Josiah Tan Shares: SECRETS to CONQUERING a Career and ACHIEVING a Fulfilling Life | Q&A #305
Summary
TLDRIn this engaging conversation, the host and guest, Joe, delve into the pivotal role a supportive partner plays in one's personal and professional success. Joe shares his personal journey of finding love and the profound impact his wife has had on his life and business. He emphasizes the importance of choosing the right life partner, drawing parallels to the careful selection process in business partnerships. The discussion also touches on the significance of learning from those who have overcome similar challenges, advocating for seeking out solutions rather than reinventing the wheel. Joe's anecdotes and advice offer valuable insights for new business owners and those seeking personal growth.
Takeaways
- 😀 The importance of finding and learning from those who have already solved the challenges you are facing in business.
- 👫 The significant role a supportive partner plays in a person's success, particularly in providing encouragement and understanding after a hard day's work.
- 💡 The value of not trying to reinvent the wheel, but instead, learning from others' solutions to common problems.
- 🤝 The concept of partnership in both business and personal life, emphasizing the mutual support and equality in such relationships.
- 🎓 The story of how the speaker met his wife, highlighting the courage to approach someone new and the unexpected connections that can result.
- 📅 The speaker's seven-year period of being single, which demonstrates patience and the willingness to wait for the right person.
- 🔍 The idea of observing competitors and peers to understand their solutions and strategies for overcoming business challenges.
- 💰 The suggestion to invest in learning from others, either through purchasing products/services or hiring a coach, to save time and effort.
- 📈 The belief that the mindset that got you to where you are won't necessarily get you to where you want to be, underlining the need for new perspectives.
- 🌟 The speaker's personal experience with his wife, showing how shared birthdays and zodiac signs can symbolize deeper connections.
- 👶 The notion that the partner you choose can be one of the most important decisions of your life, affecting both personal and professional success.
Q & A
What was the key advice given by Joe regarding finding solutions to business challenges?
-Joe advised that for every challenge one faces in business, someone has likely already solved it. He suggests looking at competitors or peers, either locally or internationally, to see how they've addressed similar issues rather than trying to reinvent the wheel.
How did Joe meet his wife, and what was significant about their first encounter?
-Joe met his wife by approaching her at a cross junction when he felt a strong urge to speak to her despite only seeing her back view. Their first encounter was significant because he felt compelled to talk to her even without seeing her face, and later found out they had many connections, including attending the same schools.
What was Joe's initial approach when he first spoke to his wife?
-Joe's initial approach was to ask her if she knew where 'Rugby' was, which turned out to be a joke as she didn't even know where it was. This was his opening line to start a conversation.
How did Joe's wife initially react to his attempts to communicate after their first meeting?
-Initially, Joe's wife ignored his texts for about a week, possibly because she thought he was a playboy trying to flirt with her.
What was the turning point in Joe's relationship with his wife after their first meeting?
-The turning point was when they unexpectedly met again a week later, and Joe offered to walk her home. This led to more conversations and the beginning of their relationship.
What similarities did Joe find between his wife and his mother?
-Joe discovered that his wife shared the same birthday as his mother and was the same zodiac sign, which is three zodiac signs down from his mother's in the Chinese zodiac calendar.
How did Joe's wife and his mother connect over a health condition?
-Both Joe's wife and his mother had a rare health condition that affects about 1 or 2 out of 10 women. They bonded over their shared experiences with this condition.
What is the importance of a supportive partner in a man's business success, according to Joe?
-According to Joe, a supportive partner is 100% important for a man's business success. He believes that coming home to a supportive and encouraging partner after a long day at work is crucial for maintaining balance and success in life.
What is the Chinese saying that Joe referred to about the importance of a woman in a man's life?
-Joe referred to a Chinese saying that, in English, means 'the woman behind the man', emphasizing the importance of a supportive female partner in a man's life.
What advice would Joe give to new business owners or startups in marketing for the year 2024?
-Joe's advice for new business owners or startups is to study their competitors or peers to find solutions to their challenges, rather than trying to create something completely new. He suggests investing in experiences or hiring a coach to learn from those who have already found success.
Outlines
😀 The Serendipitous Encounter
In this paragraph, the speaker recounts his unexpected encounter with his future wife. He describes being single for seven years and the strong intuition that led him to approach a woman he had never met before. Despite initially being ignored, he persisted and eventually struck up a conversation with her. They discovered shared backgrounds, including attending the same junior college and secondary school. This chance meeting marked the beginning of their relationship.
💞 The Evolution of a Relationship
The speaker continues the narrative by detailing the progression of his relationship with the woman he met. Initially, she ignored his messages, but a second encounter led to a deeper connection. They found out they shared the same birthday as his mother and even the same Chinese zodiac sign. The speaker emphasizes the importance of having a supportive partner, especially in business, as it greatly influences one's motivation and success. He believes that his wife's support is crucial to his endeavors and that they are equal partners in life.
🚀 Business Advice and Life Lessons
In the final paragraph, the speaker offers advice to new business owners and entrepreneurs. He suggests that for every challenge they face, someone else has already found a solution. The speaker recommends learning from others' experiences, either by purchasing a product or service to understand the process or by hiring a coach who has been through similar experiences. He warns against trying to reinvent the wheel and emphasizes the importance of leveraging existing knowledge to save time and effort. The conversation concludes with the speaker expressing his willingness to share more tips and advice with those interested in his teachings.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Challenge
💡Partnership
💡Success
💡Supportive
💡Business
💡Competitors
💡Coach
💡Solution
💡Reinvent the Wheel
💡Invest
💡Mentor
Highlights
The importance of finding and learning from those who have already solved the challenges you face in business.
The story of how the speaker met his wife, emphasizing the role of intuition and taking action.
The unexpected connection between the speaker's wife and his mother, sharing the same birthday and zodiac sign.
The role of a supportive partner in contributing to a man's success, especially in business.
The speaker's belief in the equality and partnership with his life partner, highlighting the balance in their relationship.
The value of observing and learning from competitors or peers to find solutions to business challenges.
The recommendation to invest in coaching or experiencing a service to understand successful business strategies.
The potential downsides of trying to reinvent the wheel instead of learning from those who have succeeded.
The significance of the right life partner in making one of the most important decisions that impact your life.
The story of the speaker's wife initially ignoring him and the persistence that led to their relationship.
The speaker's view on the importance of a supportive wife, especially when facing challenges in business.
The Chinese saying about the importance of the woman behind a successful man, and the speaker's take on it.
The speaker's advice for new business owners to seek out solutions from those who have already overcome similar challenges.
The idea that the mindset that got you to where you are won't necessarily get you to where you want to be.
The speaker's final tip to new business owners to study successful people and learn from their strategies.
The conclusion of the conversation, emphasizing the value of the insights shared by the speaker.
Transcripts
go and find people who have already
solved the challenge that you wanna solve
how about fire a right woman as well
and that's the next question
fire a right woman for your life as well
oh my goodness find a right woman basically right
that's a bit a second beside of partnership in business
how about that question that I want to ask you okay
yeah your wife sorry
your ex girlfriend be your wife yes
do you think woman contribute in the success of the man
as well in your personal experience
because this question I asked the same to Mel right
I asked Mel
and I asked all the male guests come to my show
so my mentos say bigger choice of the men
in my men life is the one that they going to marry
and the crowd that they going to hang around
which is the friend do you agree with that
all right what a good question right here okay
in any case in have I ever told you how I met my wife
have a okay I don't think I have
quickly on any podcast whatsoever today in the class
you didn't share okay
so now you're gonna hear a story oh
so this happened I don't know when was this
this is before I met Mel about half a year
one year before I met Mel so this is I don't know
maybe almost nine or 10
actually is eight to nine years ago
that okay
so you know how uh about that I was in school correct
so when I go to school
I see girls every single day when I take the train
go to school
I see ladies of different ages when I go to school
and the whole class also got girlfriends alright
I was single and I was single for almost seven years
seven years so at about time I was like
it's not because I cannot find girlfriend or not
not because I don't go out any girls
I do still go out in pure time to see
is there any potential match whatsoever
but there was no is
and at the time there was just no wonder
I was like it goes really steady correct
so uh one day when I was coming back from school
I I do the train from City Hall back to the east side
I get on a train and I walk I was on the way home
I was on the way home and I reached the cross junction
and when I reached 100
I saw a lady standing there at the traffic light
and I can only saw her back view
I never see her sight I never see her front
I never see her use anything
all I see right from the back right was a girl
long hair to the middle of the back wearing a backpack
that's all I see wearing jeans
but
there was like a very strong voice that tell me that
hey George you're going to speak to her
you're going to speak to her
get to know her
even though I never never see this was ever in my life
I never see even that
I don't even know any Chinese money in the mall okay
why not ago
so I'm walking behind her
so I was like oh goodness
and then as we begin crossing the traffic line
and then I realized that hey
she continued walking in the direction I was walking
and about 100 bus meters later
she done right she done right
and she was about okay
walk to her was the house and I was like
my gosh if I don't speak to this person right now
I will never see her again okay
no like
oh my goodness so that's when my soul training no
no joke my soul training kicking because my training
was like
if I don't speak to this prospect or this guy will pass
I will never see them again
so like I'm gonna give you a shot
I'm gonna think of it okay
so I shouted from very far away
excuse me excuse me okay
and then she done she looked into my direction
but it was ready
and it does now go correct when she can see anyone
she come back and she continue walking now I was like
oh shit man
if I don't speak to her today I will never see her ever
all right
I'm gonna give you another shot so I shouted excuse me
excuse me again then this around she stopped
then I ran towards her and then I spoke to her okay
and come you make a guess
what was my opening line to her
there'll be something that no
you cannot be too weird you say have a void inside me
tell me to talk to you
that sure gets called by the girl
maybe something about her clothes
her bag her shoe okay maybe you will say like
she look familiar with someone that you know okay
yes quite there are not quite answer his answer okay
I asked her do you know where is Rugby
do you know where Rugby listening and Rugby
do you know where Rugby
she said she don't know she live there my god
she don't even know where Rugby
so I said I was just joking
I thought I speak to you okay
so that was how I began a Camp Congo then
then they began asking out hey
you seem to be carrying a bag where are you studying
where are you from that correct
and finally we were from the same junior college
we were from the same secondary school
so on and so forth okay
so it is a lot coming out here okay
so then then okay uh
at one time I took down her Instagram
and then I got her number and then uh
we just like left her right
so when I went home
I began texting her but this was what uh
she began to ignore me
she begin to ignore me for the next one whole week
because on Hines and she don't mean that
she thought I was a kissing over playboy
while going with you girl
the number it has sounds like in fact the next day
right she went home at a different time
she'd want to go home at the same time
because she was afraid right
that I will be there to stop her
oh my goodness that was what you're thinking huh
yeah okay
so about one week plus later
you know what I was like oh
this is good doing fine you are I
I even went to my phone and I
and I was on the verge of deleting her phone number
on my body how this person won't reply me on a TV
so while I was on the way home
I was on the way home and this is now not 9:08
about 7:06 so there's a bit of a daylight by
also the sun's coming down
and then I was walking home under the MIT trek
and from a very very far right
I can see a girl running
because you can see the ponytail
I told myself I didn't want to be a creep right
like a girl run by and you stay
stay stay stay very creepy right
so I just say I'm gonna look front of me okay
so on a day this girl ran past me and then I was like
hmm
if my heart would be weirder don't know what happened
I I stopped and then looked at her and I hey
isn't it a good one last week isn't it good
yeah I just met so uh
I stopped walking towards her and then we
we spoke for a while and I said hey
can I walk you back to your house now
she said okay then walk her home
I went home
and there was the beginning of the entire journey
so I later found out that
do you know that she has the same birthday as my mom
she had the same birthday as my mom and God really
right and you know
I know you are into kind of a battling Astro can I stop
right do you know that in Chinese right
there's a Chinese uh
zodiac calendar one cycle is 12 years can I stop right
correct yes
animal she's
she's a three psycho so she's the same animal
and three psychos down from my mom Joe
I know now why is that's your wife
yes n n it's crazy n uh
one or two years ago she
she went one of years ago
she went to do a health checkup
so she has some health condition is quite rare
one or 2 out of 10 women might have okay
yeah and my mom had it in the past and then now
now now she had it and then uh
there's a lump in some part of her body yeah
then when she came over hospital
she told my mum that uh she found that the land there
they got it removed
and my mom told her that she also had a
smaller than in a single issue no
so she take over your mom I'm sorry
she take over your mom job am I allowed to say that
not that job be your mother
I'm saying you may mean take care of you right
is a job as well yes
so so if you ask me
how important is a lady in a man's business
I will say 100% important correct
because listen here when I go to work
when I go out there to to to
to fight for that for the business and all
and when I come home tired
who the first person I'm gonna meet is my wife alright
so if
if this person is not gonna be supportive of what I do
it is because I'm gonna be encouraging at what I do
then of course I am fighting um
a quote unquote a battle in a wall there
and I come over and you find another wall
but we some men do right
maybe the girl
that they don't understand why they need to be
up there or why they need to
what long hours up there
so and so forth so so it's gonna be tough alright
if if you don't have a supportive wife
so so in in Chinese uh
they have uh a saying called
basically in English just means to say that
that the women behind us such women right
but I will say that in my opinion
we are equals and we are in this partnership together
so I have a business partnership now
but I also in order for the life to be successful
and therefore my life partner also has a um
a good match in order for the entire we are life
and so glad to be balanced and doing well correct
so so all in all definitely
I will agree with many folks that
the lady that you choose or the partner
if you are a lady the partner that you choose
is gonna be one of the most important
decision of your life okay
so Joe story
can you believe that we've been speaking for an hour
wow haha
it's awesome forecast actually do you enjoy it so far
because I have one last question for you okay
and I would love to meet your partner one day your wife
I've been heard about her
and I would love to know her in person as well
maybe it was yeah yeah
maybe in the class next time future sure
great again congratulation again so excited for you yes
I have a lot of tip for you if you need it
if you don't ask I won't for the upcoming uh
head of job that you carry on
but but be a parent is a blessing
I have last question for you
and thank you for come to my show actually
you are really share a lot of valuable
information for my team
and I think my audience as well
you got watching this
I'm sure you Learned something from Joe today
so if today the client who watching our video
who are new business owner
who are start up or start in the marketing
in this 2024
what one tip or advice you would give to him
for his business of course
I would love him to come to our class
but before he come to class
what small tip that you can share with him
to make him motivate on his journey
I think the simplest tip I can give you is
for every challenge that you have out there
right now that you're facing
someone is already figure out the solution
and they are already implementing it right now
so if you're running any form of business
you just look at your competitors
your peers or whatsoever in nine out of 10 cases
they have already figure out a solution
either locally in your country
or somewhere else in another country
they have already figured out a solution
so your job is not to reinvent the wheel
the wind fire solution is so bloody brand new
and you sit in your table to feel your solution no
if you sit on there you will not feel your solution
because the brain
which got you to where you are right now
will not get you there with where
where you wanna be so therefore
you go and study the overseas
or your peers of managers locally
and go and find out how exactly did they do it
and if you're wondering how can you find out
either you spend some money
and you go and buy the product of service
and experience the entire thing
there's one way to to see how other folks have done it
or the other way is you invest money
to go and hire a coach
who have been through the same process
and tell you that you wanna do
so that you can save your time
energy effort
or the third thing you can do is to invest your time
energy effort to go and figure out
which frankly is one of the worst way
because you need to spend way more time
money and effort to go make it happen
so that will be my one single tip
go and find people who are very
solve the challenge that you want to solve
awesome Joe really awesome
it's very short simple but very powerful guy
if you been enjoy the conversation with Joe with me
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he may slow respond okay
but just ask question if you have another comment
and
I will see you guys again in the next episode
with different guests and thank you so much Joe
thank you Emma
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