but everyone
doesn't like that because it cuts it it
really proves that they're covered con
or they have a covert contract with
themselves saying if I do this it's the
if them semen if I love if I'm religious
and I love God which there's nothing
wrong with that you know
um
then I will be married and happy and I
don't have to ever worry about making my
woman happier inter gender or
intersexual Dynamics or anything like
that and you could see this in another
podcast a couple months ago when uh
coach Greg Adams whatever you think of
him um he said something that really
messed up her fees in that uh and that
a debate and the debate was
coach Greg Adams all he said was like
there is no God in modern relationships
right and that that statement was Heavy
during the show like you could tell that
when it was dropped
um
you could tell that it really kind of
like hit the nerve like I could tell
even from looking at a screen I could
tell that when coach Greg Adams said
that there is no God of modern
relationships and you know you can argue
that coach gray Adams was kind of a
bitter guy who just got divorced got it
you know whatever you think of him right
but that statement was really what cut
to him because imagine you you invested
in this idea where hey God is the one
guiding my relationship and you know we
have this this thought that recently
said that like red pill is gay and and
um what do you call it red pill is gay
and then you have to pray for a wife or
whatever in this crazy insane but when
he said that he's basically again he's
cutting to that covert contract where if
I'm if I'm a Godly religious man then I
will get a or get a wife you know and
you could see it in many different
examples
right and I've tweeted I tweeted
recently I think it was a month ago
about this situation where you know I
was seeing a girl casually and
and it was great it was like the best
casual relationship I had because
it was
the best casual relationships are the
one where you
when you're with them you feel like
you're in a relationship when they're
away you're not focusing and thinking
about them you know they bring their
best behavior and their best self to you
and when they leave you you don't even
know they're bad parts you don't see any
of their bad parts you think and that's
that can get tricky because you know you
start thinking oh well maybe she's like
this all the time and maybe you know and
that's the male brain and all that stuff
right but then one day I opened my hinge
profile because I was still actively
dating right of course and I saw her on
like the hinge standouts like you know
attractive 24 year old girl
um
um I liked her a lot she was pretty hot
to me
um no I don't think she was hot enough
to be on hinge you know she probably
messed with the photos but
I or a hinge stand out but I saw one of
her pictures I took of her on a night
out
on her profile that I took of her
and she had just left my place
a week ago so when I saw that I'm like
it's over like she's never gonna speak
to me again right so that covert
contract right there I didn't know I had
it it was really deep but I was like oh
snap I thought that if I did everything
right and trust me I'm not you know this
girl we we were pretty
um
let's just say we were pretty invested
each other in the bedroom you know and
we've never given each other grief it
was like a very chill relationship
and we we had you know we had lots of
fun let's just I'm gonna say that and I
felt like this girl was really giving it
a role I just that's just gonna say
about that but when I saw that picture I
was like it's over like she's done with
me
so the only thing I could do
a lot of guys are like no you have to
like confront her blah blah blah and
then the smarter guys were like hey man
you just take it you look at it and
realize like hey
you had fun you have to slowly walk away
or like you or just stay quiet about it
don't talk about it and you know what
happened I divested my you know I wasn't
super excited but I I divested myself of
the outcome I said if I confront her
about this she's going to end I'm going
to lose a good thing right so what I did
is just said hey I'm gonna act like I
never happened when she comes up on my
hinge I'm going to press X
um or you know I screenshotted it
um I'm gonna press X
and all that stuff and then as I
continue to see her every two weeks
and the sex got really good
you know really really good and she's a
hinge standout that means like she's
probably had getting roses and super
likes all day
right but
I continued to get it for just you know
I would just go out pay thirty dollars a
drink so she would come over I'd get
pizza and then we'd have a good time and
there are guys probably try to offer her
200 dates just to see her and I'm all I
had to do was divest myself for the
outcome right and that's difficult for a
lot of guys to do but simply I just said
hey there's only two ways out of this
and one way is almost a guarantee that
I'll never see her again and the way
it's gonna suck but hey
it it's the fact that she doesn't like
me for a relationship I have to really
look the other way and I did and it was
awesome because
she became pretty cool girl and then you
know we uh she left me a couple months
ago or she stopped seeing me a couple
months ago but I got so much out of that
relationship afterwards I just didn't
get the Chastity you know so it is what
it is guys
um I mean there's a
Ken wins Pearl Sting She Tried to
humiliate Rolo nook's the only one that
who can take her down huh you guys think
so
um
I don't know if I'm ever to be ready to
be in the spotlight
um
I don't really have that much of an
opinion on
Pearl but I think
[ __ ] I think
that
the brand of of making men
feel
like they're heard or seen is a very
strong powerful brand right especially
for guys that haven't accepted their
burden of performance or especially for
guys that really are lost and she
doubled down on that
and I can tell you right now the
demographic
the second biggest demographic besides
women to sell things to
especially entertainment is lonely
broken men
right
um I have I can have a whole show on
this
and you gotta understand guys I was in
the military and I served and I I served
a lot of guys that were
um 20 21 22 well I was like 28 getting
out you know I was about to finish my
career and I saw the day-to-day lives of
these young guys and their inability to
get laid and then the things they would
tell that there was a guy that
um was said that he was going to save
himself into a marriage and I knew that
he's just saying that
because he couldn't get laid in the
beginning
um there was you know there were guys
that
didn't that would show me their problems
with women and the moment they'd be
attached to or want to like make a move
on
or some of the most like non-attractive
not even physically just like
they just didn't look like the type of
girls that they should be getting with
right
um
so
I you get over time I get I get this
feeling of just like compassion
with younger guys and this loneliness
that they feel
so that and that is my biggest crutch
when dealing with guys that I am tough
on people in my personal life like my
friends I'm tough on them when they
break when they act stupid they do dumb
stuff but like
the way that like
in a roundabout way we tell men how
terrible things are constantly and that
it's hope like we don't tell them it's
hopeless but we kind of infer that it's
hopeless like the street interviews you
see where guys go up to drunk women
outside of a club you know and ask them
these egregious crass
stupid questions
um and guys are bombarded by that all
day if you know because guys you know
they're on their phone or on their
internet
um and then you have
these creators were all their only thing
they offer is
is Doom and Gloom right which has its
place you know you have to get into a
place of dumagloop temporarily right but
when I see these content creators do
that stuff I'm like okay well what's the
solution
we can't just say it sucks forever we
have to find a we gotta like and that's
what the manosphere was before all this
it was like hey guys I have this problem
when you guys think and then you post it
Field Report or whatever guys are coming
I have the similar problems this is what
I did this work this didn't work right
and then
you'd find a way through but like now
we're just stuck here we're just like
women bad in their [ __ ] and all that
stuff and we just there's no way through
and we're just stuck here
and and we're trying to like
the the money is so good
guys are you know like I was watching
the whatever podcast for a very short
time because I couldn't I can't do that
anymore it it grinds my gears and I know
Rolo and Michael and all those people
and uh Justin while we're on you know
and they're three rational guys
um but like just seeing guys dropping
hundreds a hundred dollars and this is
no offense against whatever podcast but
seeing guys drop fifty dollars a hundred
dollars just to tell these girls that
they're they ain't [ __ ] or they're [ __ ]
or they don't understand what they're
getting themselves into over time
and I'm just like
why are you spending your hard-earned
money
right just to say that
and that's what these this this brand is
you know it isn't about helping guys
it's just it's like an influencer you
know
um
and that that stems from you having
never seen or worked with young guys and
see the the problems they go through
right I I during Fleet Week I took I
took the guys out
um a couple young guys and I took them
out and while we're we were there you
know they you know guys start looking up
to you after a couple years and and not
in the like oh teach us new teach us the
way it's more like they stick to you and
they they wanna they they want advice
and
um you know I'll have a story within
itself where you see
how desperate they are to just be
accepted and want a girl to like notice
them just one one girl right and
why not help those guys instead of just
telling them constantly that it's all
over you know and they become bitter
obviously everyone a good red pill rage
phase is good but it can be there
forever anyway I kind of went on a rant
there but
let me see where
Valerie says she's an arrogant cow if
nuke wants to mess with pearl glad we
pack them up nah I'm not gonna I'm not
gonna bite at the feet of a giant
um she's very successful and I don't
think I look good for me to just you
know with my small follower account
um to attack somebody but
um thanks Valerie I appreciate having
you on my side
office law says howdy guys what's up
Alpha what's going on
as men our egos get in the way of good
things yes they do our egos really mess
with us they really slow us down and and
part of that ego is are us projecting
our needs into the world without having
you know but because we think
I'm I'm amazing why don't people know
what I want or what I need can't they
see me and that's so that's so terrible
for you as a man
leaving your ego at the door will allow
you to have so much more fun right
exactly you have when I when I started I
left my ego in the door in 2021 when I
came here to Dallas and I said I'm gonna
have fun and I'm just going to do what
everyone else has to do that guys are
successful and I'm gonna enjoy myself
and that's exactly what happened
obviously it wasn't all sunshine and
rainbows I enjoyed myself and I learned
a lot and I'm here to talk to you guys
about it
um
I've been watching you're smarter than
you give credit himself then you give
himself credit for oh thank you
I don't know if that was for me but if
it was thank you
she put um 90 says she put some
religious dude she am yeah
um
yeah it's a common theme now for you
know she ambushing people
um
it's for clicks guys it's not meant to
to talk you know it's Eric click it's
we're in the click economy the the clout
economy where if you don't have you need
to do anything to get clicks likes and
all that stuff and if putting a
ridiculous guy like Nick Fuentes on
with someone who actually you know makes
sense is rational like Rolo
um that's an attack that's that should
be seen as an attack it's an ambush
right
um
but yeah totally
Valerie says I like Rolo but he brought
that one on himself he knew Pearl was a
snake and see a letter bite him yeah
um yeah I'm saying Rolo's just a good
guy like he's not I mean not good guy I
don't know him personally right but he
just
you know he's like he's like whatever he
he's not like a nefarious
forward-thinking evil person that wants
that has like an end goal he you know
um yeah that's the way I see it
bullruff says some of y'all getting
wrapped up in red meat cut that [ __ ] out
yeah uh but Ross is right like there's
nothing
you gotta understand that
you focus on the solutions focus on your
pro this is why you know I'm I'm a
pragmatist in terms of everything and
let emotion be kind of second place and
a lot of my friends don't like that and
a lot of people you know people don't
like that because they want to feel
something they want they want to know
how to feel rather than what to do right
if I'm
on a if I'm watching a show that tells
me women suck and they're impossible I'm
thinking okay so what do I have to do to
get the woman I want or and also like
what do I have to do and what do I do
and what should I like am I look look
man here's what I got to say
um
you have to find out first what you want
and it could be crazy like for me
personally I like I wanted to get
with as much woman as I could just for
fun I didn't think you know and then
within that
I started realizing like this is the way
to get the girl that I want because I
got good women that I dated
and I was like oh so this is what they
meant so it was like a learning process
but
throughout the whole dating thing I I
would watch fresh and Fit I would watch
these episodes red me and all that stuff
and it was fun and then I realized like
oh this is entertainment this is just
entertainment there's nothing in there
that tells me what to do
it's basically entertainment
the real stuff is in the books the blog
posts the trading notes with other guys
and all that stuff and that's where I
was able to like oh okay well this this
and that and that's why like when I
wrote that thread it like cut through a
lot of because it was like you know
there's a lot of red meat but I cut
through a lot of things where people
were like
you know
Oh I thought you had to be like a red
pill influencer to understand these
things like no dude just spend a year
dating normal regular women I say normal
regular I mean like women you see on
dating apps or stuff like that and you
realize like hey um
like obviously if you make yourself as
attractive as you can but like you're
gonna realize like a lot of the things
that men think about women are true or
are not or are true in different ways or
are not true at all and then
when you go out there and you see these
guys with their you know um opinions on
Twitter I might automatically know you
have no experience it's very obvious you
know it's very obvious you have no
experience right
Alpha says work on your own [ __ ] yes
bull rush ass lesson integral part of
the sexual ecosystem God bless them yeah
like like I said
um
[ __ ] have their like they've always had
even my father taught me this like they
have their purpose and they have their
their function obviously there's too
many I think you know that's my opinion
doesn't matter but I think there's too
many and I think they're influencing
good women but hey I can't I can't
control that
let's let's teach you a lot and [ __ ]
are fun you know and um
Here's a thought there are girls
that with
other guys they'll be super prude and
then with you
they're like
I want to try out all my fantasies with
you
right which would you rather be
and then once you get to that point
there's going to be girls that both want
to be in a relationship with you and
also want to be your [ __ ] just for you
that which is the best you know which is
one of the best outcomes right
um
so
yeah
and I'm going to tell you about another
covert contract on the women's side that
women have and this is the this is a
hilarious one right and I just saw this
one yesterday or today where I think it
was dates like that said
um the chat oh everyone thinks that
being a Chad is cool and like having you
know having that like
oh
there was a guy who tweeted
something about like a lot of girls are
bored on dates and they'll they'll text
him and he'll ask for extra food to for
her to bring to him right and then I
think dates like
um quote tweet it or copy paste it or
copy the Tweet a picture of the tweet
and said well you know it may being a
Chad is all cool is it's not as cool as
you think because these girls are also
[ __ ] a whole bunch of other guys and
everyone's in a rotation while [ __ ]
and I'm like yeah
um cool yeah but I think here's two
things right
feminized guys and women they have this
covert contract where if a if a Chad guy
yeah guys worked and we call it a guy
that's worked himself with game
confident aloof
um funny cool guy Everyone likes being
around him
is seeing a girl and I get and I used to
get this all the time especially younger
um then that girl must be an absolute
promiscuous super [ __ ] and she's banging
three dudes and it may very well be true
the chat does not care first off he does
not care right because they're
projecting their own insecurities on
onto the Chad like the Chad does not
care that Chad is just there to have fun
he can replace her in a day a week a
month whatever
um but to them
a chair that has fun and is sleeping
with another woman while that woman also
seeing other guys
it's like they're projecting their
insecurity that one day they'll meet a
woman that cheats on them because they
were they're not the chat right you see
what I'm saying it's kind of hard to
explain but and so that's why we're
um you know one day out of I was at one
of my military graduations in South
Carolina when I was graduating from
being a nuke
um and I brought an attractive girl that
I'm in a Plenty of Fish right this is
when dating apps were just barely taken
off I was a young man
um
and she was a hot brunette man like
super hot brunette and super sexy and I
brought her everyone was saying oh is
she a stripper dude
you bring a stripper to your graduation
I'm like no and she wasn't dressed she
was dressed like a normal girl she's
just sexy you know she's just sexy she's
a little booty a hot super hot brunette
and people were saying like oh [ __ ]
stripper and that's that same insecurity
that covert contract for them is like
there's no possible way
that a chad is sleeping with the girl
that multiple girls where they only want
to be with him and I'll tell you what
the reality is from my experience which
is vast is that there are some girls it
is entirely possible to have a rotation
of girls where they're all sleeping with
other men that isn't entirely possible
but it's also entirely possible where
you have one girl that's sleeping with
other men and two girls which are
waiting for you
or like are that want a relationship
with you
that is totally possible or there is no
like if a girl is with Chad she's a [ __ ]
that's what they're trying to say that's
that covert contract what and this is
the saddest part of like guys that like
and women they think this because they
don't want they don't want
to believe that the Chad is getting
women's Chastity and that's what they
want the most the Chad doesn't care you
think I care if I have a rotation of
three girls and one of them I'm not you
know by the time you get to that point
where you can have a rotation and be
healthy and and helpfully live your life
you you already passed the point where
you're like no they have to be for me
that's a beta way of thinking right and
I can tell you the last time I had a
rotation one of them didn't want to be
with me seriously she gave me everything
but a relationship one of them
was trying but she was traveling a lot
so I'm like she's trying but uh and the
other one was desperately trying to be
with me
and they were all my rotation and then a
fourth wanted to be with me but you know
due to her life circumstances she was a
single mom and all that stuff right so
you see how it's like a mixed bag it's
not like one or the other and that's
that covert contract that like beta guys
and insecure women put on guys that
actually work on themselves and want to
go out there and meet several women and
date like dude it is entirely possible
that every single girl you're seeing is
a super turbo [ __ ] and she's also
running a rotation of six guys or
whatever but it's also entirely possible
that it's both it's both right and
that's why that tweet is garbage you
know anyway
um more comments here
Alpha slot says Rolo can handle himself
ask yourself will this matter in 10
minutes 10 hours or 10 days you're
wasting your energy on silly on silly
soap opera BS yeah um
very good way of looking at office so I
think everyone was making good money
engagement he'll be fine
um you know the only thing you should
worry about is his family because now
I've you know I've seen dates where they
attack his family and you know the trads
and and the and the ethno nationalists
and all that now
um
those weirdos you know um they're
they'll they'll go after him because
that's all they have at this point
Rick James says can't stand that [ __ ]
take what you need and leave yeah
Valerie says nuke you never got to meet
Carl but he had some brilliant stuff
taught by experience who's Carl Carl
from Black Label logic
is that the guy
Jack Napier says we accept [ __ ] and
[ __ ] yeah they're they're great
they're amazing they're nice they hold
doors open for you they bring you snacks
um if you're lucky they bring you other
girls
um
they they're good for social proof
um yeah they're they're people man
they're just promiscuous and they don't
qualify for a relationship but they're
still fun and you know like they are
they're pretty awesome I don't know I
don't know what you know are you like if
you don't like [ __ ] and horror are you
religious I don't or did you get your
heart broken by one I can I can see that
but like you need to get over it and
realize like hey man
they're they're there for a reason and
they make life so much much so much
better
bulra says hell yeah Jack we take all
comers exactly like they're fun
blue rush says why do you care if you're
in a rotation if you're getting her best
sexual otherwise exactly like and then
when I wrote that tweet everyone like I
had like 80 percent of the guys people
were going crazy I think I had like 300
likes on that tweet and like 10 and
people attacking me like oh you're you
know you're not a man or you how can you
let that happen it's you know it's
because it's not first of all she's not
mine it's just my turn right and number
two I was getting the absolute best
sexually that I've ever gotten from a
like not even my girlfriends we would do
this stuff like she you understand guys
women love sex obviously there's got to
be a lot of things in place for her to
enjoy sex but like when you are to the
point where you don't judge women
um right she's in your frame you don't
you're not judging her you're you're
exclusively understand the situation
like this is for fun so you're like I
want to have fun with you you're both on
the same page you take her out tell her
hey wear a black dress don't wear any
underwear whatever crazy stuff you want
to tell her you go to the bar you dance
with her you you show her off to
everyone there's like a freedom there
that you guys really I mean not you guys
but like people have to understand that
there's something beautiful about like
going out with a [ __ ] chick or a chick
that doesn't want you for serious for a
serious relationship it's so fun right
not that going out with a girlfriend
isn't fun it's also very fun but like
there's something different about it and
then like
you have sex you have sex again and you
go home uh or you go home have sex and
then you wake up you bring your coffee
in bed she gives you a massage she walks
out the door boom you're back to your
real life instantly you have nothing to
worry about she's off into the world
right there's only one thing you have to
worry about and you just wrap up rep
wrap it up
um and then pay attention to her you
know her things down there make sure you
know there's no indication of venereal
diseases which is very rare
um and you're you know what you'll come
to find a lot of times
and this is crazy a lot of guys that are
like more bitter in Blackpool you may
well you may very well be
her whole face
you may be the guy and maybe she'll see
another guy and you know give them give
her give him a [ __ ] and all that
stuff but I've had times where you know
like people are like no they're in a
rotation too but like she's always
available for me 9 A.M 9 p.m 9 A.M hey
what are you doing oh I'm at home hey
can I stop by for a coffee yeah yeah
randomly like just an hour before
so it may very well be that I was the
only guy and that she put all of her
sexual and energy and interest in me
maybe she saw other guys inside maybe
she got caught up with the guy I know
she was kind of her ex was trying to get
back in the picture who the [ __ ] knows
not my problem but like when you're
getting your sexual best [ __ ] relax
and enjoy the moment you will be 10
times better for it
um
a lot of women like excuses about what a
real man is yeah it's it's the covert
contract that if I'm a real man my life
will be complete I'm like okay dude if I
stop drinking Bud Light my testosterone
will be higher and I'll save the country
I'm like okay
great
shaming tactics at their core yes
Jack real mandua fits my narrative yeah
guys especially this is the one that
affects young men the most I've seen
where they you know they really think
that if I settle down and and I follow
God
um and you see this on um
um on the whatever podcast where you see
these uh these young men that are
religious which you know I respect I
respect everyone's beliefs right but
there was one guy I was like I'm saving
myself to a marriage and I'm like what
is that gonna achieve
I I understand religious beliefs and all
that stuff right
but
if you think that that's gonna land you
a better quality girl then that's a
covert contract
right are you saving yourself for
marriage simply because that's what your
beliefs say then yes it's not a covert
contract you're following a rule you
know a physical rule that your your holy
book your Bible your Quran whatever is
saying you are following a rule that is
knock over a contract right covert
contract is I follow this Rule and I
will get 77 versions well I mean that's
actually belief but I'll I'll get a
virgin wife as long as I don't have sex
that is that is the covert contract and
that's a dangerous one right
uh
Valerie yeah Black Label logic yeah I
used to see him on uh on YouTube
um I think with uh Rolo and the guys
back in the day he never showed his face
right he was Anonymous and I think uh
Jack has uh narrates some of his content
um by the way guys I'll be putting a lot
of uh or Jack's plug-in Jack stuff into
my channel so if you don't first off
follow him if you don't already you
probably do already
um but
yeah
um I think uh
Jack does great narrations of uh several
Classics I think uh
from Black Label logic so check that out
Alpha slaw says real man is a silly
shaming tactic agree and Amplified fog
or laugh at the foolishness off and put
Pat her on the head yeah just do the pat
on the head like we do on Twitter Pat
her on the head right when these women
that are 35 barely with one kid or one
kid are telling you that you know put
making yourself your point of origin is
gay and stuff like that just bat him on
the head and continue to be your own
point of origin and continue like Jack
says continue total [ __ ]
uh yeah
exactly good tomato like yeah okay cool
you know like when guys say these crazy
things be like oh nice that's very very
nice
um makes me wonder if the prevalence of
STDs is one big Psy up the incurable
ones at least uh
first off they're more common
okay it's not that they're common or
less common they're
any women nowadays can have one their
outward appearance isn't a great
indicator of it won't disqualify them
from having one there are girls that
I've they I I've messed around with that
are
ex-strippers used to work at a strip
club
and they had stuff and thank God I got
tested was clean I always use protection
right but you know you still and then
there are girls that you know I dated a
girl briefly who
her father was an I'm not gonna say that
the gym chain but uh part owner or owner
of uh or used to be owner of a very
popular gym chain here in Texas uh
probably United States but I'm gonna say
Texas
and she even had a gym to her name she
wasn't super into fitness she was like
Rich Daddy's girl but she was super cool
relaxed and very chill she was getting
her master's degree and she was a fifth
grade teacher squeak out and she she had
an incurable SCD and she got it while
she was sleeping
and I tested and I was clean
and I didn't have other protection oh
well I didn't we didn't sleep I didn't
get to the point where I slept with her
she invited me over I said I am a little
tired I'm gonna go home I got work
tomorrow she's like okay and then a week
later she goes and then she came back
and then she was hysterical and then I
had to pull the information out of her
and she had contracted and an incurable
STD so that's another covert contract
guys like just because a woman wears a
sundress and a sun hat does not mean
that she could be rocking an STD and
that's why guys the most important
Clover contract you have to break is
assume she's promiscuous don't obsess
don't like lose sleep over it don't go
on a two-hour YouTube rant about how the
West is falling because of [ __ ] right
because I know I I for a fact dude if I
could bang every single porn star female
porn star all right female porn star I
would there's some attractive hot [ __ ]
out there man
um I even met one at my gym and
obviously she wasn't they're not really
attractive in in person as on the screen
you know the fantasy but I you know
promiscuous women are pretty awesome you
know as long as they're not
ugly
or unattractive just like me if I was
ugly no one want me but
um
yeah get it out of your head that
because a woman is wearing a sundress or
a woman looks normal she isn't capable
of like sleeping seeing lots of men and
for the black pillars right on the other
hand just because of women
um has sex with a guy or one or two guys
has a little whole face doesn't mean
she's an absolute terrible person that's
going to destroy your life
you know most of the most of the women
the way they treat me
most women treat me really good like and
it's because I don't expect anything
crazy out of them I just expect you know
like just basic respect respect my time
you know stuff like that and
um you know you set your boundaries
implicitly and explicitly if you have to
and you know I don't have I have I have
a little one by one cut down my cover
contracts and it comes to this point
where you're like you're at a club
you're at a bar you're dancing salsa
with this girl she's a [ __ ] her tits are
out all the guys are like their tongues
are like you know
um hanging out their face they're like
holy crap this girl's hot and they're
like you know
asking me do how'd you get a girl like
that and uh and then you know they're
gonna be some guys like ah bro she's a
[ __ ] and the girls will be like ah she
looks like a [ __ ] too and guess what
guess who's having the most fun both of
you who cares what everyone else is if
you're out if you're out with a [ __ ]
girl and she her boobs are out of her
butts out and you're dancing and she's
all that doing all this stuff and she's
drunk and and sometimes she's buying you
drinks and she's making out with you and
she's falling over and you take her home
like dude that's that's fun like let
people like there's no need to like
project that you you would want that you
know
and that's just a lot of people they
can't they can't really process that
but Russia is I'm a real [ __ ] I'm and
I'm okay with that okay Bill rush I
think you're a nice guy but rush but you
have to be an [ __ ] sometimes I agree
Billy bust says any chance you'll collab
with torsha I don't know
um I don't think uh I'm there yet
yeah like I was saying uh guys jack
um
it look at my uh I'm gonna put it after
the video but I'm gonna plug in his
stuff
um
and it's it's uh Jack has a great voice
you know he could be the next Optimus
Prime once Peter colon passes hopefully
he doesn't pass but
Jack Napier is up to be the next Optimus
Prime so uh a voice so guys give him a
follow
uh
Billy bus Detroit Francis says you'll be
fine as long as you write but yeah guys
I've you know I've been around the block
it's fine and also just pay attention
you know like there are indicators do
some research you know you know
obviously like uh smell look you know
look at it
um
you know honestly smell like you smell
doesn't mean like run away but like you
know pay attention you know and at the
end of the day like
wrap it up is the best you know just
wrap it up you know
where it says I've always enjoyed
pulling a sexual the generous set of
girls is fulfilling to see them Cut
Loose yeah and the thing is you guys
will be surprised about some of the
classiest looking girls and what they'll
do on the first night
um and you may think oh damn she's a
[ __ ] but then you get to know her and
then you realize like there are girls
who are like they did I did stuff with
them the first night and I'm like man I
would have never expected she's into
this but then as the time went on I'm
like man she's probably like
just by running through guys right now
but then I realized like the next day
she would text me and be like oh I have
so much fun when can I see you again and
then two days later hey I'm in the area
and it's like you get that
um over time you get that uh
um deep conversion you realize like
sometimes man that maybe you need just
to give yourself props as a man and
realize like you hit this you smash this
girl so well you gamed her so well you
Rose above every single other dude that
she's ever talked to or had access to
you did it so well that she gave she she
um she gambled and she got you and she's
like now in in your frame almost
instantly and you did it bro like you
found yourself a girl that just wants to
be super open with you and also likes
you and and it's a it's a rush it's an
amazing feeling right so give yourself
the opportunity and and just because a
girl is [ __ ] or just [ __ ] with you
or [ __ ] with everyone or whatever
so what man it's not your problem
says sexy Dutch man yes the the Jack
Napier voice the sexy Dutch voice
Billy Buster says Jack sounds more like
Starscream down what do you sound like
Billy do you sound uh good
Randy Morgan says nuke could be done
sneaker with one punch when it's for
happening nah man I'm not I'm not a
violent person I'm also I'm not trained
in combat
um I don't really I'm not really in the
red meat guys like I don't
like I said before
I said it's in a tweet I think it
resonated like there's a lot of guys
that
are where there's a war for young men's
Souls
you know everyone wants young men's
Souls right that's the biggest prize
today
so if we can get young men to be
religious or you can get young men
addicted to pornography if we get young
men addicted to you know if we yeah
mantis to be virgins until marriage if
you can get young men to buy our
products you know it's the war for young
men's Souls
um in this country right now
bull rush ass Billy Buster sounds like
PeeWee Herman on acid oh geez is that
true
oh man
all right yeah so that those are the
three Cobra contracts um you know I'm
trying to think of another common one we
talked about women's cover contracts and
beta man we talked about uh what happens
when you start cutting them down how
much you enjoy you start enjoying women
and dating because you no longer have
these crazy expectations
um
you know
uh you don't have these crazy
expectations of women anymore you can
enjoy them you know it's like I think
Rich Cooper says this
um you want to enjoy them for what they
are what they not what they can never be
to you
right so a lot of guys you know
I had a covert contract recently and
that I had to really break and I had to
really catch myself and it was really
messing with me and I was not happy with
that part of my life whereas like
for me
once someone does me a favor or does
something else you know not outside of
sex you know like like help me with like
take care of my dog or pick me up from
the airport my covert contract was that
you're on my team now
you know you are
team nuke we're on we're you're in my
tribe we're helping each other we're
going to get through life you know and I
didn't know that it was I think it was
from the military where you know there's
a lot of self-reliance on the team and
helping each other out I think a lot of
military guys suffer from this where you
get out and you you realize everyone is
so individualistic and only for
themselves which is normal that's what
normal it should be but as in the
military everything you did
was for the collective right so I got
out and you know even there were girls
where they were giving me everything
sexually and you know obviously outside
of that we also had fun and they were
great and they were like only fondant
like I look back I'm gonna look back as
an old man I'm just gonna see a picture
and I'm gonna laugh you know and be like
haha I remember that girl and it would
be it's nothing but great memories but
then the minute they started doing
things for me
like that I would expect more of like a
friend to do
I got real I had a really hard time
not seeing them as part of my tribe not
a girlfriend
because I already got all the girlfriend
treatment like I wanted them to be part
of my tribe you know I wanted them to be
a phone call away in case I needed
something and vice versa and that was
such a weird covert contract for me
um and I really had to like break it and
and catch myself and really look at
myself and like listen man people do
favors for you doesn't mean that they're
on your side all the time it just means
that they did a favor for you right and
a lot of times people do favors because
you did a favor for them and they feel
like they owe you right so I really had
to think past that one and it's so and
it was the weirdest thing because I'm
like oh maybe it's like a beta simpy
thing that I still do you know like a
girl will
um I don't know a girl will pick up my
dog and when I'm out of town and take
care of him or something or bring him
food or walk him and
I'm like maybe it's a sympathy thing I
realize no because that girl I'm
smashing this I'm smashing her like I'm
having sex with her like and I'm not
really working I'm not giving her
anything crazy you know we may go out
once in a while for for food or for
drinks but I'm not you know I'm doing
anything crazy for this girl it's just
all fun but then I realize it's that
it's that
I immediately convert people who do
things for me
into tribe one of us you know one of us
one of us so
yeah that's something that I had to
break and you know if you're a guy
that's that's in the military or getting
out in the military you probably will
have to deal with that that you know not
everyone's on your side even if they do
Affair for you doesn't mean that you
know they're on your trip so
full Rush ass no one is trying to young
men to buy into themselves yeah everyone
wants to recruit young men for their own
purposes you know and
honestly
that's what no man's Fair has become you
know pulling men apart and I think one
of the reasons like they hate the red
pill
is because it's really telling young man
bro you are you got to figure this out
on your own here's what we've learned
we'll pass it down to you guys
we're not great like I don't see it as a
grifty because paying paying 15 bucks
for a book that can change your life is
that really a grift let's think about it
so if someone buys rational mail or
praxology or someone sees my YouTube
video and gives me a 10 super chat or
something
um or someone goes on Jack's Channel and
and grabs the accountability program or
something like that or whatever whatever
version of whatever Creator you like you
know choose your pick right
um
is that a grift are we grifting it's ten
dollars
in order to get some information and
insight a grift there's people that pay
ten dollars a month for and only fans
subscription there's people that pay ten
dollars a month for a Netflix
subscription is Netflix showing are they
grifting
you know like like these people think
that because you you make content and
you take the time to make content or
whatever and you you said it in front of
people like hey guys if you want to get
it sure if you don't don't hey this is
just what I've learned or this is you
know put together from other creators
put together or this helped me so you
know but I have to charge you because
there's time and effort in this they
think that's a grift and I'm like dude
it's like another container where grift
is one of those words where it doesn't
really mean anything anymore you can
call anyone a grifter you want just
because they sell something
are there grifters of course there's
people that are selling courses on how
to make money and they're like 23.
you know 23 years old and they're
selling you how to be a millionaire
you know but there's guys like me that
are like
hey man like
unlike Jack you know and people like
that they're like hey this is what it is
this is you know this is backed by
thousands of men and their experiences
um good writers people from all
background psychologists Engineers
doctors
um DJs
um
actual real life Playboys millionaires
CEOs whatever we're all we all collected
notes we put this in this pot here ten
dollars it's like not even a grift it's
it's basically it's awesome it's amazing
that we can do this and for them to call
it a grift it's pretty crazy you know
like a buying a book for fifteen dollars
twenty dollars is not a grift in my
opinion it's not grifting you know it's
it's it's pretty awesome that you can
buy buy something for so cheap and then
it can change your life you know
it's like saying the gym is a grift I'm
like really because I paid 30 bucks to
go to the gym and it's the best
investment you'll ever make is basically
that 30 bucks a month
I'd say Billy what should I say treating
her as a friend is one of the most
subtle covert contracts
yeah
um that the the most prevalent uh cover
contract is the friend zone where guys
think if they're nice and they do things
for her and they don't present any
sexual energy that eventually
you know
um
they'll get access to sex and that's the
common most played out common one that
all the low-level
dating gurus and advice I'm like dude
we're already past that we know that
it's like 10 years we're 10 years into
the future man you gotta catch up
but rushes you can trust me with your
life but not with your but not your
money or your wife
um military proverb ha I don't think
I've heard that one and that's her for
like six years but it makes a lot of
sense
um Billy says and I don't mean friend
zone I mean the urge to befriend your a
girl you're already banging
what does that mean I gotta expand on
that one
Randy Morgan says Nick Robin bull rush
are my heroes they step up to do let
them burn every Thursday without fail
they do that for us
yeah um I Really Gonna Start catching
Let Them Burn I feel like it'd be
hilarious
um
you guys know what time they're on or do
they just do it whenever they announce
it
Valerie says Billy you better behave
yeah listen to Valerie Billy
um Billy says Stewart Cooper's book
costs 200 hey man if you want to pay the
200 you think it'll be value sure I'm
not saying there's not any grifters I'm
just saying that not everything is a
grift
entirely you know like
like the rational mail costs like what
25 bucks you think it's worth 25 bucks
probably worth more than that
um praxology is what if you have a
an audible account you already get free
credits you're paying what 15 a month
for audible or something like that
you get like four free credits a month
or something
yeah that's a one credit that's
basically like three bucks so
you know
um is you know you make you make the
assessment of whether something's worth
it or not but not everything is a super
Griff you know
Governor Megatron what's up governor
Jack's course is really good because
it's something that motivates you and
gets results grifters will charge
someone a lot for something common sense
that you'll be attained yourself for
free yeah
um it's the effect of something right
there are there are like I said there
are books and things that give you a
perspective obviously you have to do the
work
um but there are books and things that
um
that are so cheap
and and in terms of like in face of what
they bring you and the value in the
perspective that it's not really
and then you know some grifters
will be like
you need to run a rotation
pay me 60 bucks
and I'm like yeah you need to run
annotation but how
well you talk to a lot of girls I'm like
okay how well you have to learn game and
I'm like okay well how you see ask how
until you get to a stupid near near like
like you you want the content you pay
for to be explained to you like you're
an idiot like in the military I like
things being explained to me like I was
an idiot not because I was an idiot
maybe I was who knows but but but
because
um if I miss something or something
didn't work
I could blame myself and read this
material again and go back but if I
bought something that really just told
me hey dude you have to run a rotation
or hey dude she's not yours it's just
your turn give me a hundred dollars it's
like okay what does that mean
like if you watch Ryan Stone's video on
it's not yours it's just your turn every
single part of that phrase is explained
for like five minutes that like nuts and
bolts that's what we have that's what we
need even me still at this if I'm
reading something I prefer it to be nuts
and bolts to the point where I gotta
read it like and I feel like do they
think I'm stupid good because I may be
stupid
and this if I mess up somewhere I could
go back and be like I messed up in this
super nuanced step you know and it just
helps you right you don't want to you
don't want some you don't wanna pay for
something that tells you hey uh
you need uh an example
um
this weekend like you know there's a lot
of like I'm gonna say grifters but a lot
of people
creators that are reached out to me and
they're like trying to like you know
they're like buddy buddy to me and all
that stuff right but like I'm telling
you guys like
I'm a very plugged in person into this
into this stuff and I can tell you
extremely hyper nuanced things obviously
I think it's too much time like telling
a guy who just stepped into the space
um how to read a girl's you know like
what it means when she looks to the left
and she's looking towards the door
or looking towards up you know or asking
you certain questions that's a little
much for a beginner right but if you're
if you're at a level where you're on a
date and you want to know what something
means and you come to me and I'll be
like yeah this is what this means and
this is based 100 off experience like
I'm not selling you draw the out well
first step
draw two circles Second Step draw the
[ __ ] owl because that doesn't help
anyone that's how grifters make their
money they take a tire like Governor
Megatron says
um they take something that's common
sense or something played out
and then they sell it and then it
doesn't really help you because all it
did was look good and now you feel like
the placebo effect were like oh yeah I
now that I got this course now I can go
out and talk to him it was like dude
you paid that money for nothing why
don't you get something that's super
hyper nuanced and autistic and spurgy
that you can read and then when you
apply it you're just like holy crap this
covers every single base I'm glad I paid
money for this
Billy says what I mean is the assumption
that if you treat you you're as a
genuine friend she'll do the same for
you oh you're talking about my case yeah
that was my cover contract because for
it's been a while since I've had like I
haven't been friend zoned
in years guys I haven't been friend
zoned in a long time so when a girl
starts doing nice things for me
it's not that I it's not that I feel
like
like again it's like the it's like that
military training where you rely on each
other you know
um teamwork and all that stuff so when
someone starts doing nice things for me
I'm like you're on my side I can rely on
you now which is you know some people do
good things for you for short period of
time some people do it for the rest of
your life but I really had to get over
the fact that just because you know do
something nice for me once
doesn't mean that you're my ride or die
you know
Billy says in one of those first books
basically free on his blog he'd be a lot
richer if he wasn't so sincere very true
very true
blue rush says letting bird starts
around 9pm every Thursday but you're not
missing much just three old [ __ ]
shooting the [ __ ] hey man that that used
to be the manosphere just dudes shooting
the [ __ ] so guys you see it there
Thursday 9 p.m Thursday
um three old guys shooting the ship
probably being really raw and honest you
know like something that you don't see
much
The Valor says bull rush you're too
modest yeah maybe you are or maybe just
being honest just oh just some dudes
just dudes being dudes you know
pull rushes
I mean if you were in the Navy you're
most likely are sincerely U.S marine
that's right someone told me you're a
marine you know um yeah
yeah I mean uh so how many crayons do
you guys uh get when you guys go to ciao
like do you guys get like a little
crayon ration or do you uh
or do you have to like
um you get one crayon or a box of
crayons
that's a common joke
Ken Wynn says is it true that women with
cleft chins are more promiscuous I don't
know man what do you tell us the data on
that like what have you seen
Billy is it's great Rob always ends the
show with the big epic speech yeah Rob
is the speech man he he'll go on a
speech and I think Rob when he's doing
his speech is to start putting
background music to make it more epic
you know like the Halo theme or
something
hold on uh bullrush says buy my book
full of platitudes and no real
actionable information right because
actual information is not sexy it
doesn't sound right so yeah
and I'm gonna start calling out guys on
Twitter where they like type like you
know like George Mason or like uh
Michael porfidio back in like 2015
or 14 where it's like uh one line space
another line space another line space
and then that's the tweet and they try
to like there a lot of guys Focus so
much on their image and being cool
that I'm like okay what is the point of
your account like what are you selling
I'm not convinced and that's why like
when I I'm like constantly dropping tips
and hints on how to navigate
relationships rotations like the other
day I said hey uh text your girl that
you don't that you hate her and when I
say you're a girl I'm not me I don't
mean your wife that is pregnant with
your child and she's stressed from work
like come on guys you need to be a
little nuanced but if it's just a girl
that you're like seeing you know
texting her hey I think I hate you it's
exciting it's fun it'll like you know
she'll like why what did I do you know
and it's fun and then you can go back to
playing video games and doing what you
want and
having chilling on your Sunday but it
works giving women excitement and and
emotion Works they're they're constantly
bored right and I'm dropping these tips
and guys are like holy [ __ ] and they try
it and they're like yeah now I woke up
to four texts and four missed calls I'm
like yeah you know what that is it's
because she like you you giving her what
she needed which is kind of like
excitement roller coaster and she's
calling you if she didn't care about you
she wouldn't have called so you now you
know two things you gave her what she
needed plus now you know that she's
she's for you because she you know
obviously you don't do that to your
loving girlfriend who's tired and
stressed just came back from work right
you do it two girls maybe like a more
casual or when your girl when you know
your girls you have a steady state
relationship where there's not right
Nuance right but you know stuff like
that I do that so I can prove to you
guys that not you guys but the people
that I am a solution based
person I don't give a [ __ ] about looking
cool I am open about my nerdy Hobbies I
am open about the women that pass me up
my else I post them all the time I met
um I met a friend of mine from Twitter
very popular
um on Twitter
recently and we talked and he he had met
he even met the Tates cool guy chillest
guy ever
um I met him and I just told him and
these are like I told him to check out
this girl iPhone you know and we laughed
about it because
you know I'm not I'm this is who I am
like I'd rather share the girls that I
fumbled and laugh about it then bragged
to internet strangers
about the girls that I do which I do
both you know just to keep a balance
Billy Buster says I think the FPS get
extra crayons oh
one bull rush says one MRE goes one bus
of Crayolas yeah what was your favorite
flavor
what color was your favorite flavor
belly Buster we do policing the goons is
hungry work
super move says you think you'll be
adj's next victim I can't be a victim
man
I'm never a victim
and I think I know you're talking about
and uh yeah it's kind of scary but
can't be a victim
you just
I am no one's victim
that's all I'm gonna say about that
um man great great engagement tonight
guys thank you
um if you guys haven't already done so
like And subscribe to the video
um comment after I'm done comment and
tell me any covert contracts that you
guys see all the time or or have broken
yourselves
um
like I talked about the status
um covert contract the money covert
contract where if I have
you know
if if I make a certain amount of money
women will won't leave me and will stay
and guys I recently have gotten two or
three raises
I've I'm
you know I'm not saying you know I make
a good salary I make a good salary you
know for someone my age good not great
not you know crazy but good comfortable
uh well above average
but nothing to write home about right
um and two years ago
to now the way women treat me has not
changed
um
it hasn't gotten harder hasn't gotten
easier you know it's just
it really doesn't matter that much
obviously if you're making millions as
compared to 90k it there is a huge
difference there right but
um the money isn't going to guarantee
you women being in your frame all the
time you still need game right because
look at all the celebrities the top
people in the country are all going
through even Kevin Costner right now
his wife of 18 years leading right so
obviously there's a lot more status
money and all that stuff you guys need
game you need charm and you need outcome
Independence just like any other women
or any other thing right job career
everything outcome Independence right
every day you walk into your job like it
could be your last like they can fire
you
um every day you spend with a girl
whether it be a [ __ ]
or whether it be a love of your life
you treat it like not you don't obsess
it about it ending but you realize like
you have to live in the moment and these
moments are precious because this can
get taken away either by her by life you
know unfortunate accidents or simply you
know any other thing that could happen
enjoy the moment
um
and then really catch yourself in a
covert contract and realize when it
comes to dating specifically
um when it comes to dating specifically
realize that
the Robert Glover model which this is
where I kind of disagree with him a
little bit but I think he he frames it
within a relationship a loving
relationship with your wife or you know
a family member or your girlfriend or a
long time girlfriend right which is
explaining to the other party your needs
right I would say if you're running a
rotation of girls
and you see a girl that you thought was
like girlfriend material do some [ __ ]
stuff that disqualifies her or whatever
something that disqualifies her it
doesn't have to be [ __ ] she could just
be a bad person you know you could just
one day see her treat
um waiting staff really bad at a
restaurant or you can see how nasty she
is to her mother or you can see that
she's a criminal or she does hard drugs
something that you're like no but you
have a hard time accepting it realize
like the only way out is that you can't
really negotiate because there isn't
that
bond yet like deep bond I would say man
the only thing you got is to divest
yourself of the outcome really look at
the outcome and be like I had to stop
caring about what happened to this girl
um
and
it's hard I'm not gonna lie to you it's
hard to like really look at a girl that
you know and
it's one of those things where you as a
man you have to sit down with yourself
you may even have to go to therapy and
be like why is it this way you know why
is it that this girl checks all my boxes
and everything like that but she's a
total [ __ ] wants to be in the street
wants to party he doesn't want to be
mine right she doesn't already does
everything for me she even washes my
underwear so I don't get it you have to
realize like you that's a deep covert
contract that you have to break and
that's why we say you know the
relationship is her fault it's not your
she's not yours just your turn all these
things are meant to break over contracts
that way when you get to these
situations you're not hurt or broken or
sad or anything like this to protect you
because everyone wants to run a rotation
right but you realize once you get into
that Circle that rotation and you're
like you're running girls and you're
dating or you have a girlfriend or
whatever there's a lot of emotional work
you're going to realize that you have to
do after the fact and that's the
interesting part and that's why
rotations and and meaning women
um and having a girlfriend and and going
at it with an open heart
it's it you will start exposing your
things about yourself that you're like
whoa what the heck I never saw that
about myself
you know you're gonna like for a lot of
a lot of the time I was like I like this
type of girl and I won't settle for
anything else and then I'm like okay
I'll give this type of girl chance and
then this type of girl is like
I'm like wow like
that's she's amazing why did I think
that because I needed to be with this
type of girl when I could you know I was
the type of girl and they treated me
better than any other girl I was like
okay well there's a covert contract
where maybe race type of body type of
body type of Personality demeanor
whatever
um
it was like that that was what an ideal
girl was but here comes a girl that's
like maybe different maybe she's short
or taller or she's A different race or
she's you know different type of job you
know like or all that stuff you know
there there's absolutely so many things
in your mind and you convince yourself
that you need to break out of
um
and you need to really test your beliefs
constantly and that's something that
guys don't do they hate testing their
beliefs and I tell this to my friends
like I have a friend who's like who
swears he says I like to date uh women
that uh speak
Spanish as their primary language
because they're more traditional
right
and what is that based on of I've dated
like last year I dated like four girls
four or five girls that Spanish was a
predominant language one was like a
borderline alcoholic she was a good
person very fun but we're not an
alcoholic the other one is flaky girl
with a lot of psychological issues also
a good sweet gal I had a good time with
her
um
another one another girl
um like I don't let me let me see if I
remember another girl was like
incredibly boring and no Sexual Energy
um and the thing is she was super nice
guy like I wanted to like her I wanted
to be like have that you know but she
was just so boring and just so stiff
that I couldn't there was no sexual
tension at all so it's like I couldn't
bring myself to like
I couldn't even like grab her ass when I
was in the pool because there's just
there was just
it was so sterile you know so I was like
you see like
when you put yourself in these boxes and
these covert contracts now you're
running the risk you're basically like
you're playing an RPG you basically
there's there's certain moves in an RPG
game right where you can
cast a spell that makes them have a
weakness right so let me see I think in
Final Fantasy 10
you there's a spell that if you cast it
on a monster or an enemy let's say I
think it's like it can make them weak
towards a certain element and that's
what a covert contract does it's a spell
you cast on yourself to make you weak
against something right so if a guy says
I only want to date girls that speak
Spanish as a primary language he's
basically now weak to women that speak
Spanish as a primary language
and
um
he's going to go into that into that
relationship or into the in interfacing
with that girl thinking oh she's
traditional
and he he can he's gonna get fleeced
he's gonna get his heart broken or he's
gonna get disillusioned disappointed and
now he's he he dies you know the the
traditional girl or the the
spanish-spreaking girl casts fire on him
and
um he's it does double damage right
so
and then in the same game in some games
especially like Final Fantasy 10 for
sure there's things that no like no I
think it's called No cast where you uh
whatever element you cast on yourself it
makes you impervious to that and that's
like breaking the covert contract right
so now I look I'm like all girls are
[ __ ] until proven otherwise
guess what now when a girl's like hey I
want to be your girlfriend and then
you're like uh you wait a minute I gotta
see if you know what type of girl you
are first guess what you've protected
yourself against the spell of putting
the wool over your eyes and a girl
trying to trick you into a relationship
when she's an absolute train wreck of a
woman you know so to put it in Final
Fantasy RPG terms that's basically what
it is all right I got a whole bunch of
uh
uh Billy says what do you do for a
living now yeah nice try Billy nice try
I live under a bridge
blue rush says I banged as many girls as
a broke ass e2e3 as I do now yeah man in
college I got more attention from
females in college than than now I mean
obviously social media is big but I
don't know if I count social media now
because women like to like mess around
and pretend to give you attention but
yeah that's definitely like something
that guys don't understand
there was that one girl who tried to rob
me she was violent too yeah I had a girl
that almost stabbed me uh a story for
another day though
um
Randy Martin says who would you say your
biggest enemy in the manosphere right
now is my biggest enemy is myself my
self-doubt the reason I didn't start
this channel before is because I thought
I wasn't qualified to talk on this stuff
but the
I think I was
um
Russ says mike Jeff is uh bilingual she
tries to teach me Spanish every time she
orgasms ah
yeah that's a really good spin I'm
pretty sure you're looking forward to
that Spanish lesson every time my friend
if it's private I understand just
curious yeah man I can't
I can't there's so many psychos on the
internet I can't tell you anything about
myself sorry
um
but yeah man uh yeah guys like it's uh
these cover contracts man and and if you
if you find yourself like man I had a
cover contract the whole time they're
really hard to catch
before you're already in one like it's
really easy to say like no there's no
way I can get I would believe that but
then you know over the course of you
knowing someone for a year or six months
and three months two years you realize
like you've built up this expectation in
your head
for so long it's creeped inside
of your of your relationship with this
person that you don't even know
what you like you don't even know what
happened like how how you got here
so be patient forgive yourself like
again like my other video forgive
yourself you're doing your best you're
learning you're growing up as a human
being
um and then once you you're gonna get to
a point where you're gonna be able to
like what are my what is the con what is
the covert contract that I have with
this person like do if I
um
and I've learned it the hard way guys
like for example I tweeted like hey I I
had a girl leave me
and then three months later pop up with
a girl that was or sorry with a guy that
was
six inches shorter than me confirmed
virgin because I found out through the
grapevine
um
and through you know through people
telling me
um
and that's not something that you would
like want people to know so it wasn't
like I was told you know it it was it
was true and the guy you know was not
didn't even look like me at all so like
and this girl was pretty much like a
front runner to be my future wife right
so
um you know I did it I did get my deep
conversion from her she would send me
boxes and stuff when I was deployed
right and she was very
and this was before I even met her in
person right then I met her in person
um we hooked up the first night we we
you know we met and all that stuff it
was very fun it was like the perfect
first time meeting of someone and all
that stuff I was kind of nervous you
know
but she left three months there she
probably the guy looked nothing like me
so
I could I could have been like what's
wrong with me what did I do wrong my
whole life right but the thing is like
outcome Independence all that stuff you
have to be like okay well I don't own
this person she's not my property just
because I'm a certain way or I look a
certain way or act a certain way or
something like that does not mean that
it's not guarantee me love or or
affection or something like that that is
a covert contract so I just you know I
really looked at myself and I said hey
she had she had to make a choice you
know maybe she chose a guy that was safe
maybe she chose a guy that she was you
know maybe I did something that made her
feel insecure you know like maybe she
found another woman's underwear in my
laundry or something like that she's
like I can't do this this is crazy you
know like I this guy you know he's if I
do one thing wrong he's gonna leave me
for another girl you know which is
understandable so
um throughout life you're gonna you're
gonna have to deal with things like this
that don't make any sense because you
you were really thinking that hey if I'm
this super alpha male and I got all my
boxes checked
um and I'm a millionaire I make at least
six figures and I I buy courses on how
to have given the best sex guys I've
given women their first orgasms and
they you know I've given women
the time of their life you know where
I'm just like I'm going to ruin my
mattress I'm gonna have to buy a new
mattress at this point and they've left
they've been like okay I never want to
see you again after like three months
and they find someone else
all right and there are girls that I
just really didn't give them much
sexually in the bedroom like it was like
yeah I had fun but it was like you know
it was nowhere near the other girl
um and they were stuck onto me like a
tick like they would not leave me alone
they were like yeah so that's undercover
contract you guys have like if I'm a
sexual beast in bed and I like satisfy
this girl so much and leave her in a
puddle every time she's gonna love me
forever and she's Never Gonna Leave Me
and the truth is
it could be it could be that this girl
is attached to you forever because of
the good sex but it could very well be
that like sex isn't that important she
just you know she likes the pleasure but
deep down you didn't you know it was
temporary
so look at these covert contracts make
sure
uh forgive yourself if you're if you
don't know if you're in one
um
it's really hard to tell if you're in
one beforehand and once you and if you
find yourself in one really look in a
dating perspective your only option most
of the time unless it's your girlfriend
or your wife or some long time
relationship with someone that you kind
of have a a bond with Beyond you know
just fun and sex
um is that you're going to have to
really accept
and and give up on the con and give up
on the outcome right you have to say
whatever happens happens right and
that's the that's the only thing you got
it's the only thing you got to get out
to to deal with that situation and
that's okay be easy on yourself realize
that cover contracts are innate to human
beings
and but in this new world and this crazy
new world where we're trying to figure
out who we are
um you have to really know who you are
before you go out there especially when
you're dealing with the psychotic dating
Market at times right
um
blue rush says it's good to see you
young guys like you speaking on these
subjects kind of like well man the thing
is uh bull rushes I got I got I've
gotten humbled a lot in my life like
humbled so when I see these guys that
are like 23 talking about here's the
secrets of becoming a millionaire or I
don't like these red pill guys because
they you know they they just
they don't own women and they women are
should be yours and they should be
chased and they they just want slots and
they want you know whatever crap they
say I might listen younger man because
I'm only 34 right but these guys that
are like 10 years younger than me I'm
like listen man listen I'll tell you
this much
I like I said just before that that
cringy little rant I did on on my sex
life wait I didn't want to talk about it
but I did
um
you what are you gonna do when you give
when you are everything that you think
you have to be for a woman
and you have a growth man you may have a
rotation you may have a girlfriend a
wife and
your favorite girl your wife your
girlfriend leaves you
but like even
awesome like family like what do you do
with your life
um
what are you gonna do when the woman in
your life
um
don't want you anymore are you gonna
just keep grinding
are you just gonna keep grinding Forever
Until you become Donald Trump with a
six-pack you know Elon Musk bank account
or are you just gonna be like hey
it is what it is I I got to enjoy her
she gave me her best
hey if you don't want to be at my
program baby you have to go so
um
yeah I think uh
I think at the end I think at the end of
the day
um
you have to seriously
bees in yourself and take care of these
cover contracts and be you know just
learn learn about your own self like
learn part most of the red pill is
yourself it's not something to do with
women and that's a lot of people don't
get that
all right guys
um
I think I've talked enough very ranty
um subject but it's just such a powerful
subject and it will help you so much
um I highly suggest reading um Dr
Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy
um helps a lot of guys out and relax and
they realize like wow I've been a people
pleaser my whole life and I've been
expecting things just because
um so
go ahead and check that out and also um
um follow me on Twitter you have my uh
my handles right there
um like And subscribe to the video
um give me to a thousand like everyone's
trying to give me the Thousand
um
uh I want to get to a thousand during
the summer at least and I will continue
to pump out content if you guys have any
suggestions for Content or for
um topics I'm open to any suggestions
comment below DM me on Twitter or
something and I will write it down here
in my notebook and I'll write notes and
when I come up with enough information
I'll go ahead and drop a video on it so
uh also guys
um
I uh follow uh Jack's Channel bulrush
um Let Them Burn 9 p.m on um I believe 9
p.m right 9 p.m on uh on Thursday go
watch them Jack has his content
um
and uh
remember guys Solutions no red meat if
you want to watch red meat watch it I
watch red meat all the time and I'm at
it's popcorn it's it's it's fun right
when it comes to like your own life you
have to really do do this deep work that
I'm saying these this deep work into
yourself and your covert contracts and
so you can get the outcomes you want
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I haven't been playing a lot I have to
really
sit down and start practicing
um again I got some new songs but hey
maybe I should I should do
uh
a piano outro
good idea thanks blue Rush
um
so thanks guys have a good night and uh
thanks for stopping by
appreciate it
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